Am I an incel??

Lurk-Prowl · 2025-04-11T07:10:34+00:00

I think you’re not an incel because you’re not involuntarily celibate. Maybe you’re a volcel because you’re voluntarily avoiding women / going MGTOW. All of the above are totally reasonable positions to be in.

I do suggest though that you reflect and hopefully come to not hate women generally. There are a lot of women out there who are good and decent and that I would consider friends. Yes, some of them might have messed up and annoying views, but equally you’ll see there are some men like that too. Kinda like saying “all bl@cks are bad” because you got robbed by one or you think they are overrepresented in crime stats. That is an easy world view to fall into, but it’s clearly not accurate because when you have some black friends you’ll see that clearly there are some good ones and therefore it’s absurd to hate them all. Same applies to women.

No_Leather3994 · 2025-04-11T09:30:59+00:00

I don't hate women but I can definitely see why they say more and more young people are becoming redpilled/misogynistic.

I downloaded tiktok to watch one video and I kept it, the amount of double standards and sheer hate men get. I feel bad because now I automatically scroll past any video with a man in it because he always receives unnecessary hate over the stupidest thing in the comment. Such as beating his girlfriend in a race or people calling him gay because he wants to game over going shopping with his girlfriend. I thought it was just Tiktok but Instagram, YouTube, Twitter and even reddit is just so filled with man hate I wouldn't even blame a boy if he says he hates women especially younger ones who do use social media.

The constant coddling is exhausting too always trying to find a way to make her innocent such as saying a wife of a soldier was probably raped and had to have the child rather than her just cheating. Or justifying a mother who hunted her 5 year old son and in the video can be heard saying "mummy no" when she was trying to drag him away to drown him. How could you possibly justify that? Like just let women be evil and face consequences they always try to find some sort of angle to make her look innocent

Its so bad even lesbians and bi women can't stand them but they refuse to point out its a woman problem except try to make it gender neutral or blame the famous patriarchy. Women employers are themselves saying they try to avoid hiring women because they are a lot more work and they complain more. Yet everyone tries to gang up on men

gmnotyet · 2025-04-11T09:17:36+00:00

| They are never satisfied with men, no matter if he is the most handsome and most rich man of earth.

Tom Brady

Smoothsailing4589 · 2025-04-11T07:10:01+00:00

I'm not really sure if you are an incel. Only you can determine that. However, I think some of your statements and beliefs are generalizations. It's ok to be pro-men's rights. That's what I am. But it's another thing to be a woman hater. Remember, it's good to open your mind and be well-rounded and develop relationships with women. You'll find that they're not all bad. I've had some good relationships and met some cool women in my life and I am glad they were a part of my life.

mrkpxx · 2025-04-11T07:21:03+00:00

Being an incel means living in involuntary celibacy. This condition affects most men at some point in their lives. The vast majority of men acknowledge it without becoming overly emotional.

There is a period of realization that is perceived as painful. This is especially true if the young man's own environment raised him under false pretenses. Men who believe that women and men have equal opportunities in the dating market and equal responsibilities in marriage often have to painfully relearn this.

Once you accept the world as it is and that nature cannot be outsmarted, you begin to live at peace with yourself and your surroundings. Being an incel does not mean hating women; it is simply a consequence of the natural selection of women and their different needs.

Let's be honest with the boys in the future.

Ok-Consideration8724 · 2025-04-11T09:02:58+00:00

Bro. Let’s calm down a second and take a breather. Go take a break from social media for a bit and relax. Play video games, watch sports, go on a vacation if you can, or find something else that calms you.

Not all women are bad. Sure there is a lot of horrible women on social media and in the news, but a lot of women aren’t like them. You just gotta go out there and find one. You can’t hate the whole species because a few of them stepped outta line.

You’ll be alright man. You don’t wanna fall into this incel hole. Once you do it will be very difficult to dig out of. I suggest talking to your mom or other females in your family to see how you can approach women. Or even your dad might be able to help. Being an incel is dangerous and helps no one.

wumbo-inator · 2025-04-11T07:27:54+00:00

You can criticize the actions of a demographic in general, without hating every individual or hating them for their sex/race/whatever.

There are plenty of women that are smarter than you and me. I think you should be humble and recognize that there are plenty of people of all types that would leave you in the dust if there was a conversation happening. Emmanuelle Charpentier and Jennifer Doudna are the ones that harnessed the power of CRISPR CAS-9 as a tool for genetic editing. They’ve improved society far more than you or me.

