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[–]MadMan001 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Seems like you are on the right path my friend. Good to hear that you are taking care of yourself. To move the interactions further, kino is totally essential, get used to touching, hugging and in other ways get some skin contact.
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[–]iammrwill 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There was something I read a while ago about some kino ladder. Hug on initial meeting, then touching smaller parts of her such as her fingers, hands. If she seems at least neutral to you touching her, you can move up the ladder by touching her hair or her knees/thighs. Then you can move your hands onto her face/neck and pull her in for a kiss. The pacing is what makes this work and you need to evaluate the situation and the girl to see how fast and far you can go. Practice and experience will help.
[–]donkeypunched 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's called the Kino Escalation Ladder. There was a good post this week also about good little ways to use subtle kino.
[–]inked25 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly, if you're familiar enough with the concept just get out there and start doing it. I touch almost everyone I talk to, whether it's asking the time, laughing at a joke or just saying excuse me. Go focus on just that until it becomes second nature, then focus on the next thing. Good luck and congrats on the divorce!
[–]jacketdo 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Very similar situation. 30. Divorced. Was married for 7 years. Have a 4 year old son. Except I had /have terrible approach anxiety. I'm about a year out and starting to turn things around. No where near where I want to be but I've made strides.
Sounds like you're taking all of the right steps. You've developed some good skills over the years by being friends with women. Make sure you let her know your intentions early and throughout. This can be done with occasionally shifting the conversation to sexual/flirtatious in nature and kino. It felt so mechanical to me at first because interacting with women for anything other than friendship was foreign to me.
Read some of the kino guides on here and pick some that fit you and your personality. One example for you is I like to notice if a girl has a tattoo and if she does I tell her that people get tattoos where they like to get touched. This girl I went out with had a tattoo on her foot and that lead to a foot massage. Keep a few in your pocket. Like I said. It seems mechanical at first but eventually becomes more natural.
Here is the escalation ladder that's commonly linked. http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/the-dicarlo-escalation-ladder-vt16552.html
[–]Overnight_Delivery 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Jump on it fast while the area still seems new. Girls can always sense if you are "not from there". I got hit on at the gym after just a few days of moving to philly. after that never again.
Makes me think that prejudice is the biggest killer of hooking up. When both parties don't know how to prejudge then hooking up happens fast... Approach all women as if you were new to the town.
[–]Ginormousglutes 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should read No More Mr. Nice Guy.
[–]DaygameCoach 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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