Normal to be depressed?

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-03T17:41:25+00:00

> Have only been married a few months also.

Have you considered an annulment? Much quicker than a divorce, and less expensive.

Dull-Hornet7899 · 2026-02-02T05:22:13+00:00

Reading this post and the comments hits me in the feels. Thankful for this community. My divorce feels like the death of a close family member. I’m trying to get out and speaking with my close friends and family who are there for me even if it’s just to vent.

It’s time for me to get out once in a while now. She’s moving out very soon!

roch_dylan · 2026-02-02T02:31:15+00:00

Ya it’s like grieving the death of a loved one. Your whole way of life will change. You’ll have ups and downs, wishfulness followed by deep seated anger. Let it just come out don’t hold it in is the best way. If you cap it in, the next up pays the price and then you’re doing it all over again and again and then it’ll never go away. Talk to someone, do something that makes you happy.

ItsHowItisNow2 · 2026-02-02T00:34:30+00:00

Normal? Sure, but conducive to absolutely nothing that would benefit you. Shake it up…play some Peter Frampton “Do you feel like we do” as loud as you can and cheer up my man! That’s exactly what I am doing right now…

North-Permit-1021 · 2026-02-02T00:16:30+00:00

A lot of dads describe that fog early on. You’re not crazy for feeling it.

survivingtheyellowbr · 2026-02-02T00:04:14+00:00

Yes. Completely normal. I have been there.

Divorce hits like grief, even when the marriage was short—and especially when you didn’t choose it. Your nervous system is still in shock.

It does get better, but not all at once. First the fog lifts. Then the panic eases. Then one day you realize you’re thinking about your future instead of replaying the past.

What helped me was movement—literally changing environments and travelling ...Even short trips or getting out of familiar spaces gave my mind room to breathe. You don’t heal by sitting still and replaying it.

Right now, don’t judge how you feel. Just get through the day. Stack enough days, and the weight starts to shift.

You’re not broken. You’re early.

sphynx8888 · 2026-02-01T23:06:42+00:00

Absolutely yes. It's a gut-wrenching life changing experience. Your life purpose and what you live for has been turned upside down. You are now MOURNING the death of the life you had expected to happen.

However it does get better. Talk to others, therapists, friends, family, this community, find a men's group. Even if church isn't your thing it's not a bad place to find fellowship but I will say my own faith grew substantially during this period.

Title	Normal to be depressed?
Author	Obvious_Treacle_6806
Upvotes	7
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Date	February 1, 2026 9:20 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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