Would you consider this soft rejection?

rockyrockss18 · 2022-05-28T18:21:01+00:00

Reset to a new girl, life is too short to waste time on people who don't have time for you.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-28T16:54:30+00:00

Soft rejection? Ask yourself. If you saw a friend of yours or a total stranger who kept calling a girl to ask her out and she kept making excuses every time, would you respect this person? Would you say to yourself, wow! This guy is goin for what he wants OR would you say "give it a rest man, you already lost your dignity, save whatever little you have left". Ask yourself if you don't respect a certain behavior if someone else did it, why would you respect this behavior when you are doing it?

whale_sports · 2022-05-28T16:51:32+00:00

No I wouldn't try a 3rd time. In my book, if she says she can't, and doesn't try to let you know another day, then she isn't putting in much effort.

You've tried twice. She needs to try and set something up with you.

In fact, I'd back away, and stop initiating any contact.

greatlifeahead · 2022-05-29T08:34:26+00:00

Use the Brad Pitt analogy. If Brad Pitt asked her out how would she react? Would the plans fail and you would need to reschedule again and again? There is a clear lack of interest and you are probably a backup plan.

Everlast23 · 2022-05-28T17:57:58+00:00

My rule of thumb is 2 no's and a go. If I ask twice, and get rejected twice, I just move on.

That being said it you really want to YOLO it, you could just ask point blank "Hey I think I like you. I was wondering if you want to go on a date with me? I tried scheduling twice and you pretty much said no twice. I totally respect if you don't want to, but I figured I would just ask for completeness."

Old-Gregg91 · 2022-05-29T00:24:25+00:00

Just stop where you’re at.

willgo-waggins · 2022-05-29T02:09:01+00:00

No. I wouldn’t waste any more effort at all. Move on

mrpodo · 2022-05-29T04:12:26+00:00

Idk if anyone else has said this, but here's a good rule of thumb. If she has to cancel a first time, the next time it's up to her to schedule the date. For instance, say someone like this:

"Damn I was looking forward to meeting up with you. If you're still interested, it's your turn to pick a place and time"

And leave it at that.

Outrageous-Block8877 · 2022-05-29T06:21:07+00:00

She's a flake. Have a friend just like that. Don't take a non-serious girl serious. If you can, DO, but only if it's right then and there. Her "plans" always fall through. If women hate this behavior in men, why can't a man when a woman does the exact same thing. You should be equals.

MayankX · 2022-05-29T09:54:59+00:00

No need to try a third time. Your time is also valuable, show her that you can't be strung along like this. Move on , cut contact with her and start over with someone new.

KrikoryanG · 2022-05-29T07:01:30+00:00

Girl here. So basically you reschedule something again and again and than you expect her to act cool? I'm sure she was looking forward to it but in the end she was disappointed. Poor management. (it happened to me before). Go and ask her again. But this time call her and tell her that you like her and you are sorry about the misunderstanding. Just apologize to her. If she is not down than she probably doesn't like you that much. But clear the things out and be grown up people!

Title	Would you consider this soft rejection?
Author	Delicious-Appeal4445
Upvotes	5
Comments	27
Date	May 28, 2022 4:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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