Why is CONFIDENCE attractive?

klashnikov55 · 2020-07-21T03:40:46+00:00

Confidence is attractive, because it means you are a decisive person, who takes decision and knows what you want from life, and will stand your ground when it rains hard. It conveys you are the person who will navigate all the troubles that life will throw at you, with best of your abilities. It conveys strength, mental, physical and emotional. That makes you more trusted than a low confidence person who can shift and will run away when things get bad in life.

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-07-21T03:50:30+00:00

Most people are unattractive because most people don't have the guts to be who they want to be. Most people are more concerned of what others think of them than what they think of themselves. Not only is it unconfident, it's inauthentic. People want to date someone they know is real so they can form a sincere bond based on genuine connection, trust, and honesty. Unconfident people are inauthentic, insincere, fearful, and lack the sense of freedom it takes to express themselves in a charming, charasmatic, and attractive fashion.

This is also why the advice "just be confident" never works. One can't simply just "be" confident because confidence isn't something you just have or don't have, it's something that has to be developed and cultivated individually.

Umbran_scale · 2020-07-21T19:24:57+00:00

After being on a lot of hollow dates, I can confirm this is the case, and it isn't just restricted to guys, but women as well, we don't want a pushover that goes along with everything we suggest, we want to hear what you want to do as well.

You have to meet halfway and arrange your own activities and opinions, because all you're doing is becoming a yes-wo(man) by agreeing to everything we're suggesting without throwing in your own desires and you come across as boring and uninteresting to be around.

toolmantimmy · 2020-07-21T00:45:28+00:00

I see your point

-KINGLYBoi- · 2020-07-21T03:09:03+00:00

We seek what we lack. A lot of people seeking out relationships are doing so because they're insecure and lack confidence in themselves. Most secure and confident people don't actively look for relationships. They just find them.

2020-07-21T01:40:47+00:00

Uh huh, this makes sense now.

UnsuitableTrademark · 2020-07-21T04:22:44+00:00

What’s is ego? That’s the main question

Maxwheel21 · 2020-07-21T15:11:42+00:00

Good point but I place myself in the good old "not the one nor the other". Lack of confidence or self esteem sure is a problem in a relationship, but ever you tried dating someone with TOO much ego? Sometimes is even worse. I personally find equally attractive someone than has confidence in what he/she can do and a bit of low esteem in what they cannot do

Da_Famous_Anus · 2020-07-21T17:57:53+00:00

Disagree

Title	Why is CONFIDENCE attractive?
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Date	July 21, 2020 12:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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