Yesterday I did a simple approach and started talking to a girl next to Zara store.

5 minutes in the conversation she asked me - “Do you do this often?”

Obviously she asked me the question in a way that was signalling that she thought it was weird.

I told her - “What, talk to people in real life? I try to, do you prefer meeting online”

She looked at me and said - “No, actually I prefer this” and we continued talking

The words that I said didn’t even matter, but it was how I said it.

Let me explain.

In my reality talking to people in real life is the most normal thing you can be doing. It’s like drinking water.

If you told me that drinking water is bad for you, I would be confused. And I have exactly the same confusion when someone tells me that they find it weird talking to people IN REAL LIFE.

Because I believe it so much, when I interact with a girl who might have a different belief, by the end of our interaction she will usually shift towards my point of view.

Why?

Because my belief that talking to other people in real life is stronger than her belief that it is weird.

What should you take from this?

If you think approaching women is weird - the girl will definitely think it’s weird.

If you think approaching women is normal but deep down think it’s weird - the girl will most likely find it weird, too.

If you think approaching women is an absolutely normal thing and you are shocked that more people aren’t doing this - she will think it’s normal and engage with you.