Why do you do pickup?

TofuTofu · 2011-02-10T13:06:33+00:00

By reframing it. You're going out to HAVE FUN and learn social dynamics. You cannot possibly have a bad time if you have that frame when you leave the house.

If you're going out to get laid, you will be disappointed when it doesn't happen.

If you're going out to have fun and learn social dynamics better, you'll never have a bad night out.

That's what I do anyway.

frogma · 2011-02-10T13:49:11+00:00

When you get to the point where you've internalized everything, it's nearly impossible to have a shitty time. All you do is live life, and sex is just a natural byproduct of that.

I basically use Tofu's frame. Try to make every consecutive night the best night of your life. Whether this means you're actively finding ways to make it more fun, or if you just change your attitude to have as much fun as possible within the context of the situation, you'll always have a good time. Doing it that way has led me to skip out on a lot of sex in order to keep the fun going, but it's also led me to have a lot of sex, so it's apples and oranges.

Basically, if you end up "failing" as far as girls are concerned, don't blame yourself for it. Just realize what you could've done differently and make it happen next time. If you're having a shitty time with whatever's going on in your life, just change your thoughts about it. When life gives you lemons, eat the lemons like a boss and move the fuck on.

2011-02-10T18:26:34+00:00

Sex with women.

Jrix · 2011-02-10T20:37:10+00:00

To reinforce my cynicism with evidence.

2011-02-10T21:12:31+00:00

Because I love having sex with young women. 'Nuff said.

yokhai · 2011-02-10T15:36:35+00:00

I like to make girls giggle...with my penis.

StarkNYC · 2011-02-11T05:44:18+00:00

Something dawned on me about a year ago when I was at an awesome spot in my life overall and it took a sudden turn for the worst... I was dating a girl that I thought was near-perfect for me. We went out on a short trip somewhere and we were fighting non-stop... I didn't understand why but the relationship was falling apart (turned out to be a very interesting lesson in female psychology!)...

This was not kind news for me because I was excited to have a good relationship with such a great girl... In the midst of this, I thought of something that really helped me and has continued to help me in bad times:

I realized that with self improvement (pickup, pua, whatever you want to call it) things are not always strictly improving. Every interaction I have is not necessary better than the former and sometimes I will go through ridiculously cold streaks. However, over time, on average, I will grow and improve. AND the way to get to the higher point is to actually go through these dips. So while it sucks and in the short term I am worse off, it is necessary to get better.

I also believe this is why typically people don't accomplish what they want/great things; they get deterred by the slumps. Champions fight through the pain.

senator_mendoza · 2011-02-10T14:55:54+00:00

so i don't really "pickup" since i have a steady girlfriend of over a year, but psychology is just so fascinating to me that i can't not play with it. plus i'm just a naturally social and chatty guy so meeting people is just fun for me.

one thing that reading about pickup did for me though was reinforce a lot of the stuff i'd kinda learned along the way i.e. how to be more interesting, how to make people feel comfortable with you, how to project an air of confidence, how to handle AMOGs, etc. stuff that isn't specific to dealing with women who you wanna fuck.

so when you find yourself needing to "push through", keep in mind two things: 1) if you're not having fun then figure out how to make it fun cuz that's the WHOLE POINT. bring a friend, make it into a competition, do it at an event you wanna go to anyway, whatever it takes and 2) don't feel like you need to be a "master pua" or whatever in order to find that special girl. you don't have to dress like a dbag, you don't have to do tricks for women, you don't have to use any stories that aren't true, and you sure as fuck don't have to wear makeup. you DO however, have to polish your skills at least to the point where you feel comfortable and confident demonstrating your attractiveness to women through conversation regardless of how the interaction is initiated. and the only way to definitively learn what works best for you is to also learn what DOESN'T work for you through trial and error. keep those two things in mind, practice on everyone, don't take anything personally, and remember that the skills you're developing will benefit you in pretty much EVERY social interaction throughout your LIFE. so get that shit tight.

MiamiByNight · 2011-02-10T17:49:47+00:00

i find that pick up is more than just about getting girls. its about building confidence in yourself. its amazing how something as simple as having even just a little confidence resonates in everything else you do in life: work, school, family, friends, etc.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-02-11T22:58:50+00:00

I don't do pickup, I do life. The PUA principles make my life a lot more fun and interesting.

CamoBee · 2011-02-11T00:09:30+00:00

Because simply paying a woman to take off her clothes is boring.

2011-02-11T03:38:33+00:00

I look back to how terrible I felt when I was quiet and nearly friendless and realize how much better my life has been since I found out how to handle other people. I found pickup after my second "Holy shit, I'm weird" moment. Rather than rely on myself to try and figure things out again (it somewhat worked the first time) I turned to the internet and found seddit. I posted a thread (before I knew about /r/askseddit) and only got positive responses that helped me get myself on the right track. The psychology is fascinating and the results are immediate. By checking up on seddit every night, I keep my goals fresh in my mind.

EDIT: Little details

fragglemook · 2011-02-11T23:40:11+00:00

I chase the sun. In people. And I like shagging hot girls.

What BROUGHT me to the pua material was a broken heart and the realisation that I was not on my own path but was willing to be overly flexible and compromised around the path that they were on.

PUA is a force for good. It is a process of realisation and it's helluva fun.

Title	Why do you do pickup?
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Date	February 10, 2011 12:37 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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