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| 2 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?I'm glad you took care of yourself. I also hate people who think their life is over once they hit 30 and just left themselves go. It's not a very good attitude in life. They're just lazy and don't take care of themselves. I also weight less than when I was 20, (I'm 31) and have way better skin and clothes and overall I am thinner and fitter. I bloomed late. No regrets because I feel more awesome than ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/20 06:03 PM |
| 2 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?If you're handsome, smart, kind and have a career - why are you dating (or why did you date) a single mother? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 2 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?What was the age difference? Why wouldn't you have lasted more than a couple months? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 07:45 PM |
| 10 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Yeah this. Men will flirt and hit on women for fun, with no intention whatsoever. Women also do this. Look, my whole demeanor is flirty in general. I ain't trying to sleep with all y'all, trust me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 07:44 PM |
| 2 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Pretty much why I'll probably kill myself when I'm 40, lol. "Lose the beauty" and husband goes looking at 20 year olds (even if he doesn't act on impulses). Hypothetical situation, of course. But I pretty much starve myself nowadays just to look good for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 05:24 PM |
| 3 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Lol. Nah I have seen some really attractive men in their mid/late-30's. My own bf included and he is a sexy ass man approaching 40 next year. "Attraction calibration" changes throughout age, too. I acknowledge the attractiveness of a 21yo man but it won't be terribly attracted TO them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 05:20 PM |
| 2 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Oh for sure. My ex is currently 38 and has like 10% body fat. It's definitely possible to stay in shape throughout life, for both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 04:48 PM |
| 14 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?I think TRP says that men ages 30-40 always want younger women (20-25yo) but those younger women don't want those men, lol. Even when I was late 20's - more "mature" - going on a date with a man over 33 was cringey. Unless they really took care of themselves well (which I have also seen, but it's rare). It's mostly just the relatability. I briefly dated a 30yo when I was 23 and that was way too big of a maturity gap. He was physically attracted to me but not mentally. And I was just too immature… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 5 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Meh. You'd be surprised how serious the loneliness is during the pandemic, especially for men. They are like virtually (no pun intended) cut off from social interactions. People are struggling, yeah, and a lot of them are men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 03:14 PM |
| 3 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Pretty much yeah and I got a few hundred bucks too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 12:31 PM |
| 14 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?Actually, the older men I "dated" were married men having issues. But even so, they were still kinda...meh. I would say as a 31F, a man ten years older is the absolute limit. But yeah, men age too. It's not just women. Women need to also be attracted to their men, and unless the guy ages like George Clooney, most young women (25 and under) would think a 35+ man is unattractive. Even possibly a 30+ man, depending on the early onset of beer bellies and receding hairlines. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 10:33 AM |
| 13 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?It was virtual sexting. We never met in person. Honestly the first time it was exciting, then I kind of just faked it for the other times (since it was through a screen). Yep, I faked an online orgasm. I cut it off after two and a half weeks. It just wasn't worth it anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 10:29 AM |
| 10 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?I virtually sugared for a 62 year old once. He would have been over 30+ years older. Yeah, when I saw his pic, I could not get attracted or feel comfortable. I purely used him for money (which is sugaring, anyway) but man, I cannot, for the life of me, imagine dating a man that much older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 10:07 AM |
| 36 | If older man go for younger women because they aren’t attracted to women their age, what do they do when that woman gets older?I have dated much older men than me, think 17-18 years older. For most normal and psychologically healthy women who are young, an older man is kind of like dating a loser. He tends to be that older guy in his mid/late-40's who hangs out with late-20's/early-30's and trust me, he is not really seen as cool in the younger person's eyes. Psychologically it's not a healthy or sustainable relationship. Physically - perhaps - but that's just some affairs and hookups. To actually build a life together … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 10:01 AM |
| 16 | How to speak in a less masculine way? How to sound more feminine if you have the voice of a little boy?Take singing lessons. Your vocal coach will help you learn to loosen throat muscles, articulate consonants, and achieve a more resonant and pleasant sounding voice. Seriously, look into it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 1 | GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.Small talk - practice bantering with anyone that you know. It'll flow from there, if they're on the same wave length. Literally just practice saying things out loud and expressing yourself. That's how conversations start and flow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/20 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Most men secretly want a homemakerIt doesn't have anything to do with being a SAHW. You're automatically assuming that being a SAHW is associated with domestic skills. I completely agree with you that you can do both, but the problem nowadays is women don't seem to think highly of those skills anymore, so they're missing a huge part of the package (making a home together). | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 4 | Most men secretly want a homemakerMen want someone to have a personal life with. Personal life includes the home as a hearth and the family at the heart of the "home world." So yeah, domestic skills and someone to build the home life with is absolutely what men desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 04:58 PM |
| 6 | GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.Small talk basically is joking around and talking about random things. It shouldn't be about asking about the private life...unless the people you're small talking with are truly, outrageously bad at small talk ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 08:55 PM |
| 5 | GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.The concept of "self-mothering" is key here - start to rely on your own inner strengths. For sure, we all need support, but in order to be a functioning couple, us ladies have to be strong and capable. You'll get there, it merely takes time and experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 02:33 AM |
| 5 | GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.Well...she could small talk when you're not around, right? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 9 | GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.Preach | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 12:04 AM |
| 27 | Is it nomal for men to be very critical of women’s appearance?Sometimes men will say that to try to get you to perk up and smile at them. I wouldn’t take it too personally. But making a jab at your actual physical body parts...that’s unacceptable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 05:27 PM |
| 23 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodHonestly the only thing that helped me (as someone who was sexually abused as a young child in elementary school, got into further sexually abusive shenanigans later on in life, and was emotionally abused by my mother)...was simply acceptance that this is life. Everybody goes through some sort of trauma, whether you are man or woman, whether is is grief due to a loss of a close family member or friend, unemployment, failure, bullying, sexual or emotional abuse, addiction, etc... Life is sufferin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Dressing feminine but modestShop at Zara or Mango. You can find plenty of feminine maxi dresses that cover the lower body but have a sexy detail on the top half. And yes, also Korean fashion brands are ultra feminine (think ruffles and flowy tops and bottoms with plenty of fine details, off-the-shoulder tops that reveal the shoulders but not the cleavage, trousers with matching belts that highlight the waist). For a large-busted gal who would like to maintain modesty, I would suggest wearing loose blouses or higher necked … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 03:40 PM |
| 2 | I was attacked today for wanting to be a stay at home momProductivity is crucial to anybody, regardless of gender or choosing to give up a career. Hobbies, continuing education, physical and mental activity goes both ways - SAHM or working woman. Productivity and mental activity is key to avoid sinking into any sort of depression, in general. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/20 05:41 PM |
| 1 | I was attacked today for wanting to be a stay at home momPeople in general should just allow others to live their lives however they wish...this is the moral of any story. Allow people to practice their religion of choice (or none at all), allow them to choose what kind of career/interests/hobbies, allow them to have their own preferences. People have preferences. Some people frown upon drinking alcohol, others are eternal potheads. Some people choose not to have children at all, and some families have nine children. Some are technology whizzes who ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/20 05:29 PM |
| 5 | I was attacked today for wanting to be a stay at home momI have gotten similar criticism from my feminist friends...they view "housekeeping" as indespicable and they advocate for the woman to have both career and family. The ones that say this are ALL single. Curiously enough, I also have two guy friends who criticized me for it (and they are a bit more liberal in general). I gently let them know that it is not wrong to value family over career. SAHW can have plenty of hobbies or even do freelance projects - I feel PRIVILEGED to not be required to go … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Why are men becoming weaker and weaker?It really is. I've seen men who worked really hard and struggled, got to a point where they were living a luxurious life of leisure, then panicked when they had to actually function. The protected life took away their defenses and stress management. Then the cycle repeats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/20 12:00 PM |
| 4 | The Age of Instagram Face: How Social Media, FaceTune and Plastic Surgery Created a Single, Cyborgian LookMostly I'm teaching ages 8-10, but I have a few teenagers too. There is one 15yo boy who has really shown the negative effects of technology. He wants everything instantly, he struggles to stay engaged and focused, he blurts out answers immediately instead of taking time to think about what to say, he also lacks proper grammar when he speaks, he's often withdrawn and grumpy (his father's told me he's experienced online bullying). It's really depressing to see this in a teenager. I teach music an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 07:56 AM |
| 21 | The Age of Instagram Face: How Social Media, FaceTune and Plastic Surgery Created a Single, Cyborgian LookPeople not only live virtual lives but some actually take that virtual life to reality. I see women with Instagram makeup in real life - way too heavy and contoured and false eyelashes and caterpillar eyebrows. This kind of makeup looks good on camera with filter but in real life these women just look like clowns. I am a teacher and I have already seen the effect of social media and technology on children. I have teenagers that seriously lack social skills and can barely communicate anything in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/20 06:12 PM |
| 1 | What makes girls like dangerous man?Dangerous men give you tingles. Simple as that. They're also generally street smart and have some swag and toughness and this makes them seem hot and masculine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 06:55 PM |
| 3 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Oh boy! I actually wish I followed style blogs or IG accounts but I don't...but I can recommend a couple stores that you can shop for stylish and affordable pieces. Namely Zara and Mango, and I like purses from Guess or Love Moschino. Jewelry I have just a few investment pieces from Swarovski. Fashion sneakers I like Keds (they have a Kate Spade collection that is very feminine). I also like Patrizia Pepe and Twin Set for a few special pieces that I match with casual wear. It just really depends… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 09:09 AM |
| 1 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Yes! It's painfully expensive for such a small bottle, but I use No. 3 on the bottom third of my hair as a mask about 1-2x/month and it calms down my dry ends and frizz. No poofy triangle hair 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 11:57 AM |
| 7 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Adding to deep conditioner - Olaplex is excellent for those seriously, direly, parched cases of dry, brittle hair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 06:42 AM |
| 29 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Experiment with clothing styles and shades that flatter both your hair, complexion, and body type. Really, it matters! Take an honest look at yourself and purchase clothes that complement you, NOT clothes that you "like." This is the key difference. Figure out warm tones or cool tones, buy matching jewelry (the type of metals // silver or gold or rose gold) to pull off outfits, even buy the right styles of shoes. Taller and slimmer girls can pull off chunky sneakers while curvier girls might nee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 09:40 PM |
| 0 | Q4W Do women tend to value stealing men from each other?Sometimes I flirt with married men as a shit test to see if they would go beyond the boundary. It's for me to see if the man is loyal or not. I don't actually want to be with the man, I'm not attracted at all, but it's a shit test for entertainment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/20 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL Why are you on this sub?Male and female dynamics are fascinating to me. I can hear opinions about this subject that I wouldn't be able to in real life. Also, entertainment value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/20 07:55 AM |
| 1 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?Korean Italy towels or Moroccan hammam bath. Best thing for exfoliating the body. As for the face - I do mini-facials with an esthetician. Pedicure - I get them done professionally because the technicians can shape the nail and trim cuticles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Do non-religious men who want traditional women want to have their cake and eat it too?I have a very fulfilling career where I make an outrageous amount of money for my dwindling and competitive industry (which is in the arts, and difficult to obtain this kind of job), with high caliber colleagues, rich clientele and a swanky prestigious image. I enjoyed my career for five years and I made the decision to resign, because....no matter how much money or how fulfilling or how progressive and ambitious our mission became, I arrived to the point where I was living at the office and spe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Do non-religious men who want traditional women want to have their cake and eat it too?I'm confused as to why you think you can't find a traditional woman who isn't a strict Evangelical or something. I know plenty of women who work and cook for the family and take care of the children, and I know plenty of women who stay home to take care of the house even after getting a proper collegiate education. Many of these women went to university, worked during their 20's, got married, perhaps worked a bit while they married, then became a SAHM after having children (or SAHW depending on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | What do women mean when they say men should dress better and have better hairstyles?Don't look frumpy, don't look like you live on the couch all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/19 12:07 PM |
| 6 | What is your favorite thing about the opposite sex?Ohhhh boy. Just their strength and the energy they have. The muscles, the protection, the way they try really hard to say the right thing - to make you feel better - the way they engulf you in their arms. Oh and dick. Love, love, the dick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/19 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?My concern with online dating is that the young generation won't know the fantasies and the game and the chase and the lures and antics that "real life crushes" allow. Don't you remember how you would see a cute guy and think of ways to attract him? Like try to dress cute and cross paths? Or for men, he'd have to think of excuses to talk to a girl / he'd have to man up and be brave and potentially face rejection while talking to a girl?? Nowadays it's just way too instant - and you already know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:18 PM |
| 42 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?How clean he is. He's somebody that insists on sweeping under the couch, and even puts a fragrance soap thingy in the toilet (don't know what it's called but it's a small bar of soap that you can hang from inside of the toilet bowl so that when you flush, the flushing water is foamy and fragranced). I don't know but it is really freaking endearing to me. He's obsessively clean and I love it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:54 PM |
| 18 | Where to buy quality lingerie?My favorite store is Intimissimi, it's an Italian brand with beautiful design and top quality material. You can probably find it in a major US city but not sure if you can buy online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/19 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what qualities do you consider a Good Man to have?Strength (emotional, mental, physical) and responsibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 03:57 PM |
| 4 | As a guy reading women's Reddit, the amount of posts pertaining to sexual harassment/assault surprises me. Do women actually get harassed this often?It happens everywhere, even at the office. Women are pressured to be nice and agreeable for fear of angering a man / bruising his ego. I've had men become flustered and offended because I didn't smile and nod while he was talking. And yeah walking alone at night - avoid all eye contact with anyone, and it's worse when I'm in a cab and I hate taking taxis alone especially at night. It just freaks me out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/19 03:18 PM |
| 6 | How to be a better person?Keep in mind that, of the things you can be, funny is like the 5th most important, behind kind, hardworking, intelligent, and loyal. I really needed to hear this - I always feel so much pressure that I'm not funny or a jokester (compared to some other more abrasive but witty girls out there). And it's PERFECTLY OK not to be funny. I can be kind, sweet, loyal, intelligent....and it's enough!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 08:52 AM |
| 2 | Can someone be so good-looking that they become a "freak"?Cartoonish is the perfect word for it. I know one woman who is like that and it's like they're not human. She's also slightly robotic in personality - albeit very sweet and down-to-earth - but yeah - always perfect skin, symmetrical eyes, proportions of her face are perfect, 40 years old and has the same body weight as her 20's. It's like her face doesn't move or express anything, but that's probably why she doesn't have wrinkles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/19 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Why would people put a high priority on looks when searching for a long term relationship?Physical appearance also signals lifestyle, and sharing common lifestyle habits can lead to a more sustainable relationship. If I'm somebody that watches my calorie intake and eats nourishing whole foods as much as I can, would I date an obese man who doesn't take care of his heath? That relationship would not last very long. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/19 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Any examples of positive femininity and what makes their femininity positive?I guess depends on the woman honestly. Some women don't like to be the center of attention...in that case then she can for sure utilize her femininity to play a major background role. Some women don't want to be out there competing and working grueling hours and stressing and being in the spotlight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/19 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Any examples of positive femininity and what makes their femininity positive?Woodrow Wilson's wife, Ellen, was known to be a feminine and demure woman who was well-bred, highly educated, socially graceful and socially responsible. She was wise and frequently advised him throughout his political career. She was a strong woman with intelligence and eloquence yet knew how to add value to a man's life through a feminine perspective. I highly recommend reading "The Priceless Gift," which is a collection of love letters between the couple. Mumtaz Muhal is another parallel exam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/19 05:28 AM |
| 10 | Are lower class women more sexual or are higher class women hiding their sexuality?Pretty much all of the UMC women I know do cocaine and have gotten into financial trouble or some sort of accident due to "living the high life." MC will not do so many drugs because they've grown up with responsibility and the mentality of earning their worth. UMC are spoiled and have got trust funds, rich parents or well-connected friends, so they don't seem to take consequences as seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Are lower class women more sexual or are higher class women hiding their sexuality?Using sex to get resources is normal to womem in more difficult situations (Look at Latin America women). Same for Eastern European women. The reason they all dress up scantily and sensually is because more often than not, they have to seduce a man for a job position, or seduce a man for marriage/resources. In EE, preference for most well-paid jobs go to the men. A lot of the sexy EE women I've met have tattoos and are ultra high maintenance in cosmetics - fake eyelashes and acrylic nails, alway… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Who is as a group the more emotional and more sensitive sex, women or men?Men definitely tend to be more physically aggressive when it comes to expressing anger. Hence the gym, alcohol, drugs, extreme sports, are all anger outlets. I've seen men punch walls and smash things (and other much more serious ways of expressing anger but I don't want to say it out loud because it's depressing). Thus when they express intense anger or emotions, yes, it also becomes more consuming and fervent. Testosterone is powerful not just in physical or mental strength but also with the i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/19 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Who is as a group the more emotional and more sensitive sex, women or men?Stories? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/19 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Who is as a group the more emotional and more sensitive sex, women or men?I've seen men cry and whine and blubber about really serious stuff, obviously in private, but yeah it's just the social stigma that forces them to put on the stoic face in public. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/19 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Hello ladies! Can anyone suggest hobbies to get into? I’ve been wanting to find one that I can do long term and get into, hopefully make some friends at the same time.I love learning languages, you're able to travel, meet different people, learn about their food and culture! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/19 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Yeah I've rarely seen Italians and French drink more than a full glass honestly, it's like sips of wine. Or if they do get kind of drunk they do it in the privacy of their home. Lots of outer image culture. Which is interesting because their emotions are fairly open in general and borderline "rude" (compared to the British) yet the British binge drink way more since they're TOO polite and reserved. But I mean all cultures have a balance somehow. Control one part of your society and give freedom … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?I understand, and it's absolutely true they're super professional and trustworthy BECAUSE of their reserved and articulate personalities. They don't let emotions cloud their minds as easily. Hence they can actually think instead of cause drama. More rational and rule-based culture instead of acting on impulse or feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Oh I totally agree. They're tight lipped and reserved and DEFINITELY need some alcohol to open up. They're also more work oriented so not always socializing in a recreational way. They're very polite of course and so they're used to keeping emotions inside so they don't offend others. Very articulate in general so they're not used to just "letting go." Alcohol really helps them loosen up and not feel so self conscious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?I guess so! The Italians I know are always looking down at the British and Irish for being drunktards. But I will say Italians who study abroad in America love getting wasted because culturally in their country it's not cool to be drunk, or at least not in public. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?They want to have fun instead of do stuff. Or they don't know what to do so they drink instead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Yes. I mentioned in a comment that southern Europeans don't drink that heavily and I'm pretty sure part of it has to do with the hot weather (in summers). Like it's just way too hot to be that drunk, you're dehydrated and struggling to be awake even without being drunk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Now I'm curious about reason #4... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Americans definitely don't know how to drink nicely. It's rare for me to see Americans drink one glass of wine and call it a night. It always seems to spiral out of control. Like if there's alcohol then it automatically means wild and crazy party. I've rarely seen a chill hangout where people only sip on drinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:04 PM |
| 8 | Q4All: Why are so many upper-middle class white women alcoholics?Southern Europeans don't have such an extreme binge drinking culture though. I've got tons of Spanish and Italian friends and they only really sip on alcohol. It's rare to have more than two drinks per person in one night. They're very controlled about not being wasted and simply being only buzzed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?I'm really happy reading what you think about European music. The European way of practicing arts (Im trained in European philosophy btw) has much to do with faith in god. Classical European art is a tool to reach what is most beautiful, true and good. I think this is why this kind of art is so exquisite. I'm a classical violinist so yes pretty much all of the tradition is based off of European cultures (Germany, Russia/Eastern bloc, France, Vienna, etc) so yes I pretty much grew up and studied … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?American women are certainly more career driven than Europeans but Americans in general are more career driven (if thats the right word for it). I think what you're saying is Americans live to work, which rings true in the country. Whatever you want to do...you can do it all with your own hands, you can create your own opportunities and destiny, you can invent anything. Although at my work I do find something special about the European trained musicians - there's a tradition that works, and they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 12:08 PM |
| 3 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?I hear you when you're saying that European women are used to being in the workforce. Although I do believe that (at least what I've seen) their career choices don't seem to require a harshly competitive mindset. Or at least the ones I know are pretty much in the arts, history, language sectors. So for example being a translator doesn't require the same mindset as developing business strategy at a major company. Of course language skills are simply using a different part of the brain, doesn't ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 09:55 AM |
| 5 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?I would be interested in having a discussion with you about gender dynamics in varying European countries. I live in a highly international city and I've been exposed to assorted mentalities regarding marriage or sex or relationships within different cultures, PLUS it's different between generations as well. Tons of middle-aged European couples who have children without marriage, label themselves as a family socially but just not legally. Most men still feel the need to be the breadwinner/provid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 06:55 AM |
| 6 | How to be classierHave manners, be gracious towards others. Act appropriately to the circumstances. Know how to small talk if needed so you don't look like a social outcast. Coordinate your outfits and dress appropriately for the occasion. Matching your purses/belts/shoes will instantly pull together a simple outfit. Make sure you always look groomed before going out. Maintain filed nails and clean eyebrows, body hair, etc. Style your hair, don't go out with it wet or un-brushed. Have a natural daily makeup look.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 01:34 PM |
| 11 | A Persons Pill Color is Directly Tied to Their Native Socioeconomic ClassThey have a third skill that the lower and middle just doesn't have, which is constantly concealing facts and magnitudes of anything in your life - humility, modesty, etc are all just to keep people, including peers, in the... I would call it "politically sanitized" dark about how you're doing. Financially, emotionally, you name it. Shutting the FUCK up separates the wealthy from the nouveau riche. This part couldn't be more true. I teach the daughter of a royal family member, and you could not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Reading Material Suggestions?Conscious Femininity by Marion Woodman is an off-the-path book about psychological femininity based off of Jungian theory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/19 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Reading Material Suggestions?I read the synopsis and I do believe it's RPW relevant as it talks about psychological femininity with a Jungian background. It's not as commercially relationship-oriented but it's probably similar to Fascinating Womanhood in terms of building feminine characteristics, but from a deeper psychological point of view. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/19 01:49 AM |
| 1 | [DISCUSSION] Dating as a guyYou need to have the mindset of going out to find a sex partner, otherwise she will not be interested in you. Women also want to fuck and feel desired. That’s why they go on dates. It sounds like you’re looking for female friends and not for a girlfriend. Treat her like a female friend and 100% she will not want to go home with you and bang you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 04:23 AM |
| 3 | [DISCUSSION] Dating as a guyYep, this. I’m a professional classical musician, obviously have strong in-depth interests in music history and pedagogical technique, but I 100% NEVER talk about this stuff with my fiancée. It makes me freeze up and stare at him like WTF why do you want to know this. I don’t want my guy to ask me about my hobbies. He’s not my colleague. I gladly talk shop with my colleagues at work because they can also counter back and understand exactly what I’m talking about. I’m not here to teach my fiancée… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 04:19 AM |
| 1 | [DISCUSSION] Dating as a guyHey, she started it. This is laughably an immature and childish way of blaming other people instead of taking responsibility for yourself and your own personality... I am down to talk for whatever comes to her mind. This is the problem. You are waiting for HER and following HER lead. This mentality ultimately destroys the connection and chemistry between men and women. Women don’t want men being puppy dogs chasing after them and doing whatever she wants. Haven’t you ever read TRP and its rules f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 04:01 AM |
| 3 | [DISCUSSION] Dating as a guyWomen become closed off if they’re not that interested. It’s a rule. Just because a woman accepts a date doesn’t mean that she’s THAT interested. She might go on a date for the experience of practicing dating, or (I don’t know how OP is getting the dates) but if maybe they matched online and met in person, maybe she realized his personality/looks is not as attractive as it seems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 03:58 AM |
| 2 | [DISCUSSION] Dating as a guyAny girl will be comfortable opening up to a guy that she's interested in... Girls will gladly be outgoing and lively for an attractive guy she wants to woo. The problem is you. And ditto to some comments saying they don't want a serious conversation on a date. Girls go on dates to HAVE FUN AND LET LOOSE. You're obviously making it seem prim and proper or too serious and strained. I've had many successful dates and none of them involve me talking about my hobbies in depth or whatever. I'm not go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 02:57 AM |
| 11 | What do most women fail to understand about men?Wisdom passed to my mother from her mother: If you can’t tell whether he’s interested in you, he’s probably not. A man who is truly interested will not leave you questioning. This reminds of the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" and they say the exact same thing...stop analyzing and looking into small details and minute actions he does, thinking that he's doing this because he likes you.. But it's true. Men will put effort for a girl he's really interested in. And sometimes men are just nice t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]I guess it makes sense if the guy is angry his woman went off with someone else and wants to insult him, but I meant more at the workplace. I don't see male colleagues bitching about other male colleagues. But I see the women bitching about colleagues all the time and talking behind people's backs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]Eh, teachers understand the difficulties of being a mother, and we never expect perfection, but it's still pretty obvious who's taking care of their children even if the child is acting stubborn. Behaviors can be forgiven because they're children, but it's mostly things like keeping your kids clean and healthy. When I see things like, consistently lost assignments, not taking care of instruments, spilled food on papers, coming in with snotty noses or sticky fingers, can't concentrate because par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 07:58 AM |
| 3 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]Honestly I think all people just like to have an ego boost knowing that they've got it better than another, that's really the baseline. Inferiority complexes, self-esteem, blah blah blah..... The difference between men and women is that women seem to be more bitchy and vocal about competition. I've never heard a man become critical and say mean things about another man who might be better than him, even if he is envious on the inside, but women will say shitty things about other women just to fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 07:43 AM |
| 8 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]As a teacher I also agree it's because of children. Children who are clean, well-fed, healthy, organized, balanced, well-behaved - they're so much less trouble at school. You can actually teach them things and work with them and nurture their intelligence. Bring me a kid who is disheveled, talks out of turn, punches kids on the playground, drinks a soda every day and is clearly unhealthy, doesn't do their homework, etc etc....that kid has a lot less potential to molded into a healthy, contributi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]Women are also super bitchy and judgmental of each other. Like men could care less if a woman wore her hair up but a woman would probably say something bitchy like "why would she do that, her ears are huge." Like stupid judgmental shit like that. "Why doesn't she take care of herself, somebody needs to tell her to lose weight.""Well Iiiiiiii wouldn't have done it her way, my way is better." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 04:24 AM |
| 8 | Why does it seem women biologically need something to complain about/fix/keep in order? [SERIOUS]we raise our girls to be perfect. Oh fuck this is so true. Even within girlfriends, when there is no man around, girls are always looking to be the more perfect one. The one who has a better body, better clothes, better skin/hair, better attitude, better hobbies, better temperament, better social connections....list goes on and on. I think it comes from women feeling like they need to be perfect in order for men to love them or marry them. Like women feel the need to be pedestalized. They think … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sUh, I don't know why this conversation has spiraled into a harsh discussion of why I personally deserve chivalry, and I don't wish to continue talking about my value with some stranger because frankly it's none of your business. Plus the conversation topic of "why do I deserve a man to walk me home and make sure I'm fine on a date" is such a waste of time to even discuss. There are plenty of men out there who are obviously not bitter and don't even bat an eye to be nice to a woman. I think you'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sAgain, chivalry is a subtle care in a man's actions and the way he treats a woman. If I have to continue explaining this...you obviously don't have any chivalry nor have the capacity to understand how to use it...sorry to say | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sBut are you dating your secretary? I was talking about men I'm dating if we're on a night out. My fiancée does not care how I commute to work either but when we go out, he's protective of me, does all the driving. When I casually dated men who were older, they always drove me home or walked me home, gave me a kiss on the cheek even on a casual first date. Young guys would give me a wave, say "see you later" and then bail. There's just a lack of refinement in their actions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sIt's not a matter of being responsible for me, it's a matter of showing they they care a little more about my well-being. For sure I can get home by myself just fine but a chivalrous man would make the effort to show a little more care. I don't expect him to be responsible for me like an adult would be to a child but again, it's just the subtle care in the actions. Granted I lived in the US when I was younger and now I live abroad and date mostly European men, and they treat women much different… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:59 PM |
| 4 | What do you mean by “pleasant” when describing your ideal woman?Not all the men on this sub are great men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sI found that men in their 30's and 40's were more willing to listen to problems and try to offer solutions, and they were more protective, which comes with common sense and general sense of masculine instinct. When I was younger the guys were just really self-absorbed, impatient, and basically don't think of other people besides themselves. Like as an example none of the young guys would make sure I got home safely from a night out, basically would just assume I would take care of it myself (tax… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:53 PM |
| 8 | What do you mean by “pleasant” when describing your ideal woman?Communicate with him like a mature adult. I found that men aren't willing to solve a problem if the woman just screams at him and makes a big fuss emotionally, or if it's the wrong time to bring something up (if he had a bad day at work and you start berating him for dirty dishes, he's going to run away from you). Plus it depends on the fault. I found that if the fault has to do with who he is (Such as his bad habits) then that stuff has to be dealt with very gently and over time, or you need to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:39 PM |
| 2 | What do you mean by “pleasant” when describing your ideal woman?The chart is super cool. I feel like I know plenty of women with excess yang or insufficient yang but I barely know any men with excess/insufficient Yin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:32 PM |
| 6 | What do you mean by “pleasant” when describing your ideal woman?The difference between nagging and calling out seems to be: Nagging never stops, even when it's not solved or simply takes longer to solve. Think about ruminating and holding grudges as well, and generally being bossy or aggressive. Nagging doesn't seem to turn off, it's a continuous behavior. Calling out bad behavior happens less frequently and only is done when absolutely necessary, and usually is done in a more pleasant voice instead of yelling and screaming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sMost people go through life and reach a point where they realize people stop liking them or stop trying to be with them because they're an asshole. Both men and women. By a certain point, being selfish and self-absorbed just isn't contributing in any way. People start to become tired of your bullshit. Happens in both relationships and in the workplace. If the new young guy at work makes snide comments with sexual overtones, says offensive things to colleagues, comes late to meetings often, doesn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 06:07 PM |
| 9 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sIt's normal to be unconsciously insensitive when we're younger - nobody really has malice in them, it's just lack of life experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 04:08 AM |
| 29 | Women in their 30s treat me better than women in their 20sMaturity. Men who are in their 30's and 40's are also more sensitive to women's needs and more chivalrous. This isn't a gender thing, it's called growing up and being a good human being. Once you have a full time job and take responsibility for yourself, you also learn to treat others well. Most likely your 20's women are self-absorbed in college or working some entry-level job that doesn't require a whole lot of complex human skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 03:35 AM |
| 11 | Stop judging other womenFantastic thoughts, and adding to it, judging other women puts the feeling of hate inside of you. This kind of negative and critical thinking can really suck out personalities and your brain can simply circle around being harsh and hateful. Triggering is the perfect word for it, and it very plainly explains why I had judgmental thoughts in the past. Usually it's towards SJW's or forever single women in their 40's, and yep, you nailed it - they triggered my fear of being alone forever. Triggering… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 02:21 AM |
