It’s exhausting and I recognize that a lot of you deal with much of the same and surprisingly even worse in some cases.

So as i approach filing and am gather info/data I may need, I have been going through our text history and realized some of the horrible things she says to me. Examples:

Suicide: I want to die a violent bloody death.

If I didn’t have the kids I would walk into a train.

I fantasize about take pills and going to sleep.

Responses: typically I reiterate that I don’t want that/the kids don’t want that/ no one wants that.

I’ve asked if I should call the police for a wellness check while I was at work

I’ve left work on multiple occasions to “give her a break” or “let her recover”

Threats: I would do anything to hurt you.

I would kill myself just to hurt you.

I am coming for full custody.

Responses: I don’t acknowledge the violent ones

As for custody I tell her that would be the worst she could do to me and that I would never push more than 50/50 because I feel like they need both their parents. (She’s very absent)

Multiple examples of her cussing me up and down. Telling me she hates me and would rather live in her car than be with me.

I never take the bait, I never cuss her, I never degrade her and do the best I can to remain neutral and even supportive when she’s discussing moving. I express I don’t like it but I don’t say anything emotional or irrational.

In the event this all gets ugly will any of these texts play any value? If she try’s to make false verbal/psych/physical abuse can the months of texts come into play to show my level headed responses and her horrific verbal abuse? (The other day she said she hopes I crash a plane on accident and go to prison) I’m atc.

I have screen shots of our convo history going back a month and a half and plan on getting the transcript from Apple going even further.

How else have you guys prepped for crazy and what came in handy?

Also, off topic, bank statements highlighting her excessive shopping and spending on herself is that useful at all?