Why does it feel like when I’m tipsy my confidence is through the roof? And how can I get into this state of mind while sober?

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-03-14T09:45:35+00:00

tipsy you taps into not overthinking. practice being present, ditch that inner critic. challenge yourself with small risks daily, build that chill mindset. confidence grows when you own your vibe, not just when the drinks flow.

FlowingMagic · 2026-03-14T09:27:04+00:00

its a dishibitor

so u wanna dishinhibit yourself

so proly something like

physical exercise
looking at her
incremental consistent social interactions
get wet do it and willing to look bad and make mistakes

looking at her im saying more as a mindset thing, all thise inhibitions are in -your- head, how do I look, what she thinks, can i do this,

thats all you stopping you (inhibition)

so by looking at her, its not just looking at her, its also putting your attention there

btw sober u is probably better, but sober inhibited you doesnt get anywhere because it doesnt act in the 3d world so theres no hook

Foreverseeking47 · 2026-03-14T11:35:22+00:00

As others have said, it lowers your inhibitions and in some cases makes them disappear. I've had the same experience on either alcohol or on very small doses of psychedelics many times, to then slowly being able to more and more have it sober. I'm not completely there yet but it's a process as you'll learn.

How does lowered inhibitions looks in action is you being completely present to the moment and outward oriented instead of being all up in your mind. When you are tipsy, you don't think about how you look, what you should say or whatever past bullshit keeps you from being present and taking action. When you are sober, the energy it takes you to talk and be fun is being used by your mind in "damage control" as if there is some type of danger you have to protect yourself from in social situations.

So the solution for you is to put yourself in those situations sober and make your body and mind understand that you are safe no matter what happens. To do that, you have to detach yourself from the results you get at first; there is no way you're gonna do well your first times just as you wouldn't be perfectly fluent in another language when you start learning it. Just slowly get accustomed to being nervous in those situations and still taking action and you'll inevitable get better. So focus on the sensations you get in your body while in those situations and embrace them instead of running away to the depth of your mind to escape the uncomfortable feelings you are getting from a simple social situations that your nervous system mistakenly notice as being in a war zone.

Last thing, notice when you are tipsy how relaxed you are, how loud you are talking, the subtle smirk you give when saying something cheeky, the way you carry yourself; really take notes and remember that feeling. Above all else, you want to be having fun and provide some good and light energy; to do that you want to feel it inside yourself first.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-14T09:57:13+00:00

Have you tried to replicate it / get into that mindset? It requires intention. Decide beforehand you're going to get into that exact mindset tonight, without alcohol. You will act as IF you're on alcohol.

Decide this before you even leave for the party.

RealisticDiscipline7 · 2026-03-14T12:10:33+00:00

Yep. Ive found walking up to mixed groups and/or very attractive women at the venue is very scary but afterwards, I feel a similar lack of inhibition in my next interaction. Gives a similar calming of nerves as alcohol. But fuck, that tipsy yet not drunk sweetspot does really eliminate that hesitation and I do notice a favorable change in response from women.

Orange_Codex · 2026-03-14T17:26:13+00:00

Alcohol isn't a disinhibitor; it induces myopia (narrow focus on what's in front of you). So the trick to drunk confidence is to think less of anything that isn't immediately happening. The future? Doesn't exist. Potential outcomes? Don't worry. Did you leave the gas on? Who cares? Focus intently on the feeling in your toes for a couple seconds and your mind will be 100% present.

water_reducer · 2026-03-14T20:01:35+00:00

because social “skills” aren’t like any other types of skills, nobody gets tipsy and suddenly learns how to play the piano or paint a portrait. social skills are hard coded into the human brain, getting into that state naturally and lucidly is possible but not easy.

Dazzling-Remote7736 · 2026-03-14T23:06:57+00:00

Hypnosis. I'm the opposite I am confident when I'm sober but if I have a few drinks I find it hard.

professionalfumblr · 2026-03-14T12:28:00+00:00

For me I have to smoke a little bit to reach that state, sometimes I can do it just tipsy but yeah I feel you

EmergencyAd2635 · 2026-03-14T12:28:35+00:00

Yeah me too but I also get meaner..

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