I’ve had the misfortune of being in a “situationship” with a major LVM (which I truly realised after reading the amazing, amazing, FDS handbook), and I called it quits. The LVM had been a major scrote, who was obsessed with sex, had all kinds of abusive kinks, and constantly ignored the fact that I was uncomfortable with all this. He never said a decent sentence about me in the way of a proper conversation, never asked me how I was, nothing to indicate that I meant anything to him. Despite me calling it quits and trying to be my own self, respect my own boundaries and stand up for myself, he kept lurking around, messaging me, again with no signs of apology and full entitlement.

What amazed me and basically told me it was some kind of sickness that this LVM harbours, is when he used to text me, and unsend his messages- like very often. Gaslighting and keeping me on the hook! Used to send follow requests and then remove me from his followers, then keep following me and unfollow me- the whole childish rigmarole of social media follow/unfollow dynamic.

After months of blocking him, I see a “like” on my OLD from him on one of my pictures that he really liked. When I ignored responding to his “like” he just deleted his profile from the app to essentially show “he unmatched” with me.

I know I’ve tried really hard to not be a pickmeisha and further his LVM actions, but it just gets to me how much of an ego trip he gets from doing something to irk me or get my attention and then undoing it to show what, umm, that he doesn’t want this anymore? I’d really like some FDS insights on how I should read into this?

Also, have again blocked him from everywhere so that’s something I’m absolutely taking from all the brilliant FDS queens out there! ❤️