Stigma about males in the bedroom

Reddit1984Censorship · 2022-11-12T11:13:19+00:00

As a man i believe this stems from the lack of information, not porn and so on.

Women as a group profusely refuse to ever talk about it, to give information to men about sex.

You can even see this in women subs, all sexual questions are downvoted, frownd upon, not engaged, or extremly poorly answered.

Men are starving for information, descriptions, prescriptions, preferences and so on from women in the sexual subject.

But theres gigantic forcefield of ''this is creepy, disgusting, embarrasing'' that women hold around this subject that results in men being starved from information about it, wich leads to all this massive insecurities, and only the top 5% of men that are so hot that they will get laid no matter what, only those men will get the information necessary through raw practice, and the rest will be in the darkness forever.

SamaelET · 2022-11-12T11:41:21+00:00

Penis Size

I don't think lying will help men. We should admit that size does matter but there is nothing to do. Most men know it, lying to them will just make them feel even worst. You are born with your penis and you need to live with it.

Dominance/Submissiveness and expectation

Men are expected to "lead" during sex. If a man does not lead and the woman does not take initiative, the two of them will just look at each other in awkward silence and the man will be blamed and shamed for being bad in bed.

Women can help men feel good, can look for small turn on, but will most of them do it since the onus on pleasuring the other is on men ? Yes it should be that both put the effort in it but that is not the reality. Do men need to talk to their partner to make them understand that they are not putting the effort in in the bed and risk being called an asshole ?

If you think we should change the societal expectations, we will be called misogynist for suggesting that women should put in effort in bed. The only way will be to first debunk the myth that sex was always about women pleasing men because of patriarchy. We need to make people understand that sexual satisfaction and pressure to please the other cannot be measured by the number of orgasms. Till then, men will need to put up with being a talking vibrator.

dzkrf · 2022-11-12T11:25:20+00:00

As a female, what do you hear/read that other females say?

NutsLikeMelons · 2022-11-12T10:46:37+00:00

I felt mildly emasculated just reading this! I’m sure your heart is in the right place but, honestly, this isn’t something you can help with. The only thing women could do to change this is sleep with less guys. Most of these issues you speak of about ego or confidence have a lot to do with being your 10th or 20th or 50th partner - lots of competition. You can’t understand how men feel about settling down with a woman who has had partners who were bigger/better etc. But we aren’t allowed to say things like that anymore. Feminism says that’s our problem, not yours. But then, if it didn’t impact you too, this post wouldn’t exist. Food for thought maybe.

Brandwein · 2022-11-12T13:52:31+00:00

This "unrealistic views due to porn" myth must stop, it pushes away resonsibility that women have with pushing expectations and shame on men. You might prefer or accept men who are submissive or have other penis shapes (or even in america the circumcision issue as i have read), for many other women it is not so fine.

I for one just want to jerk each other off and cuddle.

Need more of holding women accountable on negating body positivity for men. Call them out each time they say "ewww" and such to male body parts please, even if you are in your sisterhood.

matt_the_raisin · 2022-11-12T14:19:45+00:00

Yeah straight up the second 2 are so exhausting that often I have more enjoyment alone than with my partner. There's a huge hurtle to these problems even of your partner is supportive. "Just talk about it" just having to unravel women's preconceived ideas and selfish wants to get to the point where we're talking about my needs is going to take months and she'll likely leave you because of it so why try? It's all exhausting.

EnforcementX · 2022-11-12T08:25:27+00:00

As a male, I have to say, you don’t fully grasp the male sexual experience. Half(ish) of male sexual pleasure is derived from experiencing and providing female sexual pleasure.

If it’s a random or casual hookup, the onus of pleasing a woman is significantly reduced, but if you’re a regular, or if we really like you, the onus is always.

I think the drive to please a woman sexually is the same thing that drives men to conquer and to creat things. Idk if it’s ego or pride or whatever, but it is tangible in a way that is hard to describe.

It plays right in with the fact that most men have issues with their partners sexual past, especially in regards to promiscuity. It’s primal. Encoded in our DNA.

You know how it makes you feel good to know you pleased your man? It’s that x100 for men.

somethingneet · 2022-11-12T15:34:26+00:00

I believe that this stems from porn and comparing themselves to the abnormally large dicks found on pornhub, redtube, and other adult sites. It leads to problems inside the bedroom when a man thinks that they are not enough based off of unrealistic expectations.

Stop. It literally comes from women who expect every man to have an 8 inch dick and will literally laugh at an average sized one. Ask me how I know.

EvidencePlz · 2022-11-12T15:52:02+00:00

What has it got to do with men's rights? Your post is giving me r/DeadBedrooms vibes where the only thing they like to talk about is sex lol

2022-11-12T16:29:07+00:00

Women strongly prefer men who “get it” naturally. Of course, everyone prefers those who have/do things effortlessly; it’s embedded within us. But, I think men are far, far more forgiving in this regard.

A man won’t mind dating a woman with a boob job, but I think we all know what the woman would think if she learned her man underwent a leg lengthening procedure. Even if that’s too extreme, what if she learns he takes anabolic steroids, and his physique isn’t earned naturally? What if he wears a toupee? What if he wears soles artificially increasing his height?

A bit of a tangent here, but it’s bizarre how much faking women are allowed to do (makeup, push-up bras, heels, yoga pants, somehow).

Title	Stigma about males in the bedroom
Author	missiraex
Upvotes	60
Comments	29
Date	November 12, 2022 6:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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