Pulling is all about baby-stepping.

On a first date, these steps typically include:

  • Flirting verbally
  • Seeding the pull
  • Physicality
  • Transitioning to venue nearer your house
  • Inviting her to your house (based on the pull idea you seeded)
  • Transitioning to the bedroom
  • First kiss
  • Escalating all the way to sex

Here's the thing: It's totally normal to feel nervous to move on to each next step. Your 'inner bitch' will tell you:

"What if she doesn't like it?"

"The date is going well. She likes the step you're on now."

"She's a classy girl."

Be aware this is fear speaking.

Girls want you to at least TRY and pull them

For sure, in my chode days, I'd stay at the same step for the whole date. Basically talk and talk and talk until she decided to get a cab home...Not many second dates came about in those chode days.

Luckily, those days are gone.

If a girl is on a date with you, she likes you. She wants you to at least TRY and push things forward. If you don't, she doesn't think you're a 'gentleman'. She thinks you're a pussy or you didn't fancy her. Either way, she's now pissed off. After all, she liked you enough to date you! She spent all that time getting ready to meet you.....

Sure, whenever I try to move it to the next step, I still hear that inner bitch (especially when she's super-hot).

Still, the more confidently you pull off these steps, the more likely she'll go along with it. Women love to be led.

If she does resist, the date isn't ruined. Laugh it off, go back to talking, and attempt it again later. She'll respect you for trying.

It's when you don't go for the next step that the date is ruined.

Trying for the pull is better not trying. No exceptions.

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