Why do I do this to myself?

highhopes01 · 2014-07-15T22:42:46+00:00

Stop yourself. You recognize the behavior or else you would not be telling us about it. When you catch yourself about to do this, say "This is fucking weird and pathetic" and stop yourself. Call yourself out on it. Seems like rsdtyler might even have a video on a similar topic.

Punish yourself, when you catch yourself go and do some pushups or situps. Do them till you are in pain. Your brain over time will start to associate your thought process with the outcome of thinking about her with the pain from those pushups or situps and begin to avoid those thoughts. You'll then have a clear mind and be over this girl.

The only person that is going to stop this is you. You are addicted to this girl. There are plenty of girls out there. Break yourself from these thoughts and talk to them.

readonlyuser · 2014-07-15T23:55:23+00:00

Dude, you're in /r/seduction.

Your first step is to meet other women. Force yourself, if you have to. Meet more women. Sleep with more women. Go fuck ten other women. If, after you've been with all these women, you're still in that zone, then you have a problem to figure out.

Don't concern yourself with how often you're checking the photos as long as you're staying on course and meeting new women.

work_flow · 2014-07-15T23:50:18+00:00

In the same boat as you. Great girl here at the office, and hit it off pretty early. My dumbass made up my mind that she was hot and was worth pursuing. I got to the point where I used to make any excuse to get by her cubicle everyday and IM her (my pathetic moment).

After a while I became self conscious about it and I started to make the effort to not contact her for a day...then a week. The funny thing is that she started contacting me after a while.

Talking to other girls in the office (lots of females in my office...but a lot of them are older) helps to get her off my mind. She does creep back in every now and then, but I consciously block her out by staying busy or chatting with other people.

Now I didn't banish or ex-communicate her so when I do see her, I say hi, ask how things are going...things like that. I think keeping girls on their toes / being unpredictable is the best thing we have going for us as guys and the minute you don't have that, you've lost.

rangamatchstick · 2014-07-16T11:43:11+00:00

The one itis is strong with this one. All jokes aside, I would recommend trying to date multiple girls at once, if not quick succession or one night stands, hopefully this will bring you to the realization its just another girl. Not saying they are all the same or not individual unique or something, but that there are lots of them, if you fuck up with one there WILL be another.

2014-07-16T11:59:33+00:00

Look up a book called the "power of habit " The book explains why you are compelled to do everything in life, from breathing to eating etc etc. But it also explains bad habits, how they occur and how to simply break them. It comes down to a trigger, a response and a reward. You simply change the response and he explains how in a very simple way.

Check it out, works for pretty much every habit you can think of it you can isolate the correct trigger http://www.amazon.com/dp/081298160X

denart4 · 2014-07-15T22:59:18+00:00

Damn I know how you feel. Don't feel weird, it is a normal reaction. Just try to get over that stage by searching for other girls. Get something to do.

ajack17 · 2014-07-16T07:22:50+00:00

I used to do this. I wouldn't get down on yourself. I was dating 3 girls at one point, yet I'd still check some girl's fb wall, get jealous when other guys liked or commented on her pics, etc.

Maybe this isn't of huge help, but for me I just grew out of it. I have enough women in my life. I'm busy 13 hours out of the day with a job that I'm passionate about. I think my brain just got tired of obsessing over something irrational, and instead the energy goes toward something more productive.

tl;dr give it time, date more women, you'll grow out of it

HuskyPandaBear · 2014-07-16T06:11:49+00:00

have some boundaries. I have the exact same problem as you, and right now im learning how to put boundaries. If its love that youre missing which is why you really like to pursue these woman, you have to realize that only you have to learn how to really love yourself. as much as it hurts drop them. let them go, it will not make you a horrible person.

2time_nutter-butter · 2014-07-16T06:48:28+00:00

Seems like u relive the good times nothing wrong with that. It's called a spank bank flap flap.

Nacgt_the_Elyts · 2014-07-16T13:55:09+00:00

Go to a psychologist, not anything is solved at the seduction way.

2014-07-16T01:58:41+00:00

approach women who remind you of her

puaCurveBall · 2014-07-15T22:23:58+00:00

block her on facebook, delete the texts, delete the photos.

Start meditating every day to help with willpower and self control.

Also: Go talk to more women!!! You won't has as much free time if you are trying to juggle 4 girls.

Title	Why do I do this to myself?
Author	throwawayseductionqu
Upvotes	23
Comments	21
Date	July 15, 2014 10:05 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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