Who else feels less confident in shirts without ink?

Substantial-Bad-4508 · 2025-06-25T01:48:22+00:00

You don't understand how confidence is gained. Confidence is gained by being yourself and not giving a fuck what others think.

It's when you kiss someone's ass** for gain that you dis yourself and at the same time lose your value (lower your self-esteem).

**change yourself to please others, i.e. get tattoos, act/look tough, as you have mentioned.

Common_Comedian2242 · 2025-06-25T01:45:19+00:00

Tattoos are played the fuck out, and this is coming from a guy that has his hands, face and neck tatted. They're just a fashion accessory nowadays. I mean, even officer friendly is fully sleeved out nowadays. Nothing taboo or wild about it anymore.

I mean, thirty years ago you'd see Bam Bam Bigelow with flames on his head and you knew he was a bad motherfucker, but nowadays you have some douche that owns a craft beer pub in some gentrified part of shit hole, america with the same thing.

personal_cheezits · 2025-06-25T01:48:14+00:00

Getting a tattoo to make your shirts look better isn’t the dumbest reason for getting one, but it’s high on the list.

Maybe it’s the shirts that are the problem?

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-06-25T01:44:23+00:00

Do what feels organic and natural to you.

Strange-Building6304 · 2025-06-25T02:00:00+00:00

Women have this weird 6th sense about confidence and happiness. Part of me thinks they are like, " This guy seems well adjusted let me fuck that up for him." If you want a tattoo get a tattoo don't do some shit because you feel like someone else will like you more because you're this way or that way...fuck 'em. It's your life do what you want. Create your own orbit.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-25T02:32:25+00:00

Confidence doesnt come from external tricks like tattoos, it comes from the internal as you begin to stop giving a shit what other people think about u and own yourself as you are. When instead of molding yourself to fit the expectations of others or trying to impress them, you lean into your current self and situation, reaffirm it, don't apologize for it, don't show shame for it, and don't find any reason to defend it or explain it to anyone. When you stop trying to be liked by people who don't accept you as you are.

I mean imagine, if a hot girl you like said: "lol, you wear tatoos, that's so old fashioned, who does that, ew i would never date a man who has a tattoo, so lame and try-hard lol". Then if you regret it or feel bad about it because you are attached to her opinion of yourself, then where is the confidence?

But if If the Hot chick says: "But all the cool guys wear tattoos, how come u don't wear one, i thought u were cool..." then?

Remember, you don't try to defend yourself, you don't try to argue about what's cool, or try to convince her you are cool despite not having tatoo, and you also don't want to sound resentful pretending you don't care that she thins you are uncool, so what do you say then?

You: "I'm not too old and boring to care about being cool".

"But but..." i hear you say, "what is she she starts to think you are old and boring, which are bad qualities, you don't wnat to convince her of that right? i mean you'd want to convince her that you are fun so why would you say you are boring..."

Well, imaginary skeptical voice, because virtues aren't something you tell, it's something you show. A fun person doesn't need to say he is fun, because it should be self-evident. A young person doesn't need to say he is young, it's self-evident, a cool person doesn't need to show he is cool, it's self-evident. So just because you tell her "i am really fun" that does nothing for u, other than put unnecesary pressure to perform, because she won't beleive it until she sees it, and also because it sounds insecure as if you are trying to convince yourself that you are fun.

So telling her sarcastically "im too old and boring to care about being cool" tells her that you simply don't give a shit to impress, that you are not there to convince her of anything... And that's refreshing, because most women are used to losers putting her on a pedestal, and trying to do the opposite, proving their worth to her, trying to impress her, tryign to get points, trying to win her over,...

Becuase that shows u r someone who doesn't give a shit what she thinks, and ironically that's more intriguing for her and makes her more curious and when she is curious that's what attracts her to you, instead of you having to chase her which only repels women, the harder you try to chase.

Natural-Wrongdoer-85 · 2025-06-25T02:40:30+00:00

LOOL. go hit the gym bro... Muscle mass > tattoos. Look good, feel good, do good. Plus its good for your health

Far-End470 · 2025-06-25T01:53:44+00:00

Not having tats stands out more today.

bannedcanceled · 2025-06-25T03:06:38+00:00

Get both arms done like me

JustSomeBananaPeel · 2025-06-25T06:00:07+00:00

If you believe your shirted appearance is subpar because of your arms, you can build nicer arms (I'm assuming you're not currently jacked, and you may correct me if I'm wrong). Yeah, at your age, they'll never look like the arms of some 25-year-old bodybuilding prodigy, but if you train your arms consistently enough, shirts will start to look a whole lot nicer.

I'm not suggesting that you must commit yourself to a full weightlifting program just for defined arms. There are a ton of ways you can get creative and lift at home if time and money are limiting-enough factors.

Obviously, getting tattoos is a quicker route to an altered appearance, but lifting has more benefits, especially if it's confidence you're after.

Title	Who else feels less confident in shirts without ink?
Author	No-Significance6813
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Date	June 25, 2025 1:36 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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