| 7 | Why are record numbers of young women interested in becoming nuns?Adding to this: it's not even that parenting is a contest, wifehood becomes a contest. Once wives are in their late-30's and 40's, it becomes a contest to see who still looks hot as they age. Husbands compare other wives' aging beauty to their own. Eyes linger at middle-aged women and husband's brains think it's still possible to have a hot wife in her 40's, so why doesn't my wife exercise more and dress sexy still. Husbands even compare if their wives still have youth and drive to have accompli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 11:51 PM |
| 7 | So basically after kids I'm married to a completely different woman?This is incredibly true, I've seen women who married when they were young, while working entry level jobs, then after kids grow up they start trying to climb the career ladder, personality turns a 180. Then men are stuck with a woman who they don't even know anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/19 07:59 PM |
| 3 | What is it about women laughing/smirking that set some men off?Honestly sometimes I feel like I can't even have a conversation with a man anymore. I can't joke around or even giggle at something he says because God forbid - if you thought he was making a joke but apparently he wasn't - you get this awkward silence or worse, an angry man. Even if I try to be stone faced to be more sensitive to not laughing BY ACCIDENT, he gets mad because I didn't smile at him. Male egos are as delicate as the finest caviar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 08:17 PM |
| 5 | What is it about women laughing/smirking that set some men off?As a woman I've realized I have to be incredibly delicate when letting out laughs around men, because you really never know if he's taking it's personally. Sometimes men LOVE when women laugh at everything he says but at the wrong moment, his ego takes a blow. Gotta work around those eggshells. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 07:03 AM |
| 6 | Men who have strung women along for sex. Was the sex worth it? Did you feel bad after?Eh, both men and women [can] treat each other like shit. I mean I know plenty of girls who giggle and flirt with a few guys because they know he'll help her out or buy her drinks or give her rides in his car. But I would say specifically the comment "force myself to treat her with decency" means that the default mode is not to treat a girl with decency. Like of course women can be annoying and have tons of bullshit to put up with, so that sentence really iterates that if a man really cares about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 10:58 PM |
| 14 | Men who have strung women along for sex. Was the sex worth it? Did you feel bad after?after it was over I really had to force myself to treat them with decency because all I really wanted was to get them out of my house. That sentence really puts it in perspective how men look at women they don't genuinely like nor are interested in. That women are disposable and the natural tendency is to treat them nicely only for sex and not for their personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 10:18 PM |
| 31 | Feminine ColorsI'm going to go on another path here and suggest that you select colors that pair well with your hair color and skin tone. Then choose feminine STYLES of clothing, instead of colors. This way you'll look more elegant and put together. Black can look ultra feminine as long as you select the right fit and style. A woman can look the complete opposite of feminine even if she's wearing an all pink or floral ensemble... Also, there are varying shades of pink, one shade can really highlight your compl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 01:29 AM |
| 1 | 20s to 30s: Dressing young, feminine and conservative during the summerWhat's your height and weight? Cup size? I wear a US 4 but can squeeze into a 2 depending, with a B cup, so with their sizes I'm generally purchasing a EU S or XS from there. Plus a lot of their blouses/dresses are kind of roomy, billowy style, so a small probably works if you're in between. Trousers I would aim for medium, depends on your build...I'm a small overall but have athletic thighs/glutes so I'm a medium for their bottoms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 12:16 PM |
| 2 | 20s to 30s: Dressing young, feminine and conservative during the summerTotally, and it's not that expensive either, but you always look pulled together wearing their clothes. Their styles are the right amount of fashion without being too loud and gaudy, or too young and teenage. Check out Zara as well - they're like Mango but a little more posh and upscale. Better for dressier occasions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 08:28 AM |
| 12 | 20s to 30s: Dressing young, feminine and conservative during the summerShop at Zara or Mango for linen dresses, ruched belted linen trousers and blouses that will keep you cool in the summer. Pretty much any linen bottoms that have a tie-belt is very classy but also casual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/19 02:50 PM |
| 1 | How can a low status woman improve herself?What's the taint? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Are Moms Doomed to Get Fat?I've seen plenty of thin women in their 40's and 50's who have teenage children (but unfortunately not common in USA, in other countries, much more common). It's all about your lifestyle and diet. CHOOSE to take care of yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/19 06:47 AM |
| 15 | Men are afraid to mentor women after #MeToo and it hurts us all: studyCurious about the stories as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/19 05:19 PM |
| 17 | What rules did your mom teach you about being ladylike or a good homemaker that have always stuck with you?Usually it requires some assessment of the scenario. For instance...if you're sharing TMI with a colleague or a boss or any man who is not your boyfriend. I wouldn't share overly personal information or certain gossip (eg. your boyfriend was arrested for drunk driving, or your sister had an affair, or the reasons your friend got fired from her job), stuff like this should be kept quiet and only shared with close trusted friends. Basically there are some topics to avoid when socializing in certai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 10:33 PM |
| 21 | What rules did your mom teach you about being ladylike or a good homemaker that have always stuck with you?Work/office bags - usually should be medium to large tote bags, neutral colors, nothing too flashy or overly ornate. Also depends on what kind of office you work in. Mine is more artistic so I can get away with some color and fashion, but my friend who works in the finance sector needs to be more understated, or else nobody takes her seriously. Casual outing - small to medium with long crossbody straps or those cute little fashion backpacks that are trendy nowadays. Medium totes are also appropr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 08:36 PM |
| 55 | What rules did your mom teach you about being ladylike or a good homemaker that have always stuck with you?It's all about the small mannerisms. Hiding your bra strap if you're wearing sleeveless clothing, wearing nude-colored panties if wearing light colored trousers, taking note of how your bra cup looks underneath your clothes (usually should be smooth and invisible, well-fitted). Wearing thongs to hide panty lines if wearing fitted bottoms. Always dressing more semi-formal when going to a restaurant or coffee shop (eg. no ratty T-shirts or flip-flops or outdoorsy/gym shoes). Knowing the difference… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityDepends on which culture. In some cultures it's family time to cook together, pass down recipes, food is done out of love. Some cultures see it as a hassle and frowned upon to have this skill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/19 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityOh congratulations to her. I'm also a professional musician. Not an easy life but it can be very rewarding once you figure it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityNot necessarily, women here are just seen as having different strengths. I think the fact that you automatically thought being soft and empathetic is "second class" says something... The motherhood and maternal qualities are seen as complements. Complement does not necessarily mean it's second class. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityTaking care of somebody is compassion and empathy. It's not about being a mother and wiping off drool or cleaning stains. It's about feeling for somebody and supporting their dreams and allowing them to confide in you. There's a deep relationship there. There's family life where both spouses take care of each other. But again, Americans think they can do everything alone, thus none of the American women I know are passing on their genetics. Cultural differences. Americans love the lonely life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 07:54 PM |
| 6 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityCultural differences, then. Women here are seen as complements to men, as the butter to the bread, as a companion, soft place to land. Women here are women. I know in the US people generally like to think more about themselves rather than other people. None of the American women living in my country are married, but they seem to be happy with their choice to be alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityWhere do you live? I live in a very culturally conservative country. The SAHM here is considered very important to the children's wellbeing as well as the husband's. All the rich families I know have SAHM's. Over here you're seen as middle class if both spouses have to work. Or the other extreme is the women who do have career never end up marrying because they're just unpleasant to get along with and do not know how to take care of a man's well-being. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 07:39 PM |
| 6 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityYes, but a maid to cook for the family cannot replace your wife cooking for you, out of her heart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Dating is destroying my self esteem and confidence..I'm sorry that you have a health problem that doesn't allow you to have children. I think you can still get married though, minus the children? For sure she can always keep trying to find someone suitable for her, keep trying to be wife material, of course we all have to continue to keep trying to create our destiny...but of course as you said, sometimes we are not so lucky and we have to make peace with it. It's definitely better to make peace with your life circumstances rather than hate yours… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 05:10 PM |
| 13 | Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personalityThe richest family I know (husband is some construction guru with stock bonds and shares and whatever financial thing makes people rich) - has a SAHM. They have a housecleaner but she does all the cooking and childcare. Wife and children get nice vacations every year and live a peaceful, luxurious life. Another rich family that I know (husband is some hotel chain management hotshot) has a wife that also works upper management in some government system - but their marriage is in shambles. Husband… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Dating is destroying my self esteem and confidence..I actually think you're the one with the victim mindset - unless it's your choice to never be married, the that's fine - but if you DO want to get married and have children, you have the power to change yourself into a marriage material woman. You're just choosing not to become marriage material/family woman, thus you're playing the victim. I know plenty of women who got married in their late 30's, and you've already "made your peace" that you'll never be married at the age of 34. They've gotten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 02:36 PM |
| 1 | What are your predictions for gender relations in the future?This makes sense why some guys I know are afraid they're gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/19 06:54 PM |
| 1 | What are your predictions for gender relations in the future?Homosexuality. I already live in a culture where marriage is seen as a transactional relationship (financial, offspring), yet it's a quickly modernizing country. The men and women do not know how to have an emotional connection with each other. The women work and they are ambitious. They do not need a man for financial support. Instead they rely on women for emotional connection, and then that emotional connection turns into romantic and sexual. These women are also very sexually expressive in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/19 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Women with masculine traits do you look for men with feminie traits or men who are so masculine they make you more feminine?I just Googled Giselle without makeup and I'm shocked at how fugly she is. Large, pointy nose strong jawline, narrowed emotions - nothing soft and feminine about her. Supermodels are actually masculine in nature - no curves, all perfection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Women with masculine traits do you look for men with feminie traits or men who are so masculine they make you more feminine?I feel that I definitely possess masculine traits of perfection, discipline, strong interest in technical analysis and mathematics (I'm a musician) yet I'm very feminine looking - baby face, curvy bottom, thick thighs, soft voice, a tendency towards being a pacifist and avoiding confrontation. I'm not particularly athletic but I do strength training and I look for activities that get my blood pumping, instead of gentle activities like yoga. But I would definitely say overall I'm not as intense i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 12:34 PM |
| 2 | How to tell coworker that he is making me uncomfortableI've had a situation where a male coworker tested my boundaries then gaslighted me. It was not a pleasant situation. I would attempt to set boundaries or tell him that I felt uncomfortable with some of his actions towards me, then he would tell me I was being irrational. It got so bad that we have to communicate by email for everything because whenever he got near me, my flight instinct would kick in and I couldn't discuss anything with him face to face. I can't really say anything except that d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/19 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Remaining ChildlikeThink about your childhood and what were those qualities that made you, yourself? The problem with narrowing childlike qualities is that we are all different when we were children. Some people were always outgoing when they're children, fearless, risk-taking, talkative. When these people mature, they try to become less self-centered and responsible. Some people (like me) were bashful, shy, sweet, timid - and when we mature, we try to overcome that shyness. It all comes down to your own individua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/19 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?Men's emotions don't disgust me, but if a man whines about having to take responsibility, that disgusts me. For example: If my husband got into some sort of trouble and was upset about it, that does not disgust me. I would support him through it. If my husband got into some sort of trouble and whines about having to deal with the consequences, that disgusts me. Any man who whines about their responsibilities is repulsive to me, this doesn't show strength to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 11:15 AM |
| 5 | Being a wife vs. being a girlfriend -- a small thoughtUnless your social circle actually involves people like Oprah, then I wouldn't know! Must be lucky to be so famous and rich ;) Some of us are mere immortals that want family and children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 07:31 AM |
| 16 | Being a wife vs. being a girlfriend -- a small thought"Husband" or "wife" titles denote family life. "Girlfriend" or "boyfriend" subconsciously connotes someone who doesn't have qualities to have their own family or someone who is selfish and refuses to make concessions or sacrifices for other people. Plus when you get older and you have to bring a +1 to events, your friend circle will definitely gossip if you bring a different escort every time. It doesn't look cool when you're older. People marry later now, late-20's or early 30's, but by the tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/19 04:21 PM |
| 10 | Being a wife vs. being a girlfriend -- a small thoughtIt goes both ways for men and women for the status upgrade. For married men, it shows they're trustworthy and have their life together enough for a woman to want to stay with him and take care of him. Women have instincts that make us run if we feel a man is not reliable or responsible to take care of us or does not contribute positively to society. A married man proves that he's not a creep or sex offender or criminal; a married man shows that he's worth passing on his genetics. For married wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/19 04:17 PM |
| 46 | High-level comment in /r/askmen about why high-value men won't commitWhen I was dating my fiancé, his life was a complete mess the first two years. During the those chaotic years, he definitely put up with a lot of awful behavior from me. I was doing things like - complaining about my day, panicking over nothing, over loading him with texts, bullying him when I felt insecure, getting sad for no reason. In the third year, he got a well paid job and started flourishing in his career. The amount of bullshit he could deal with from me was diminished greatly. He actua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/19 06:46 AM |
| 19 | Has anyone noticed that movies/shows seem to all star aggressive/masculine women nowadays?Maybe we should have a thread of movies that star suitable RPW female role models? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/19 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Why are so many women having trouble with the Dating scene?Did they say the reasons why they are giving up? Either they're having trouble because of their own vulnerability issues, or they're extremely picky about their selection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 06:03 AM |
| 17 | What would you tell your 21 year old self to do?Lose the weight. Workout and stop eating my feelings, get my discipline on track (with studying, exercising, self-care). I was a fat, anxious, slob-muffin when I was 21. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 10:35 PM |
| 19 | I act like an insecure child instead of a woman; how do I become more mature?I can offer some thoughts because I have experienced something similar to you in the past. You are not willing to accept the next phase of life - maturity and responsibility. You are 30 and you still act like a child because you are not willing to put that adolescent phase behind you. 1) I think psychotherapy could benefit you - I did work with a Jungian psychotherapist and there may be issues in the past that have affected your delayed maturity. What was your childhood like? Did your parents en… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 01:29 PM |
| 4 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageFor me it did, because I think a masculine man who is looking to settle down also doesn't really accept too much drama. It's all past fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 09:44 PM |
| 27 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageAdding to this, I know a few women who cannot find a suitable husband or successful relationship because they refuse to accept their age. I'm talking about the women in their mid/late-30's (sometimes a little older!) who concentrate on an external social life (partying and meeting new people), "finding themselves" (code word for career hopping, identity crisis), basically they are STILL acting like immature teenagers but they're almost 40. Well guess what? If you don't act like you're ready to b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Wealth, education, and datingNo, anybody in an artistic field - musicians, conductors, writers, journalists, composers, curators, gallery owners, fashion designers, artisans, chefs. High level professionals of course. Finger paints and microwave dinners don't count ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/19 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Wealth, education, and datingHave you tried dating older? Such as, a man who is well in his career (who may not come from a wealthy background) but has a solid career path that is growing? This would be someone in their early to late 30's. I know a few wealthy men and yes, the men definitely go for some model/actress. As for daughters that grew up in a wealthy background, it's not impossible to still find a husband in the same income bracket, I think you just have to be well aware of what you can offer to the table. You're … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/19 08:48 PM |
| 7 | Why should women reject the “princess mentality”?I have a story about this. I used to have a girlfriend, but I ended the friendship because she is the type of person you described, to EVERYONE. She has admitted she has played with people to get something. She once told me that while she was traveling, a man was interested in her, and she lied about some family emergency so he ended up paying her hotel room. She's actually very rich and doesn't need financially aid, but she's 1) bored and 2) entitled. She often bypasses rules that are made for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How many male friends do you have?I have male colleagues that I work well with (I'm in an artistic field). But outside of work, none. I keep in touch with a few guy friends from college but it's really just a few catch up messages once a year. I never go visit them or spend time with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/19 04:21 AM |
| 1 | How do you increase your feminine energy?Hip opening stretches are amazing! Also hip thrusts, anything glute based that can strengthen and mobilize that area, has made a difference in my mental and physical flexibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 05:46 PM |
| 6 | How do you increase your feminine energy?When we are sedentary or feel anxious, we tighten our bodies. A lot of this happens in the pelvic area. Ever seen people with horrible posture? It's not just about "standing up straight" or "strengthening your core." Backs and necks become misaligned when the hips are tight. Imagine a woman who is walking rigidly. Marching in a straight line, shoulder straight but tight. Head is perhaps too upright. She seems like she may be trying too hard to have the perfect posture. Now imagine a woman who is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 02:50 PM |
| 32 | How do you increase your feminine energy?Dancing, singing, stretching. Get your body relaxed and open, and it will help free up your mind and spirit. A lot of energy is sheltered in the hip and pelvic area, so any hip opening stretches or posterior body work can help. Feminine energy is flowing and open. Think of water. Water flows, drips, it moistens fabrics quickly, it has a lightness to it. By relaxing your body, your senses, you become vulnerable and free. All of this I do in my own bedroom, I might add. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Redpill Women is toxicI work in a field with a lot of women, and none of them work full time. Out of curiosity, what industry? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/19 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Redpill Women is toxicI like this comment. Especially: I work in a field with a lot of women, and none of them work full time. Their educations cost as much as mine, took as much time and effort from instructors, and they help about 1/3 to 1/2 less people than I do. Back when I was in school some women tried to pull the "wage gap" thing there and was quickly shut down, of course they make less money. And: If there is one major curse feminism has done to women is making them believe they suck unless they are competing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/19 06:02 AM |
| 2 | What does a man in his 30s have to gain from dating a woman in her 30s versus dating a woman in her 20s?You can see what she's like as a full-fledged adult. Most men and women are still immature in their 20's - partying, spending recklessly, trying different things, traveling. By the 30's she has probably experienced enough to really know who she is and what she wants. You've skipped the "soul-searching, showing off" phase and gone straight to what you'll really get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 09:24 AM |
| 4 | [Critique my reasoning] Women would rather be with a man who sends her on an emotional rollercoaster than be with someone boring and predictable (but reliable). But they'll never admit it.But excitement isn’t the basis of a healthy relationship. THIS is definitely true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 02:03 PM |
| 1 | [Critique my reasoning] Women would rather be with a man who sends her on an emotional rollercoaster than be with someone boring and predictable (but reliable). But they'll never admit it.It could be unhealthy, but I've also seen dead BR and loss of interest in marriages because one partner doesn't feel any sort of emotion toward the other anymore. It's worse to feel indifferent to your spouse, that means you have no opinion about him/her/the relationship. People leave because it makes no difference if the person is in their life or not. We stay with our spouses because we care or because we want to make things better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 01:19 PM |
| 1 | [Critique my reasoning] Women would rather be with a man who sends her on an emotional rollercoaster than be with someone boring and predictable (but reliable). But they'll never admit it.Another thing is yes you are right, women love drama and tend to be addicted to conflict and strong emotion. It is why a lot of women will purposely instigate fights just to get a strong reaction out of a man and why women often tend to be more faithful towards men who are verbally and/or physically abusive towards them. Women are emotional, so we tend to like men who can make her feel good, feel happy, feel excitement. I'm pretty sure women need emotions to function well. I'm the same - I do a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 09:58 AM |
| 12 | [Critique my reasoning] Women would rather be with a man who sends her on an emotional rollercoaster than be with someone boring and predictable (but reliable). But they'll never admit it.Instability in partners can give a sense of purpose for the other half. Relationships are dead when you feel indifferent towards him or her. Relationships can sustain itself as long there is 1) Excitement or 2) A problem waiting to be solved. That way the partners actually put effort for the other person. This is true in life in general. We either live for excitement or improvement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 09:30 AM |
| 22 | Book Club: Fascinating Womanhood: Chapter 2 The Ideal Woman From A Man's PerspectiveI applied the human qualities two years ago and I really found it makes a huge difference. It didn't matter that I wasn't a supermodel, didn't have perfect skin, didn't have big breasts, or sexy fashion. When I made him laugh, when he thought I was cute and adorable, when I put a smile on his face, when I was happy and excited and passionate and free with my emotions - that was when I attracted the most men and when my boyfriend fell in love with me. I would also like to iterate that being child… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/19 09:10 AM |
| 4 | Why is RP obsessed with borderline personality disorder?A woman with BPD will likely use every imaginable and just as many unimaginable manipulative tricks in the book to absolutely destroy your soul, your life and your relationships. They are almost unbelievably good at manipulation. Often extremely smart as well. Examples? Out of curiosity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Feminists don't seem like to like this woman's dating adviceI actually don’t personally know any women who are still single in their mid to late 30s. I know a handful of single women in their late 30's and early 40's (I'm 29 but live in an expat situation). Basically what I've observed is: Not willing to make concessions Placing high emphasis on their careers Thinking they are attractive because of achievements Aggressive behaviors Huge ego, lack of humility or unwilling to acknowledge their faults Lack of physical beauty Basically all RPW tenets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/18 10:03 PM |
| 13 | (26F) My BIL (39M) is far more successful than my husband (30M) and I am not sure how to handle my jealous feelings. Advice?The idea of dating someone with a lot of money and respect is cool until you realize he has to work for it. Adding to this - guys like that have such high standards for their image - including their wife - that it can make you unhappy as well. My friend married some 5-star hotel CEO, and he's an asshole. He yelled at her for gaining weight after having two children, shows her pictures of how skinny his ex girlfriend is compared to her, then he had an affair, refuses to sign divorce papers, force… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/18 01:21 PM |
| 0 | The idea that women become more desperate with age is pure bullshitI have girlfriend's 10+ years older than me (40-50yo), and yes, they still are being pursued. HOWEVER, the men that pursue them are divorced and have children, and aren't looking for marriage. So, my 50yo girlfriend (who is still attractive for her age), has a nice high status diplomat texting her, but he's divorced and bitter, and wants her companionship but doesn't want marriage. She wants marriage. It's still easy to find companionship when you're older, it's just not easy to find someone who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/18 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Is it difficult to work with young attractive women?Thanks. I think the last bit was a huge over assumption. I probably have the problem of being too nice actually, and FWIW, my "fat" friend only gets her way by putting her hand in male colleagues faces (to get them to stop talking), she swears in meetings, she yells at the male colleagues whenever they talk over her, and she tells people to stop talking when she doesn't think it's necessary. OTOH - I'm very quiet in meetings and I generally don't interrupt people. I'm definitely the more pleasan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/18 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Wall Street Rule for the #MeToo Era: Avoid Women at All Cost - BloombergHonestly as a woman I've been bullied because I've tried to maintain boundaries. I've also gotten in trouble for smiling and also for NOT smiling at a male colleague. It's so fucking tricky. I'm generally a smiley woman, and when I try to be professional and keep my emotions in (I try to be stoic when I'm upset about something) - and then I get in trouble for not being smiley. Plus male colleagues are always trying to make me smile by joking around with me, then I feel like I can't do my job or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/18 09:45 AM |
| 6 | Redditors over 30: What's the biggest change you've seen when it comes to dating?Agreed. It's also more difficult to feel attraction to someone in your 30's - you're not young with raging hormones. It basically becomes 1) Interview 2) Fuck 3) if still attracted, go right into Netflix/home cooked meals/sleepover, because we're both tired from work and can't be bothered to think about other fun dates. Plus people are more and more picky about their expectations and then also are let down when faced with their date's flaws. Date when you're in your 20's and you'll probably find… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/18 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Comparing myself with my BF's exes (long post, need perspective)I completely understand where you're coming from because I had the same issue with my boyfriend. He has an couple of female friends/business partners (which is fine) but they're gorgeous women, and he texts them for projects or consultations. And it makes me feel insecure the same way you do. I've fought with him a lot on this, and I've come to realize the hard truth is that our own insecurities can really drive our partners away. We have to reassure ourselves that we ARE good enough for our boy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/18 04:32 PM |
| 16 | Comparing myself with my BF's exes (long post, need perspective)This is one of those situations where a man sexually lusts after a woman, but realized she's a terrible long-term companion, and her beauty cannot trump his sanity. But he will continue to objectify her, and he CAN, because he has nothing to do with her anymore. He has no obligation to build a life together with her - it's just pure objectification. You're the one that he's discussing marriage and children with, not just the one he's "fucking." That being said, I would also feel SO uncomfortable… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/18 08:28 AM |
| 5 | Dating younger men?Once a woman hits 30 and over, 10 years difference isn't that huge. But a 20F and 30M is definitely too much of a discrepancy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/18 08:13 AM |
| 3 | Are men becomming less attractive to women?Sedentary lifestyle can be a killer for attraction - women still like to be taken out for some adventures. To always let the women decide what to do is actually kind of annoying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/18 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Are men becomming less attractive to women?Yes, I do agree, for several reasons. Men and women have easily become friends and while it leads to a stronger relationship, it gives no attraction for the woman if she constantly sees men as either "her brother" or someone she shares hobbies/interests with but doesn't really respect. I admit I'm a culprit of this - I'll "catch up" with my guy friends from college and while I feel a deep support and victory for their successes, I'm not attracted to them. I think men have also been too accommoda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/18 01:14 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid looking frumpy while dressing conservatively?Not sure about physical catalogue....I don't live in the US so they're literally everywhere for me. Not sure if an American can recommend some similar US brands? Zara is Spanish and more found in major US cities. You probably won't find them in a college town or more rural area, etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/18 06:18 PM |
| 11 | How to avoid looking frumpy while dressing conservatively?Go shop at Zara and look at what the models are wearing in the catalogues. Always search for tailored pieces with sharper lines - crisp collars and hems, don't wear any generic crew-cut cardigan from J Crew because it's shape is slovenly and too soft and makes you look fat. Buy a nice fitting blazer with a flared hem - basically don't buy anything boxy. Something like this: https://goo.gl/images/Gns6iR NOT this: https://goo.gl/images/fiCihu As for sweaters/cardigans, important to look at the tai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/18 01:46 PM |
| 20 | The unspoken language of clothing and demeanorThis is the harsh truth about appearances, and we cannot always wear what we enjoy wearing for fear of other people's impressions. I love knee-length skirts, heels, hoop earrings, red nails, but I have to wear them extremely carefully to not give off the wrong impression. Heels only with the rest of the body completely covered. Knee-length skirts with no cleavage and small earrings. Hoop earrings only for the night, not day. Red nails with a casual outfit like baggy trousers and a T-shirt and no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Former feminazi searching for the truth and a better understanding of red pillIf you're too adorable, no one will take you seriously. That was EXACTLY the problem with my former boss and also my own problems at work. I certainly assert myself in a different way but to many people, I'm not strong enough. And compared to my male colleagues, I don't seem as qualified because I'm always smiling and I have a baby face. Is that fair? Not really. Do I want to risk making my life a failed example to change the system? Definitely not. I also don't think it's fair but it's what lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Former feminazi searching for the truth and a better understanding of red pillI realized that you can be too ambitious. I completely agree, and I have an interesting story about this. My former department head (who left last year) was a slim, petite woman who was extremely well-mannered and well-manicured. Feminine in appearance, wore business skirts, heels, polished her fingernails, articulate in speech. She was organized, diplomatic, courteous, soft-spoken, but she couldn't get her way, often, with the male managers at work and with our male supervisor. She also had a d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Former feminazi searching for the truth and a better understanding of red pillAdding to this - I all have a master's degree and work in an school environment with other men with advanced degrees. After RPW, I realized that I don't have to keep up in certain ways (because my position is with the children's department, theirs are with the high school students). I am respected as the nurturing sweet educator (who still achieves!), while the men know that they are much more disciplinarian, authoritarian, competitive in their goals. I am also the one that manages for our speci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 10:38 AM |
| 9 | Former feminazi searching for the truth and a better understanding of red pillIt's not easy to be the Believer. It's easy to believe in a man who's doing well: it's right in front of your eyes! It's another thing altogether if he's doing poorly, or is sick, or addicted, or fearful, or ___________. Believing then is an act of faith, an act of will. It means staying precisely when you're scared and want to run away. I love this! Beautifully phrased. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 10:23 AM |
| 2 | The goodness of a woman's heartI agree! We should be reflecting every once in a while, just to remember good values and virtues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 10:01 AM |
| 6 | The goodness of a woman's heartI had meant it to be an RMV concept, yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Let’s talk about dieting and weight loss!Sometimes we grow apart from certain friends at different times in our lives, and for good reason...seems like it's a wise choice to slowly back away if lifestyle goals are too far apart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 06:13 PM |
| 5 | Let’s talk about dieting and weight loss!I have a 2-3 friends who are overweight, and I'm still friends with them. I just have to be careful when I'm with them not to be affected by their eating habits. For example: I have one overweight friend who will sometimes continuously order drinks and finish an entire dessert. I just have to be EXTRA disciplined, have a bite of dessert, and politely decline when she pushes me to have more. Or she'll be nice and order another round of drinks, and I'll be extra careful to sip it SLOWLY. Or if I r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 01:54 PM |
| 42 | Let’s talk about dieting and weight loss!My SO does not push me to have any junk food, and he expects me to decline most of the time. Not because of his standards or him being controlling, but because women simply should not be eating so much junk. It's a rule in my family and my culture. Women should be disciplined in their diet. We have to take care of ourselves. My SO could care less if I don't eat everything with him. My SO is a super ectomorph - he can literally eat junk and not get fat. He has extremely low body fat. Whenever we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 09:01 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with negative emotions.I'm someone that has perpetually locked my negative emotions inside myself and either put on a "happy face" or dissociated. It led to some dire consequences - such as explosions and tantrums. I found that ranting and letting out your feelings (when appropriate) to a trusted friend can REALLY help. Bottling up everything inside makes it worse. Additionally, learning ways to either - diplomatically set boundaries or tell ugly truths (actually a very creative exercise in itself!) is a more mature w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 10:41 PM |
| 6 | I have an extreme jealousy of red pill men. It’s honestly getting me down.And here's the other catch - alpha males ARE rebellious. And rebellious, rule-breaking, trouble-making men are what attracts women. These same risk-taking men are the ones starting companies with millions of dollars of profit, bulldozing terrain to build infrastructure, creating political tension and dispute, monopolizing resources, dictating laws. THAT'S ALPHA MALE BEHAVIOR, and that's what makes women tingle when they can proudly say the man who dominated other men, chose HER. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 05:33 PM |
| 3 | I have an extreme jealousy of red pill men. It’s honestly getting me down.I work really closely with a males colleague and we share a lot of responsibilities. There have DEFINITELY been times where my boss has given me preference on what I want and then giving him the "leftovers" or the more taxing job. That aside, I definitely do a lot more of the organizing, keyboard typing, coordinating, scheduling - secretarial work - because I am much stronger in these duties than him. Soooo...you could either make that argument as well. Let the woman be peon and do the busy work… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 02:29 PM |
| 3 | How common is the AF/BB scenario?How old are your friends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/18 07:24 PM |
| 47 | I have an extreme jealousy of red pill men. It’s honestly getting me down.This is a wonderful and rational description of the struggles men have to deal with. What's equally as frustrating, from some of the men I've dated, is that men are still expected to be sexually aggressive, not just because of societal standards but because of 1) natural biological urges, 2) and that women actually like to be desired and chased and courted. Most women still like men to be dominant, then we tell them they're being misogynistic when they take the lead? Or we can't respect them bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 04:35 PM |