I just watched a video on the botched withdrawal of Afghanistan. Johanny Pichardo and Nicole Gee are two women that joined the military and gave their lives at Abbey Gate while guarding it from the Taliban that was going to kill the Afghans trying to flee. They’ve sacrificed more than you or me.

I used to volunteer at a soup kitchen full of Catholic Sisters that worked tirelessly everyday to help those in need. Not once did I ever hear them complain. I can say with certainty they have more moral aptitude than me.

You have a lot of power over the company you choose. While I agree with many of your criticisms about women, if you choose good company, you can find women that don’t embody those criticisms and match or even excel at characteristics you like.

Let me warn you dude, and I’m not saying this to be mean, but because I want the best for you.... being bitter towards the opposite sex (man or woman) is extremely unattractive to everyone and will make you extremely unhappy in the long run. People wear that bitterness on their face and it really starts to weigh on them after a while. I’ve seen it. Step into the light, hang out with good people and be a good person yourself.

Think of a femcel. Think about how boarish, unattractive (i don’t mean physically), and bitter they are. Think about how they brood all day like some goblin. Realize that’s the path you are on if you are hating an entire sex, by default, because of your criticisms of the demographic as a whole.

There is validity to your observations and there are still healthy ways you can keep these observations in mind. For example, you should be careful to avoid false accusations. You should keep in mind women often won’t have your back in dangerous situations like a man would. You should keep in mind many women will try and manipulate you for money. Yes, sure. Keep those in mind. But you don’t hate men because they commit more murder, nor do you treat every man with disdain because of it. Same goes with women

king_rootin_tootin · 2025-04-11T07:05:59+00:00

Dude, don't hate women because of the actions of a few.

For every feminist there is a non-feminist and they are individuals first and foremost

Sick-of-you-tbh · 2025-04-11T07:52:50+00:00

I think some of your viewpoints may be a bit extreme tbh, that being said I don’t blame some guys for feeling this way with how most women these days view/treat men. Most women are feminists and it’s becoming more and more apparent every day how most feminists down right hate us and barely see us as human. It isn’t right but it can be tempting to want to start being the same back.

While I do agree with some of the things you said, particularly about female spaces being permitted but male spaces basically being against the rules. Or how traditional or progressive makes no difference, I can attest to that one personally. I know a lot of Christian conservative women from one side of my family and the way they talk about men is just as bad as progressive women. I do however hope you see how some of your views are quite frankly very hypocritical.

I think that women should be treated like we treat another fellow man.

Followed by.

they should do the lower jobs that only men’s do like sweeping, cleaning gutter, garbage collection. I think women really are deficient in intellect when I interacted with them

I think women should be treated like we treat men, the problem is that doing that will get you called a misogynist because they never ever wanted equality, just special treatment. BUT, we cannot and should not say they are “deficient” or deserve only the lower jobs because that isn’t equal or fair, that’s just backwards thinking. But at least you are mindful of becoming an “incel”. We have to be better than the man-haters by actually holding ourselves accountable and knowing when we are out of line.

Maletherin · 2025-04-11T11:48:28+00:00

If God, placing Eve in Eden, couldn't keep her happy, you ain't got a chance.

I'd let the hatred go because it can eat away at you. I'm not saying to trust chicks, just let the anger and junk go like you let girls go.

nebojssha · 2025-04-11T07:17:06+00:00

like literally every women...all are same and I am saying this cuz I came from a traditional background.

Let me guess, muslim?

I think women really are deficient in intellect when I interacted with them, like they don't have answers

Did you consider that wrong answer can lead to stoning in your culture?

I hate women except religious female figures

Yes brother, you are incel in the worst sense of that word, and probably brainwashed into religious extremism.

World-Three · 2025-04-11T10:56:10+00:00

I think you hate women who abuse their privilege.

It's kind of like hating police and people like them who abuse authority except that every woman can be capable of doing it.

I guess it's easier to frame if you have choices. Why WOULDN'T you say no if you could and suffer absolutely no consequence? You'd have to care. Like a guy sitting in a chair when someone else or a kid is standing. You give up your chair because you care.

A lot of women don't care and that's the issue. I'd say you're only human for letting it bother you so much. Women think yelling at men to care is the same as them caring, but it isn't. They're basically telling men to care only because they're viewed as less than and if all the men care then they don't even need to consider caring.

