The Lost Art of Seduction

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2016-08-03T00:56:13+00:00

I've categorized my toolbox into three types of seduction: playful, Sensual and downright dirty.

Playful

Think energy, lightness, sass, voracious laughter. Higher pitched and cuter voice, positive conversation topics, kisses on his shoulder then leaving him be, intertwining my fingers through his, teasing him. Ask to sit on his lap, play with his hair, rub his shoulders, grind a tiny bit where you should...but don't kiss him, then get up and leave to go to the bathroom. When he teases you, pout, lightly hit him on the arm, make him want to comfort you for being a big bully, he'll try to kiss you...try to avoid it, whine, then give in. Or additionally, if you tease him and begin to feel something poking you back? Change the subject, ask him where he wants to go for dinner, give him an innocent look. Delay the gratification, get him so worked up he wants to have you for dinner. Have fun with it, be witty, sassy!

Sensual

Shoulder rubs, face rubs, soft kisses, low voice that compliments him or soothes his day. Lots of "Mmmmm" "Ohhhh" sounds that are not explicitly sexual but rather just reactions to what he's saying to you. Deeper gazes with a more intense but softer expressions. Sometimes when I'm giving him a massage (he's on his back, head in my lap) I'll slowly work my way down to his abs/hip flexors but never touch the organ. Basically I'm showing him I'm in the mood but let him get up, pull me to his face and start kissing me. Or, if he's done something extremely nice for me (eg. went out of his way to fix my car), pull him to bed, lightly push him down, kneel at his knees and beg him to let you show him how much you appreciate him having done this for you. Then proceed...upon finishing your oral worship, plant a kiss on his forehead when he's lying there with an exhaustively satisfied look on his face and whisper "Good boy." Then get up and leave him alone.

Down right dirty

I never do downright dirty in person. I let him do all the active initiation. However, I do send dirty texts begging him to do things to me, asking him permission if I can confide in him my fantasies. I'll use explicit language when texting but never in person. Makes his blood boil, all the time.

I don't see seduction as always a means to sex, seduction is a way of being. Also, as you could probably confer from the three types, I'm almost never the one to rip off the clothes. I just set the mood and let the ride begin.

timeforstretchpants · 2016-08-03T05:33:26+00:00

This doesn't seem super seductive, but it's one of my favorite tricks, used sparingly. It's especially useful when we're out somewhere boring and I'm ready to go haha.

Doesn't matter if I'm facing him or standing next to him. I take his hand and discreetly brush it down my hip. Two seconds later we're out the door.

What is this? My guy has carefully trained himself to detect panty lines, and when I pull his hand over my hip it instantly registers that I'm not wearing underwear.

BellaScarletta · 2016-08-02T23:31:06+00:00

Looking presentable and showing him how much I desire him sexually works wonders. This display of desire can be shown by letting myself submit what my brain wants from him.

Smiling is effective and touching his body, telling him how much you love it is also very effective.

beanx · 2016-08-03T03:16:34+00:00

I must reaffirm the genuinely effective "nakedness and beer" path. Know when it becomes AWESOME SAUCE for your dude? When you're STOKED to be all hot and bothered and present in the moment AND you truly, absolutely want to HIT THAT!! (yes, I'm utilizing modern colloquialisms to get my point across, work with me here). When you WANT to do the sexy time with your man, it shows. It's hind-brain, hard-wired in all of us - desire elicits desire. Find that inner "hnnnng, dat man doh!!!" thing that you either saw then or still see now. Ladies, you can most certainly spiff up, look pretty, enjoy the loveliness of being a woman, but without actual desire on your part, something will likely be missing from the equation and it's not something that can be substituted, or supplanted by a pretty dress, or by trying to figure out his "feelings". Men aren't that complicated; they also aren't women, they are men. They have different systems of neurology, hormones, desires, instincts which drive them, and - call me crazy, but i think most men understand the mechanics of doing a thing / taking an action in far more tangible ways than the "let's dissect X into 947 words and concepts and hash and rehash everything until the sun comes up" thing that perhaps many of us tend to do (and why not - we're wired for that!).