| 12 | Where do I find quality men in the city?THIS. All you have to do is attain and maintain value for yourself. The men that don't take you seriously will ghost. The ones that are genuinely interested will stay. It all comes down to how much quality you invest in yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/18 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Women with men of a higher SMV: how do you deal with the stares?My boyfriend is physically of a much higher SMV than me. 6'3, ectomorph, 36 years old and lean and sinewy as hell. Chiseled face, smoldering eyes and sculpted nose. Dresses smart. Whenever we'd go out, women always check him out. He's beautiful and a good flirt. I'm not ugly, but I have a neotenous face, I'm 5'3, athletic body, 34-25-37. I don't have a sultry face, but I do wear makeup and am fashionable. Other women definitely look at him first then look at me. I just hold my head up high, beca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/18 03:33 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexYou will have sex with him because that's how he can connect with you during a difficult time. Ask him if something is wrong either after having sex or outside the bedroom. Don't kill the mood during an act of love that keeps his mind sane. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 08:04 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexI would leave him alone for a bit and see if he eventually changes his behavior. If he is still withdrawing from you after a few weeks, casually mention that you noticed he's been less engaged and ask if there's anything bothering him. Other you simply have to let him solve his own problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 07:33 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexRelationships go up and down. Honeymoon phases won't last forever. Even in a LTR, there will be times of stability, times of excitement, times of turmoil. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 06:10 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexSex is a man's way to communicate and feel intimacy, and sex is used to relieve stress. If he's going through a difficult time at work, he may be shutting down or avoiding his feelings. Men express their way through actions rather than words, and for the most part men generally don't really talk unless there's something to talk about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Over dramatization of men's actions in the workplace.I understand, but I work in an artistic environment...I kind of laughed at your guitar comment because I'm a violinist and I keep a violin in my studio because it's my profession. All of our colleagues have musical instruments in their rooms! But it's true about seeing what others are wearing. We are artists, so clothing is a huge part of our self expression. The men wear T shirts (one guy shows up in a pink polo shirt, another has a shirt that says "Social Media." Another even show his tattoos … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/18 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Over dramatization of men's actions in the workplace.I work in an environment with about 50/50 men/women. Private fine arts performance/education. I agree it's tricky because of gender politics. I work very closely with a male colleague and I sense that he feels like he can't really assert his opinion because then it's "offensive" if my boss takes his view over mine. And my boss is also careful to ask ME what I want first because she's aware if she asks him first then it might seem misogynistic. Also, he gets shafted in some ways - he has to take … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/18 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Ditch the ResumeI recently dated a man who went to an Ivy League school and had parents working in government and international news. We had crazy chemistry and attraction and I could keep up in his conversations about politics on a baseline level. I'm also well-traveled, lived in four continents, speak three languages. I have a master's degree but in fine arts and I teach young children at a private school. Although he loved me for my chemistry, artistry and intellect, he went back to his ex girlfriend who 1) … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/18 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Over dramatization of men's actions in the workplace.The problem in the workplace is that women don't seem to understand that the workplace is not equivalent to her home. This is why as women became a bigger part of the workplace, the workplace has become less formal. This makes total sense and I admit I've been a culprit of this. A male coworker privately told me I should dress less attractively because it's distracting to a lot of the other male colleagues (for one, I always cover my body to ankles and wrists, but apparently some bright colors, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/18 01:35 PM |
| 1 | People who had big changes in their appearance, have you realized any changes in the way people treat you?I went through a frumpy depression phase, then when I babed up, started really emphasizing feminine style clothing, shoes and bags...women have started to want to be friends with me, women dress better in front of me, men are more courteous, men give me tiny little favors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/18 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Over dramatization of men's actions in the workplace.They had a disagreement regarding teaching philosophy. Basically they would discuss/argue and whenever he got fed up with her opinions he would get a little angry. As far as I know he never insulted her, never called her names, never touched her in any way. He would basically have a temper tantrum - very emotionally defend his own opinions. So she accused him of "not taking her seriously" and played the "because I'm a woman" card. She, on the other hand, is known to have a "big" kind of personal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/18 01:05 AM |
| 7 | What are some universal tips on improving your SMV? (Physical only).TBH body measurements don't really matter as long as you are tight and have muscle definition. A 26 inch waist and 37 inch hips with definition and sleek, smooth curves can be much more attractive than a 24-34 that is flabby. Lift weights, do plyometrics, high intensity circuits, basically anything that gets your muscles fired up. And for the love of God, please don't do gentle Yin yoga every morning and think it has burned enough calories for you to warrant a dessert or French fries. Eat a fres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 07:27 PM |
| 14 | Ditch the ResumeFantastic post. Not much to add but simply a few examples; Woman leads with "I'm the Head of Department" "My students all aced their exams" "I schmoozed with the VIPs and got an invite to the gala" makes no difference in attraction. However: the following traits of work ethic, perseverance, social graces, taking action, helpfulness, participation - this is what is attractive long-term. You can still have an impressive resume AND be attractive, but the problem is women lead with their accomplishm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever realize how lucky we are?The femininity part! Teaching you how to be, or at least reminding you - fine character, honest speech, gratitude, domesticity, trying your best, aiming for high standards, charity, childlike curiosity, fine morals - referring to parts like compassion, education, avoiding self-righteousness. Developing refined speech and manners (mindfulness!) Changefulness - letting emotions out, allowing yourself to be cute, happy, bright and letting it out. How to deal with anger in a childlike manner - inste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 06:49 AM |
| 17 | Do you ever realize how lucky we are?FW is my Bible. I studied it deeply two years ago, lived by its rules, and always refer to it whenever I'm feeling depressed. It's the best self-help/therapy book IMHO, especially since it's written for an old-fashioned traditional woman. Plus it's written in a refined style - instead of slang or hip internet blog posts - which speaks to its authenticity and grace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 08:23 PM |
| 34 | A Warning About Reddit RemovalI really don't understand the hate about a subreddit devoted to: 1) Looking your best and utilizing a blessed nature given female beauty 2) Self-improvement on being a nice, courteous, respectful and graceful personality 3) Discovering our own interests and passions in life 4) Cultivating positive, playful, nurturing relationships with men romantically 5) Finding and maintaining strong morals and values in a family 6) Working on our own happiness and peace of mind Someone explain to me what is s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/18 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?I'm someone living abroad and had an UC British friend for a while. You're totally right they're obsessed with class and accents. My friend was adamant about showing off her cultural knowledge and speaking aggressively with her posh accent because that's what separated her from the other Brits we knew, who were from outside of London or MC/WC. And you can TOTALLY hear the difference in accents and it's fascinating for me. She also tended to hate on the valley girl/sorority girl American accent, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/18 10:37 PM |
| 5 | What are the different social classes and what are clues to help identify someone of that social class?Can testify. Last ex-boyfriend was UC. He was able to pursue Broadway acting, pursue language studies at an elite language school and go to the top ranked journalism school in the country. All of these activities are for the rich. They're just "for play." He's not in it to make money. He's in it because he can literally pursue whatever he wants without worrying about making money. The majority of his friends were trust fund babies, they're pretty much all in Hollywood as actors/models, or they'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/18 06:10 AM |
| 2 | What are the different social classes and what are clues to help identify someone of that social class?trump is our first Jewish president. if you understand new york you understand why i say that Omg you're so right. I've recently just connected this as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/18 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?The arrogance might be different - it was a type of arrogance that made them believe they were much better than everyone else but had nothing to show for it in their success. Sort of like a "my family is from the east coast, I went to so called brand name school, parents give me money so I don't have to work a shitty minimum wage job ever for spending money " but then they were unable to either attain higher level jobs or maintain them. It was basically a superiority complex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/18 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?Dating my UC ex boyfriend was super eye opening. Class exists in the US, and yes, the rich people are the ones controlling government and media and corporations. It's completely true because I witnessed it. He had considered me as a wife candidate but the thing is - I'm Asian, a first generation American that worked up to a UMC status, and he's from a ritzy WASPy Tom Buchanan society. We held conversations perfectly fine because I'm well read. But I would have never fit his image. He turned out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/18 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?I find class really interesting because I've dated a few UMC men and a few MC men. UMC men had this arrogance that actually turned me off - basically using money, status to woo me but actually having NONE of the talent. Lots of wasting of parent's money, lots of drugs and alcohol, THEN...they fall into a shithole because they haven't learned to take responsibility for themselves. My MC boyfriend was the only one who I truly respected - because he was very self sufficient and responsible. Super h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/18 06:07 PM |
| 7 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?When they marry they do it with their legacy in mind. They marry (not LTR) their educational and financial peers (not the hot young waitress) and have a couple of kids to carry things on. Image is important. You've hit it right on the dot here. I recently just dated a blue blood American, and I'm more or less just as educated, well-traveled, cultured as him, but the legacy thing was what broke the relationship. He wants and HAS THE CONNECTIONS to work in politics. He has friends running for gove… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/18 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Q4A: RP and wealth/social class?When your own personal income is higher, you have more freedom to pursue what you want, whether it is higher education, professional development, entrepreneurial endeavors, vacations, charitable traveling. That's when many young people ask the question - why do I need a partner? What do I look for in a partner if I'm perfectly fine by myself? RP on both men and women's sides emphasize masculinity and femininity in order to build AND maintain attraction. When you're UMC, you perhaps have a wide s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/18 01:46 PM |
| 2 | One year of dating and no talk of the futureThis is true. Men do start bringing up the relationship talk earlier when they're older - they also don't want to be single forever and good men think about children and families. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/18 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Is having the "are we exclusive" talk necessary?I find "the talk" very confusing, especially when you're older and have more game and access to dating partners. When I was younger (21-25), yes, the talk was necessary and normal. Dating now (26-29), the talk is stigmatized because both men and women at this age are looking to settle (I was dating men 32-35). I found that men in their early 30's DESPISED the talk, because they've already had 1-2 LTRs, and if they're still single by early 30's, they're usually wary about women. I often get state… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/18 02:43 AM |
| 1 | When you are single, do you date multiple people at once or one person at a time?What usually happens for me: go on 1-2 dates with multiple people but have absolutely no chemistry with them, so discontinue the dating. Meet someone that I really hit it off with, turns into LTR solely because of sky high chemistry and shared goals. Feel no need to search for other dates during this time, or the dates aren't coming to me anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/18 05:48 PM |
| 6 | The Best Books?One of the best things I ever did was list dealbreakers guys might have for ME. That's a thought provoking idea! We forget that WE can be the difficult ones as well. It wasn't until my boyfriend called out one of my many faults that I realized he puts up with me often. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 06:46 AM |
| 6 | The Best Books?A sort of off the beaten path book but "A Gift from the Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh, the aviator's wife. Written in the 1940-50's, she talks a lot about life, relationships, family, balancing life between women's emancipation and women in the workplace, and praises the inner strength of women and what we contribute to the lives of men, children and society. I think it's a beautifully written philosophical book that had a calm marine theme as well - she wrote it while on a beach vacation - but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 01:52 AM |
| 8 | The Best Books?I liked that one as well. It always comes to mind when any girlfriend of mine (who is 28-33) is in a LTR and has some sort of trivial gripe about her boyfriend. Things like he's not tall enough, he likes to drink (responsibly) on the weekends or he makes 10-20k less than she would like him to. It really puts it in perspective - if a man shows you his commitment and tries hard for you, settle. No perfect partners, figure out a few important attributes, appreciate what he adds in your life, take w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 01:47 AM |
| 3 | How is it hard for women to know whether a guy's interested in romance, or just a one night stand?There's plenty of men AND women who still act like teenagers when they're in their late 20's, early 30's. It's more common than you think, especially in cosmopolitan cities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/18 12:04 AM |
| 1 | How is it hard for women to know whether a guy's interested in romance, or just a one night stand?Hell, maybe he really was interested in dating you, but then for whatever reason he changes his mind. Exactly. Dating is finding that one person you can sustain a relationship with, AND without too much of headache. Sometimes people (both men and women) really are genuinely interested in dating, then realized down the road it's not sustainable. There's no way to know until you try it. For instance I was courted by a high SMV man - but he was so lavish with his dates and spectacular sex that even… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/18 11:48 PM |
| 4 | How is it hard for women to know whether a guy's interested in romance, or just a one night stand?Sometimes these players are smart and target women who may be attractive but insecure inside. When a woman is insecure or has low self-esteem, and clearly shows her vulnerability, that's when her judgment is clouded. Perhaps these women either are too shy to flirt, know that they aren't "cool" or are simply flattered a man is hitting on her, making her feel desirable. She then tries to open herself up to see what might happen. Then gets pumped and dumped. Insecure women can believe anything any … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/18 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Why do women prefer men to control the bedroom?Have you ever tried it?? I never did until my boyfriend (who is well versed in aphyxiation) did it with such finesse that I can't go back to normal sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/18 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Why do women prefer men to control the bedroom?Mines slightly more kinky - I like some aphyxiation - it gives a breathless disoriented feeling that can make sensations more intense and pleasurable. There's also a dominance aspect. I'm putting myself in his hands and trusting him to judge whether or not it's too much for me, and the fact that he can nail it down and read my reactions so easily gets me off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/18 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Why do women prefer men to control the bedroom?It's more of a perfectionist/performance anxiety. Not really fear. Fear adds to thrill for me. I run on the edge of BDSM though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Why do women prefer men to control the bedroom?I don't know about other women, but I get a LOT of anxiety during sex. When he throws me around, dominates me, tells me to do this and that, takes care of me, controls me, even chokes/slaps me a little, makes me feel a bit of fear, I stop thinking about my nervousness. I'm in the moment, actually enjoying it. I'm not worried about his pleasure, I'm not even worried about mine, it's just thrilling and breathtaking and emotionally charged. THAT'S how I get aroused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 04:35 PM |
| 21 | Why do women prefer men to control the bedroom?As a woman who LOVES being dominated, it's because I actually physically do not get aroused if I do the work or take control. It's just a natural biological reaction. When he takes control, I'm aroused. Also, I'm able to let go and feel uninhibited and really enjoy myself when he takes control. If I have to do the thinking, I cannot feel pleasure or excitement. I feel like women's brains aren't wired this way. Either emotions take precedent, or thinking does. The more I think during sex, the les… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Married men, how many of you knew you wanted to marry your wife the first time you met her?I infer that a woman is interested in sexual encounters, sexual relationship or romantic relationship by her looks. Can you elaborate? Are there more details on this besides "if she dresses in a skin tight dress and stilettos the first date, she's a ONS?" How can you tell the difference between a woman wanting a sexual relationship or a romantic relationship?? (Asking for a male perspective on how he views women's makeup and clothing) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 04:03 PM |
| 10 | Q4MEN: Married men, how many of you knew you wanted to marry your wife the first time you met her?Do you feel like you settled for a girl that you perhaps did not hold in high regard to (hence the original FWB), and simply married a girl that was madly in love with you? Do you love her? Or did you choose to commit to her because she proved she cared? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 07:43 AM |
| 3 | Q4MEN: Married men, how many of you knew you wanted to marry your wife the first time you met her?So...explain further please about why if she's conquerable, she's not worth marrying? She's worth it if she runs away from you forever? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 07:41 AM |
| 7 | Advice from a mother of the groomCould be. I plan on having a really informal wedding (friends and family) but I'm a musician so we're all freelance hipsters anyway. Probably can't even afford a nice wedding to begin with... | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/18 07:40 AM |
| 3 | Q4MEN: Married men, how many of you knew you wanted to marry your wife the first time you met her?Should have clarified - conquering means courting, not banging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 07:37 AM |
| 5 | Advice from a mother of the groomI could understand bridezilla mentality meaning needing to have everything ready and planned so she doesn't have to worry and simply enjoy the day. But being afraid that her professional peers would make judgments about her wedding day...speaks strangely to me. Like she has to prove something more than her supposed strength of a relationship with her husband. Especially as I probably wouldn't invite my colleagues to my wedding anyway! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/18 04:53 AM |
| 11 | Advice from a mother of the groomThank you for this. It's fascinating to see how planning for one day can bear so much stress on the groom that even his parents advise him the option to call off the wedding. It speaks the strength of your son to maintain his faith in his choice of a wife. Mind I ask if her behavior made you change your opinion on her as a suitable spouse? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/18 03:31 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partnerMen still need to remember to tease her, show his dominance, make her feel desirable, all without being a condescending asshole. That takes social smarts and not money/status/career. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/18 07:31 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partnerI think men want women who are complimentary to what he is good at and smart enough to carry a conversation about what he enjoys. Can you imagine a gf always peeping over your shoulder while you engage in your favorite hobby saying "wrong, wrong, you're doing that wrong, I would do it a different way." That would get pretty annoying in my opinion. Of course. Men learn eventually they should find a woman who is complementary, not someone he can "talk shop" to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/18 06:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partnerMost men just want a woman who is reasonably attractive and pleasant to be around. You are correct in this, however what I've observed is that men will chase after a woman who IS successful AND can be pleasant to be around, mostly because she obviously has her shit together. Then what happens is her success inspires his need to also be just as successful. Time after time I've seen men show off their girlfriends, to introduce her as per her career and success. He is excited to have an "equal" lif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/18 06:39 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partnerI believe it's entirely possible to make a smart woman your bitch. But I do think it first requires a man who fully understands that making a woman his bitch isn't really an intellectual endeavor. I might even go so far as to say that smart women specifically love men who can do this. EXACTLY. Smart men who can encourage smart women to flourish yet still prove their dominance over them, not in terms of academic endeavors or intellectual debates, but in terms of getting her to show submission to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/18 05:12 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partnerYour argument is valid and theoretically makes sense, but that's not what I've seen in real life. I've seen men AND women feel like "flirting" is talking about work or intellectual debates or "learning" from each other (asking questions about hobbies or work). But in the end it's not sexually attractive to either sex. Women want to feel desirable and sexy from their man, and unfortunately when men pedestalize women and think that hitting on her is treating her like an intellectual equal (which h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/18 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?Why would a 7/10 get you into oneitis mode instead of a 8/9? Just curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/18 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?That's a cute way to describe it. I think women are definitely the best when they revert to how they were when they were little girls - I don't think there's any set characteristics, just how they were during their childhood. For instance I was very shy as a little girl and would always want to take adventures and explore but was hesitant, and would cry about it, but in the end I'd always do it and then be proud of my accomplishment. I was never a little girl that would dive into things and be b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/18 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?Childlike behavior like?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/18 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?True, I should have made a separate question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/18 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?Why is it important for her to confuse you for you to fall in love with her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/18 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?True, falling in love and oneitis is different. I guess both would be interesting to know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/18 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?What's the satanic witch about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/18 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What makes you fall in love with a woman?Her need and want for me to have my every thought and waking dream to be consumed by her, by wanting her. Insecurity. Because it makes my masculinity come forth, and all of me desires to take care of her, to protect her, and to keep her safe. Very interesting and deep way of putting it! Thanks for this. Men like confident women but if she's too confident, she won't really need him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/18 12:06 PM |
| 2 | I’m 20, should I spend time getting straight As or looking for a husbandIt doesn't take that much time to date, but it's more of "I don't need meaningless people in my life"...you get to a point in your life where you've already dated tons and aren't as enticed by "new boys." They become all the same eventually. It's just a settling dating mentality rather than a validation dating mentality. Validation dating mentality is being addicted to dating apps, constantly swiping and seeing how much better you can score. Settling dating mentality is continuing to date someon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:58 AM |
| 2 | I’m 20, should I spend time getting straight As or looking for a husbandHuh? I really don't understand your snark, and not sure what the trophy reference is to. Dating is to find a best suited partner....not a trophy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 02:40 AM |
| 3 | I’m 20, should I spend time getting straight As or looking for a husbandI sort of wonder if serial dating is something only certain people do or at a certain phase of their lives. I'm too busy with my own life that dating was excruciatingly annoying - it's the "interviewing" process and explaining your background, trying to subtly hint at what you're looking for without being too desperate. When you finally hit a point in your life where you lack patience for bullshit, dating actually becomes fun because it's straight to the point. Men included. I'm late 20's and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Why is it so difficult to STFU (even when you know better)?You don't have an active enough life. If you have the time to pine over his less than full attention, you have time to do other, more worthwhile activities. Like mopping the floors, cleaning out the eaves, etc. This. You shouldn't be living life relying on your boyfriend's attention. Go and do some things. I started drawing comics, and he usually ends up texting me before I'm finished. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What does masculinity mean to you?I totally agree, I've met some extremely masculine and artistic and creative men before. There's a lot of masculinity in quick thinking and smooth actions. I would barter that most of sexual game for men is intellectual, not just power or muscles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/18 01:52 PM |
| 3 | How long are you willing to wait for a proposal?Definitely dependent on his age and where he is in his career. Men in their early 30's and on a solid path in his desired career will pretty much be looking for wife material from the get go. Contrary to popular belief, I've found that men in this range are 1) too busy with their careers and 2) too fed up with bullshit to be spinning plates. If he hasn't mentioned "wife" or "family" or "children" within the first three dates, he's not serious about you. In that case I'd give that age range 1 yea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 03:20 PM |
| 1 | It's a no-win situation for a woman when a man wants to have sex with her.For men, yes. I'm still not what your point here is though. It just goes back to how women will complain about being only sex objects but being a sex object is a huge part of a LTR. When women complain about men being too handsy or flirty on dates, they're missing a big part of what a sexual romantic relationship is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/18 04:07 AM |
| 2 | It's a no-win situation for a woman when a man wants to have sex with her.Wait, if a man doesn't want to LTR a woman, that means he doesn't find her attractive? I don't follow. Sorry, not clear. I mean that if a man wants a LTR with her, that means he DOES want to continue to have sex with her. So basically continuing sex is a huge part of being a LTR. Otherwise it's just a platonic friendship. Citation needed. This more goes along with feminist thought of a woman being desirable because of her smarts and career, but biologically the man is attracted to her sexually f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/18 03:24 AM |
| 16 | Genuine Feminine Experiences Can Be Had By...?1) Dancing - feeling flowing movements especially in your hips (the most feminine part of your body!), elongating your body in graceful ways, feeling the expression in your body. 2) Laughing - being delightfully light, positive, vivacious, seeing the good in all things in life. 3) Consequently also feeling the negative emotions - women have the beauty to expose all of our emotions, including anger and despair and sadness. This is why men "don't cry." I'm actually a proponent of "its OK to be a b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 12:17 AM |
| 9 | What does respect really mean for a guy?A lot of the time, for me, respect is not saying something. Not lecturing him on his driving, or correcting him on something minor when I know he's wrong. It's not teasing him or talking him down to others or in front of others. This. There's so much respect in omitting negative feedback rather than feeling the need to DO something to help him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/18 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What are your experiences dating women at various age differences?Why invest in a casual relationship with someone who has seen less than you, who understands less than you, when you can invest that time with someone you can learn from. In theory, dating an experienced woman is good for you, but will she respect you in return if you're the one learning from her? Hence why women tend to date older - we're attracted to more experienced men. But it seems like it goes the other way as well - men are attracted to women they admire. And I've seen men pedestalize wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/18 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: What are your experiences dating women at various age differences?Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/18 02:03 AM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] If you were a young woman with average looks ,what would be your marriage/sexual strategy?To be honest what I look for is simply someone I get along with and that I'm attracted to. That's it. Usually the career prospects/intellect naturally come along with it - I wouldn't be able to get along with a man who isn't smart or alpha in any way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/18 10:09 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Tonight I made pistachio stuffed chicken - pistachio cream is Greek yogurt, sliced pistachios, drizzle of olive oil and salt - chicken is marinated in olive oil, basil, salt and pepper. Baked in the oven. Served with side salad and rice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/18 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Another look at the #metoo movement and two of its leaders, in the aftermath of Anthony Bourdain’s suicide.Fair enough. The baseline mental illness that Bourdain had was enough to leave him extremely vulnerable to a manipulative trashy woman like her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/18 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Another look at the #metoo movement and two of its leaders, in the aftermath of Anthony Bourdain’s suicide.The narrative is common but I'm wondering what exactly did she have that sucked him in so deeply? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/18 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Another look at the #metoo movement and two of its leaders, in the aftermath of Anthony Bourdain’s suicide.Am I the only one intrigued by how some trashy chick was able to manipulate Tony's heart so deeply that he pedestalized her then killed himself over her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/18 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: How RP are the men in LA?Why are the women in OC more conservative? Conservative politically or socially? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/18 08:08 PM |
| 0 | Q4MEN: How RP are the men in LA?But obviously the women need to settle, because there aren't enough high status men for the large population of 9's and 10's. So how does this work? Are the majority of men and women single because the women don't want to settle for an average Joe and the men can't keep up with game? And even if you manage to snag an average LA babe, is she even worth keeping besides her good looks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/18 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: In what ways does a woman make you feel incredibly masculine?I love surrendering to a man in bed, that's why I don't understand why women are advised to change things up or make decisions in bed. I want to be led, dominated, thrown around, defiled, and owned by a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/18 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: In what ways does a woman make you feel incredibly masculine?Women feel naturally submissive around men they're attracted to, and more dominant towards men they aren't attracted to. It's really true actually. I can be a big flirt but I realize I can only flirt with a man who I'm not attracted to - because I feel the power over him. When I get nervous around a man I like, I start getting shy and I'm not as confident. Hence the natural submissive behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/18 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: In what ways does a woman make you feel incredibly masculine?When talking with me, she would often look at the ground and not at me, yet she would smile when talking to me. This was very submissive and just made me feel super masculine. That's sweet. Does it make you feel more masculine because she's too shy to look directly at you? And thank you for a real answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/18 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: "Men find a greater percentage of women attractive than vice versa." If this is true, then what are most men lacking in?There is a minute percentage of men who have the genetics to look good literally just sitting there. The rest of the men who have medium genetics, need to make the woman FEEL tingles in order for her to be attracted to him. That means having social game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/18 07:22 PM |
| 8 | Are Men who have success with women IRL a bit "misogynistic"?A man who is good at hitting on women, consistently, is successful because he depersonalizes them. It's the same as soldiers. They're good at killing people because they dehumanize people. That's why it's easy for them to take a life. A man who has the self-assurance to not give a shit about women is essentially doing the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/18 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?Yes, that's my question. So what I've learned is as long as there is a baseline of attraction, she passes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/18 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?That's a VERY different question from the one you posed in the headline and in the body. No, no man will have ANYTHING to do with a woman he's not physically attracted to. He won't commit, he won't fuck her, he won't date her, he won't talk to her. Questions for the OP: You do realize, do you not, that a female 6 or 7 is more than physically attractive enough to command quite a price? You get that, dont' you? You do realize, do you not, that a female 6-7 is in no way, shape, manner or form "Phys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/18 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?The trade-off is so obscenely worth it too, when you consider the rarity of top-tier personalities compared to looks. Top-tier personalities as in how? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?It's appalling how under-developed the majority of women's personalities and skills are now. Underdeveloped as in how? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?Probably an extremely nasal voice or rough, gruff voice. Attractive feminine voices tend to be either low, breathy, soothing or cute, soft and bubbly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?True. Good catch on detail. I guess I wouldn't mind the answer to both questions! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?To answer your question, well I believe you don't really understand how to be pursued. It's a woman's fantasy to be craved for more than looks, but unless the guy can't pull consistently more attractive mates those qualities won't be valued as much by the men you desire. Just to clarify, do you mean that even though women wish they were craved for more than their looks, from a man's perspective, it's still all about the looks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 05:25 PM |
| 0 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?6 or 7 would be a girl next door look, healthy body weight, cute face - simply nothing exquisite but still attractive overall. An 8 or 9 would have specifically more attractive features such as incredible skin, nice eyes/eyelashes/eyebrows, naturally nice breast/hips/glute shape, delicately shaped nose, body type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?I guess I'm more saying that a man is objectively more attracted to a 8 or a 9, even if a 6 or 7 is also still attractive to him. It's more of asking would you commit to a lesser physically attractive woman, if you're obviously more attracted to a 8 or 9? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Q4MEN: Would you commit to a woman who is perfect in every way but except for her physical appearance?Hmm, so you're saying you wouldn't have spent the time to get to know her if you didn't find her physically attractive in the first place? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/18 05:01 PM |
| 8 | I keep ending up with beta males. What am I doing wrong?I just read your edit about the relationship details. It's great that you know the specific qualities you admire in him, but I think something extremely important in any relationship - whether it's with an alpha or beta-leaning man - is that nobody is perfect. It seems like you might be nitpicking the finer weaknesses and expecting too much perfection from him. Fascinating Womanhood had a chapter about righteousness - that as women, humility is a huge aspect of our character and with that, comes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/18 02:55 PM |
| 30 | I keep ending up with beta males. What am I doing wrong?Men naturally turn into betas when they are attracted to a woman. They will become emotionally available and want to please you because they like you. In a long-term relationship, these behaviors are much more sustainable. It seems like the men you're describing might have a weakness in social interaction - which most men are, actually, even intelligent ones - could it be possible for you to switch your mind and start seeing the alpha qualities like their passion, intellect, work ethic, talents,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/18 06:00 AM |
| 17 | Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?Men who are ready for marriage also realize they need to take on a much more responsible role in their lives. Otherwise, dating women is just for fun and companionship. Is there something about you that might subconsciously give a man the vibe that you're not responsible? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/18 09:30 PM |
| 3 | What kind of nails do you have?Yep, bare and neatly filed. Toes I go for a variety of pinks or reds. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/18 05:09 PM |
| 8 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityThere are a lot of self-made men out there. Men who worked up slowly and earned their worth. I've also slowly realized there are a lot of men out there who do not work for large corporations - rather they are extremely self-sufficient in their work and survival methods. They often have much more control over their own destiny - tightly controlling finances, having the ownership over their income, and enjoying life at the same time. Some men don't want to sell their lives to the rat race. They'd … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityYes, they are if they emphasize the masculine qualities rather than just degrees or income. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 10:34 AM |
| 4 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityIn a generation where there are many more women than men who have higher education, and these women tend to want a man with the equivalent level of education, but slowly realize it's more and more difficult because the number of women with higher degrees outweigh the number of men with higher degrees...these women will have to appreciate masculine personality traits rather than just the number of degrees he has. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 10:34 AM |
| 5 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityI'm trying to explain that masculinity is not necessarily tied to career, especially when nowadays this is all women look for. Women tend to look for a man with a better career or income than her. My post is saying that there are still very masculine personality traits in men who may not have a "better" career or higher salary, and women should not only emphasize career when they look for partners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityThat's exactly what I'm saying - higher income (usually in white collar careers) doesn't necessarily mean masculine or alpha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityHe can be a leader and make her feel cared for and cherished and not like the burden of the family is on her shoulders. I think this statement hits the nail right on the head. Income isn't a determining factor of masculinity. It's the personality traits, the way he makes you feel. If a woman feels cared for, feels cherished, feels protected, feels like she is being led - and is aware of these factors being more important than solely a salary number - then she will be OK with a man who earns less… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 04:29 PM |
| 5 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityYes, exactly. It's the personality traits, not necessarily the degree. Income can be a representation of strength or dominance - but plenty of a men can have good alpha frame with a middle class salary. He doesn't necessarily need a six figure salary to have dominant personality traits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 03:56 PM |
| 16 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityI think the most common narrative is these women waited until they got old to settle down and found themselves at a slight disadvantage toward getting higher achieving men so they made their standards more realistic to account for their own declining sexual market value. I'm not so sure if I believe that, actually. A lot of these women were mid-20's when they got married. Plenty of young women in their prime, with master's degrees, choosing to marry men who only have a bachelor's or in some case… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 03:19 PM |
