In relationships you have to choose if you want to feel the giddy all-in powerful "she's the one" in love feelings. Which means giving up a lot control, while seeming needy and insecure a times, and feeling dependent on their love. Risking that they may lose attraction for you.

Or you can have power and control over your emotions. But that will take away some of that giddy "all in" love feeling. So you may feel a bit bland / bored etc.

I think having both at 100% is impossible.