Sometimes /r/MensRights makes me scared of women

Deer-In-A-Headlock · 2014-06-01T05:59:58+00:00

I know how you feel. Im not necessarily 'scared' of woman, but im more aware this stuff happens and now im more careful.

I hang out with a lot of female friends, just 1 on 1. A lot of the time we like to go walked in wooded areas where it's pretty isolated and just chill out.

If any of those woman decided that i raped them, then i'd have literally no proof that i didn't and i'd be in the wrong. Obviously i'd never expect them to do that, but you never know.

ARenaissance-Man · 2014-06-01T01:20:38+00:00

I am in the same position. The fact that men are starting to build consciousness on these issues . . . and are less afraid to express and act on them . . . is a sign of hope.

guywithaccount · 2014-06-01T03:37:29+00:00

Don't fear the women, fear the system.

Electroverted · 2014-06-01T07:56:53+00:00

Best advice to alleviate your fear of women, since 99% of them are not the vindictive bitches we read about here: "Don't stick your dick in crazy." And to expand on that, don't date women who have a princess complex or daddy issues because those are the ones who are used to getting their way and will use every card in their hand to get back at you if you "wrong" them.

Maschalismos · 2014-06-01T05:02:31+00:00

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2014-06-01T11:30:16+00:00

My perspective:

All I know is that I wish women were more understanding of men's problems. I would try to explain Men's Rights to women, and a lot would tell me stuff like "Man up!" or some crap like that.

Gittiup · 2014-06-01T13:08:31+00:00

Throwaway account because this probably makes me sound like a coward...

Giving the current minefield young men have to deal with in learning institutions that doesn't make you a coward, it's self preservation kicking in. Get through grad school, keep your dick in your pants, never sleep with a even slightly intoxicated women always wear a rubber. If I was you, i'd be celibate until I got out of there.

Zoridium_JackL · 2014-06-01T14:03:35+00:00

don't be scared, not all women are like that, not by a long shot.

it may seem like that when reading through something like this site but keep in mind that this place is a place of discussion about mens rights and one of the biggest issues is them in relation to women, so of course a lot of the stories are gonna feature some pretty terrible examples of women. but don't let that taint your view of all women, that would be falling into the same trap that a lot of the vocal feminists have fallen into of late.

don't be scared, but be aware. being scared of all women and treating all of them like they are going to screw you over with false rape claims and the like doesn't further equality in any way, but being aware that the issue exists and trying to fix it will.

fedornuthugger · 2014-06-01T14:34:09+00:00

I'd say use good judgement when getting intimate with someone - period. I personally don't get intimate with anyone unless I know them very well and see some longterm potential companionship with them. This generally avoids this issue.

As for Academia. - well that sucks man. Academia is pretty cutthroat and isn't a meritocracy but has more to do with politics. Hopefully you get lucky.

DesignRed · 2014-06-01T18:12:45+00:00

It's almost as if you are in fear of your life, because it can be destroyed by the whims of a women for any imaginary or real slight you might cause to her. Dare I say, oppressed?

BaconCatBug · 2014-06-01T02:40:10+00:00

"The whole system makes me weak. Professionally and socially helpless."

FTFY

Azureheart · 2014-06-01T02:52:58+00:00

I think you need to calm down OP.

Think of it this way. Yes, there is a risk that that could have happened to you. But there is also a risk that you're going to be hit by a bus tomorrow. Or you'll die from a shark falling out of the sky. Or a vending machine falling on top of you.

Are you going to let every little 'What if?' ruin your life? Of course not. As someone else said, this is something that everyone experiences. For you, you're worrying that the next person you sleep with could ruin your life. For a woman, they're worrying that the next person they sleep with is going to ruin theirs. For the next person in line, they're worrying that the next person they sleep with is going to find that thing they do weird. The next person is worrying that their partner will be disgusted by that scar.

Stop worrying quite so much. Yes, it is a risk, and yes, it could happen. But so many things could happen to you tomorrow. Are you going to sit here worrying about all of them, or are you going to get up, meet the day, and say 'Fuck you world, I'll take my chances!'?

Vegemeister · 2014-06-01T06:28:23+00:00

http://xkcd.com/706/

Maschalismos · 2014-06-01T14:49:58+00:00

The whole system makes me feel weak. Professionally and socially helpless. It's terrifying.

Don't do that to yourself. You are socially underprivileged because you are biologically privileged. As a man you can build a whole city from the ground up. You can conquer a country. You can invent the next marvel that changes the world. You can rely on your own ability to producing and building, as well as on your warrior abilities and your mind. You're self sufficient. You're a source. A fountain of creativity.

Curious_Swede · 2014-06-01T12:39:19+00:00

Oh dear. This thread makes me sad. You can't let the fear mongering get to you OP. I think we here at /r/mensrights do a rather shitty job actully making it clear that women isn't an evil gender just as men isn't. Bad people do bad stuff and the can use the poorly designed system we're trying to change. As long as you keep your wits about you and surround yourself with people you trust, have no fear. There's always the stranger danger, no matter who you are and of what gender but if you go around fearing women, black people, skaters or whatever you can think of, it will consume you and hinder you from living a full life.

lordslag · 2014-06-01T05:24:17+00:00

You should be scared, because your description is correct, and incomplete. ANY woman can point a finger at you and make a sexual crime accusation and your life will be ruined, not just women you've known or had sex with. ANY WOMAN AT ALL. Always. Be. Recording.

juskajo · 2014-06-01T02:07:54+00:00

I think you're letting your imagination run away with you. Have these accusations even come close to happening in your immediate life? Millions of people have sex every day without any of these problems.

At the end of the day, it comes down to being a good judge of character, and the age old rule of "don't stick your dick in crazy." Women have to deal with the same thing. "Will this guy be nice, or a violent psychopath?"

And are there not also minority quotas in your field? Capitalize on that.

phatphace · 2014-06-01T09:35:26+00:00

Woman afraid of being attacked by men she is alone with, "Jeez, what a sexist, paranoid bitch. What if I were afraid of being mugged by every black person I meet?"

Man afraid of a false rape accusation by women he is alone with, "I feel you, bro."

edit: Downvoted without explanation. You guys are pathetic.

ARenaissance-Man · 2014-06-01T01:52:10+00:00

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slideforlife · 2014-06-01T07:19:10+00:00

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terrified_male · 2014-06-01T02:09:23+00:00

OP are you involved in your faith community?

2014-06-01T04:09:08+00:00

Chivalry is crap. The matriarchal system is giving you the shaft. Most all of us are in the same boat.

Title	Sometimes /r/MensRights makes me scared of women
Author	terrified_male
Upvotes	25
Comments	70
Date	June 1, 2014 1:10 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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