| 26 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityI think that the men in these types of jobs have a social dominance and social intelligence. So even though academically inclined men with white collar jobs may be "higher" in terms of income, I find that the traditionally masculine men also treat women like women. They tend to be more chivalrous, flirty, protective, leading. I also wonder if it's because these men work in male-dominated industries. When you're nearly always around men, you will treat women differently. If you work with a lot of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Can men and women be friends?Basically, I think if a man and woman form any kind of close, special relationship - where they are opening up about their pasts, their feelings, their dreams - one or the other will eventually make it weird. 99.99% of the time. Yes. Avoiding talking about anything too personal, avoiding one-on-one time. Otherwise, in my experience it always turns into something. Just always. Yes, agreed. Whenever a man or a woman confides in the opposite sex, feelings are always involved. Women will show their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 12:11 PM |
| 1 | How class affects male preferencesThat social intelligence doesn't come from a college degree, it comes from a diverse background that's pretty independently driven. (well traveled, well spoken, open to admitting not knowing something/mistakes but eager to learn why, not easily offended, cultured, etc.) In that group beauty is also pretty vague. Take care of yourself and make it obvious and you're pretty much good. their outgoing personalities and the clean way they were dressed/carried their appearance changed my mind. Pretty s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 05:55 PM |
| 5 | A "committed" vibeI've lived in four different continents, it's certainly very different across cultures. Some men will also hit on you just for fun and it doesn't mean ANYTHING. Flirting is just a way of life. Similarly some women who grew up in friendly cultures (where smiling and small talk are normally) will seemingly be more flirty and "available" to cultures who are used to being more closed off. Some cultures don't like open blatant approaching. The men will do "passive" acts like help you with something o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 04:13 PM |
| 3 | How class affects male preferencesThey tend to have good relationships with people as well - it's actually a difficult skill to problem solve, be proactive AND maintain agreeable relationships (interpersonal skills). I have a female boss that is the epitome of this - she will do her best to help her employees and her clients, she maintains her outward "business" appearance. However as strong as a woman as she is, she's the breadwinner of her marriage (she's got an artistically talented husband that is extremely poor financially … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 09:06 AM |
| 10 | What are you people?Good question! We have a mix here. Some women come for a "biological sexual strategy" (biggest pill to swallow for modern women is that your feminine appearance and demeanor is still the most important) but most women here agree that it really is more natural to fulfill a traditional gender role via submission to a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/18 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How class affects male preferencesI've actually seen more lower class men marry IG model types - at least the ones that are TOO sexual and too flamboyant. I could see sports stars marry them though. But probably not CEOs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 12:16 PM |
| 9 | How class affects male preferencesI agree. My brother's wife makes six figures because she's a dentist, but in terms of her cultural knowledge or mannerisms, she's middle class. Doesn't have sophisticated tastes or worldly knowledge (which to me is a mark of upper class culture - well-traveled, well-connected, good conversationalist). She's intelligent in a practical manner for sure but in no way does she have upper class manners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 12:12 PM |
| 10 | How class affects male preferencesInteresting post! Good for discussion and musing. Depends on the kind of top 1% men...NFL players or actors typically date/marry models (party lifestyle) but say, royalty will marry a woman with an education (looks AND brains). I work directly with a royal family member in the Middle East and many of the royal wives have postgraduate degrees. Mark Zuckerberg married a doctor, and Reddit co-founder married Serena Williams (both career women). A lot of elite political families will also choose wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Describe your relationship with other womenWith my closest girlfriends - we can rant to each other, tell stories about our day/past/childhood, give emotional support, joke around with each other, talk about our hobbies/books we read, generally give good company. I would say I have about 10 girlfriends like this. Women bond by complaining and admitting our faults/problems/insecurities to each other. The reason why women will hate other women is if we have an image that the other woman is "perfect" and therefore we feel the need to compete… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/18 01:16 PM |
| 1 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”So, a guy who has his act together, unless he just wants a dumb subservient trophy, won't be intimidated by a smart woman. Yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 06:59 PM |
| 3 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”I upvote this comment because I'm a woman who loves philosophy, politics, culture/arts in general. It was actually one of the defining factors that led my boyfriend to be attracted to me - because on my days off I go to the pool and read Wikipedia. He says too many women are into the newest "fashion trends" or superficial things. Because I am someone who likes these subjects (I don't claim to be intelligent but I just claim to be interested), I did find that I needed a certain type of man, a man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 06:39 PM |
| 11 | 'For Women Only' - Respect and Love - Chapter 2This is an excellent post regarding the concept of respect and how it works. I want to reiterate the point made about men becoming angry when they feel disrespected. It's really true. Anytime a man shows the slightest bit of anger is due to feeling disrespected, and if that ever happens you should immediately STFU and/or apologize. Men really are more forgiving than women, so if you can realize your mistake of disrespecting him, he will most likely forgive you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/18 08:51 PM |
| 9 | Women with IQs in the upper rangeConversely, a guy who knows he isn't book smart but doesn't care and is confident anyway, and maximizes the impact of the areas where he IS talented, that's attractive. Agreed. For instance: Mental stamina/focus Social intelligence/dominance Physical strength/endurance Moral responsibility (making decisions to protect your family or guiding your family in the right direction) Practical intelligence (hands-on knowledge, street smarts) General confidence in attitude/personality My boyfriend isn't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 03:25 PM |
| 3 | RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband?Obedience is earned, not given freely. You are obedient to your Captain because you trust him, love him, and believe that he will make the right choices, that he will take care of you and treat you well. Your obedience shows him all these things, your love, your trust, and your support. I really agree with this. Too many women will chase after a man but a man needs to prove his worth for a woman to submit to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Article: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not OthersMy ex-boyfriend used to say this: "You don't marry a girl because she's fun, you marry a woman who can manage life." And it's true. That's why women need to be able to take care of themselves (physically and mentally) - your guy can't be there to help you in a crisis, you've got to deal with issues yourself. That's what guys mean when they say they don't want to take care of a girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/18 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Article: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not OthersFurther explaining, they mentioned how guys don't really think too much about settling down before they reach their mid-to-late thirties It's true, because a lot of men who are late 20's can still be considered at the beginning of their career. A lot still go out drinking and partying late 20's/early 30's. You simply need to find a man who is looking to settle, and they do eventually get that feeling (many male colleagues I spoke to talked about "getting the settling feeling" which is basically … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 05:49 AM |
| 30 | Article: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not OthersYes, this is true, especially about the age of commitment. I will also state an observation that when commitment ready men are looking for a wife, it actually plays to your disadvantage to be TOO fun. Especially men in their early 30's are looking for a life partner to improve with and manage a family with. Make sure that you stay feminine (physically and mentally) but show that you're responsible in your work life and personal life. No man likes a woman who wastes time at work or can't take car… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/18 07:03 PM |
| 4 | VulnerabilityVulnerability is showing my flaws and weaknesses, my "craziness" and being open to either being accepted for them or rejected for them. Another user once said, vulnerability is the possibility of rejection. Unfortunately you can't develop deep love without being vulnerable and letting someone see deep down who you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 07:51 PM |
| 3 | VulnerabilityIntuition is an important strength that I personally would like to tap into again...its a difficult trait to cultivate but it's the best way to make that final decision. Do you have advice on how to tap into it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 07:49 PM |
| 2 | On inner serenityI actually follow this too - I'm not religious but I struggled so much with anxiety, I did find the easiest way was to think outside of yourself, which for me was a higher being. And faith it will all be OK. Uncertainty led a lot of my anxiety. So therefore I agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 11:18 AM |
| 15 | Reflections being in nun mode...At 23, you're still very immature (I don't mean this as an insult but most 23yo have no sense of what the real world is like). I look back on when I was 23 and I really understood nothing, and I was awkward as hell. You have time to grow and invest in yourself. Men your age also are having their fun - which translates to wanting a "bad bitch." This gets old after a while, depending on the man. Just know that everyone is in a different life phase at your age. Some people get married at 23, some p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Living together vs living apartUnfortunately it's so common to cohabit before marriage and because of the success stories, women think it will end up in marriage, but just not always. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Living together vs living apartI agree. I think if a couple breaks up because "she takes too long to get ready in the morning" or because "he watches too much TV after he comes home from work," that's ridiculous. Your relationship is not strong enough then, if these sorts of minor annoyances are enough to leave... Marriage is about working through problems together, not leaving because something small bothers you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Living together vs living apartIn my opinion, it's a certain type of man that will stay with a woman because it is nice and convenient even though he doesn't want to marry her, while knowing this is her goal. Agreed. It shows you the type of man and his (lack of) moral character to essentially take advantage of a woman without wanting to marry her (staying with her because it's convenient but no intention of wifing her). Men of high moral character will also let you know their intentions right from the beginning. I finally re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 09:34 AM |
| 4 | Living together vs living apartGood point, the vetting of intentions before moving in together is important. I'm sure plenty of women move in without knowing the intentions of the man, and perhaps also out of convenience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 08:55 AM |
| 2 | Living together vs living apartIf you don't mind a little diversion from a guy; I'd like to understand the free milk perspective. If you're splitting the rent and bills equally, then both are getting equal benefit right? If the guy is paying most or all of the housing/living costs, then he's paying for the milk. Under which scenario would you characterize it as free milk? From a RPW point of view, marriage as a commitment is our goal, so living together (woman gives him her company and sex) without the woman securing marriage… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/18 08:52 AM |
| 5 | How do you overcome being alpha widowed?From this comment you're already talking yourself down into a hole. You need to let go of the past and focus on the present. It's difficult and I've been exactly where you are, but you cannot play victim. You can only improve yourself and change for the better. You need to believe that you can change your destiny with your own hands. First step is introspection on what you may need to change. If your current strategy isn't working and hasn't worked, think about doing things differently next time… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 11:12 AM |
| 6 | How do you overcome being alpha widowed?Also, it would probably benefit you to stop being so overly dramatic. Your not ruined by some guy you only dated for like 4 months. I would say this is the best strategy - to think of it being only four months of your entire life. It just means there's something better to come. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/18 06:52 PM |
| 26 | Why hobbies are so importantYour man will be grateful he doesn't feel like he has to provide 100% of your entertainment and fulfillment. That's the thing - he needs to know, when he's not around/when he's busy with work or with his friends, what do you do? Do you instead seek male attention elsewhere because he's not giving it to you, or do you instead make use of yourself?? THAT is the true meaning of "being happy with oneself." A truly happy woman doesn't constantly need male validation. She's fine without it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 10:06 AM |
| 2 | When men decide to commit, they need to know for sure he will continually return to the same womanI see it this way - the man has to weigh the pros and cons of many different women in order to choose the best companion for him. That's why I think it's normal for men to play the field - if he doesn't know what he wants in a wife, he'll most likely run into marital problems later on in life. He needs to have some experience with other women in order to know who he chooses is the best option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 12:31 PM |
| 6 | Some RPW anxietyA strong career can speak to a woman's strength and dedication. That's the important aspect and also a very fine line. Men will respect a woman's strength and dedication in her career/hobbies, the problem is that when women HAVE this strength/dedication then they 1) overestimate their worth, 2) think they don't "need" a man because they're too dedicated to their career, 3) become too masculine in personality or 4) become masculine in their appearance. I've witnessed this many times - a smart, fu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 06:24 PM |
| 9 | Some RPW anxietyIntelligence DOES matter in a woman, because high value men will value a woman who keeps improving and who can bring something to the table (it doesn't have to be money). Also, having an intelligent mother is important - whether it's morals, hobbies, social grace - children learn from their parents, especially their mothers. A mother that watches TV all day, gains weight and can't help with homework isn't really superb to have around, even if she's sweet. Her sweet personality and physical looks… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 06:14 PM |
| 3 | I want to be ladylike, but instead, I feel childish.College is an awkward time where people are either too mature or too immature, trying to grow up quickly or not growing up fast enough. I advise you to just concentrate on yourself. You won't see a lot of these people after you graduate, especially at a huge campus. Do what you think is right for yourself and your values, meet different people and LEARN from them. Observe what happens to girls who drink too much and sleep around or don't concentrate on their studies. Everyone is going at their o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/18 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Does my profession matter?I think profession only matters in the sense of being the same socioeconomic class but otherwise you're right, it doesn't REALLY matter. As long as you can more or less keep up with him in a conversation, not embarrass him by saying stupid things, have some common sense, have the desire to improve yourself, that's really it. My boyfriend appreciates my motivation to improve in all aspects of my life but it's not what makes him attracted to me, nope. It's me being sweet and cute and fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/18 04:53 AM |
| 3 | What advice would you give your younger self?My boyfriend does enjoy some intellectual discussions here and there but I would say the majority of the time we either joke around/tease each other, or talk about our days, or just enjoy snuggling/doing activities together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 03:43 PM |
| 10 | What advice would you give your younger self?Adding to this: Realize that it's very easy for men to give you attention (by glances or flirting) but a man flirting with you doesn't mean he is going to take you seriously. You don't have to close yourself off completely but vet carefully. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/18 07:15 AM |
| 17 | What advice would you give your younger self?Be someone that a man would enjoy being around. I was depressed all the time and thought I was "cool and interesting" to always be philosophical and contemplate life and talk about politics. Turns out that's not what makes someone want to enjoy their time with me. Voice matters. Learn communication skills. Sometimes I thought I was saying something very clearly and it came off the wrong way (either when flirting or responding to a man). I just had no idea I sounded like that. Weight matters. Any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/18 07:08 AM |
| 1 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?One thing that most high value men learn very quickly is any sign that a woman likes attention a little too much, is a negative thing over the long haul. This is very true. This is why sometimes extremely attractive women are not loyal - they tend to need constant attention and validation from men. Consequently, my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend was a pretty girl (not a model but definitely pretty) and her Facebook was full of selfies and new profile pictures wearing new outfits. Their relationship e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Does my profession matter?Just wanted to say this was a very well written comment explaining why career doesn't matter in attraction. It's sad in a way because we are always proud of our own accomplishments but the harsh reality is it's not attractive to men. It's a bonus that makes you a little bit more interesting but you're absolutely right, he cares about your personality and demeanor and looks first and foremost. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/18 11:57 AM |
| 4 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?I have one from when I was 18. I'm 28 now but I've kept it in. It's also motivation to keep fit as well. I dress pretty conservatively and I never show my midriff anyway, so it's really just in the bedroom my boyfriend sees it. It makes me feel sexy to show him. At the beach I usually wear a two piece but I do have a cute one piece that covers in case I'm around families or my boyfriend's friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/18 11:28 AM |
| 6 | On vetting marriage minded menYep, definitely. This is where it's tricky and risky for women because it's important to have a good relationship, and unfortunately there's no way to know a person without taking the time to build up trust and working compatibility. Usually a couple has to go through some sort of small crisis to really get a grasp of what it's like to get through life together (as my boyfriend says, love is proven through the difficult times). Loyalty is also proven over time as well. That's why the family valu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 12:18 PM |
| 1 | What would you do in a relationship where you love your partner more than they love you?I think dread game works for both partners if done correctly. Not enough to make you feel completely insecure and feel like leaving but just so you're not comfortable. That means being aloof sometimes or basically just enough to make your partner wonder if he's/she's doing something wrong, so they'll try to win you back. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/18 03:38 PM |
| 3 | What would you do in a relationship where you love your partner more than they love you?Does it ever happen where both parties equally love each other? Just curious. Women are always told to find a man who loves her more than she loves him, but sadly the truth is if a woman doesn't truly love a man then she'll eventually leave him for tingles. Women need to chase after a man as well (in a sense) or else she feels unfulfilled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/18 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Are men wrong in assuming you're magical creatures?There are advantages and disadvantages. I do enjoy it when men treat me like a princess and are chivalrous, but at the same time I roll my eyes at how easy it is to manipulate men. I'm not a model by any means but it's amazing how much you can do by dressing a bit sexy and flirt and make him "feel like a man" by giving him attention. This is incredibly easy to do, and it works because men fall for it, so I guess we are magical creatures in that sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/17 01:09 AM |
| 14 | How can I make myself become marriage material?If he gets angry when you bring it up, he most likely doesn't like the pressure of the subject, especially if he doesn't know himself yet...meaning even if he knows he wants to have a family, he's not sure if it's going to be with you. Which doesn't necessarily mean it couldn't be you, but he may not have figured that out yet. How old is he? Are you both working or in school? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 07:29 AM |
| 3 | I asked my boyfriend why he won’t propose to me and he said because I fall under this list.Troll. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Question - what are the criteria for male attractiveness in your part of the world?Young, hot girls of my acquaintance always were dating broke, young guys who were "cool," as in being a bartender, musician, or working at a dispensary. I see this more in US and also some Western Europe. Looks and personality are more important for men, you must have something interesting about you or some sort of ambition. Southern Europe, Eastern Europe, the desireable men are good looking and rich. Doesn't really matter about personality as long as you are chivalrous, but you don't necessari… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/17 01:02 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Contrary to what people say, the peak SMV for men is NOT in their early 30s...Depends on the man because the ones who don't bald can still be hot at early 30's. However weight gain can definitely be a problem, even men who literally had no fat growing up (you know who you are ectomorphs) start to get that layer of fat at age 30 that never disappears. I would say peak is between 27-33 depending on genetics. Also many women view men who are still single at 35 and over as losers - doesn't matter if they blamed ex-girlfriends for being the problem - if you're still single by … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/17 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Toxic masculinity is real. And so is toxic feminism.I ask specifically because my boyfriend is EE, from the Balkans, and he complains a lot about the women there (which I was surprised because of TRP image of it). Lots of gold diggers and entitlement, women who are feminine on the outside (in fashion) but have nothing going on for them inside (mentally or intellectually). So this was very curious of me to ask. Perhaps some of it does have to do with poverty (my boyfriend comes from a UMC family, his mother is a doctor head of her department, fath… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/17 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Toxic masculinity is real. And so is toxic feminism.What's toxic feminism like in specifically, Eastern Europe? Especially because TRP says EE girls are supposed to be perfect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/17 02:24 PM |
| 3 | On respect and his freedomsI'm also guilty of this (hence the post). You're right that being too helpful can come off as "controlling" even if we don't mean it to be. It's just that WE don't see it as controlling but in a man's eyes, it's invasive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/17 05:57 PM |
| 20 | How to determine your own SMV?The general rule here is to look at the kind of men who will give you commitment, or the men who will respect your need to withhold sex for the purpose of getting to know each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 01:03 PM |
| 1 | The problems in the dating market today show that women have been taking on more negative masculine traits while abandoning positive feminine onesNot necessarily but I think it's more difficult to be successful and ambitious and NOT have negative qualities like being domineering or controlling or nagging. Take two women at my workplace - my boss and a colleague. They are both incredibly successful and they always want to do the following: 1) Lead projects or 2) Solve problems. They don't know how to relax and have fun and be "pliably feminine." They want to make decisions and do the leading, they want to offer solutions all the time. I gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/17 03:51 PM |
| 6 | The problems in the dating market today show that women have been taking on more negative masculine traits while abandoning positive feminine onesAgreed. Especially now that most modern men of a certain socioeconomic class don't look for a woman to clean or cook for them, they want a woman who is just as smart as them so they can stimulate each other. If a woman doesn't have anything going on for her (hobbies or career, essentially anything that makes her interesting) then a man isn't interested. They also appreciate women who can have intellectual conversations and make witty banter and hold their own in a conversation. This has many adv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/17 09:57 AM |
| 2 | I applied a bunch of tips from Fascinating Womanhood and other books. Here are my awesome results!It depends on the man and where he is in his life. My boyfriend is 32 and stable job so he's ready for marriage and he knows what he's looking for. I'm 28 and also ready. I did find that when I was younger it was difficult to know men's intentions with me - but probably because I also wasn't ready for marriage (I was still immature in a lot of ways). He was also one of the few men who ever asked me this question. Most will not because they don't have that intention with you. Guys usually look at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 12:09 PM |
| 11 | I applied a bunch of tips from Fascinating Womanhood and other books. Here are my awesome results!Wonderful post! In terms of vetting for his future potential, I notice that men who are genuinely interested in you will naturally reveal their plans (just usually not on the first date). They usually want to see how the interaction is with you and enjoy their time with you before slowly revealing their future plans. It's also generally a good sign if they ask you what you're looking for. I knew my current boyfriend was serious about me from the beginning because after some fun conversations tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 08:40 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with making more money1) Whatever the "lifestyle" financially the woman had growing up as a girl from her father or the dominant male figure in her life, if the current guy cannot EQUAL that or EXCEED that, then the relationship is doomed I completely agree with this and I also have to say the reason many young women are entitled is because of fathers spoiling them or being a "daddy's girl." Daddy pays for everything and lets them do what they want but it's difficult for a boyfriend/husband to do this - they expect r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/17 07:10 PM |
| 5 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountIt's not about acting sweet and young. If your plan is to keep imitating 19 year old female behavior, you will fail. But you DO have feminine wiles and you should be using them. What you must understand is that men who want marriage deep down want you to do that. Not in a cruel way but in a way where you have his respect. Just trust me on this. Agreed! Quoted for emphasis. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:48 AM |
| 14 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountI like this comment because I've seen the amount of respect men give to older women (30-50) due to their sophistication, intelligence and experience. After a certain age, men in their 30's and older do NOT respect inexperience and ditzy behavior. They look for a woman who they can build a life together not a woman he has to constantly baby and solve her daily crisis. Being secure in oneself and being able to stimulate your man mentally and intellectually is the most important RMV quality for a w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Girls Night Out revisitedI've never done the typical wild girls night out to bars so I honestly don't understand this concept. Usually we do spa days and go out to dinner, or simply just do something together - go to the mall, museum, cook, movie, pool. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 09:04 PM |
| 5 | To those of you that have a career, not just a job?If reducing your work hours or responsibilities is not an option, I would begin with trying to keep a peace of mind, which starts in your brain and not your environment. Have you ever meditated? Learning to be aware of your thoughts and then learning how to let them go? That would be the first step in "switching" your mind when you come home. For instance, even though you know that you still have deadlines tomorrow or assignments due, but for one hour after you come home you can not think or wor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/17 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Who do you talk about your so to?I have briefly mentioned to a few close friends when we're having issues, but whenever they prod at me to talk and analyze it, I make sure to stop and say "I don't feel like talking about it, we're figuring it out together." You are correct in that girlfriends usually will validate you, hate on him, analyze with you about what HE needs to change but it doesn't actually solve the problem or take your actions into consideration. I am now EXTREMELY careful with what I say about my relationship to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/17 10:53 AM |
| 7 | Who do you talk about your so to?It's also my father's reactions too - he's very level-headed. Even if I criticize him, my father will bring me back to reality. He'll say things like "you're not perfect, neither is he" "if he accepts you for your flaws then you should learn to accept his." | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 09:44 AM |
| 24 | Who do you talk about your so to?I actually talk to my father about him. I know it's also suggested not to talk about your relationship to your family members but I confide in my father for a few reasons. Number one being he is able to keep his mouth shut and not say anything to anyone else (including my mother). Number two is he has a family man's perspective, and my father also has a very strong moral sense of working through problems and keeping a relationship strong. He always offers a solution or strategy instead of just l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 07:54 AM |
| 6 | Can someone explain shit/comfort tests???Paramedics have stressful jobs. Two people need to rely and trust each other. How do you "test" that without actually getting into a dangerous situation? You fill your partners's boots with lube as a practical joke. If he responds with laughter, or promises to get you back, then he's probably pretty well balanced person. If he loses his shit and stomps off in the corner crying, then what do you think he'll do in a truly stressful situation? Putting lube in somebodys' boots fitness tests them. Lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 06:11 PM |
| 2 | How men show their loveYes definitely!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 10:47 AM |
| 1 | How men show their loveCare to explain why? Gifts and romantic dinners are nice but wouldn't any woman prefer long-term loyalty over a few occasional gifts? I suppose my argument is that gifts/dinners are not the only way to show love, there are many little ways that we wouldn't have suspected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 10:43 AM |
| 11 | How men show their loveGifts, dinners, words are definitely important, but it's not the only way to show love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 10:41 AM |
| 3 | An "interesting woman with a brain."Intelligence definitely makes you who you are - because it's the way you think about life, the things that interest you, and it's those qualities that allow you to contribute to the relationship. It only backfires if you think ONLY having those qualities helps you in a relationship, because it really comes down to the pleasantry and personality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/17 11:13 AM |
| 2 | We love and respect our men.My SO is also a great man and while he doesn’t have years of experience like my father does, he always does have the best interests at heart and always works very hard in order to plan for our future. This is what I appreciate about younger men (late 20's-mid-30's). They might not have the wisdom of our fathers but they are SO sexy when they put in their efforts to grow and protect their families. It's so very attractive to me, especially combined with the youth and energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/17 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.It's a bit sad because I think too many women don't take happiness into their own hands. That's why men try so hard to fix all problems but the some problem can't be fixed because it's in the responsibility of the woman, not the man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 03:47 PM |
| 2 | What's your RPW opinion on casual relationshipI actually agree with this comment the most out of all. A relationship is just a label but it is NOT the only goal (neither is marriage). The goal is to get along, make him desire you, care about each other, share goals together, enjoy each other's company. It's all the things under the surface of this label of a relationship. ANY sort of "are we serious" talk too early is really off-putting, because it takes time to get to know each other - so how would you know anyway? Generally in my experien… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.The fact that we see women taking a back seat more than men, just shows that there is something about the differences between men and women that causes this to occur. I don't know about others, but I would also be the first one to take a backseat for two reasons - my industry is not as lucrative or high paying, and I am not as mentally strong as my boyfriend. I've seen him work work work and grind out long hours and still be mentally focused but for me I am unable to do this. To me it would make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 08:27 AM |
| 2 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.However, here on RPW we realize that the vast majority of women do not want a stay-at-home partner and the marriage would suffer if he stays home instead of her. It is so annoying to have women complain that their career "had to" suffer when the alternative would have resulted in them losing attraction and probably leaving their husband! EXACTLY. It can work fine with a high earning woman and a low profile husband as long as there is respect on both sides, and I've seen it work well before. But … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 08:15 AM |
| 4 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.In answer to your question: I think a married couple needs to decide whose career is the one most worth investing in BEFORE they have children. A woman who is driven to succeed in her career and who wants children would do well to work on being attracted to the kind of guy who would find fulfillment in being a SAHD (in the younger years). Fine point but most women who are driven to succeed also want a man who is just as driven to succeed, or otherwise men who would not agree to be SAHDs. It's ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 08:50 PM |
| 6 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.You make a good point about the media influencing women's thoughts - I'm sure plenty of women who are happy to work part-time and take care their family begin to think maybe they're not "supposed" to like what they're doing and they should try to jump on the ladder. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 06:02 PM |
| 7 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.When entering a marriage, both parties need to make some sacrifices. In this case, the women are cutting back their careers, but the men are also picking up the entire financial burden. The sacrifice works both ways. It's silly to demonize one side and exalt the virtues of the other. It's interesting because (in general) good husbands will concentrate on their careers and know it's their responsibility to be the breadwinner or at least be financially stable for the rest of the family's lives (be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Yeah, or the man just leaves the relationship. Simple as that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 12:23 PM |
| 1 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?If I'm hanging around my apartment I wear yoga pants and a tight tank top (shows off figure). If it's hot, yoga shorts (boyfriend loves it). When it's cold I just throw on a lounge wear-type blazer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I'm actually still in my 20's and most of my friends are married. I spend most of my time with married people and some have children. But we all have a few still single friends. Again not sure why you're being so hateful. I don't need to explain myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.The fact that she nags at her boyfriend has nothing to do with her being a terrible person. I've said this many times she's a lovely person but she's making a mistake of nagging at him. At RPW we all try to be aware of this in ourselves. I'm just simply pointing it out as a reminder. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.OP doesn't "hate" her friend, she is probably just fed up with her friend repeatedly acting this way. It's also odd that you assumed OP has never tried to help the friend. This post was obviously venting and didn't address every detail of their friendship. Yeah I'm a bit shocked at some of the responses and assumptions about my friendship with her. I didn't mean for the post to come off that way. She's a lovely person but I simply wanted to make a point of how women generally ruin relationships … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I have also personally experienced other problems with myself and I've had friends who have tried to helped me but I wouldn't accept or I wasn't willing to admit I had a problem. That's how I know I can always advise someone but she has to make the changes herself. If she's 34 and still wants to nag and rant and be pushy then I can't help her. We all have to take responsibility for ourselves and that's the hard truth. It's easy to be validated but it's difficult to improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I've been guilty of a lot of things she does too. But it's difficult to watch a friend dig herself deeper into a hole, because I know she wants me to just agree with her and validate her, and help her craft long and angry text messages to him. But I won't. I know it doesn't help the situation. But that's what she wants me to do. Again she's a fine person to spend time with because she's interesting to talk to but when it comes to relationships I'm not going to help her scheme especially when I f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Here's the other thing - many women simply like to rant and bitch about the problem instead of solving it. She clearly just wanted me to listen and didn't want to try to solve it. She ended the night saying "thanks for letting me bitch about stupid men." That comment in itself turned me off - I try very hard not to call my boyfriend "stupid" because relationships are difficult and we have to put effort on both sides. Do I get exasperated with my own relationship? Of course. But I try to respect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I tried to counsel her but she refused to admit she might be doing something wrong that's pushing him away. I feel like I can't help her if she doesn't want to be helped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I'm really sorry if it came off as me taking glory in her misery because that's not what it is. I did try to counsel her but she refused to own up to the fact that she might be doing something wrong and putting the blame on him only. I really couldn't help her in this case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 09:24 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Not sure why or where your antagonism is coming from. I'm learning from other people's mistakes and wanted to share it with a community that is centered around self-improvement in our relationships. I mainly wrote this because I'm guilty of being a shrew too but sometimes I can't see my mistakes, so it's helpful when you see your own mistake in someone else. I tried to counsel her about her problems but she just wanted to complain so I can't help her there. I feel bad for her for sure because I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I don't hate her, she's not a terrible person. She's a fine person to spend time with but when it comes to relationships she's not super great at them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 05:11 AM |
| 3 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I definitely have been at fault before, but it's always good to have external reminders to keep improving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 08:32 PM |
| 6 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitYou seem to be a bit of a 'mother' right now. You think you know better, you don't want him to embarrass you, and you hone in on minor things. Just wanted to say thanks for this comment because I was being a bit of a mother lately to my boyfriend and we had this awful fight about it. The last two days I focused on sex kitten and cheerleader and our dynamic has improved immensely. It's amazing how the way you treat him will change the way he views you as well. I had to work really hard to put dow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 12:20 PM |
| 6 | Your voice tone mattersI notice that my voice gets shriller when I speak with other women, mostly because they are also shrill and speak fast! It's amazing how your voice can change depending on who you're talking to. When I speak with my boyfriend I'm typically very calm and gentle and soft but when I'm talking to certain women my voice accelerates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/17 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Am I out of his league?I suggest to first make yourself approachable. Try to lock eyes with him and say hello. Continue doing this and see if any conversation strikes. If nothing more comes out of the greetings then he's just not that into you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/17 01:02 AM |