Simply put, aside from rando outliers and situations outside the scope of this post, showing DESIRE for your dude is pretty much THE primary element of all of this.

That man wants to be wanted - not reprimanded, admonished, talked down to or given the silent treatment - just wanted. Here. Now. None of this "if you do X, Y and Z, I might throw some of my lady goodness your way". NOPE. More like "remember that time we did X/Y/Z in that place and it was so hot? Rrrrreow! i want THAT!!".

If you are able to take a moment or two and think of some way your man is a CAPTAIN to and for you, then do it! Dont be afraid of allowing yourself to feel that way if you have a damned fine man. I think you ladies understand that i am speaking to the ladies in the LTRs (e.g., you've known your dude for a decent amount of time, not "we've been on a date or two), primarily - but for the ladies not in a LTR atm, I say this: don't perceive "captain" where there isn't one; but throw down some PROPS when you recognize "captain"-like fundamentals in the man you know: CHARACTER, confidence, honesty, reciprocal respect - however you define it.

Because that shit is awesome. Have a good dude? Show him that. Bring the naked and the beer as well, because that's the delicious icing on the cake. ❤️

cheers, my ladies!

yetieater · 2016-08-03T09:13:14+00:00

The current favorite is to make me mildly irritated with a trivial task or request so I have a slightly stern face/no-nonsense mood, then to be coy and subtle. The Girl likes being pursued.

Although the ever-faithful hug from behind so I feel boobs pressing on my back whilst busy with a physical task is an old favourite. Sometimes it may even be unintentional.

BellaScarletta · 2016-08-02T23:30:54+00:00

I didn't want to answer in the OP because I do not fancy myself a baroness of seduction - ergo need for thread. I do, however, have a few suggestions.

Neoteny - understanding the augmented margin for femininity it affords is important (note: I grabbed a random article that I skimmed and think explains it well, I did not read it in depth so don't place too much weight on that particular piece of material). Some women are naturally more neotenous than others, but emphasizing it in yourself, even through body language, can be sexy as hell. I particularly suggest placing yourself in a lower position than he (I'm not one to get graphic but let's think about an activity that makes this easy), and look up at him as if through your eyelashes. The more playfully done, the better. Anyone else have any tips in this vein?
To add, a playful demeanor is a decent strategy. Not the only strategy, mind you, but maintaining a disposition of a cat-and-mouse type game can be powerful. I personally love going as if to kiss him and not breaking my gaze from his lips, but then lightly pulling back just before contact - bonus points if your lips graze. See how many times you can do this before he grabs you by the back of the head and takes that kiss from you (:
Move your mouth toward his ears and make small sounds. It doesn't matter if this is applied during Rated-R interactions or not, you can drive his imagination wild with auditory stimulation, particularly of the subtle variety.
Particularly effective during more mundane interactions like cooking, lightly pull his hips into yours while gradually leaning your upper torso away from him. Now you're paradoxically being attained while also remaining unattainable. You can give him eyes and coy smiles until he pulls the rest of you toward him.
Mind his gaze, but don't give the game away. When I clean or do boring things I always assume he's watching. Perhaps he is, perhaps he's not. But don't be afraid to "unwittingly" show a little ass as you get the tupperware from the bottom drawer, or a little chest as you grab something just out of reach. You don't need to check to see if he's watching you....he is d:

I think the key points (at least from my limited strategies) is that seduction doesn't have to be explicit, in fact it usually isn't. It's more the implication of what's to come, and the presentation of self as an inherently sexual being for him and for him alone. What do you guys think??

Will add more as I think of them!

Title	The Lost Art of Seduction
Author	BellaScarletta
Upvotes	23
Comments	17
Date	August 2, 2016 11:16 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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