Reconciliation

CerebralAssazin · 2020-11-05T17:20:23+00:00

I know a lot guy that did this, seems to be working out well the second time around.

Personally, I would not do it, but every situation is different.

tellmemorelies · 2020-11-05T14:59:40+00:00

Not in my case, however in a close family member's case he is doing just that.

From the info that I have, he has been seeing her as a FWB for about 4 months now. They have been divorced for over 3 years with 2 children under 10 yrs old.

He has told me that he is not going to rush into anything with her.

She had a affair that led to the end of the marriage.

It will be interesting to see where this goes for him.

2020-11-05T16:29:58+00:00

It’s beyond anyone’s judgement who does what to keep their family healthy. You do you.

MartyMcFly7 · 2020-11-05T17:00:04+00:00

From what I've read, about 6% of couples who get divorced actually end up remarrying each other. Surprisingly, they have a pretty good track record, with roughly 75% of them staying together.

I wouldn't do it, but people can change and every case is unique. My parents did it but got divorced again a couple of years later.

Gch05 · 2020-11-05T18:07:51+00:00

Yes I just posted about it today. It is different for every situation and harder than divorce in my case

Gloveman69 · 2020-11-05T07:49:21+00:00

This will most likely be super dependent on what the situation was like when you were together before but my STBXW made me so depressed and a worse person and for that alone I would never. I could go on with more info but just try to reflect back and think of what it was before and what would have to change in the relationship in order for things to works out. If it’s not likely to work out my advice would be stay far away from letting that thought marinate in your mind.

suzumakes · 2020-11-06T04:40:50+00:00

I can't see any scenario where this works out.

No matter who initiated it, reconciling would have to involve one person changing to meet the other's wants/needs.

If it wasn't an abusive relationship before, it would be after. Even in the most amicable divorce cases, getting back together frames the relationship in a dangerous power dynamic.

jimsmythee · 2020-11-08T05:46:54+00:00

My exwife did, she's a chronically unemployable pill popper. After our divorce trial, she met a guy. Within 2 weeks, it was pure love and she moved him and his daughter in (he was living with his parents). One year later, she needed health insurance, and so they got married. Six months later, he up and left her. He moved back home with his parents, she moved back home with her parents.

2 months later, they got back together again, but not living together. 4 months later, he dumped her again. They briefly got back together again. But he dumped her again and this time, he filed for divorce. She didn't contest the divorce.

2 months after the uncontested divorce, they're dating again. Been like that for the past 9 months. They don't live together, they just date. So who knows?

Title	Reconciliation
Author	Sandrex-
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	November 5, 2020 6:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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