| 5 | RP conversation with my boyfriendYes, even my boyfriend well aware of the divorce laws in his country and he is actively buying property now as a bachelor because the law for him is everything he owns before marriage will stay his, everything that is owned during marriage is split in the case of divorce. He's very aware. He even cites examples of women leaving their husbands, when they've had two children and the husband has done nothing but provide for her. Basically TRP in a nutshell but he's never heard of the specific term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 05:59 AM |
| 8 | RP conversation with my boyfriendWhich part of the Eastern bloc are you from? I've met a few EE men in their 30's and I find them extremely masculine - they dealt with hardships growing up and most have an athletic prowess that they aren't afraid of cultivating. They still have chivalry towards women - carrying heavy things, driving, opening doors. They worked for what they have now, they weren't spoiled by rich parents because of communism/war in the 90's. They have survival skills and still have a bit of a primitive mindset, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 04:09 PM |
| 3 | RP conversation with my boyfriendI think assuming someone young is vapid is insulting. Absolutely true! Although many are, there are still a few out there who have a good head on their shoulders. But it definitely goes to show the level of entitlement is strong all over the whole world nowadays, it's not just US/Western/Central Europe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:05 PM |
| 18 | Do men hit "the wall" too?Theory says no but reality says yes. I work with families and even though all the fathers of my students have life experience and solid income and responsibility, I am extremely unattracted to them (I'm late 20's). First of all most of them have lost their looks (contrary to popular belief, most men don't age well) and the energy is lost too. They're more composed for sure but there's no sense of fun and humor that comes with younger men (for me that would be early to mid -30's). Men age physica… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Ladies when was the last time you branch-swung on purpose?We were long distance, I had visited him three times and he never visited me because of money and time. Then I met a new guy who was incredibly nice and available and interested in me. I got fed up with my ex and his lack of commitment/effort and branch swung. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/17 04:16 PM |
| 1 | High-value womanI think the happy without expectations is key. The way I look at it also is, when there is no one around you, are you happy? With no one around you to expect anything from, are you still happy? Of course in our relationships we still need to work on giving to each other because that's a big part, but are you able to be content and just enjoy each other's company? In reading this sort of work, there is an emphasis that the best and natural state for a woman is being/feeling/flowing. Yes! Women's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 08:52 AM |
| 15 | High-value womanA true high value woman wouldn't "accidentally" get pregnant because a true high value woman is responsible and secure with herself. The women you speak of are immature and entitled, not high value. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/17 08:21 AM |
| 2 | High-value womanJust wanted to say I'm in the same boat! It helps for me to have some time alone and just work on being happy without any expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/17 08:19 AM |
| 1 | "Smart, educated, career women" are the new "nice guy tms"Doesn't matter it was just an example. It could be watching a movie together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/17 07:38 PM |
| 3 | "Smart, educated, career women" are the new "nice guy tms"Smart educated career women CAN find love as long as they have pleasant personalities and are able to have nice conversations, have fun, and treat men with respect. The problem is she talks about her career all the time instead of learning how to be a companion. Men value intelligent conversations but not when it's just her bragging about her career and telling him he's less than her because she's accomplished. For example: Man: Hey babe how's it going? SECW: Omg I'm exhausted. Was at the office… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/17 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Using your looksNot OP but I have been asked to do things because I'm a young attractive charming woman and I don't understand why anyone has to feel uncomfortable about it. I really don't understand. Maybe it's American culture that's always offended by everything but this is the reality of the Red Pill - attractive woman (and attractive men!) get more benefits in the world. People treat you different if you were fit vs if you were fat. It's the same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/17 12:16 PM |
| 14 | Using your looksI definitely do and I don't there's anything wrong with it. I was given female beauty and I can tell men appreciate it, even other women appreciate it. I give classes and notice the mothers have started coming to my class and dressing up. Looking good makes me feel good and in my feminine element. It's part of being a woman. Use it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 07:02 PM |
| 2 | What do you do to get in great shape?Diet, weightlifting, lots of walking, occasional hiking. I'm not really a high intensity person at all. I keep in shape just to keep healthy but TBH I'm not athletically gifted or ambitious. I did like salsa dancing though! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/17 11:21 AM |
| 6 | What do you do to get in great shape?In my early/mid 20's I would gym 4-5x a week, stay within my caloric limit but eat like shit. Now I gym 2-3x a week but walk more, eat less and watch what goes into my body. I have never felt healthier and looked better. Diet first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/17 12:47 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when your SO is having a bad day?I give him space, then make him coffee, give him a face rub, ask him about what happened, listen to him and reassure him. My boyfriend likes to talk about what happened though, whereas some if my ex-boyfriends didn't want to talk at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/17 08:34 PM |
| 8 | " you're way too nice", but isn't this what I am supposed to be?We have power as women that we should use, that men want us to use. Women actually do control the relationship. Adding to this, here's how I look at it. Biologically as the gender that produces offspring and has the natural abilities to nurture our babies, we absolutely NEED men to take care if us. We need to make sure they are able to protect us and also that they like us so much they're not going to run away to another woman and leave us with a child. This is setting boundaries. I am in no way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 05:24 PM |
| 16 | " you're way too nice", but isn't this what I am supposed to be?Here's the thing I've learned - it's good to have opinions, even strong opinions, but the biggest issue with this is you NEVER insult or emasculate your man. You can hate on avocado toast but you never tell him he's stupid for eating avocado toast. Just stand your ground on the fact that you don't like avocado toast. Make sense? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 04:08 PM |
| 3 | " you're way too nice", but isn't this what I am supposed to be?My bf has said before that if you don't have strong opinions about things and can't debate, you must not have passions or be passionate. Most men want a woman who can hold intelligent conversation and contribute to it by passionate discussion of their views and beliefs. Your ex may have been hoping you would be more passionate. Men do, sometimes, like a challenge. Passionate conversation about politics, religion, maybe wildlife conservancy, what are you passionate about? I agree wholeheartedly w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 04:04 PM |
| 1 | " you're way too nice", but isn't this what I am supposed to be?pull-push/bantering dynamic Interesting phrase but I can agree with it. There's no tension if everything is calm.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Dating for the Modern WomanI have got shit on the forum before for saying men and women should be friends first, but there is a big expectation for sex here that isn't there if you want to be friends. Here's the thing though - men ALWAYS want sex. Men don't mind having sex with a "friend." So being "friends" first basically is vetting before deciding to have sex. It's because guys don't care: he can tell from how you keep your apartment, if you have a pet, and other things like that what you are like domestically. Yes, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/17 11:09 AM |
| 3 | There Are More Traditional Men Than Women Now, I Think!I always knew Canada was liberal in terms of feminism but I never knew to what extent, until I became very close to a Canadian girl this summer. The way she spoke seemed very entitled and also borderline constantly offended at men...it was very strange for me. But she did have a serious Canadian boyfriend though so I don't know, maybe your men have adapted. She also cheated on him that summer... | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Tarot Tuesday: SeptemberThank you and just for clarification, do you mean I'm attracting a certain type of man?? (since I'm a woman) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Dating for the Modern WomanThe Madonna/whore idea goes way back and across cultures. Delaying sex helps cement a woman on the "Madonna" side and that can lead to the guy sticking around longer and providing care and resources (or in moderns terms: more likely to marry) (citation: The Moral Animal). Absolutely this. As women we need to make sure we're first and foremost a high enough value woman that we have redeeming qualities outside opening our legs. Then, we need to make sure the men who are interested in us are also l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Tarot Tuesday: SeptemberPerhaps late, but here's my question. (Or I'll ask in the next post) I tend to have the same "cycle" of events in my relationships. All have come very close to marriage only for me to end it somehow. How can I break the cycle? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 08:56 AM |
| 4 | Dating for the Modern WomanMarried for 20 years, means you're of a complete different generation. Dating strategies change. We live in a generation where people take relationships too casually and sex is too easy to obtain or give. Men don't take women as seriously anymore, women give too much of their benefits and we need ways to weed out men who are only looking for quick sex. I can't tell you how many times I've cooked for a guy and rearranged my schedule for him only to find out that he doesn't care about me. Again, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 09:21 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever made the first move?I have made the first move a few times and it has always ended badly. I just came off as desperate and too available. I really found that men like women they can slowly "earn" her respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 07:52 AM |
| 5 | Dating for the Modern WomanWell thank goodness there are men out there who aren't you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 07:47 AM |
| 3 | Dating for the Modern WomanI think you're taking this too seriously. Servitude? That's hardly it. When my boyfriend and I dated for about five months, he would call me here and there to have coffee, and sometimes I would bring a baked good I made along on our dates. Our friendship developed slowly over five months but it was mostly him initiating. He never "served" me but instead he initiated our meetings. It's not like he chased me around the plaza with a guitar and flowers begging me to like him. We simply got to know e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 07:32 AM |
| 3 | Dating for the Modern WomanFive months of friendship before officially dating? That's not an imbalanced relationship. We set the foundation of our relationship throughout those five months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Dating for the Modern WomanDo you dress nicely? Are you having stimulating conversations with men when you do socialize? Otherwise, I can't really think of a reason why men wouldn't approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/17 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Dating for the Modern WomanIf this is the case then there is something with your demeanor that is off-putting. Are you sociable? Can you flirt? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/17 04:48 PM |
| 4 | Dating for the Modern WomanOf course this is just my own opinion and from my experience in dating. Usually he initiates activities or meetings the first few meetings (going for coffee, dinner, movie, walk in the park), basically some activity that allows him to get to know her. She should already be a woman that fascinates him and makes him want to know her. But during this time he continues his life as it is, not putting it on hold for her. But he should occasionally let her know he's interested in her (assuming she is o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/17 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Dating for the Modern WomanAfter multiple attempts/close calls quality men WILL stop asking. Yes absolutely. In my case it was situations where I felt it was actually riskier to get engaged (both of them became long distance and would have meant we would be LDR longer than in person, and both parties significantly changed in that period) and there were financial issues as well. Bad vetting on my part though. It goes both ways. The belief is that IF you want his last name (as in marriage, love, effort, resources, and commi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/17 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Dating for the Modern WomanAre you asking for yourself or to challenge the theory? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/17 05:51 AM |
| 7 | Dating for the Modern WomanI see how it can come across and I agree women should definitely give back during the LTR phase. Perhaps I should make it clear that these rules specifically pertain to the beginning dating phase - usually the first three months. So yes, I think any man who is dating a new woman would be turned off if she suddenly started telling him to go to her house for dinner every day when they've only known each other for a few weeks. When you're vetting and just starting to know each other, it's critical … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 09:49 PM |
| 7 | Dating for the Modern WomanNot necessarily. As long as he maintains his independence and is committed to his own self improvement, he is not an orbiter. Orbiters tend to be the "too nice and slightly effeminate" guy who gets friend zoned. It's the fine line between an orbiter chasing and an alpha chasing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 06:57 PM |
| 5 | Dating for the Modern WomanBut my gut tells me that a guy who waits for the woman's lead in the relationship is insecure or not interested. This is exactly it. From what I've seen, the guy who waits for the woman's lead is an opportunist. He reaps all the benefits without having to lift a finger. And he's usually an asshole that really doesn't have any redeeming RMV qualities other than being tall and handsome and confident. I would know, because I used to date one. Alternatively of course this can happen vice versa (man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Dating for the Modern WomanI agree with you, but my point was to not immediately jump into being a housewife and not to become ONLY a housewife. Slowly show him your abilities here and there. A terrible extreme example would be: Man and woman decide to be exclusive. Woman starts texting him saying she has dinner ready, every single night, expecting him to go to her apartment every night. Man is annoyed because he still wants his space and his social circle even while dating. Woman starts to rely on him for everything and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 05:35 PM |
| 6 | Dating for the Modern WomanSelf-esteem and validation is so important to ourselves as women. We tend to always rely on one man for validation but I would like to advise seeking validation from many different sources (that's why I told myself if I ever quit my job and have children, I will still volunteer and have side projects or continue reading and traveling and meeting different people). Of course, validation still comes from within, and my personal experience is to understand yourself very well and perhaps rely on eve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 05:32 PM |
| 10 | Dating for the Modern WomanMy husband absolutely chased me and he's hardly a passive blue pill guy. I don't really understand when people say men who chase are betas. Alpha men always have chasing tendencies - chasing money, fame, women. It's ABSOLUTELY necessary for a man to chase you because he is going for a goal and if he's smart enough he knows what kind of woman he's looking for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 05:27 PM |
| 11 | Dating for the Modern WomanRPW is all about being the best woman you can be, who is committed to improvement to herself, her husband and her children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 05:03 PM |
| 11 | How do you keep yourself up each day?Discipline. Sorry, there's just no way around it. Look at it like brushing your teeth. You just have to do it, there's no "motivation" to brush your teeth (well besides not getting cavities). Stop thinking about it so much and simply do it. Drink lots of water when you're busy to stay functional and hydrated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is your personal style that helps you feel your most feminine in?I love fashion! My personal style is a mix of posh chic and classic. I love leggings to show off my hips and legs, and feminine blouses (think ruffles or lace). I wear a of tunics/mini skirt dresses over leggings. Covers my bum but still shows off legs. I also like pairing fitted trousers with a flowy top and a belt to cinch in the waist. Sometimes I'll show some décolletage with a lower neckline but always I keep the rest of me covered. Shoes include chunky ankle boots, sometimes knee high boot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/17 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Positive or approachable body language?Sway your hips slightly when you walk, and walk lightly and purposefully. Seriously. It gets you to loosen up and guys will check you out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Why do men always persevere and spend years and years trying to fix a relationship problem?Can you explain some of these fantasies???? I mean besides the given physical beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/17 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Is being depressed unpleasant to men?This is the best comment, as I am also someone that suffers from chronic depression. I agree wholeheartedly that you should first figure out how to control your depression (exercise, diet, hobbies, meditation, etc). Do NOT rely on your partner as your sole support system. No matter what anybody says about being vulnerable to your partner, have your own social circle to rant or talk about problems, Lastly there needs to be a sense of trust between you and your partner, that when you are depressed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 10:07 AM |
| 1 | did you get more selective about men's appearance after getting redpilled?be honest pleaseBut it also made me realize that those guys who spent forever on their appearance weren't really my type, personality-wise. I agree with you so much. And I can start distinguishing the pretty boys who don't really have brains/stability and the clean well-groomed men who have brains. The second type is so much sexier to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 09:48 AM |
| 5 | did you get more selective about men's appearance after getting redpilled?be honest pleaseI was always selective pre-RP. I prefer men who are clean cut, fit (meaning just not super soft but I don't care about huge muscles or low body fat), dress simply, and I actually really like glasses. I LOVE the hot nerd look. But the smarts and wit are where it gets me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/17 11:37 PM |
| 10 | Never dated at the age of 22Sad but true. After I left the USA I started getting approached a lot more, men are friendly and chatty anywhere I go. I found in the US men would just ignore you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Why do men always persevere and spend years and years trying to fix a relationship problem?But that's what I don't get - men seem to get oneitis much more frequently than women. Why? Women seem to have no problem branch swinging whereas men will have eyes and commitment to one woman for a long time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/17 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Why do men always persevere and spend years and years trying to fix a relationship problem?All the evidence would be anecdotal or personal, anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/17 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Why do men always persevere and spend years and years trying to fix a relationship problem?I mean, I could give plenty of examples but I feel like most people know them. DB or shrew girlfriends/wives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/17 02:12 PM |
| 2 | how do you land alpha guys?Ahaha I have been watching Gossip Girl and it's so true though. Serena gets all the alphas, but her RMV isn't that great because she's a loose party girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/17 09:08 PM |
| 5 | Should i tell him the real reason?First of all, 30 is a strong cutoff point. I know plenty of men who became stable at 31-33. My friend's husband only succeeded at becoming a doctor at age 37. They're perfectly happy though. Also, understand that having a few small businesses is a way that some people survive. Some people don't want to work for one big company and value their autonomy or independence, so they chose to work in several different ways. It's still a way to live. But you have to be OK that that's what he wants to do.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 07:23 PM |
| 5 | why feminism isn't helping who it's supposed to (or anyone else)Feminism never helped anyone with anything, except maybe the high-powered capitalists. It boggles my mind whenever I really think about it...the increase in expenses to include daughters and also the amount of industries created for women, or by women, some completely unnecessary. Look at the best-selling books out there now, some include being an independent women, all marketed towards women. And it's also funny how young privileged women bitch and moan about everything being unfair, when alrea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 11:11 AM |
| 3 | What is some of the worst dating advice men are told?As a side rant I really hate it when men do the "bro handshake" with me. I know they don't really mean it and they're unaware but I really don't appreciate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 07:36 AM |
| 5 | What is some of the worst dating advice men are told?On the other hand, don't you think this is true for girls too? When girls are too nice and submissive it's boring. I think all men would still appreciate a woman who didn't put up with certain bullshit or laid down some boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 07:32 AM |
| 2 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleThanks for your input. In any modern relationship, man or woman, you have to be prepared for the other person to leave you, at any time, for any reason. Marriage. Kids. Money. Promises. You could have saved the person's life and given them a kidney or bone marrow, and it doesn't matter. The person can walk at any time for any reason. TRP talks about this for men but as a woman even I feel pessimistic about marriage. €Most likely, he was ignorant, but not stupid. ( I don't mean these terms in a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/17 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleIf he doesn't care about her, she complains that he doesn't car. If he cares about her, she loses interest. He can't win. EXACTLY. A man who cares too much is a pushover beta and a man that doesn't care enough is too dark triad alpha. It's so sad that we need to play these games. But TBH I feel that women have to, too. Too doormat/maternal and we're boring and too fun party girl and we're untrustworthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Conservative and classy clothingI prefer Zara, they're a bit trendier but you can create conservative outfits. Not pricey at all especially if you wait for their sales. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Being respectful of my husband while supporting my negative friend?Edit: I've found my best women friends are actually the high powered career types. They know their success isn't an accident and they don't assume marital or household success is an accident either. Same here and like you said, it's probably because they take responsibility for themselves and aren't whiners or pitiers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleI do think both of them are at fault and the husband just didn't know how to deal with it (he thought being more of a beta would help, but probably if he became more confident it would have made a difference. I also think the basis of the relationship wasn't secure in the first place...I speculate she thought having a beta husband that did everything for her was what she wanted. But it just proves women still prefer alpha behaviors). I'm not hurt that she cheated because it doesn't affect my lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleIt's good to learn from other's experience to prevent it from happening to ourselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleThe other problem was that she was making more money than him at the time too. She was basically expecting him to provide and she would have freedom to work and do whatever she wanted (fitness classes, music lessons, dancing). She also was a big sheltered growing up, and I think now that she has money and a better social life, she thought she was too good for him. He sort of stagnated and only concentrated on his job. Who knows, maybe if she respected him more and respected his desire to give he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 09:13 AM |
| 5 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleActually maybe he didn't agree...I could have made it up. Now that I think about it, I think he caught her cheating. He had access to her email and texts and location settings. I guess it's bad vetting on his end, not choosing a woman that would try to work it out before going off with someone else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 09:07 AM |
| 2 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleI don't know whether the sex drive started to lack on which side (was she expecting him to do all initiating? Did she ever initiate?) nobody knows. For me it should be effort on both sides. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 09:01 AM |
| 6 | Feeling sad for a hypergamous exampleThey actually agreed on a divorce this past summer. The husband let her see a new guy on the side while trying to fix the problem, since last September. Over the summer she asked for a divorce. It's very sad. They dated for 10 years but only married for 6. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 08:03 AM |
| 47 | A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomAwesome post and not surprised it came from you, dear! Also just wanted to say - sex drive, fitness/weight, fashion are all correlated. If you are fit you will want to show off that body to your man. Keep fit and keep sexy. The sex and enthusiasm will generate naturally, I guarantee you. If you feel and look sexy then you won't want to gorge or stuff your face. I am proud to say I blow my boyfriend more than we have PIV, and I love it so much my boyfriend even teases me - "you should see yoursel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/17 11:47 PM |
| 10 | How can I strive toward the RPW ideal while in college?I don't think it's a terrible thing to enjoy yourself in college, as long as you know the consequences! Getting tipsy happy drunk is fine IMHO, especially since it's your prime youth years. Just be aware of the extremes that can happen (riding cc, becoming overweight). Keep your eyes on your long-term goals, be aware of university men who may just be wanting to experiment sexually. I do recommend going on dates and socializing because it can seem snobby if you think you're too "grown-up" for eve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Evolving ManipulationTo me this is the essence and beauty of a woman. Our charm, subtle influence, manipulation, physical beauty. Even the sight of a woman in a skirt and heels leads to a man treating her slightly differently than if she wore sweatpants. Nowadays femininity is dead. Women make wise ass jokes and have motor mouths. There are ways to influence a man without being aggressive about it. I have a lower and softer speaking voice and I can't speak very loudly unless I yell. A lot of men are taken aback at f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/17 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Tired of being singleHow are you meeting men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/17 12:57 PM |
| 14 | Let's Talk About Aging and the WallSecond this ESPECIALLY if you're fair. If you have olive skin or darker your skin is more resilient to the sun (still apply sunscreen obviously) but fair skin folks are highly susceptible to wrinkles in general (lack of melanin and drier skin). | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 06:10 PM |
| 21 | What are some things that make you happy/relieve stressExercise exercise exercise. Gets your mind off of whatever is bothering you, makes you feel good about your body and the endorphins!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: is women dating older men really a thing?Hmmmm, I very briefly dated a 42yo man when I was 23, but I was so naive I didn't understand. He wanted me to move in with him and when I moved out of the town to get on with my life he told me he would pay to fly me to go on holidays with him. Then I went on dates with 29 and 30yo men when I was 23-24 but that was before I became RP because I always thought I needed a friend as a boyfriend. I went back to dating men only 2 years older before RP. When I became RP I started looking for at least 5… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/17 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?I saved this comment. Thank you so much for writing it. I lived in Sub-Saharan Africa for a year. It really does put in perspective to enjoy what you have. I loved living there, I loved the craziness, I loved how everyday you're reminded how lucky you are and how you can be happy sharing a twin bed and one pillow with your boyfriend simply because you have a insulated home with an indoor kitchen and everyone else is cooking outside on the streets. And you're always reminded how you're OK, becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 03:31 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsDo you think he's feeling awful about himself and hiding to cover up his insecurity? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 03:22 PM |
| 16 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Asking you to drive an hour to meet him is unacceptable. Misspelling your name or finalizing the date until the day before can be forgiven, IMHO. Unwilling to foot the bill and being passive is also inexcusable. I encountered this quite a lot, men who wanted to only hang out, were floating around not knowing what they wanted, weren't sure about having children, men who just wanted to play and not take responsibility as head of the household. It's not just you. We as young women are also to blame… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:26 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsIt sucks, I've been through it too. Just remember it's helpful to see what's out there so that you can define your dealbreakers and standards to find the right match. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 08:46 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI've noticed men typically take longer to say the L word and usually there needs to be some sort of rocky waters to get through together before he says it. My first boyfriend took nine months, my second took almost a year, my current took almost a year as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 08:44 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI also prefer men to ask me out in advance, but it doesn't hurt to go out on one date just for fun. You can socialize and get to know him for 1-2 dates but just make sure to cut it off if he's not worth investing in. The way he's asking you out is a bit too casual IMO too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Lies We Tell OurselvesHaha, I convinced myself I was curvy for years too. But then I lost weight and I became petite (with a nice booty). Funny how that works... | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 03:18 AM |
| 6 | Link List: RP, Relationships, Self Improvement, Education, BlogsI never heard of him until now, his videos are excellent. Great traditional perspectives on relationships and marriage without the women bashing/PUA tactical points of TRP. And he makes great points of doing things together as a couple instead of putting so much pressure on each person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Lies We Tell OurselvesI think, when it comes down to it, all this extreme behavior you see in young people is a fundamental backlash to the uncertainty of their roles right now, combined with the exposure that social media affords (everything looks as if they have a perfect life when they don't), and throw in the 'everyone can do/be anything' in the mix, and you have a lot of young people doing a lot of stupid stuff. I laughed, then had a millisecond of depression because it's sadly true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 03:36 AM |
| 3 | Childlike vs. ChildishA lot of men like women who can goof off with them and just have fun. I agree, and that's why intelligence matters to a certain extent - a woman is a much more enjoyable companion for a man if she can partake in witty banter or tease each other on the same level. It keeps the relationship fresh. Which is why physical appearance can only go so far, a woman's brains and social intelligence will pay off in a more fulfilling relationship. Intelligence on the academic level may not be as attractive b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 12:41 AM |
| 7 | Oneitis, how to safely verify early on?It's normal to fret and be obsessed when you're attracted, I hear you and I've been there myself. Stalking does not ever get you the results you want. Focus on being a great woman and he'll be silly to miss out on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/17 10:47 PM |
| 6 | Oneitis, how to safely verify early on?You are making this way more complicated than it needs to be. You are stalking him like a middle school girl. If you are feeling a good connection with him and share the same goals for a relationship then I don't see any reason to be worried. Concentrate on what's happening in person and not his last logged in status. As for trying to see if he's seeing other girls, and would wait until you've proven yourself as a quality woman and then directly ask him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/17 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Lots of FriendsI seem crazy but I'm really not...just artistic personality 😋 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/17 01:24 PM |
| 1 | How big a difference does class make for relationships, marriage and risk of divorce? (article from The Economist)Look, in the UK if you went to an elite private school, come from old money, have the right accents etc etc..... but you are penniless artist/actor/poet or whathaveyou then you are still UC/UMC. Can confirm. Had a very close British friend who was an extremely talented musician - father has several degrees from Oxford and is a doctor of some sort. Don't know if she went to elite private school but she has the posh London accent, is culturally aware and has excellent taste in fashion. She looks a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/17 10:57 AM |
| 1 | How big a difference does class make for relationships, marriage and risk of divorce? (article from The Economist)Out of curiosity what do the parents do for a living? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/17 10:49 AM |
| 5 | Lots of FriendsMy friends consist of: -One big group of married couples (some single girls though) -One girlfriend who is married and 10 years older than me -One married couple 6 years older than me (I'm obviously friends with the wife first but also the husband) -One girlfriend my age who is half SJW half RPW -One colleague, a SJW but she has a fun personality and she's the one I vent my work frustrations to...we also have a group of four colleagues that are the younger ones at my school -My flatmate -Mothers… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 09:42 PM |
| 3 | High RMV Maleflexibility, creativity, optimism, consistency, gratitude for things most people take for granted (things most people feel entitled to), and passion for self-improvement. These are traits that are attractive to me as well but we don't hear about them as often...! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/17 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Can we really have it all? (Family and career)This is quite a late comment but if you look into private counseling as a nutritionist, you could have a flexible schedule. You won't have benefits like working for a big company but you'll have the luxury of adjusting your own schedule. If you like being a businesswoman then it's also a good challenge. However think carefully about it as an introvert, business isn't usually our Forte! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 01:20 PM |
| 10 | The Case for GravitasLove this post. This could also be why I'm attracted to stoic men and not talkative men - stoic men tend to have a certain gravitas about them that makes you trust them. I've met some men who talk on and on and on and I don't seem to feel so comfortable about relying on them, they're just there for fun and games. I like to also think of feminine gravitas similarly to our motherly side. Mothers have that serenity and peaceful attitude when something goes wrong, they are responsible, they are know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 09:34 AM |
| 7 | The Case for GravitasDear God I relate with this post too. I had to be MORE dumb because I was too smart, too knowledgeable, too responsible, too mature. I did everything very well, I'm very focused and goal oriented, but I was too poised. I also learned how to lighten up and be a little stupid and lo and behold, men are chasing me and people like me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 09:27 AM |
| 21 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?I knew what you meant, and it doesn't matter. Being a fun mom doesn't mean being an actual mother. Mothering comes from imparting values to eventually become a responsible adult, not "how to win games." Being a fun mom isn't bad and definitely is necessary at times, but that's not ALL mothering is about. If you think being a mother is only hanging out with your child and having fun, instead of being involved when he gets in trouble, is confused about life, doesn't know how to take responsibility… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 08:04 PM |
| 8 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?My parents didn't make anywhere near the amount of money you and your SO do, and my mom stayed home. Comparing my upbringing to my friends, some who were wealthy and had nannies, I was absolutely privileged in this respect. I am the same way, my father made a solid income and my mom did some freelance work but basically stayed home. I loved being with my mother when I was young. It just made such a difference coming home from elementary school and middle school and knowing she was there, her mak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 06:45 PM |
| 3 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?Exactly, that's why I said it's all to do with value systems. It seems like OP has a different value system than her partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 05:23 PM |
| 19 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?Well, it seems like the issue is between you and your SO - that you both are disagreeing on this pretty important issue of how to raise a family. How come you don't trust his judgment? This is a strong value system that should be discussed between the two of you. I say value system because as a woman, I don't find "crushing my child at charades" as motherly love. Motherly love is nurturing, tending to their needs through domestic duties, loving them through discipline, teaching them about the wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:48 PM |
| 5 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?Both of us could work 40 hours a week and one of us could see the kids off to school and the other could be home when the kids get home. We would both spend evenings and weekends with our kids. This is normal and understandable. For me it's the maid and the chef, which is replacing you as a parent. But again, it's completely up to your cultural and familial values. My sister in laws sister is outsourcing the childcare when the baby is one years old, just so they can make money (and they're not i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:41 PM |
| 24 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?This I feel is completely dependent on cultural and familial values. Personally, here's the thing about having a chef and maid. Even though you might save money and time by outsourcing, you are teaching a valuable lesson to your children to take care of themselves, take care of their home, take responsibility for themselves. Cooking as the mother is a huge bonding activity between the mother and the child - passing down family recipes, showing your child how to set the table, teaching your child… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:17 PM |
| 7 | feeling resentful towards my husbandIt doesn't seem like she thinks he's being unfaithful, it's just that he's out having fun and she's left home alone pregnant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Real feminismThis is an excellent reminder to all of us first world anti-feminists of our privilege in the scheme of the globe. While we need to continue to develop what feminism means in the West in order to make relationships healthy and satisfying, it's thought provoking to remember there are women out there who are fighting for basic human rights. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 09:58 PM |
| 2 | He is afraid of himself.I think it's fine to be with a busy and ambitious man because that's what we're all attracted to. Just make sure you know what you are getting into, that you will have to be compassionate to his busy life. Keep yourself busy and try not to rely on all his energies to keep you happy. As long as you understand what the relationship will be like then go for it. I know plenty of couples where the man is busy with his career and the wife supports him and lives a more relaxed life (or she has a career… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Book recommendations for women in relationships, but not yet married?What are the Steve Harvey books? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 11:27 AM |
| 1 | How do you determine your 'league?' and accurately measure your sexual market value?There were some questions I felt were subjective - things like high forehead, width between eyes, length between jaw and ear, how do you distinguish between "average nose" and "small nose" if it's borderline? Or average legs and long legs? Or average lips and plump lips? Things like that I feel were subjective unless there were distinct proportions you can measure. I thought it was interesting she took away points for having too high an IQ, that above average IQ was the most attractive. Also it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 10:59 AM |
