Wit

Many people confuse a concept that women like humor with "women like wit". Women like witty person. Honestly most people like witty people yet women seem most entertained by it. Women enjoy being entertained quite a bit in fact. Since feeling good is a strong emotion women thrive on they like it a lot. So it has become a huge part in what women like.

Wit vs. Humor:

  • Wit would be the ability to take a situation and relate to it with something very different that still somehow relates. It could be word play, a concept that is similar but very different in which makes it hilarious, etc.

  • Jokes are a snapshot of wit. A rehearsed witty situation that is regurgitated. It doesn't always fit the context of the environment you are in. Not everyone will get it because of this context problem. That is why comedians and most people have a hard time being funny.

It is important to understand context. Context is important to almost everything. There are patterns of course and that is how we operate yet we must come to see the patterns and know when some things are in context and where some things just don't work at all.

So when trying to develop the humor that women and people in general so much crave, it should be noted to work on your wit and not the list of jokes you keep memorized.

The Trick Of Wit

There are many ways to use wit. Most times it is using wordplay. You construct a sentence in such a way that it directly or subtlety references something else that then makes the situation ironic, childish, etc. You try to make the thing out of place in such a way that will be funny. Humor is mostly about ironic contexts.

Some examples:

  • Man dressed up as a woman - this is ironic because a man is generally masculine yet is being very terribly trying to portray themselves as a woman.

  • Silly clothes - You can have silly clothes on that are still classy yet are eccentric enough to make it out of place and ironic and out of context. An example would be Willy Wonka and his antics and attire. (Gene Wilder version)

  • Movement - acting out of place with your movements can be funny such as drunk people stumbling all over the place. It is even better if someone is acting to be drunk and saying goofy witty things. You can stack witty things on other witty things in order to enhance it

The problem here is that a lot of people get corny jokes when they are trying to be witty. Some reasons:

  • Tried too hard to connect two thoughts
  • The connection isn't easy enough to spot and therefore becomes a thinker joke that makes it a bit try hard and just lame
  • Wrong context and you end up with an insult or useless drivel
  • Too often of being silly and witty makes you frustrating and not funny and a bit try hard

Wit is like ice-cream. It comes out sometimes but shouldn't be your main diet. Sometimes you can get really good and make it subtle enough yet you still should be serious at times or it loses its' fire.

Teasing

Teasing is similar to wit. You are going to make sure the other person knows you aren't being serious. Deadpan statements will become very offensive while exaggerate insults become jokes. Being facetious (a lie that is specifically intended to be not at all serious and definitely in a joking way) is a good way to tease. It must be obvious. If it isn't obvious then it should be a low grade burn to yourself or the other party involved. It should eventually come around to be a light situation. If it gets heavy then it is no longer teasing and you suck at teasing.

Context is important. It takes a bit of practice to become subtle enough and obvious enough at the same time in order not to be a dick on accident.

Teasing a girl about her hair and making it obvious is a good way. Words say one thing, actions show another.

Try not to say something like, "We would be terrible together because my cock would break you", because at that point you became a corny ego driven dick. Not funny, and bragging.

However something like, "You know we could never be together. I just own too many cats.", while saying it in an obvious exaggerated way may just come off funny and teasing. It says, you can't be with me, but then introduces a stupid and hilarious reason why. Then she can take the baton and carry on. This is what they call playful banter when both people take part in the playful teasing.

Things to remember:

  • Don't try to hard
  • You want wit, not rehearsed jokes
  • Be subtle yet obvious
  • Don't use heavy insults
  • Don't say ego things in your witty play or you come off dickish and dumb
  • Make sure you are exaggerating for effective sarcastic / witty statements

One parting note

Please don't try too hard. If it is funny, spit it out. If it isn't all that great, then don't say it. Watch a lot of comedy and see how wit is put together. Watch how it rides like a smooth and awesome wave and not a jumble of crap. Watch how it should look easy and effortless. If it seems like it took work, then it isn't funny.

Other guides I wrote:

  1. Quicktips I find important

  2. Friendzone / Sexzone - a comprehensive guide