A lot of people struggle with this; they don't ask enough follow-up questions!!

Many use too many full-switch questions (bringing up a completely new topic with nearly every question), and it ruins the conversational flow. It makes them seem stiff, socially inept, and unresponsive.

In conversations, people seem more charismatic when they

  1. Listen
  2. Understand what the other person is saying
  3. Ask follow-up questions!!!

Why? It shows you're a good listener, that you're a quick thinker and that you want to get to know the other person better!

So pay attention to this whenever you're on a date or texting. Use more follow-up questions!!

You asked them something. Then they answer. Then you ask them to elaborate on their answer. Ask them why they think that way, what makes them feel like that, where was it, when did it happen etc. Get more details!! Show interest in going deeper!

It's so simple, but if you don't do it - you may completely drop the ball and not even realize it.