| 5 | How do you determine your 'league?' and accurately measure your sexual market value?Fascinating! You should post this as a separate thread for everyone to try. Some of the physical are pertaining to Caucasians though, for instance asking me if my eyes are large and saucer like doesn't work as an Asian female. I have small, almond shaped eyes as do the majority of us. So in a way the test is also saying "ideal female beauty" is working against Asians because of eye size. Fortunately my European boyfriend thinks it's exotic... | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 09:16 AM |
| 7 | Being feminine and wearing blackLove the use of the word "canvas" for wearing black! I have an outfit where I wear black leggings and a simple black tank top plus a colorful chiffon kimono-cardigan. Makes it pop out and I also show off my figure in a subtle manner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/17 08:34 PM |
| – | When your partner has a problemI think I'm just wondering in general...it's just difficult because sometimes when you catch up with friends and they want to know what's going on in your life but you feel like you can't say anything about your life for privacy. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/17 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How did you learn to be successful with men?My mother taught me a lot of RMV qualities (being pleasant, sweet, fun, domestic, intelligent, chaste, respectful) but not so much SMV. The only things with SMV were to look attractive and stay fit, but she actually told me to be more quiet and not aggressive, which can be good but I was already a shy girl so it made it a little worse. She never taught me how to flirt though (like how to respond or how to say flirty things back). I severely lacked in SMV during college because my circle was very… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/17 03:38 PM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Most men out there aren't RP men, meaning they aren't just wanting to sleep with women. Yes it does happen that sometimes men just want sex but educated men don't usually sleep around that much. It's tiring to go out and look for prospects actually and it's tiring to keep up a game/plates, since there's time and money involved. A lot of men (past a certain age) will not waste their time on just plating women because they have better things to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 01:01 PM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?How old are you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Female Lawyers Are So Different!Had a female lawyer roommate for a year, she would always be bringing men back home. Once she threw a party with 10-12 men and just her and one other girl. It was sketchy as hell. She was extremely manipulative and passive aggressive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/17 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Cmv: women won't appreciate your positive qualities unless they are attracted to you.If you look at stangers or co-workers acting nice around pretty people, it's not because they appreciate their work more - it's because we're hard-wired to like beauty. I admit this happens to me and I'm not a model, just slightly above average attractiveness but the cuteness charisma helps. More women need to understand their personality can really bump up their attractiveness - if you're friendly and pleasant and look like a good girl, my God people treat you like a delicate flower and try not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/17 01:32 PM |
| 3 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I'm looking for guys The last guy who caught my attention I figured I had a better chance with him. Do you see a trend here? You're doing the hunting, the chasing, the active part of dating and you should be doing the opposite. Don't "go" for guys. Work on being yourself and showing your personality and let them come to you. Plus, do you really want to be with someone that is only with you because you chased him or do you want to be with someone who thought you were cute and chased you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy: Have you ever seriously thought about cheating and/or acted on it?Well you're not wrong, I could probably give myself more credit for it, but I'm just not an aggressive type of woman who needs to fight for attention. I know those types and I'm just not like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 01:12 PM |
| 8 | Married when he had nothingI never saw it as a 'lack of success', I have always been so proud of his drive & initiative & entrepreneurial spirit. Beautiful point! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 11:21 AM |
| 3 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?While you're right on some level, remember that we're not trying to attract RP men who only want to sleep with women. If that's the case then yes only looks and age matters. Maybe the guys that OP is trying to attract don't just want to sleep with a girl, maybe they are actually looking for a relationship so in that case yes, her personality and charisma matters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Hypergamy: Have you ever seriously thought about cheating and/or acted on it?I know I'm more valuable and attractive than I make it out to be, I'm just not aggressive or entitled or superior about it. I've pretty much achieved all my goals. When other women think they're hot shit they flaunt it but I've got a more quiet confidence. Thanks for your reply anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 09:04 AM |
| 3 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?"Stupid shit" means just voicing my opinions and what I think. In a nutshell yes basically just showing who you are instead of being closed off and nervous. It's not odd behavior it's just who you are. Some guys tend to notice a girl for a while before making a move...just depends. Some are more forward and will go for it after chatting a few times and some might just need to be in the right mindset and looking for a girlfriend. I've also noticed some guys don't ask out a girl he's interested in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:29 PM |
| 4 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Try being more open and friendly and interested in the people you're interacting with. Take the attention off of yourself and show your interest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:25 PM |
| 7 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I wouldn't take these definitions too inside the box. Mannerisms and charismatic personality also filter into a woman's SMV. If a woman is stone cold or a bitch, no matter how hot she is, a lot of men wouldn't sleep with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 08:37 PM |
| 2 | How long should two be dating before engagement/marriage?A year of steady dating is enough to know someone well and get engaged, but probably two is safer. I've sort of noticed I've never gotten past two years of an LTR because if it never got to the marriage stage by then I called it quits, usually because we realized we weren't right for each other in the end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy: Have you ever seriously thought about cheating and/or acted on it?I do hold myself to a high moral standard (INFJ) but a fleeting minuscule part of me does wish I was high value enough to get away with cheating. I just see it so often, women cheat and run off a new man but the new boyfriend doesn't seem to bat an eye that she cheated to be with him. They just so badly want to know they're desired and also the new man works hard to keep her happy (not saying big things but those boyfriends that really aim to please her in every tiny way) I'm not as high mainten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 06:56 PM |
| 6 | How long should two be dating before engagement/marriage?2) The goal of dating is to marry. If you aren't ready for marriage yet, I'm not going on the first date with you. 3) The purpose of dating is to determine whether this person is suitable for me to marry or not. This needs to be understood more for women who are looking to marry - you can't just date around and find a fun guy. Unless your goal is just to have a fun boyfriend that's fine, but if your goal is to marry then you have to look for marriage material men. I'm also from a culture that da… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 04:09 PM |
| 8 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Your "league" is mainly about physical charisma (not exactly your looks alone, but the sum of your appearance, mannerisms, your general "vibe") and your personality (social skills and intellect). Agreed. OP, are you shy? Do you have good social skills and can showcase who you are? I used to blend into the wall until I started talking and being more approachable, and just saying "stupid shit" and showing who I was inside. Then I started attracting these quiet intelligent guys that you describe. N… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 09:58 AM |
| 2 | Women receiveHe actually also fell into my life at the right time, I was living in a small town then where everyone knew each other and somehow he found me and we started talking. He can read people pretty well and I think he has a hobby of talking to random people and getting a sense of what their problems would be. I didn't look him up on a website or anything! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 09:44 AM |
| 3 | Women receiveHe's given really wonderful advice to me, based on the female role. Not only has he given good guidance but he's helped to solve some inner problems of mine that I haven't able to solve with multiple therapists of this "controlling and analyzing" methodology. I thought it was interesting he also advises this childlike nature of women (similar to Fascinating Womanhood) and in general being forgiving and receiving and flowing. He's fantastic! teaches you from all around you growing up to take cont… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 01:49 AM |
| 3 | "He chose his job."there is the stereotype of men complaining that their wives frivolously spend all their hard earned money. This is true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 10:19 PM |
| 21 | Hypergamy: Have you ever seriously thought about cheating and/or acted on it?For me, no, I have never thought about cheating and never acted on it. Why? Because I'm actually afraid of the consequences: 1) him not forgiving me (yes, men do forgive women for cheating) 2) moral character/reputation (I believe things do come back around to you in life, if it's gossip or loss of reputation) and 3) the simple fact that I don't want to ever be cheated on so I will never hurt my partner like that. I really feel like if I cheated then that stains my character for future relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 07:08 PM |
| 2 | CMV: The easiest way for men (or women!) to get hotter is to lift and eat rightNo, but I'm saying "girl game" only goes so far and apparently is not the basis of a lasting LTR, even though everyone says to keep sparks going | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/17 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Not much love, warmthMy boyfriend is awful on the phone, he is active only when there's something to talk about (a problem, news with his job or my job) otherwise he has that mindset of "why do we need to talk if there's nothing wrong." We're better at texting pictures to each other. He is much more affectionate in person. Your boyfriend might be like that too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 07:25 PM |
| 2 | CMV: The easiest way for men (or women!) to get hotter is to lift and eat rightMy boyfriends have always said they wished they could get to know the "real" me (meaning dressed down comfortable me) instead if this "fake flirty girl." Which I thought was interesting. I can put out pretty good girl game if I want to (witty banter, teasing) but they're always like "I'm way too tired for this just hug me." Whenever I would send my boyfriend sexy pics he seemed to acknowledge it but not really flirt back, he seemed to want to actually talk to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/17 06:10 PM |
| 7 | CMV: The easiest way for men (or women!) to get hotter is to lift and eat rightTo be fair, I've tried really hard to keep the flirtiness but my boyfriend (and previous ones) seem to think LTR means comfortable. They also stopped putting effort and/or tell me they love me how I am no matter what. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/17 05:52 PM |
| 1 | "He chose his job."Quite a lot of times I see the husband having done a MBA and in some tough job while the woman majored in something like English and is now sitting at home looking after her kids. So basically, men have to sacrifice themselves so that women can do what they wish to. It's sad to think that women have the choice to choose "useless" majors (history, literature, etc) because they don't need to worry about providing. Not that they can't choose high paying fields like business or finance, but they don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 03:58 PM |
| 4 | "He chose his job."Also, a man can impregnate a woman and pass away shortly after, yet his seed still lives on. If a woman is impregnated and dies, the child dies too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 12:17 PM |
| 5 | "He chose his job."Women used to understand this before they stopped trusting men to do their job and decided they needed their own careers. Imagine if a woman could invest as much time in her husband and family as she did in a career. Are women as bitter about doing their paid job as they are about doing the laundry for their husbands? I'm in the second year of a few full-time, salaried job, working for "corporate," and before I was pretty much freelancing. I didn't make much money at the time but I had an easy s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 11:41 AM |
| 9 | "He chose his job."I just don't hear men complaining about having to support their stay at home wife as much as I hear women complaining about having to cleanup after their husbands. This is so true. So so true. My father never complained about providing for my mother (and mind you he gave her a cushy life, nice house, nice furniture, car) and in return my mother complains about cooking for him. Which takes one hour a day for dinner. And he's out there grinding it out 40 hours a week plus overtime as needed. I swe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/17 09:43 PM |
| 3 | "He chose his job."Alphas want to leave an effect on the world and change society, women come to them as a side effect. Yes and this is exactly what drew me to my boyfriend, because he's so ambitious and wants to make an impact on society. I feel like I couldn't be attracted to a man who didn't want to make a contribution. I felt she was being disrespectful and ungrateful, she also made it seem like it's easy for women to do the same kinds of jobs (perhaps a handful but certainly not all, I'm talking about academi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/17 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Timeline for Women - from potential date to wife materialWe discussed this before in another thread (the so-called dating culture) and in American culture, during the college years and shortly post grad, this is how most of my friends have hooked up with their partners, through mutual friends, similar to what you're saying in Romania. For me that's how I met my first boyfriend. While this can be a good thing (mutual friends and social circles mean you're around people of the same economic status and mindset and lifestyle) I found it especially difficu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 06:22 PM |
| 7 | The male equivalent of "I love you so much!"For my boyfriend: Respect his need for space and rest after he's had a long day=don't talk his ear off about my problems or bombard him with more tasks. Respect him for working so hard and building his career=encourage him when he's stressed or feeling down, believe in him. Respect him for taking care of me=say thank you after he takes me out/pays for me/does something for me, tell him I love having him around because I feel safe. Respect his decision making=don't second guess him or tell him I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 11:48 PM |
| 5 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"Yes yes yes yes yes to this whole comment. Needs more upvotes. Divorced men remarry more easily than divorced women - because their youth and beauty is gone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/17 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"I think emptying the dishwasher and washing the sheets is fine too, I also do the same. I guess I was thinking cleaning like mopping the whole apartment and scrubbing the shower and toilet and dusting every single corner type of cleaning. I make my boyfriend's bed whenever I sleep over and fold his clothes and push in the dining chairs and fluff the couch pillows to tidy things up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 07:00 PM |
| 3 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"By wifey mode, do you mean cooking for him, cleaning his home when you visit, doing his laundry etc? Somehow, I find cooking a very natural part of dating, and I'd probably already do it on the 3rd date or something. Wifey mode as a girlfriend, I would never clean his home for him if I wasn't his wife. The only cleaning I would do is clean up the kitchen if I cooked for him, doing his laundry if he was too busy and iron his clothes (which he can't do regardless of being busy or not). But no, I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"For me I do slip into wifey mode maybe towards the end of one year of dating, but my boundary is not cohabiting. For me the adage "why buy the cow if you're getting the milk for free" is a big one. Things like caring for him when he's sick, occasionally doing his laundry when he's too busy, cooking for him, all happen after the honeymoon period has worn off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 04:46 PM |
| 11 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"If a man is truly into a woman, it will be some time before he notices if she can even boil water. I think the main caveat is not to use wife qualities as an attempt to keep a man's interest. Because it never works. These are really interesting points, and I find them true. Over at RP they emphasize proving your RMV through domestic duties but I've observed a lot of men staying with women who aren't the best cooks or may be a little messy. I definitely don't think being or not being the perfect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 04:31 PM |
| 4 | How to better demonstrate value?When I hang around with 30 year old's who are still dating, that kind of "stay at home" date is way more typical and common early in the relationship. That's true, and I've noticed men in their 30's who are looking to settle are looking for more of the domestic aspect of a woman. They're usually well into their careers and working more and may just want that soft spot not an adventure partner. Liberal men in their 20's tend to look for adventure partners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 08:08 PM |
| 7 | How to better demonstrate value?I see what you mean and I've also observed this phenomenon. I think it comes with being a millennial as well, especially oones who earn high salaries and have liberal tendencies, then people tend to want partners who are also best friends and can bring intellect to the relationship because they're not worried about surviving. I see it outside the US too (I live abroad). Nowadays young couples like doing things together, going out together to events with other friends, having their own friends ci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageWe talk about cohabitation as a relationship stage, but that's not all it is. It's a commitment in itself, especially financially. If you're on a lease with another person, you're legally bound. If you live with someone, breaking up is a much bigger ordeal and I feel like someone would be more likely to ignore red flags to avoid that hardship. It's so tricky to tell, too. I know plenty of LTRs where they cohabited to try it out then sealed the deal, but also plenty of LTRs where they cohabited, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 06:07 PM |
| 1 | How to better demonstrate value?Will often backfire, especially if you're a yuppie Can you explain this more? Just curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 05:32 PM |
| 18 | How to better demonstrate value?I feel like we need to discuss more about RPW strategies and when to implement them in which phases of the relationship. Definitely I agree with you don't be so eager at the beginning of the relationship. I made this mistake (not to the same degree as him breaking it off completely) but I realized I was giving him too much and had to back off. I don't really like relationship games but I do believe there needs to be some sort of strategy along the way where you show what you can offer but withou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 03:36 PM |
| 5 | Navigating the rest of Reddit as a RPW?I might understand if it's regarding the specific sub TRP but as far RPW, I don't think we're doing anything wrong. No woman had a successful marriage by nagging and being aggressive and getting fat. Why is it so bad? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Striking the right balanceAs to marriage, I do not know, really. I think we live in the age of Marriage 2.0 where the point is not about what which practical benefits can one provide for the other, but more of the commitment to a lifelong partnership with someone who shares your long term goals, interests, passions. That could also be a cultural difference. In Taiwan at least in my parents generation, women were pretty dumb. It was a chauvinist culture. They needed men to show them things about the world and the wife wou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Striking the right balanceAs a side note regarding the social circles, at least with him I've noticed he has a lot of friends that are girls and he really has no interest in sleeping with them. They're just for intellectual stimulation or business Ventures. But I actually grew up with a more separated social circle, my father did not have any female friends, my mother did not have any male friends. So that's what I mean by that. He actually laughed at me when I said I don't make friends with men unless we are colleagues,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 10:06 AM |
| 6 | What do you as women feel you offer a relationship?My boyfriend says I stimulate him because I'm pretty curious - I have interests and want to explore and try to learn new things. I'm artistic so he appreciates that about me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Striking the right balanceThe issues you mention are, I think, all too common in developing countries, especially if the individual experienced the development and transition during their lifetime. My boyfriend is Sicilian. So he grew up quite poor because all the money is in the industrial north. I think you hit it right on the head about development and transition. He worked in Milano previously and saw how the girls there were very independent and cultured but at the same time he couldn't get along with them because t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Striking the right balanceWhere in Europe are you from? I'm American but Asian so some of our values are different too. My boyfriend is southern European. There are some things I'm learning like the man and the woman have their own social circles and seem to not really hang out with each other unless it's at home. Whereas I grew up that the man and the woman basically do everything together except work. It was something strange for me to grasp because he comes from a traditional culture, that's why we got along, and he s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Striking the right balanceFirst off thank you for your comment it was very helpful overall. Why does he have to be the prize and not you? Not saying you should display an entitled attitude, but appreciate yourself more for your efforts. I thought about this and I think I read too much of the "don't compete with your man, let him win" theory and I'm afraid I've gone the whole other way. I used to be very independent and successful. Actually I would say I'm more successful than my boyfriend because I have a higher salary. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Striking the right balanceWhat are you doing to manage the stress that you know makes you act in a way that is unlike yourself? I manage by exercising and eating right (not eating too many sweets). I know the past two weeks I haven't made it to the gym and I will been eating way too much chocolate for my own good. So have been more unable to control my moods. It's all in the delivery. This is a complete guess, but do you tend to bottle things up inside of you for a while, only to explode later? Yes this is exactly me. I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 09:30 AM |
| 3 | Feminism in AsiaAnd that's funny because I couldn't respect a man who couldn't show me the world! I would think he was too weak or feeble. I guess we all get off on different traits. I also grew up with a strong father figure who was a saint and we all entrusted him to make decisions for us. I think women who grew up with an absent or weak father would prefer the beta dynamic. Something about not trusting a man would make a woman want to be in more control, I think. But to each her own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 07:34 AM |
| 4 | FR: My Husband F***ed Up Today...Just wanted to say this was a really enlightening comment because I just called my boyfriend out on some serious things. I have a hard time not being a doormat and my problem is being a doormat and not saying when I have an issue (usually major things I don't fuss about trivial things). This really helped me see the fact that honesty is appreciated sometimes because it means we have standards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/17 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenAnother indicator to children's success? Their first name. Can you elaborate on this? Meaning like "normal" names vs "trashy" names or literally the name (Mary vs Beth for example). | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 06:15 PM |
| 1 | I need help dissuading my friend's opinionsWomen are perfectionists and we constantly worry about how we appear to other people. For good reason though. Men place such an important emphasis on female beauty and mannerisms. I feel like I'm a little more uptight when I have to be careful of how I act and appear to be feminine sometimes because that's what's attractive to men. I think deep down every girl has a princess complex. Enlightening comment, also known as female entitlement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 05:31 PM |
| 9 | Do you actually enjoy dating?It depends on my mood to be honest. If I'm in a social and charming mood, I enjoy it and I enjoy the attention. If I'm tired or a bit depressed then of course I loathe it. What I really hate about dating is I don't know if I can trust that person and it's difficult to tell sometimes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenExcept she's European. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 12:31 PM |
| 6 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenI think the men that leave have serious problems, like alcoholism or addiction or gambling. If it's generally a good marriage (no major red flags), men don't usually leave on their own will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 10:38 AM |
| 3 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenIn this specific case, the single mother makes an upper middle class income. The child is spoiled, if anything. The mother has fancy things. They are also European, if that makes any difference. Yes, it is a case of bad parenting. But perhaps if there was a father figure in the family, the mother feels secure in the relationship, doesn't have to work full-time and can be more invested in the child. The single mother working full-time and also putting her free time into dating her boyfriend (who … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Why do some men date women that are less atractive?Hmm. Very interesting point. I always thought it would be the other way (higher SMV woman) because the man wouldn't stray, but female hypergamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 11:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?I do understand the "travel slut" concept but still, it's not everyone. Almost all of my travels were with my parents or with my boyfriend. The ones that weren't, were with a volunteer organization. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 10:41 PM |
| 6 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenI know this is a bit off-topic but I wanted to say that there wouldn't be many single mothers if men decided to stick around for their kids. This is true. Also, I don't know why she's a single mother. I don't know if it was the father that left or the mother that left. Because in this circumstance, the mother is not low income. She makes a decent upper middle class income. The child is spoiled, if anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 09:07 PM |
| 2 | HappinessMany wealthy people derive great fulfillment and satisfaction from their chase of money, but they're miserable nonetheless. EXACTLY this. I've observed it happen everywhere. After they achieve their goal, they're empty. Then they're onto chasing the next promotion or project etc. I've noticed a lot of rich people unable to enjoy life because they're always thinking about the next step. They don't stop and think about right now and how it's good, right at this moment. Which is basically gratitude… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenThanks, I still have a lot to learn and it certainly takes a lot of work and patience. Long way to go...! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenMore homogeneous society and also huge emphasis on family, for sure. This specific child is European, but we don't live in Europe. Her mother has the whole independent woman chasing her career bug. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenExactly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenWhere are you from, if I can ask? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenI don't think that phrase means that other people are literally responsible for your children. To me it means that you should also be an upstanding citizen to be a role model for children. If kids just observe adults around them being lazy or fat, they're going to think that's normal or acceptable. If they observe adults around them being hardworking and respectful, they are more likely to become hardworking and respectful as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 08:33 PM |
| 3 | The captain-first mate dynamicI'm already in a relationship (with someone who is always on the same page with me), some time before I came across RP stuff. I find a lot of RP advice to be great advice for making the best of less-than-ideal relationships (like the ones I had with my ex'es). Can you explain how RP advice helped your relationships? If I'm reading correctly, you followed the lead of your ex boyfriends but then those relationships didn't turn out successful. Isn't RP advice to follow the lead? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 10:16 AM |
| 1 | The captain-first mate dynamicWhat would be an ideal dynamic for you, then? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 10:09 AM |
| 5 | New to RPW: Questions on RMV, friends, and meeting high-quality men (and a small rant)I see what you're saying now. I do believe that there is still a relationship "game" but it only works if you vet the right men. What I've learned from my experience and from other people is knowing each other's intentions early on, and also seeing where the guy is in his life. Does he seem like he's partying a lot or having a lot of fun (even while working)? Then he might not be interested in marriage and just wants a companion. Is he really focused on his job and making money? He probably is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 07:29 AM |
| 2 | New to RPW: Questions on RMV, friends, and meeting high-quality men (and a small rant)I mean, isn't it the same as being a plate and being LTR/wife material? Plates just have to look good and fun to be around. When you build a life with someone though, wife material has to be hardworking, have moral character, responsibility, contribute her gifts to the family, have a mission, be supportive, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:42 PM |
| 1 | A Woman's IntelligenceI'd just like to gently insert here though that a stay-at-home mom can raise bratty children, and a working mom can raise wonderful children. Just because someone seems to have a bratty child does not mean that them staying at home is the answer. I can attest to this. I've seen a lot of bratty children because their mom doesn't do any work (since she married a rich guy). Meaning when the mother isn't cooking she's shopping or hanging around. It's really interesting. Good mothers still have to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?Netflix banned here 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?Let's see what happens. Gosh I live in such a boring place I get caught up in trivial drama, haha! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?But that's the thing...is she being too picky? Is there really going to be a better guy that comes around and wants a 34yo woman?? I just read "Mr Good Enough" and my flatmates situation sounds like a lot of those anecdotes in that book. Women in their mid-30's being overly picky about things like hair, height, glasses, hobbies...dumping them and hoping they'll find something better but only to find themselves alone at 40. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?You don't have to be head-over-heels for a man, but you have to want to be with him (and specifically him) forever, and it sounds like she's not that keen. Except that one of the reasons she was unsure was because he's "short" (she's 5'5/5'6 and he's 5'8/5'9). So how picky can she be, really, at 34? Especially about something like height? If he's serious about her and not just stringing her along, I feel like she has to settle. He's not a bad guy otherwise, besides the height "issue." | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?Even post Brexit? I thought there was a good chance that it would get much more restrictive. My EU friends living and working in London don't prove otherwise, at least at the moment. And yes, you're right about Italian/Spanish/etc men and going fast and talking big - except when it comes to meeting Mama. That's why I'm concerned for her. And I know that Latin men are also the type to cohabit without any intention of marrying. If it's very serious, they usually marry before living together and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?EU members can still live and work in the UK easily. I have a feeling this doesn't have anything to do with the passport. I feel like he's being a womanizer. He's Spanish and Latin men can be overly romantic without being serious. She feels like there might be a cultural misunderstanding too. That's why it's so complicated and she's unsure. He's 31 and has been professing his love for her and urge for marriage and they've only dated four months. I've heard some things about Spanish/Italian men g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?They're both not American. I think she has a British passport and he has EU. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Should I help my roommate?Unless I'm remembering wrong, didn't she move in with another guy before only to find he didn't want to get married? Why does she want to repeat that colossal mistake? That's part of the reason why she's uncertain and thought about not cohabiting before marriage anymore. I think he's really pushing her to move in together. She says the whole thing is going really fast. They did take a week long vacation before and he's not a bad guy, has a stable job and is a gentleman. He has invited her to his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 06:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Yeah, same here (I didn't have any crazy international sex). The majority of my travelling was with my parents actually! And some with my boyfriend at the time. I'm really not a "solo" traveler and I'm really careful when single women ask me to travel with them (I know of friends who have had Euro threesomes or whatever) because I know it can be more provocative as two young women traveling. Although I did meet my current boyfriend abroad. Everybody has reasons for travelling. There are people w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/17 12:45 PM |
| 3 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?That's pretty interesting. I can definitely understand because I knew a lot of young expats that basically just jumped from country to country every few years or so. They also tended to stay single into their late 30's and 40's. These types of people also did party and sleep around too, "sampling" the international flavor (both men and women). So it is true to an extent. On the other side, I also saw a lot of expat families that either settled into another country (for instance, there were tons … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 08:49 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Sicily is beautiful for the mountains, beaches and the sea. Palermo is such a gorgeous town too. Eat cannoli and arancini while you're there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?A safari is nice but the good spots will be northwest Tanzania (Serengeti, Ngorongoro Crater, Tarangire, Arusha national park). The closest town would be Arusha. You can take a charter plane from Dar to Arusha which takes about an hour. Arusha is a huge backpackers and tourist destination because of the safaris and also Mt Kili. I've been to Dar a few times but I don't think there's really much there to see in the city. Two weeks is more than enough in Zanzibar, unless you want to hang around th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Zanzibar is pretty safe, safer than mainland I would say. It's a small island so you'll see a lot of it easily. I would go on a walking tour and they can show you around the town and the slave markets back when there was slave trade. The food is to die for. It's easy to get cheap fresh fish. Also be sure to eat mandazi (Tanzanian donut) and mishkaki (kebabs). There are also plantations you can take a tour around. Also go to the beach! I think we stayed at Dhow palace hotel and it was beautiful w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?I'm really into national parks. There's tons out West, my favorites are in Arizona, California, Oregon, Wyoming, Colorado, Washington state, Montana. Of course check out the more historic cities like Philadelphia, Boston, Washington DC. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 05:11 PM |
| 2 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?I don't use any sort of different travel bag. I just carry a cross shoulder bag or a big handbag when I'm walking in the city. To me it's sort of like exploring at home. I think when you make it really obvious you're a tourist (trekking packs, fanny packs) is when you get trouble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Go to Sicily/Palermo as well. I love Sicily. The people are so gentile and very different than northern Italians. Since a lot of Sicilians immigrated to the US in the past, you can see the cultural roots better in Sicily. The food is way better too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:26 PM |
| 4 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?I can't say because it actually offended some people here in the past, I'll pm you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:21 PM |
| 2 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Stonetown is really cool and historic. I did chimpanzee trekking in Uganda (sadly no gorillas) but Ugandans are so hospitable and really lovely people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:19 PM |
| 2 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Yes, although I didn't see much of the countryside. Nairobi is really fascinating because it's pretty developed for an African city. You can also see the influence from the British colonialism. Kenyans are totally different from the neighboring East Africans as well, since their middle class is rising. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:08 PM |
| 14 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?Yes, I love traveling. Currently living in my second city abroad. I've been to 20 countries so far. It really humbles you and gives you a broader perspective of the world and also your personal problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:04 PM |
| 2 | How do you girls feel about travelling? have you done much of it?I loved East Africa. I recommend going to Kigali. Rwanda has really turned around as a country after the genocide and it's amazing to see. Uganda and Tanzania have some really stunning naturalistic itineraries as well. Zanzibar has the Arab and Indian influence and it's really interesting to see (especially the fresh produce and spices)! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Problems with my Guy's WeightIt seems like he's trying. As long as he's putting in effort, be forgiving to him and trust that he'll achieve his goal. If you don't trust him then I would find someone with a more compatible lifestyle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 11:41 PM |
| 16 | Problems with my Guy's WeightMy father let himself go when they married. He was stressed at work and ate for comfort. My mom nagged at him for over a decade. Once she stopped nagging and giving a shit, he began losing weight on his own accord. Now my mom is the fat one. Everyone will have some kind of "vice" whether it's laziness, gluttony, lust, etc. You're probably perfect in your fitness/health but I'm sure you're not perfect in other ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 08:25 PM |
| 3 | A Woman's IntelligenceI'm always curious because I see some families where they have two or three children all within the same age range, then they'll have youngest child that's a 10-15 year age gap. I have a feeling that was when the mother didn't know what else to do after her children became older, so she had another baby. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 05:30 PM |
| 1 | A Woman's IntelligenceIn your opinion, what do you think Jessica should have done? I mean, what if she was genuinely dumb enough to not be able to have a decent job? Not all women are smart enough to have administrative or engineering or medical jobs, etc that have higher salaries to allow them support themselves financially, or the smarts to work up a company. And why would it be bad for women to be SAHM instead of being forced into the workforce? I mean, yes, it is the easy way out. But there are some cultures wher… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Unique ways/things to improveThis is good advice for men that enjoy this type of sex. Personally for my boyfriend, he's completely happy with leading in the bedroom and he just expects me to be enthusiastic and willing. We're both pretty passionate for each other so we don't need any crazy weird creativity. Good, genuine, loving, intense sex is all we need for us. Plus he's so stressed out about work most of the time, he's perfectly happy with a simple enthusiastic blowjob. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 11:25 AM |
| 10 | Unique ways/things to improveI try to practice staying happy, being patient, being positive...I used to struggle with depression so I feel like it takes an effort to be "normal," but it definitely is much easier. Right now I'm learning how make some of my boyfriend's favorite foods, some are his family recipes which make it really special. Also reading, because it helps me focus. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 10:28 PM |
| 7 | A Woman's IntelligenceBuilding an amazing family is a great 'mission'. But so is becoming a wonderful teacher, or starting a church, or building a company, or reviving an old town. Women & men should not be shamed for any of these choices and YES they all require so much intelligence!! Agreed. Besides taking care of their families, women can still help their communities somehow. Perhaps most women aren't cut out for corporate CEO positions but there are plenty of jobs for women to do that are important for building s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 07:58 PM |