The_SHUN · 2025-04-11T08:51:09+00:00

Not incel, just an enlightened man, a man that sees the cold harsh truth of this world

DerKleinmeister · 2025-04-11T09:31:59+00:00

Bro, MGTOW is not about hating Women.

MGTOW is about yourself, living your best life without let this negative Shit bother you. Do the things ya like, dont care about the feminist screeching. Go outside, walk your Dog if you have one, play Games, find new hobbys, make music or art.

But never ever, and i mean NEVER EVER depend your hapiness on some cruel people.

Search what makes you happy and follow this trail.

And if a good woman comes your way: good! And if this dosn´t happen: Also good!

Don´t waste ypur live and your energy on hating someone. All these poor individuals who play the victim all day have a very sad live. Dont let this get an influence to you.

In know its not easy, but MGTOW is for you and only for you. And for all the things that are good for you.

I was there, exactly as you. Sad... hateful... but believe me. Live is not worth hating. If you dont wanna deal with them. Ignore them. Spend your energy in your male peer group. Talk to them. Listen to them. Help them. We Boys must be there for each other, because no one else will.

Ans forgive me my bad english. Its only my 2nd.

I wish you all the best.

getdownwithDsickness · 2025-04-11T10:16:37+00:00

There's tons of good people and bad people of all kind. They can also change over time but change isn't easy. The culture pushes a lot of bad things on these days, maybe thats more of my spiritual and religious understanding of the world so I see a lot of the things we see as evil and rightly hate just being pushed onto the masses of women as well as men but in different ways. I get where you're coming from, but its best to find a way to get away from that and balance yourself with a more rational and holistic view of humanity.

Lopsided-Gap2125 · 2025-04-11T12:35:44+00:00

You are drinking the poison of identity politics. The worst idea a person can have, is that your group defines your behaviors.

There is no single thing that is “women” there is no universal consensus of women being hypocrites and victim blaming, there is a public ideology that is comforting and convincing that many of them buy into, because they are HUMAN.

Honestly i had a much longer reply in mind but i can’t do it, your post is difficult to read. Not just the sexism, not the black and white thinking, and the gross generalizations, you aren’t treating women like human beings, a woman in the 40’s of a certain town or village may have come to the conclusion that men are oppressive pigs. When in reality human beings flock to comforting ideologies, like the one that existed that claimed men were superior, more intelligent leaders, bad ideas are like a virus, and yes many bad thoughts exists today, yours is prime example of that.

If there is one thing i would suggest, it’s to learn the word dialectic. Truth is dialectic. If you believe in something, pause, and consider, is there a dialectic here that I haven’t considered yet? The answer for you should always be yes.

IIF women in your life seem to be “the same” it’s because of groupthink and cultural ideas that are harmful. I wouldn’t judge them for it, since you’ve fallen victim to scapegoating them instead of addressing your own nasty cultural programming, that of an incel.

You can even do Jungian analysis for this, you are likely projecting your shadow onto women, as in you hate that they remind you of the parts of yourself that you hate, and think are bad/nasty/weak. Anytime you hate a person/group, they are actually a ripe opportunity to integrate your own shadow, through understanding your own feelings, and the group, then seeking a higher truth that explains it better.

Tl:dr: You are exhibiting extreme black and white thinking, respectfully, please get help.

ThisTimeForRealYo · 2025-04-11T11:34:01+00:00

You are 18. Every teenager, me included, thought/thinks they’ve got it all figured out. They haven’t. They know nothing about the world.

You blame all women. Should we blame all muslims for terrorist attacks? Should I treat every Muslim as a terrorist?

Key_Bluebird_5456 · 2025-04-11T07:07:40+00:00

Dude, hate women because of the actions of many.

For every feminist there is another feminist and they are a hivemind first and foremost

Suspicious-Candle123 · 2025-04-11T11:40:14+00:00

Although I understand your anger, be careful about it. Thankfully, not all women are feminists. And not all men are not.

Gengis-Naan · 2025-04-11T07:23:21+00:00

I hope you're not thinking of doing anything fucked up. You sound dangerous to women.

Dunx29 · 2025-04-11T10:17:07+00:00

You asked for feedback so here it is. You sound like a massive loser.

Hope this helps.

Title	Am I an incel??
Author	Naive-Ad1268
Upvotes	31
Comments	60
Date	April 11, 2025 7:00 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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