How absolute is alpha widowhood?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-05-18T01:35:33+00:00

it lasts until another alpha bangs the old alpha out of her. women who continue to snag men to whom theyre really really attracted dont become alpha widows

[deleted] · 2016-05-18T14:17:46+00:00

Some women never get over their alphas. That doesn't mean they don't ever get into new relationships. Most of them do, but they carry torches for their alphas, which hurts their later relationships.

A few women get over their alphas when they either (1) have a new alpha bang it out of them; or (2) do hard work to change the thought and behavior patterns that contribute to alpha widowhood.

Most women aren't alpha widows. Most of them move on eventually. There's a difference in my mind between alpha widows, and "girl having trouble letting go and moving on".

I think the much, much bigger problem is women marrying men they're really not all that sexually attracted to, after they've had sex with much more attractive men. That doesn't mean these women are all alpha widows. It means they selected husbands for all the wrong reasons. It means they thought "sex wasn't all that important", when in fact it is very important. It means they considered only their own wants and needs, and not HIS wants and needs.

joseremarque · 2016-05-18T01:02:30+00:00

I think it works a bit like drug tolerance. I used to chug cheap liquor store vodka straight from the bottle. If someone handed me a fruity mixed drink I would have to ask if it has alcohol in it because I couldn't even tell. Many years later my tastebuds have recovered somewhat but they will never be the same as they were before I started drinking. If I tried shooting 151 or everclear it might feel like it used to but really you can never go back.

Entropy-7 · 2016-05-18T07:47:44+00:00

The confounding aspect of the available data is that you can't be sure of which way the causation is flowing.

However, the major limitation is that you have to use number of sexual partners as a proxy for the chance of or level of experience with some serious alpha dick.

The confounding aspect is that without more, we don't know if being promiscuous causes all these problems, or if being koo-koo causes promiscuity.

In short, to alphas drive their widows nuts or is it only the nutty ones that present as being alpha widows?

awrestorant1 · 2016-05-18T01:08:55+00:00

I don't understand any of this stupid terminology. People form relationships, some short and some long. Those relationships eventually end. Sometimes, people have trouble getting over those past relationships.

It's not even a sex/gender-specific issue. Happens to girls, happens to guys. Even happened to me, back when I was a wee lad.

Reginleifer · 2016-05-18T01:15:04+00:00

It could be an exception, but it could also be a rationalization. Like a sour grapes deal, except the Fox found some overripe grapes on the floor and thinks THOSE are better than the ones he couldn't get.

How many people do you expect to say "yeah I could have done better, but I fucked up". At some point their mental wellbeing depends on finding a silver lining, especially if they paid a high price (in your aunt's case, a lifetime commitment). Humans are adaptable.

A real life occasion where someone has been accused of this is the Married RP subreddit, where redpillschool accuses MRP of rationalizing their bad decision.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4hv7vt/the_viability_of_the_red_pill_in_the_future/

lady_baker · 2016-05-18T13:54:48+00:00

It isn't absolute. None of what we talk about here is absolute.

It will be overcome completely if the girl encounters another man who excites her as much as the first guy and who is willing to commit to her. This is possible if we are talking about a girl who was young when "alpha widowed," and hasn't been through tons of sexual partners. Her threshold for excitement/attraction necessary for bonding is still higher than it would have been, but that doesn't matter if the new guy rings all the bells.

It can be worked through and minimized by a woman who is aware of what happened, is very committed to her new guy and spends months or years slapping down the old thought patterns and watering/fertilizing the new ones (relating to attraction to her current partner.) EDIT: totally new pathways and values are involved here. The old ones that operated strictly off of "how does he make me feel right off the bat" are no good.

GridReXX · 2016-05-18T14:13:00+00:00

As long as you date an SO you're attracted to, you don't become a widow of someone you used to know.

Actually the past is irrelevant TBH.

A man/woman could have never dated anyone prior to their current SO... if they don't find their SO sexually attractive, the consequences are the same.

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wombatinaburrow · 2016-05-18T06:05:57+00:00

Some people never get over heartbreak. My grandmother was widowed young and never took another partner. One of my sisters in law had her boyfriend die when they were both teenagers, and she's still not over it at 45.

kick6 · 2016-05-20T20:00:04+00:00

By the way I have an aunt who sometimes talks about her ex and I say she might have been an alpha widow once. But then she talks about how she met her husband and felt he was superior to her ex.

....yet she still talks about her ex.

Title	How absolute is alpha widowhood?
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