| 8 | Mothering stylesYes, I see this pattern in a lot of men I know. My father was very independent growing up, knew what to do and how to handle everything himself, my grandmother always left him alone. He despises when my mother tells him what to do. He originally chose her because she was sweet and submissive but she turned into a nagging shrew later on. My boyfriend is the same as my father, handles everything himself. I'm quite submissive and I don't really like telling people what to do (unless I'm at my job).… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 07:37 PM |
| 3 | My grandparents' marriage.I loved this post. It's similar to my parental grandparents, except my grandfather died unexpectedly in his 40's. I do wonder if hard times make for a better relationship. The fact that you really are a team to make it through life successfully. Nowadays there's too many options so women are hypergamous - she can (or thinks) she can find something better. There's more appreciation as each other's spouses. My parents immigrated to the US and it was similar, they had to really pull together as a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 07:55 AM |
| – | About wanting to be more interesting.Do you think you're just nervous or socially anxious? If you have plenty to talk about (hobbies, books, general knowledge) it shouldn't be a problem to keep up with conversation. Banter is an art, there's different kinds (agree and amplify, sarcasm, light jokes) and that can be developed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/17 07:47 PM |
| – | Female American FBI translator marries ISIS terrorist, puts own marriage & national security at riskLearn about what? Muslim countries? They've been on the map for a while...! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/17 11:14 AM |
| – | Female American FBI translator marries ISIS terrorist, puts own marriage & national security at riskI can't post here for privacy reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/17 10:10 AM |
| – | Female American FBI translator marries ISIS terrorist, puts own marriage & national security at riskI actually live under Sharia law. There are some restrictions for sure, but a lot of the "extreme" laws are very subtle and hidden. It can be romanticized in certain ways (that I actually enjoy) but there are some parts that can be quite terrifying, of course. One of benefits of Sharia law is I haven't had to worry about people stealing. Women leave their designer bags unattended at restaurants all the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/17 04:21 AM |
| 2 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?I think I did see the suggestion as per your review! It was certainly an interesting read. I was actually a bit miffed and rolling my eyes reading it just because of the entitlement of the author and the women she interviewed...but I forget that there are people who really think they're all that and deserve everything. I did especially love the part where one of the women is sitting next to some attractive guy, and realized his fiancée is there and is some average looking woman, and she starts g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/17 03:26 AM |
| 11 | T-shirts and public visibilityI personally don't want to make my traditional family values into a marketing business, but perhaps others would enjoy it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 05:00 PM |
| 2 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?Gottlieb also addressed this in the book, saying that many women might complement well with a man but there might be something that doesn't inspire respect, especially the career woman and the less driven husband. She says to understand what might complement your needs and respect what he does for your life. Also things like do you really think you're better than him? She says a lot of women think they're perfect and awesome but they're far from it, and then they expect their husbands to be perf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about age gaps.My boyfriend is almost 35, I'm late 20's, and men in their mid-30's aren't old fogies. My boyfriend is at the prime of his life, he's not immature and inexperienced anymore and he's still healthy and young. He's actually the one taking me to all the cool hip places. I find it strange when people say men in their mid-30's are stuffy. I'm most attracted to men in this age range. If you're mature and ready to be a good woman and wife, and don't think you'll have a quarter life crisis (I should be l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 08:41 AM |
| 1 | Let's talk about age gaps.The first and seventh year of marriage are the most difficult. Why do you say the seventh year? Just curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 08:34 AM |
| 15 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?Interesting post because I just finished reading Mr Good Enough - Lori Gottlieb and she addresses this exact question. tldr; There's no perfect partner, and as long as you share the same goals and values, it's a good match. Think practically and not based on the tingles. Marriage takes work anyway, even if it's "the one" there will still be problems. What's important is you have a good relationship with each other and are willing to work through them. Don't know how old you are, but she also mak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/17 10:23 PM |
| 5 | Let's talk about age gaps.Six year gap vs. 15 years is not the same, though... Although I have a seven year gap for me, and it's nice. I really prefer it, because I grew up a daddy's girl and I realized I feel more secure in this dynamic, and it's what he wants too. I need a man with a slight BDSM outlook. I can never go back to dating men my age +3 years like I always did who were so...vanilla and egalitarian. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/17 01:24 PM |
| 3 | Guys Who Continually Get RejectedI don't think I actually know any guys in real life that can't get a girl. Literally every guy I was friends with has had success with a hook-up, LTR or marriage. So it surprises me that there's so many out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 10:53 PM |
| 6 | Finding friends in person?My good girlfriends and I all have something in common - either work related, or culture related. Otherwise I have a difficult time making girlfriends. I don't completely avoid the feminist agenda because I think it's interesting to see what happens to women who follow it...it's a good reminder of what it is. I just make sure not to immerse myself into it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 08:01 PM |
| 2 | What's your job and your partner's job?If you read the books you'll see the medical background, it's super cool! Definitely recommend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women need men more than men need women?nearly every link on the first page (besides someone's personal blog -- Evan Marc Katz) mentions that married women are less happy than married men and less happy than single women. While numbers and statistics don't lie, I would imagine many of those unhappily married women have brought it upon themselves (being ungrateful, nagging, not taking happiness into their own hands). | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 05:01 PM |
| 2 | What's your job and your partner's job?Michael Crichton (author of Jurassic Park series) was a MD that never practiced either. His medical background inspired all the dinosaur DNA stuff. And he created a whole industry for kids and adults to love dinosaurs (with the help of Spielberg)! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that women need men more than men need women?Also, remember that for men, their partner is often their main source of deep, emotional support. Yes, this. I think men can chit-chat easily with other men, but I was surprised how much my boyfriend's friends didn't know about his ambitions. He will talk about surface subjects and joke around with his friends, but I'm the one that knows his deep feelings and urge for validation as a self-made man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 02:37 PM |
| 1 | What's your job and your partner's job?I'm an artist (creative, live by my own rules) and teacher (nurturing, patient). My boyfriend is an engineer (practical, problem solving) and entrepreneur (risk taking, sociable). We pair well because I'm interesting but soft, not super aggressive, and he's not as manipulative as businessmen tend to be. I find engineers to have good hearts because they're so rational. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 08:34 AM |
| 1 | what is an alpha woman?I just read the article and tried to think back on my high schools alpha girls. I think the article is correct in that the alpha girls aren't necessarily sweet and well-liked, people did fear them, both girls and boys. Boys would become betas around them and girls would fear lack of approval. The alpha girls I remember weren't really polite either, they kind of just did what they wanted, said what they wanted to say. Two in particular that I can think of, (it's about ten years since I graduated … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 10:39 PM |
| 1 | What does the ideal man look like?The work one is a difficult balance. My mother made that mindset very clear in how it works. Dad is working hard jobs but not making much money and we are having a hard time living. She says he needs to get a better job or go back to college. He goes to college and keeps working to pay the bills. She says he isn't home enough she she takes me and the siblings away without telling him. He comes home after a hard day of kicking ass to an empty home with no note at all. The thoughts that man must h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong?This is a really quality comment. Something to add - because it sounds like OP is looking for a cool guy - your standards might change when you want to settle. I had some cool alpha guys before when I was younger. Guess what happened? I was just a toy for them. They were alphas that just wanted to mess around and have fun. When I got older I realized I didn't want this type of guy anymore, I couldn't trust them, and it was exhausting to be around them because I constantly had to be cool and hot.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 09:02 PM |
| 1 | What does the ideal man look like?Well no, but just be aware of the possibility and the risks. I know for a fact that nearly all intelligent and successful women I know are very manipulative and lie on some level. Even if they don't directly lie to you, they will find a way around it to be truthful but evade the truth at the same time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 08:20 PM |
| 1 | What does the ideal man look like?If you're talking about the ex-girlfriend from another comment regarding your ideal woman (to take on the world with who was a bit more aggressive to complement you), I think behaviors like cheating, lying, smoking comes with the same personality traits that allow a woman to be intelligent and successful and fearless. My ex-boyfriend was aggressive and proactive and ambitious, but on the other hand he was incredibly unforgiving when I wasn't picture perfect. I think we need to be forgiving on a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Help! Getting engaged in a few days, am I just PMSing and having cold feet, or are my fears valid?He doesn't sound like a family oriented man who would make his wife his queen. He sounds a bit like a bachelor wanting to continue to live the bachelor life but with a woman at his side, following him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 09:14 PM |
| 1 | What does the ideal man look like?Cute face I'll take over mainstream sexy face that has a bunch of flats and sharp edges. I like a warm and soft look. Life is rough and I'm a guy that fears nothing and does a lot of stressful things, so having a soft and warm woman is a good complimentary that I enjoy. That's nice to hear. I always felt uglier (even though I'm not ugly) just because I have that cute face not a sexy sharp smoldering face, and society says that look is more attractive than a cherubic face. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 08:09 PM |
| 1 | curiosity: religion?I'll wear feminine but baggy pants to cover up any parts! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 11:15 AM |
| 2 | Help! Getting engaged in a few days, am I just PMSing and having cold feet, or are my fears valid?He sounds like he adores you but maybe he also doesn't want the pressure of entertaining you by himself. I know my boyfriend is a little like this, he's a workaholic, he lets loose mostly with his friends but he loves having me around. Sometimes when we're alone we're pretty quiet (because I'm not "one if the guys") so he'll take me out to eat or hang around when I'm shopping. This doesn't mean that we don't ever talk, he confides in me, but if every time we spent time together he was confiding … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 10:34 AM |
| 2 | Help! Getting engaged in a few days, am I just PMSing and having cold feet, or are my fears valid?From what you've said, it sounds like enough of an incompatibility to be worried. Especially if you value more alone time. I wouldn't get engaged unless you are OK with this lifestyle because it won't change. I think he just wants me to be an addition to his already existing life style, he doesn't want to change anything about it. Exactly. Has he visited you? Do you have your own life? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 10:20 AM |
| 3 | What does the ideal man look like?Sadly she had a few traits that made the relationship unsustainable. Like what? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 10:05 AM |
| 3 | Help! Getting engaged in a few days, am I just PMSing and having cold feet, or are my fears valid?Do you think he's spending a lot of time with his friends because it keeps things new and not stuck in a comfort zone? Or he's taking you to join his friends' travels because he thinks that will be a better time to have more people? Every relationship is different. I had a LTR that we did literally everything together - grocery shopping, breakfast, same friends, etc. Then I got sick of him. I started getting annoyed at him because we were around each other all the time. If he's not willing to ea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 09:59 AM |
| 5 | I find pleasure in talking to lots of different guys - having 1 LTR often makes me miserable and brings out my insecurities - is RPW not for me?Maybe if you're 22 a few hookups are OK and natural. But we're talking about women who continue to do this until 30 and hoping they can lock down one of those hookups. Those are the women who typically are unsuccessful in LTRs or marriage. I know plenty of women like this, be careful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 09:40 AM |
| 10 | setting a new relationship up for success?Invest in yourself. You're absolutely right that it's rare for first relationships to turn into marriage, so don't put all your eggs in one basket. Continue with your life path that you want for yourself (regardless of your current boyfriend). Enjoy the relationship, investigate a few domestic skills, discover your passions, learn a lot about yourself while you're dating. Who knows, maybe you'll end up being an amazing woman in a few years and he'll want to lock you down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 09:07 AM |
| 3 | How much control did you relinquish?Not for me silly dear! Just out of curiosity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 07:36 PM |
| 1 | what is an alpha woman?If I were to think of an "alpha" equivalent for RPW it would be a young, attractive woman with feminine hobbies and skills and a demure personality who is able to lock down any high value male she wished. This makes sense, like a woman that many men would want to make her his wife and make him settle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 06:31 PM |
| 2 | How much control did you relinquish?I agree. I like online dating for this reason, there's so many people out there that you wouldn't meet otherwise. I never met anyone creepy or weird, all the guys were sort of workaholics, had hobbies that didn't involve girls, and weren't heavy drinkers so not involved in the bar scene. I also know I do well with engineer personality types, so that's sometimes I look for when I was dating. My boyfriend likes artistic women, it's also something he looks for. For him he was so busy working that h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 04:02 PM |
| 12 | How much control did you relinquish?There's also the type of man who does eventually want to get married, but will stay in a relationship for the time being because he's getting benefits but he's not really wanting to marry that specific girl. Then it's up the the girl to make the move to leave. Happened to my roommate, she dated a guy she really wanted to marry, but he was just enjoying his life (he was late 20's). After four years she realized he was perfectly happy to continue to date her but she wasn't "the one" for him. He ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 03:45 PM |
| 2 | What do you say to this....? I'm honestly lost for wordsWhile I agree with you, I'm also confused because in healthy relationships, shouldn't both people be willing to help each other out? I feel like there shouldn't be any "neediness" games in stable relationships. Or maybe this guy is truly an asshole. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 12:46 PM |
| 2 | curiosity: religion?The closest I could say is a mix of Taoism/Confucianism/Buddhism, but for me it's more of a culture than an actual religion. I don't go to church, rather it's simply a value system and a lifestyle. In Confucianism, there is a lot of emphasis on the family and patriarchy. However I'm not Chinese, just to clarify. My boyfriend was raised Catholic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 08:04 AM |
| 5 | Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong?Beats by Dr. Alpha F*cks...only $500, $550 with negging for a limited time only. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:39 PM |
| 11 | Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong?Adding to this - OP, I think you're romanticizing being with an "alpha." And I also get a sense that - even though you may be attractive and feminine and pleasant - you still have a superiority complex. You think you are better than these "betas," you're looking for that rush of adrenaline when a man teases you. If you really feel so entitled to be "the prize," then be a completely outstanding HB11. Otherwise eat a slice of humble pie. I've also noticed a lot of dominant men do prefer a woman wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:35 PM |
| 4 | A Review of the Posting Guidelines for Male ContributorsReally? I never would have thunk...rubs beard oh wait, I mean...;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Overly smittenI'll be curious to see what happens with the relationship. She's been talking about wanting to get married for so long to not success, now here's a guy who is smitten with her and talking about marriage and she's unsure. She definitely doesn't seem so excited but I also think she's running out of options. She's not terribly attractive either (not overweight but simply average). | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 02:49 PM |
| 9 | Some thoughts on AF/BBThere's some discrepancy in your post... I had 2 other boyfriends who were quite beta...but, they were very attracted it's not that I am not attracted to beta guys, it's that they don't seem so attracted to me I'm not sure I understand your post in general, TBH. You're saying your current boyfriend loves that way you look and is very sexually attracted to you, yet you're also asking for advice on how to overcome some sort of whore complex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Overly smittenI don't think she does too, but not sure if him being overly beta also ruined it. It's too bad because she's 34 and I don't think she can be so picky... | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Overly smittenThere shouldn't have to be the game of not 'looking desperate' with someone you'd ltr/marry. That's true, I think in most of the marriages I know both people had the feeling of being a team together. It wasn't really a surprise that he proposed, they had been talking about it for a while. Wonder if he is genuinely crazy about her for who SHE is tho, and not just having a relationship with a woman. Does he 'see' her? That's common for men not to, and mistake things for love which are not love. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 05:50 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of dating/marrying men with a "female best friend"?Being a single man after the age of 35-40 is typically a bad sign, he hasn't gotten his life together (financially or general responsibility) or proven he's worth it to be a husband/father/family leader/provider. I would say the same for women, probably. It's not cool after a certain age to continue living the same life you did in your 20's and not grow in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 09:09 PM |
| 2 | How do I "appeal" to men of high value at work?Men that are taken hit on me constantly.I'm confused by your comment. Are you saying men treat women differently if they are attractive but not a catch vs women who are attractive and a catch? If so, I have noticed men who seem to flirt with any attractive woman just for fun vs. men who give attention to women in a respectful manner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 07:04 PM |
| 12 | Just be Yourself!Thanks for the post, Sadie. I think some users might get confused because there's no one size fits all hobbies or interests or careers for RPW anyway. Sadie likes sports, I like the arts. You don't have to flit around in transparent Lululemon pants if you're an outdoorsy Eddie Bauer type chick. Here's another way if looking at it (outside a RPW context): You're pissed off all the time. You don't say thank you, don't say please, you expect people to do things for you. People are afraid to come to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Do RPW usually go for older men, or do some find men their age or younger?Yeah my friend is 26 going on 27 and her boyfriend is 87. They have been together since she was 16. Are you serious? Are they from a different culture or background? I only know of one other couple with major age gap, she's 28 and he's 56. He was this French guy who traveled the world and finally picked an African wife. He could be her father. But 27 and 87, that's grandfather territory right there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 01:31 PM |
| 10 | What do you think of dating/marrying men with a "female best friend"?If you're living the poly lifestyle, most women here aren't compatible with the liberal tendencies that go along with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Do RPW usually go for older men, or do some find men their age or younger?Definitely. I've seen some men who are late 30's and successful but their skin and bodies have aged a lot. I don't find physical attraction with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 11:14 AM |
| 2 | In what situations is it okay to not be yourself?Work environment and work-related situations. No reason to bring up irrelevant things like personal views/values, only to cause conflict with people who feel strongly against it. Exactly. I learned this the hard way. There's probably only one colleague that I feel close to personally at work, but we also don't work closely together. The ones I work closely together, I keep my distance personally. It just doesn't work IMHO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 10:55 AM |
| 7 | Do RPW usually go for older men, or do some find men their age or younger?Nope, what matters most is the man and your compatibility. The man's personality and sense of responsibility is dependent on his character; not his age, wealth, etc. You can always tell a man by his actions. This so much. I've also seen single men in their mid-30's who are still manchildren. I've seen men in their mid-20's who are responsible and working on their career. I generally go from character not age (although I'm probably not going to date a guy younger than me, but he doesn't need to b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 08:27 PM |
| 4 | I am becoming more conservativeThis is funny, I'm also Asian and same upbringing. It was interesting because my mom was a housewife who turned into a career woman and then she became unhappy (work stress and nagging at my father and not paying attention to her children). Then she tells me to go get a high paying career too except there's a handful of Asian girls who are doctors or engineers and unmarried because they're too studious and don't know how to be a girlfriend or domestic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 02:53 PM |
| 21 | In Which I Refute The Vice ArticleSorry we're too busy cooking and being sweet...no time for misogyny. You might want to try Huff Post editing staff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Who Are the Women of Red Pill? Vice wrote an article.There's only two types of haircuts. Get with the program! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Who Are the Women of Red Pill? Vice wrote an article.I was going to say, if she's 22 and publishing this, she's probably an intern. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:56 PM |
| 11 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?I think Melania Trump was different in her ambitions. She immigrated from a poor Eastern European country to make her riches in the US as a model. She achieved that pretty well. Articles have said she was very professional and successful in her modeling endeavors. Modeling isn't rocket science, but I appreciate it does take a certain skill in posing well. It's not just about being pretty. In terms of projects as a FLOTUS, she definitely can't hold her own compared to Michelle though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:27 PM |
| – | I hate the articles posted.It attracts a particular, shitty kind of man. You're absolutely right. It attracts men who have been continually unsuccessful with women and that's why they're at TRP. They haven't figured out how to get girls themselves. These kinds of men don't have that inherent nature. I don't think any of us would want to be with a man who wasn't intelligent enough to figure out how to get women by himself. As for us at RPW? There might be some of that. But a lot of users here just like having a place to ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 12:53 PM |
| 7 | I hate the articles posted.I'm just a random interloper so it's presumptuous for me to offer judgments/advice, but I wonder if RPW would benefit from distancing itself more from the "red pill" brand. Sure, it might be interesting to rename ourselves because there seems to be a lot of confusion (eg. new users coming in posting about how to get an RP man or telling us they don't want to work because it's "unattractive"). We can't really call ourselves "traditional women's group" or the like because there's too many differen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 12:43 PM |
| 4 | I hate the articles posted.Oh for sure, and I understand it's easy to get confused between the RP and RPW. We definitely use some of the terminology here because it's easy to understand. But we also tell users not to go over to RP because it's basically a men's locker room. It can be frightening to read (no matter how anti-feminist or feminist you are). What's nice about RPW is we can see the reality of female and male natures and try to have healthy relationships based on what we observe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 12:33 PM |
| – | I hate the articles posted.We don't advocate to marry TRP guys actually. Especially not the ones who post in TRP. We are aware they're losers and totally insecure with themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Who Are the Women of Red Pill? Vice wrote an article.They're sooooooo old fashioned. It's 2017 for Petes sake. Nazi rights need to be modernized. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 05:31 AM |
| 14 | Who Are the Women of Red Pill? Vice wrote an article.Doing things besides sex on dates is old-fashioned??? What about this is how couples get to know each other as people and not just walking genitalia? That was the dumbest line I've read in an article. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 05:29 AM |
| 9 | Unpopular Opinion: RPW just isn't for everyone - following the rules have been extremely depressing.That how to STFU post definitely didn't help you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 05:07 PM |
| 27 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?First of all, you mentioned you brought up a topic that upset him and then he retaliated with a comment on your weight. This seems strange to me. It's like he couldn't stand to be upset around you so he attacked you instead - what exactly did you say to him to warrant this response? Does he also have low self-esteem? Secondly, you are aware that you need to lose weight. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it feels bad for someone you love to tell you this bluntly. But this is reality, and you are in your power … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 10:18 AM |
| 10 | Becoming good in bed, before even touching a man?A truly dominant man will not care about sexual experience. They will only care that you are eager and enthusiastic and they will hunger to show you all the naughty things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women get fat despite seemingly being so obsessed with being thin?A lot of women are not disciplined. They pity themselves and victimize themselves. Instead of taking responsibility of their diet and fitness, they blame others for not accepting them as a fat blob. Women are also very emotional. I've known a lot of girls who have time to go to the gym but are pathetic and complain and end up binging on chocolate on the couch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/17 07:07 PM |
| 12 | The hard naked truth about marriageThis is really sad. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/17 06:42 PM |
| 3 | How do I introduce the red pill into my life? Rejected by guy I like and ex boyfriend moved on. Feeling sad and fixed on improving myself.Keep yourself busy and stop thinking about what other people can do for you. Start thinking about what you can do for other people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/17 05:22 PM |
| 3 | How do I introduce the red pill into my life? Rejected by guy I like and ex boyfriend moved on. Feeling sad and fixed on improving myself.You're still pretty young. Maturity takes time. Read books and meet people and go out and see the world. Volunteer or get a part-time job in the summer. A lot of things are not so petty when you look at the bigger picture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/17 03:03 PM |
| 3 | How do I introduce the red pill into my life? Rejected by guy I like and ex boyfriend moved on. Feeling sad and fixed on improving myself.How old are you? You sound young. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/17 02:56 PM |
| 2 | How to not freak out my long-term boyfriend about wanting to have kids?My boyfriend and I are pretty serious and committed to each other We don't know for sure if we will be together forever Can you explain more about these two seemingly contradictory statements? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/17 11:22 PM |
| 22 | How do I introduce the red pill into my life? Rejected by guy I like and ex boyfriend moved on. Feeling sad and fixed on improving myself.Inner happiness and serenity. Men can sense desperation and entitlement. Your friend probably gets attention not only because she's sweet and docile but because she seems comfortable in her own skin. Continue working on your physical appearance and being a lady, but most importantly work on being worth it. I guarantee you your light will attract attention. Peruse r/SkincareAddiction for skincare advice. Go to a dentist about your teeth. Whitening strips are a good OTC solution to yellow teeth. M… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/17 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Declining Sex -When, why, or Never?We both like that it's an act of dominance/submission. The way he does it also arouses me a lot - he's actually controlling the blowjob. He also doesn't have a whole lot of ejaculation (it's the liquidy kind not the gooey kind) and he tastes pretty good (for sperm haha). I feel safe when I'm blowing him because I don't feel like I have to perform (since he's controlling everything). It's a very special act to the both of us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/17 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Declining Sex -When, why, or Never?That's pretty interesting. I feel like I'm always having sex with my caveman, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 01:11 PM |
| 4 | Declining Sex -When, why, or Never?So far I've never rejected him for sex. He's usually more tired than me because of his work, so I'm always the one that is overjoyed when he wants a blowjob. Yes, sometimes he's too tired for a blowjob. We only have sex 1-2x a week and I give him blowjobs 3-5x a week. I prefer it this way (less sex, more blowjobs). The only time I have declined sex in the past was with ex-boyfriend's during my period (I loathe period sex and I cannot understand why my ex boyfriends pushed to have sex during that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 07:17 AM |
| 2 | What is your beauty routine?Yes, I substitute it for a regular hair conditioner. It's made a noticeable difference in my hair health. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 09:55 PM |
| 5 | Interested in your opinionI'm not saying girls who drink booze and soak up the sun are bad women. But she's clearly having her fun, and perhaps she thought it would be fleeting so she went all out on the "honeymoon" period screwing around with a man she just met while being drunk. It sounds really trashy to me and not attraction based on sustainable qualities (of either party). But that's just me. I came from a conservative family culture so I can never see this as behavior of a proper lady. I enjoy my alcohol moderately… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Why am I not normal? Help?Of course, dear. Would love to read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 08:10 PM |
| 3 | What is your beauty routine?Hair mask is a godsend...my split ends are 90% reduced. Not kidding you. Hair mask all the way! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 07:45 PM |
| 4 | Why am I not normal? Help?Ok, good. Here's what I want you to do. Make a list of everything you want to change, but it has to be concrete. You cannot write "stop being depressed" or "stop being a terrible human being." They have to be something like "I want to finish my homework for all my classes." Or "I'd like to make two friends by the end of semester." Do it. Right now. And send it back to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 07:34 PM |
| 7 | Why am I not normal? Help?Actually, that's not true. You asked for help on Reddit. That means you do want to make a change, and that's the most important part. Here's the second most important question: Are you willing to make changes for yourself and live to see a brighter future for yourself or do you prefer to stay where you are? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 07:28 PM |
| 4 | What is your beauty routine?Haircare: Shampoo, hair mask, argan oil serum, blow dry, clean up any kinky bits with a straightener, run through again with a dab of oil. Sometimes for fun I will curl my hair. Makeup: Sunscreen, BB balm, eyeshadow (two shades for contour), curl eyelashes, lash maximizer, two coats of mascara, eyebrow pencil, lip balm, perfume. Sometimes for fun I will add cheek stain or a bright lip gloss. If I shower and blow dry, it takes me an hour from beginning to end. If I don't wash/blowdry my hair it t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 07:19 PM |
| 5 | Why am I not normal? Help?Leave the broken home part back at home. It was a part of you but now you have the ability to better your life for yourself. Tell me about something you accomplished today, no matter how small it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Why am I not normal? Help?This is a really common feeling in college, most people go through it, it doesn't mean it's easy. Can you tell us what you do feel good about yourself presently? Take a minute and think carefully. Think about your physical, mental, emotional, interpersonal, past accomplishments, etc. What's your goal after college? What are you studying? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Young guys want a stay-at-home wifeI would love to work part-time. Thankfully I have the perfect job that allows me flexible hours - I can work 3 hours, 5 hours or 8 hours a day. My boyfriend has already said if we got married he would love to provide for me and I can work part-time and be his companion, and when we have children I would do the bulk of the caregiving. He really emphasizes having me as a companion and doesn't see me as someone who needs to contribute financially (at least to our shared expenses). I don't want to w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/17 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: How do you predict gender dynamics will evolve over the course of the 21st century? What do you think will happen in future generations?That's kind of interesting. In your case, I think it's warranted to be suspicious of those girls. However, I had two LTRs that we broke up for similar reasons. I do genuinely like to see how they're doing with no ulterior motive. The first one I called and we had a nice chat catching up with no strings attached or no harsh feelings. The second one was extremely pissed off at me for calling and kept accusing me of "wanting" something from him, even though I had a new LTR and was living a 16 hour … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/17 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: How do you predict gender dynamics will evolve over the course of the 21st century? What do you think will happen in future generations?Women won't get the baseline attention that they thrive on, if that's what you mean. It's definitely already happening. "Can't find a gentleman" "He doesn't try to kiss me is he gay?" etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/17 04:30 AM |
| 9 | Interested in your opinionEither too much entitlement or a troll. Reminds me the HB10 girl from LA trying to figure out why she hasn't had a LTR ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Interested in your opinionThe more I read her post the more I'm angry. She claims he's focused on work and she's focused on being social - well he's focused on work because he wants to provide a good life for her. She just threw that away. And the part where she said she went out and got drunk and slept with the other guy, comes home and crashes on the couch, husband tells her she looks like a whore - because she IS a whore. She's a bad woman to begin with, but the husband also didn't realize what he was getting into. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Interested in your opinionSome of the things she said they had to "negotiate" at the beginning of the marriage - taking his last name, buying the house - she seemed not willing to contribute in the relationship. Actually, she didn't even seem excited about him. I guess it was a AFBB situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 08:02 PM |
| 5 | Interested in your opinionShe sounded like an immoral woman from the beginning. Someone who sleeps with a man the same night they met, while traveling? This is not behavior of someone who would be an honest wife. Sorry if I'm judging harshly, but that's my female perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 07:43 PM |
| 4 | Interested in your opinionMy first thought after reading through the beginning of the man's post, after he said they met at a bar and had sex for three days straight, drinking booze and soaking up the sun...she sounded like bad news from the very beginning. There was probably nothing he could have done to fix the problem. She just wasn't marriage material yet he tried to see the best in her. He should have never married her in the first place and kept her as a ONS. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Men "settle"Love this comment. Thank you for writing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 12:50 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever been that ex girlfriend?Yeah, true. I'm sure there were loads other reasons anyway. But there's a RP saying that a man marries you because he still sees you as his sexy girlfriend, and he hopes that you'll never change (into frumpy soccer mom). So perhaps she was already too high in her game to realistically keep up who she was before she married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 11:35 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever been that ex girlfriend?Investment banker friend story time... She was woman #1. She was higher status and richer than her husband before she married. She had all the benefits from her swanky job...she always got VIP tickets and lounge benefits and rich people circles. Anyways, after 15 years of marriage and 10 years of SAHM life, the husband cheats and apparently one of the reasons was he complained she didn't have her benefits like she did before. So cue her desperately trying to win him back by networking with rich … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Men "settle"Are you familiar with Dr Toni Grants four facets of female personality? They go like this 1) Courtesan (Lover), 2) Mother (Nurturer), 3) Madonna (Counselor), 4) Amazon (Warrior). She says the most ideal relationship is being mostly a Courtesan but also switching to Mother and Madonna for sustainability. I'd imagine alpha females would be mostly Courtesan and Amazon while beta females are Mother and Madonna. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/17 09:25 AM |
| 7 | Men "settle"He said "I like what I see even if it's not the same level" yeahhhhhh....nope! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: How do you predict gender dynamics will evolve over the course of the 21st century? What do you think will happen in future generations?The Wikipedia article said Japanese men are more resistant to the corporate world...thus without stable jobs, the women are less wanting to marry these men. I see this trend happening in the US too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/17 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Men "settle"She knew how to talk to me. She used flattery in a way that I KNEW what she was doing but she disarmed me with it. That's interesting. I had an ex-boyfriend that came from a culture where women dress pretty sexy, but somehow he said he was never attracted. I didn't understand why...until he told me he was attracted to my brain. Something about being able to have fantasies together and have that connection (sexual or nonsexual) but to him that mental excitement was more stimulating than the visua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 08:29 PM |
| 7 | Men "settle"I actually went on one date with a man, late 30's, who was divorced. His ex-wife was a model and a professor but she didn't want children, and apparently she lied to him that she did, so while they were "trying" for a baby she was secretly taking BC pills. Anyways they divorced over this because he really wanted a family. Even though the guy told me he thought I was attractive even though I wasn't "on the same level" as his ex-wife...something just made me feel like he was settling. I was the 7 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 08:18 PM |
| 3 | Men "settle"Which qualities did you never consider until meeting her? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...Yeah you're generally right about fat women having bigger ones. In that case I don't find it attractive, and it's more rare for a skinny girl to have bigger boobs. I've got perky B's myself, and I don't think I ever realized the advantages of having smaller ones (no sag, can wear sundresses and button down tops, can exercise with no issue). | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Men "settle"how she adds to his life. How she stimulates his mind, creative endeavors, supports his mission and goals. She just knows what to do, how to support...it's just there. Beautifully said. My boyfriend is from a very traditional part of a European country and it's the same for him...building a life together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Men "settle"Thanks Sadie for this comment. Sometimes I put so much pressure on myself to be the best I can be and still feel like it's not good enough, but somehow the way you worded it - "never stop working hard for your SO" made it sound more comforting than my frantic thinking, ehehe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:08 PM |
