The Take's Pick Me Girl - Reflecting Our Insecurities Back to Us

2340000 · 2022-01-04T18:46:17+00:00

We've all been on the pick-me spectrum before.

The main issue with pickmes is that every woman in their life is at physical, emotional, or psychological risk. Even if you're not extreme like the women who encourage men to assault other women, you still become emotionally volatile to your friends.

To get picked, pickmes sometimes adopt male behavior. They bully, abuse, coerce, and control. They unconsciously/consciously sanction male depravity. Women should be each other's safe haven.

Aside from abusive, life - threatening situations, I do believe it's a choice. You have to want wisdom more than you want men. Decentering men from our lives is hard. But I gotta admit I have little sympathy for 40 year old women still sl*t shaming women😑

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2022-01-05T17:35:06+00:00

Hmm. The Take= Screenprism= Matt Minhoff: https://nl.marketscreener.com/business-leaders/Matt-Minoff-07NK87-E/biografie/

I checked the production team because there was something a little off about the presentation, a bit like chiding the French Resistance not to use the term "Collaborateur" by pretending the stakes were just bitchy political name-calling and not disenfranchisement, death and treason.

Case in point, is the real problem with Fifty Shades the conceit of the protagonist's specialness? Really? Or SATC, etc.?

I know this was meant to be accessible and so uses really broad ideas and mass appeal media for examples. But why not slip in something about, say, the rape-enabling Madison character or Dean Walker from Promising Young Women as the ultimate Pickmes? Is winning an Oscar not mass appeal and accessible enough to include reference to the film?

I don't argue with all the points made in the video but I don't generally take my PC language notes from suspiciously libfem and evidently male-perspective filtered sources.

daisy_0720 · 2022-01-05T19:11:28+00:00

I'm SO glad this video called out Game of Thrones for it's 'not like other girls' bullshit. In the books, none of the more 'tomboyish' characters (Arya, Brienne, Asha) shit on other women. In fact, book Brienne is a fascinating character because she's such a girly girl inside despite having a face/body type that makes it difficult to perform femininity in her society. Book Arya befriends the Waif (in the show they hate each other for literally no reason) and book Asha calls out men using the word c*** as an insult.

Of course, the show writers ignored all this because women/femininity sucks and "most girls are idiots." Reason #1,28890 why I hate this fucking show.

MeatClownFunHouse · 2022-01-04T22:30:48+00:00

This was a good video, thank you for posting!

I do think this sub sometimes treads into the "women calling other women pickme's" category, which I try to report when these posts are unhelpful and don't offer any real information other than shitting on other women. Reading the comments here, we so often acknowledge our own "pickme" phases and can look back on them having learned from our mistakes - this is life! We're all leveling up within a system that has told us since birth that we're inferior to men and need to find a husband in order for our lives to have any value. We acknowledge that the desire to bring down other women to boost yourself up is a pickme mindset, so how is it HV to waste energy talking about how bad pickme's are?

Pulled a few favorite quotes from the video below:

At the heart of the pickme is insecurity...But the truth is, being a pickme isn't usually a permanent identity; it's a phase that many young people go through. Most if not all of us have, at some point or another, been guilty of not being ourselves to court acceptance or validation. Understanding the pickme as a mirror of who any of us can be in our least confident moments can pave the way for a more productive, empathetic conversation on internalized misogyny.

Madholley · 2022-01-04T23:53:26+00:00

I loved this. Thank you for posting!!

Title	The Take's Pick Me Girl - Reflecting Our Insecurities Back to Us
Author	SpectatriceDeviante
Upvotes	128
Comments	9
Date	January 4, 2022 6:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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