| 5 | Men "settle"high quality guys appreciate independence and a bit of a hard-to-get attitude in a woman [...] Taste, culture, education, the right hobbies and an enriched mind really matter a lot [...] a multidimensional wife who's committed to improving and never truly gets old and matronly Does any other RPW feel like we're also "WGTOW" in the same way that RP men feel like they have to hold frame, never stop improving, keep lifting? Like we also have to keep improving ourselves (physically and mentally) or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 01:28 PM |
| 6 | on the hunt for quotes, aphorisms, sayings, etc."[Femininity means] a sensually alive body, a compassionate and loving heart, and a peaceful mind [...] When you are truly powerful and feminine, you naturally encourage others to be big, bold, and beautiful in a way that makes them feel comfortable rather than intimidated." From a RPW book, can't remember which one at the top of my head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...Men have the premise of being worthless until they do something to prove their worthiness. This is why a man who does not accomplish anything is considered to be of lesser value than another man who accomplishes more. The more a man accomplishes, the more value he has in the eyes of men and women. I think this is why men often talk about their accomplishments on dates...even when BP women say things like "I wish he'd listen to me more and ask questions about me," this proves why men tend to only… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/17 05:21 PM |
| – | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...Couldn't you also say women struggle with feeling worthless or irrelevant just because they're not beautiful enough or fit whatever standard of beauty? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/17 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...Men sometimes don't realize what may cause a woman to feel insecure because we tend to have other types of insecurities. Like what insecurities? Tell me if this is right or wrong, but this seems like it goes along with men showing they love you by providing or taking care of the, whereas women think men love them if they're checking her out or flirting with her. I had a similar issue with my boyfriend, it just didn't even occur to him that it would be something I could be insecure about...in his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/17 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...Attraction and LTRs are a different category too. My boyfriend can spend a few minutes entertaining some attractive girl at a party but he sure as hell doesn't want to deal with her long-term. It says a lot when he wants you part of his life, not just a fleeting moment. Similarly you could say the same for porn - it's 10-20 minutes of fantasy then he's back to reality and building a life with you, not just staring at you for a few minutes of his life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/17 12:21 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body...I definitely agree with the other girls about guys having a variety of tastes and being weird in general, haha. I had an ex-boyfriend who loooooved me because I was the delicate, sweet and innocent type of sexy that he just wanted to "corrupt," but he also admitted he loved redheads because they're aggressive, passionate and a fiery kind of sexy but he doesn't want to "corrupt" them in the same way. Also my current boyfriend has a thing for African girls, I was so insecure because I'm not black,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/17 12:06 PM |
| 6 | Relationship market value vs Sexual market value: some traits to considerAdding to this, if you really want to have finesse in social situations, you can work on the following: Deflecting awkward situations (witty lighthearted comebacks or knowing when to change the subject). Adding to the flow - if conversation is dying down, either ask questions or tell a story to pick it back up or know when to politely excuse yourself. Know when to stay on one subject (eg. Someone is talking about their new puppy, continue to ask about their puppy instead of talking about your ow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/17 10:40 PM |
| – | Q4Men: Men of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?a non heightist culture. Which one is that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/17 08:26 PM |
| 6 | "I settled into a traditional gender role, and I feel liberated"My boyfriend does something really funny sometimes, he'll buy groceries for dinner that night, plop it down on the kitchen and give me a look. It makes me laugh, like a caveman bringing back a goat for dinner and I have to skin it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/17 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?It would be really funny if OP came back in one year posting the same topic again...like she did the last year and a half. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/17 07:43 PM |
| 16 | Having trouble feeling Feminine...Go to a hairdresser, sit down and talk about what kind of style you want. Ask about styling tips and purchase some products. Join a gym or fitness classes. Figure out what you want to improve about your body (lose fat? Build muscle?) and get into a routine. Browse r/xxfitness for some tips. Get a makeover at Sephora or some other cosmetics counter, learn some tips on how to do natural looks and night looks. Go on Pinterest or browse some websites of major clothing brands, figure out what kind of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/17 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Women of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?My boyfriend calls me a "cute kind of sexy." But even if I did try to dress hot or whatever, I still couldn't look "hot." My facial features are too neotenous and delicate. I don't have that sultry look at all. Think Jessica Alba in that one movie scene where she's a stripper (can't remember the movie title), dressed in grungy clothes - she did look hot but since she's got big pixie eyes, there's still something innocent and pure about her face (I'm totally not Jessica Alba but just an example). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/17 03:43 PM |
| – | Q4Women: Women of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?To most guys I'm probably a 7, if I'm your type I'm an 8. Bottom heavy Asian-American girl. I get a lot of men who are extremely nice and helpful to me (in acquaintances, colleagues, strangers), occasionally I'll get a guy who's super into me and won't stop calling me type of guy (I'm in a LTR but when I was dating I'd get 2-3 a year). I'm a girl next door so I also attract men who are looking for relationships...when I did go to bars/clubs I rarely got hit on. The men always were talking to tra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/17 02:35 PM |
| 48 | Relationship market value vs Sexual market value: some traits to considerThese are really wonderful points, I would agree with all of them. Another one: Being low maintenance. I was actually interested in this one, because high SMV correlates to physical appearance which then translates to being high maintenance (always being fashionable, wearing makeup, doing your nails, wearing heels). But sometimes being too high maintenance can decrease your RMV. High heels at formal events, feminine. But wearing stilettos during the day when your boyfriend takes you walking arou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 11:01 PM |
| – | Too much "compassion"?Relax! He obviously is fascinated by you and it's a good thing. Just enjoy your time with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 08:09 AM |
| 19 | Too much "compassion"?I think he finds you endearing. If it's your personality to be cute and compassionate, I wouldn't change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 12:15 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?Thank you doll x | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 11:47 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?Thank you, I for sure enjoy my job and wouldn't trade it for any other career. I'm happy if all of my students go on to live fulfilling lives, success doesn't always equate to achieving big things to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 10:58 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?I'm open to a PM conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 09:39 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?It's a cool job. I'm not professor level but I specialize in my subject. You'd be surprised the amount of people who are impressed with your knowledge and are really open to learning (parents included). It's also just rewarding to see your students become good citizens contributing to society and enjoying life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 09:03 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?Thanks! I get presents and cute cards with kid handwriting from my students every year anyway. My "smart" career friends never get any presents. And it's the greatest joy when parents see me as a role model for their children or when my students look up to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 08:44 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?It's just a different kind of intelligence. But my friends don't think I do anything in the scheme of the world because my work is pretty small scale and not corporate. Whereas they're trying to gain profits in their companies, I'm talking about how little Johnny doesn't do his homework because he he's on the Internet and I need to figure out a way to get him to take his exams seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 04:58 PM |
| 7 | CMV: It makes more sense to me that marriage is declining because men aren't adaptingThis is true. I also witnessed it (I'm late 20's in a LTR) and I hear nothing but complaining about men from my single working female friends. I go to the gym at my apartment and I see a lot of the regular guys talk to each other and go out together. They definitely have a good social network. Women are always looking to date. Guys are interested too but generally I see them being perfectly content hanging out with their friends. Even when women hang out together, conversation always shifts to m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/17 03:32 PM |
| 17 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?I have a lot of career woman friends, meaning ones in STEM or business or medicine...and I'm just an artist/teacher. I wasn't smart or interested enough in other fields. Felt bad for the longest time because my friends are off saving the world and here I am working with children/families and enjoying being domestic and being girly...but being shamed for it. Whenever I'd meet up with my smart career friends, they'd always be talking about their work and never ask me about my job because I work at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 02:55 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?Awwwwwww cute :))))) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Being "submissive" doesn't actually help you attract or keep a man and is advice that benefits the man, not the woman.That's what I think when people say "oh he wants a submissive girl to make him feel better" but actually, it's MORE work for the man to really take the lead. In egalitarian relationships the man can sometimes sit and go for the ride because the wife wants to make the decisions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/17 09:34 AM |
| – | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sAw thanks! I'd be interested to hear from your RPW perspectives as you're dating an Asian man, especially one that wasn't raised in the West. I do find some of them to be less beta than the stereotype suggests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 08:15 PM |
| – | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sAaaaaaaa...so he's Chinese?? I met my boyfriend abroad, in neither of our countries. I'm learning his language though, it's easier for me to do so than for him to learn mine... | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 07:05 PM |
| 1 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sReally? Interesting! English is my boyfriend's second language, he's never been to the US. Did you meet him in your country? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 06:36 PM |
| 7 | Confusion over a remark at work, old feminist mindset warring with RP mindset. I don't know what to think or feel.Ok, I understand now. I actually think it's kind of fun when men call you terms of endearment, it makes me feel cute ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 06:05 PM |
| 6 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sIt goes for men pitying women too. Think about overweight women who cry and moan about not being able to lose weight because they're sitting on the couch and unable to get off. Or a depressed woman who can't handle her emotions and feels offended and anxious at everything. Both men and women admire discipline in each other. I do believe in status for women too. No high value man wants a woman who cannot control her weight, no matter how nice and pleasant she is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:55 PM |
| 14 | Confusion over a remark at work, old feminist mindset warring with RP mindset. I don't know what to think or feel.I wouldn't get so offended over it. I say "sweetie" to my students or "dear" to my friends. Some cultures call girls "babe" even though they're strangers and it's perfectly OK. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:52 PM |
| – | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sMediterranean and Asian+American. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:43 PM |
| 8 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sThey say men are shallow about women's looks, but short men have the most difficult time IMHO. No matter how much money or status a short man has, women still like the physical feeling of protection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 03:02 PM |
| 7 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sI believe truly secure men rely on themselves for motivation/discipline. For example, some men want to accomplish something because it will make them more attractive to women. But I believe the truly motivated men are doing it for themselves, not to get babes or to receive praise. That's for little boys (I teach boys of all ages and I can tell a difference between ones doing it to please mothers and ones doing it on their own accord). | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 10:59 AM |
| 3 | Long time lurker wants to know: What's some advice for people looking for their first boyfriends?If you've never dated before, it's good to go on casual dates (not hanging out!!! When someone actually takes you out) and just have fun with it, especially at 18. Have fun dressing up, have fun meeting new guys, discover what qualities you might like and what you might not like in a boyfriend. College boys aren't all that bad - there are plenty of LTRs that happen in college for 1-3 years and then part ways after graduation. I don't think it's a bad thing because you can have a LTR experience, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 07:36 AM |
| 9 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sI think it's telling about the man when it's the other way, too - for example if a man struggles with discipline and work ethic, he might want a girlfriend with those qualities. And it might show his true insecurity. This happened to me once, had ex-boyfriend who dated me because I exercised regularly, until I went through a bout of depression and gained 3kg. He got very angry at me, and I couldn't understand why - because I knew I would eventually lose them. Then I found out he was angry becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 07:12 AM |
| 19 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sYes, I could believe that. I think women think whatever makes them their SMV level isn't enough if it's the same in a man, eg. if a woman goes to the gym, has a master's degree, has a full time job, and reads literature, the the exact same is not good enough in a man she's dating. She'll want a man who goes the gym just as much (or is more fit), has a master's degree in a field "better" than hers, has a full time job that pays more than hers, reads literature but has read more books and is more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 06:36 AM |
| 5 | Littleknownfacts Presents: Managing your Hypergamy by Using Preselection to Your AdvantageThis is wonderful! Thanks for the post. Perfect timing for me, actually... I have a question if anyone can answer it. How come (generally) women are hypergamous but men aren't? What's the theory behind this? | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/17 04:31 PM |
| 2 | How can I let go on this bitterness?Ok, I see. That sounds like a real handicap.. My mom just sounds like a shrew, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/17 03:34 PM |
| 6 | How can I let go on this bitterness?I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It actually sounds like my father and my mother's marriage so I think I can see how severe the problem can be. My mother refuses to clean anymore - because my father "enslaved her" to the house (actually he pays for everything and she gets to work a flexible part time schedule and keep all her money for herself) so my father does all the cleaning. She still cooks dinner but she'll sometimes randomly refuse to cook, my father will offer to get takeout and a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/17 12:31 PM |
| 5 | How can I let go on this bitterness?May I ask how severe the illness has to be for a man to really feel like he can't deal with it anymore? Everyone deals with anxiety and depression at some point in their lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/17 05:20 AM |
| 6 | Sexual Market Value Scale (For Women)Do you think these people are complimenting you because they can sense you're insecure and want to make you feel better/loosen up? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 08:47 PM |
| 9 | Sexual Market Value Scale (For Women)OP, read this comment carefully. I was like you at one point - totally perfectionist. Then when I started opening up - going out with a huge zit on my face instead of hiding at home, saying dumb things, showing my hidden temper, wearing an ugly mismatched outfit - I found guys had more interest in building a long lasting relationship with me instead of just asking me out for dates. We could grow together because we both had flaws and problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 08:29 PM |
| – | The Difference Between SMV and MMVI'm for this. I'm pretty curious now... | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 05:26 PM |
| 11 | The Difference Between SMV and MMVYou're either a troll or you have some serious mental health issues. You've been dealing with the same problems for six or seven years, however long you have been single for. With the severity of your problems and the fact that you haven't been able to solve it for that long, you need to seek professional help. Please get off the internet and running around on a hamster wheel asking the same things and receiving the same answers for over a year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 11:00 AM |
| 12 | The Difference Between SMV and MMVMMV/RMV is your value to the other person that keeps them around long term. Usually you cannot get it from friends. That includes qualities like loyalty/support when things aren't going well, willingness to grow together, life goals, an intimate comfort together (seeing each other's flaws and bad moods), good sex, respect and admiration for each other. Friends can be pleasant and fun to be with. Hobbies are done with friends. You can cook with friends and have sex with other people easily. What … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 09:55 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever had that great love?Is this about the guy you met on Tinder who had a problem with your weight and was texting girls right in front of you? You'll find a more secure love if you love yourself first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 07:26 AM |
| 3 | How to boost my fiance's confidenceThis is really wonderful, thank you. I think I know how better to encourage my boyfriend now! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 10:00 PM |
| 6 | How to boost my fiance's confidenceher unwavering belief in him. I think you're onto something. My boyfriend has been struggling for a while but I noticed when I compliment him, he doesn't really absorb it. Because to him, his worth doesn't come from other people's opinions, it comes from what he actually accomplishes. I noticed that he seems to fare better when I simply stay by his side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 09:39 PM |
| 9 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Ahahahaha I laughed at this. I know OP has a throwaway account for this dating problem, but browsing through her posts, she repeats the same thing over and over again. Exact wording in her posts and comments...for a whole year. She could be attractive and sweet but she's running on a hamster wheel... | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 08:44 PM |
| 7 | When you know what you want but don't know how to get thereJournaling helps me. I don't do it as often anymore (because too much introspection gets to my head) but I like to quietly reflect on goals, how to achieve them then apply the discipline to make a real change. Even if it's something like "stop journaling and go out and have a fun conversation with a real person..." HabitBull app for checking off my exercise days. Wunderlist for things I would like to try out (exhibitions, recipes, restaurants). It really comes down to discipline. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 08:36 PM |
| 4 | How do y'all deal with exes & alimony?I understand it's frustrating and I would be resentful too. But the reality is the situation won't change. Would you feel more comfortable with him after everything's paid off? Or would you still have resentment that he's wasted part of his money towards the ex? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:18 PM |
| 12 | How do y'all deal with exes & alimony?If you can't accept or learn not to resent his past choice/his alimony payments, you may be better off finding someone new. I know it's not ideal but the situation is not going to change... I don't actually know much about alimony. Is he tied to this for the rest of his life or is there a cut off after a certain amount of years? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:12 PM |
| 2 | A Few Things I'm PonderingEven the outliers who channel their sexual energy into great academic/artistic works I mean, there's a lot of literary examples of men in love with women. Fascinating Womanhood talks about Hugo's Toilets of the Sea, where he's fascinated by two embodiments of femininity - one is more childlike and fresh and the other one is more peaceful and serene. It was the best book I read regarding femininity in my opinion. I know my boyfriend melts when I cuddle up to him feeling small or tell him it's goi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Never said you were an actress, it's just a simile ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 09:08 AM |
| 2 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?I mean, Hollywood actresses date Hollywood actors or 1% men for a reason... | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 08:36 AM |
| 7 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?OK, so let's say the problem might be you're too attractive..but didn't you mention in another comment that Californian men look for a woman with a 10 in looks and a good career (so they know they're not just gold diggers)? It does seem weird to me. I am genuinely sorry you're experiencing this. I do know a few voluptuous sexy women with careers that are married so it's certainly possible. Didn't Michael Phelps' wife used to be Miss California? You also mentioned you're not dating men who are su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 08:03 AM |
| 3 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?"Sometimes it doesn't pay to be a "quality" woman, unfortunately." That makes no sense. That doesn't correlate with what you wrote. Maybe I should have said "independent" woman...does that make sense? "Because that's the best situation when you want to have children? Because I want companionship? OK, well that's good. I'm sorry I can't help more. Maybe it's just California. My friends who live in Milan have a similar problem to you. Fashion centric, lots of beautiful, intelligent, pleasant women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?It's not mean. I'm just trying to help. It just seems like it's a California problem then, so maybe I can't really advise. Maybe best bet is to talk to your married Californian friends and see how they got there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Living together before marriageFor one thing, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Why would a guy want to propose if he's already getting all the benefits of marriage? Guys need to chase. You make yourself less desirable IMO if you live with him before marriage and certainly if you do so before becoming engaged. Completely agree. There's nothing to earn or to look forward to. All the benefits of marriage have fallen into his lap without him doing anything. He's also not given a chance to really reflect and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:10 AM |
| 5 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?I know a lot of quality women here who are single just like myself. However, I do know a lot of women of equal or less quality who are never ever single, and also live in LA. Here's the thing - if you are a quality woman, you're beautiful, have a great career, pleasant, domestic, have interests.......and you're independent. Why would a man choose to be with you other than simple companionship? What makes him want to take care of you? Restating the common issue about feminism from my other commen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 07:06 AM |
| 3 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?I think this is also a common problem that RPW tries to address. It's not enough to just be a pleasant and attractive companion who you can share hobbies with. Because sure, those relationships exist, but who's to say that he can just replace you with another woman whose pleasant and attractive and fun to be around? This is why we also complain about feminism. Even if women are pleasant and attractive, the bottom line is they can still fend for themselves and it's really not necessary to have a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 06:48 AM |
| 6 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Another issue could be that men only see me as a sex object since I have an exaggerated hourglass shape and a very sensual face (I've modeled). This could be it, combined with being in LA. It's sort of funny because men always say they want a beautiful wife...but sometimes if you're too beautiful, you become only a trophy wife/sex object. And I think LA tends to have these types of hot women and for the most part, those women like to be plates - hence the plethora of independent lifestyles. Espe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 06:42 AM |
| 11 | Interesting Article: Do Millennial Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives?Men may like the idea of an extra income, but end of the day they like a supportive wife ready with dinner when they come home, not a wife that is working late and is tired and frustrated when she comes home. I agree. I don't think men have a problem with women working. I think the problem is that women get stressed more easily if they have to balance full time work and a household, and they tend to become bitchy and nagging. I mean, that's why men don't like to do household work after coming ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 06:18 AM |
| 10 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?I mean, I've never had a relationship though and I don't understand why. Hmmmmmm...at 29, this is really interesting...especially if the problem isn't attractiveness or personality. Can you think of any reason why? Please be honest if you would like help. I have a friend who is 30 and never had a relationship and the reason is because she's entitled and also very immature. She's very attractive and sweet and feminine in every other way though, and gets dates often. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 05:40 AM |
| 3 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?I think the problem is LA and the men, not you. The weather and the hot babes... Have you tried dating outside of LA? Could you relocate to another city perhaps? (Probably worst case scenario) Have you looked at any churches? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Do you have any older female friends who are married? Could they introduce you to their husbands' bachelor friends or colleagues? Have any of your dating prospects insinuate they would like to have a family one day? (assuming you want children) Have you shown what you can contribute to the relationship at the beginning stages of dating? It's not enough to just be sweet and pretty sometimes. From my friends who live in LA, my impression is that there are a lot of men and women who prefer the sing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:43 PM |
| 2 | A Few Things I'm PonderingThere are very powerful people out there who do not want us making strong families. With strong families, the men would have something to protect, meaning corporations couldn't get away with half the shit they do because strong families form strong communities which form strong cultures and governments. Are you talking about the bridgen something group (can't remember but it starts with B I think??) who allowed women to work because it would increase tax dollars for the government and also destr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 08:17 PM |
| 2 | A Few Things I'm PonderingMoney is tied to status for men, so they prefer to work instead of giving away their economic value for free. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Where exactly are you when men approach you? In which hobbies do you meet men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 04:48 PM |
| 10 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Do you live in a big city? Are the young people mostly liberal? Culture and background are vital for a LTR. There are men who have successful careers but just want to be a bachelor with plates and keep their money for themselves. And there are men who have successful careers who want to take care of a woman/children with their money. My two most serious LTRs (including my current one) were with men who grew up in a conservative/traditional town/city. It really depends where they're from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 04:07 PM |
| 13 | My boyfriend hasn't told his family about me yet. Don't know if I should be worried.Has he had a serious girlfriend in the past that he did introduce to his family? Edit: Just reread your post. So my understanding is he's had girlfriends in the past but none of them were introduced to his family. I know a lot of men who don't talk about their private lives unless the relationship is heading towards marriage. It could also be his culture. Are you both American? Americans tend to introduce their girlfriends/boyfriends very casually. In my family's culture, we only introduce partn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 08:29 AM |
| 3 | SOS- Help with my LTRIs this guy polyamorous? Because there are communities who live the open relationship life (for example, a huge one in San Francisco). I don't think it's strange or disgusting but for sure it's incompatible with yours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 08:25 AM |
| 8 | Field Report: "You make me feel so comfortable and loved."Aww, happy for you! It's amazing the difference when we are positive influences on our men. My boyfriend is going through a lot with his career, but he says he's managing much better with me in his life. He told me the other day that I'm a special woman and he's not going to let me go easily. And he's taking a lot of initiative and responsibility the past few months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 08:15 AM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageGood point. I don't really know. Maybe it's respect issue? Maybe Lucy doesn't realize the reality of her life depending on Barrys hardworked income? Maybe if Lucy respected Barry for what he does to contribute to the relationship - because he does financially - he would have better self-esteem and start taking the lead? Again, I don't know. This is also a common RP problem - even if a guy is a beta provider, he still needs to have alpha qualities to maintain her tingles. Lucy has lost her tingle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 06:30 AM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageBeta Barry, perhaps, but beta berry sounds like a powerful antioxidant. Just teasing, of course ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:28 PM |
| 3 | A Few Things I'm PonderingIn other cultures alcohol is rarely consumed without a meal. Have you been to the UK or to Australia? Those guys drink like frat boys at a kegger but they're in their 30's. I love my British friends to death and respect their longstanding culture but I find their drinking habits way worse than America's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:27 PM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI believe it's worse for children especially the young ones) to be left by their mother than their father. I agree with you, but I also hear a lot about broken women with "daddy issues" because the father wasn't present. I wonder why that is? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:20 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageHonestly, I don't have a perfect solution to this, beyond not marrying Barry and turning into Lucy, myself, and avoiding all this mess. So we have Cocky Chad and now Beta Barry? ;) "Listen and learn," my boyfriend always says. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:15 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageHaha, ok perhaps I meant I see it in men of all nationalities. Not necessarily every single man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:49 PM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageFrom a young age, girls are diligent and conscientious in schools, whereas boys tend to slack off and be undisciplined. Oh my gosh, I have a story about this. I live in a country where the schools sometimes segregate the girls and boys. We did a workshop once for an all girl class - they were perfect angels. Quiet, attentive, respectful. The next day we did the workshop for the all boys class - excitement was running rampant, fidgeting, calling out, touching things without asking. The boys had a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:45 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageGood point - agreed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 03:43 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageAnd it's a bit of a chicken or the egg question, isn't it? Is Barry irresponsible because his mother was overbearing and he knew he could rely on her direction, or was the mother overbearing because Barry didn't have the characteristics/responsibility to take care of himself? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 03:27 PM |
| 13 | A Modern Feminist MarriageThank you for sharing this story. It's an interesting concept because although they have a traditional setup (man provides resources, woman runs the household), he's not actually leading the family. Being a good provider doesn't mean you have an assertive personality. I've been curious about men and responsibility lately. At my school, a lot of the men are very disorganized - forgetting meetings, waiting for the female colleagues to tell them what to do...same with my students, my girls are very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 02:47 PM |
| 3 | What's more common: men who like dominant women or women who like submissive guys?Yes I suppose that's true. I guess another common problem is lazy fat men can't find a high value woman. Usually disciplined fit men look for disciplined fit women. I don't see a disciplined fit man enjoying a fat lazy woman as a girlfriend. I broke up with my first LTR because he was lazy and complained too much about failing instead of actually addressing the problem, and refused to get in shape while I was going to the gym regularly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/17 01:51 PM |
| 2 | What's more common: men who like dominant women or women who like submissive guys?Haha, well sure there are certainly fat emotional lazy men. But it seems like I know more women with these problems than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/17 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Guys like clingy behavior...?Not check in with me as in trying to keep me interested in him...check in with me as in seeing how I'm doing or what I'm up to. There's a difference. They're not worried about my interest in them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 04:45 AM |
| 6 | Will some men never get involved past a few dates if there's no sex?You are falling into dick sand. This made me lol, haha. If he made it a point to bring up sex on a date and then emphasized it is important to him, than he is shallow. It feels a little strange that a guy would want to talk about how sex is important to him. Usually men show by actions. Some of the things OP wrote that the guy said on the dates sounds Chadlike, like just saying what she wants to hear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessPreach! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 02:15 AM |
| 4 | Will some men never get involved past a few dates if there's no sex?It's true that men bond more easily after sex, but I would be very careful about having sex with the goal of getting him to bond to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:23 AM |
| 1 | What's more common: men who like dominant women or women who like submissive guys?Actually, this is very true. Masculine and feminine traits also come in different ways too. For instance, I have a girlfriend who was a very successful investment banker. Obviously you need masculine traits to achieve this level. She ended marrying a man who was also a top level manager of some level. Both of them are pretty money and status obsessed. She's very physically attractive, but she can be too masculine - too dominant, too bossy, not nurturing enough, not happy enough. I have a single … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/17 12:16 AM |
| – | For the kinkier RPW, when did you show/tell your SO?I didn't show or tell him, because he introduced me to it and I realized I prefer it. Will never go back to regular sex again. He took my BDSM virginity ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 11:30 PM |
| – | Why are you RPW?I'm Asian though! Haha! Funny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?I'm with you on relationship B. And I've had relationship A and C before. I prefer B. You actually have more independence because he's not there all the time babying you or dominating you or whatever (the horror of having a dominant man...). I feel like I have a better sense of self identity and can contribute in my own way in the relationship. Plus, not being with him all the time doesn't lead to stagnation. We keep things passionate this way. We don't gab all the time, but when we do have conv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?Ugh, you have no idea. I was too quiet and boring (or at least didn't like talking out loud, plenty of opinions though) then noticed guys were always with girls who talked their ears off. Thought that was what I should do, so I started studying trivial topics and became a walking encyclopedia, correcting people and spewing out facts. Then that became too condescending and serious. Then I started cracking jokes and being goofy and lighthearted (because I am a bit goofy) and noticed guys were alwa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Guys like clingy behavior...?Well...are you genuinely interested in him? Putting all "don't want to text first" games aside...do you feel passionate about your relationship with him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 08:11 PM |
| 7 | Guys like clingy behavior...?How secure is your guy with himself? Usually guys with confidence or high self-esteem will be the ones checking up on you, in my experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Having trouble finding female friends around my age, where did you find your friends?Are there any volunteer programs you could participate in? All my girlfriends are married and 5-10 years older than me. We met through an ethnic group meet up. Or some are colleagues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 04:34 PM |
| 3 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityA perfect Courtesan facet, a good complement to the Mother and Madonna. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Bruce Bryan & the "Sunken Cost" FallacyI feel that a woman "loses" in sex only if she feels spiritually depleted as a result of the experience and it is in HER power to control that by not only being fiercely selective with the types of men she lets touch her, but also with the sexual encounter itself. Yes, absolutely! We're not in the Victorian era anymore, most everyone is going to have sexual experience before marriage. And it's a good distinguishing factor for men when they're vetting women - does this woman have enough self-resp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 10:24 AM |
| 8 | Bruce Bryan & the "Sunken Cost" FallacyI actually think it's more beneficial for a woman to start looking for a partner in her mid-20's or whenever she's started working. People change a lot between college and the working world. It's the time when everything is confusing, you're questioning yourself in your role as an functioning member of society. We're generally too ignorant in our early 20's, still (for most). Vet, vet, vet. Go on tons of dates to see what's out there. Don't jump into the first relationship that "might work," or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 08:12 AM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?This is true, actually. There's a lot of men I know who would be totally happy just mulling around. But when there are dependents in the picture, they take their jobs/role pretty seriously, because most men don't want to put the financial burden on their wives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?And now I'm questioning my reaction to that statement here. Because RPW obviously has a very high opinion of femininity. But - and this is where my doubt in the previous posts springs from - it's associated with TRP, which has a very very low opinion. It's hard to reconcile the idea that these subs can be associated and yet have completely different stances, if you see what I mean. especially as there is a crossover in userbase. I guess that's something I'll understand more over time. Yes, I com… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 07:32 AM |
| 3 | Why are you RPW?What I meant was, as I said, if someone said "he is intelligent in his own American way" that would probably be considered offensive. You see what I mean? So it's really just disagreeing about the wording, again, rather than us disagreeing on ideas. I understand your point now, but why is it offensive? If someone told me I was intelligent in an American way, I would take it to mean a diligent work ethic and business prowess. If someone told me I was feminine in an Asian way, I would take it to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 01:09 AM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?Well..to each her own, I suppose. Enjoy RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Why are you RPW?I guess what I'm talking about, though, is more of a complementary yin and yang, rather than a hierarchy. I guess this is a resistance I have here: I am skilled and intelligent full stop, I don't need the qualifier "in a feminine way". Likewise, my partner is skilled and intelligent, he doesn't need the qualifier "in a masculine way". We have different skills inside the home, which I think is what you mean, but I'm sure you understand why this sort of phrasing can seem a little demeaning to eith… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?I don't want a man who makes my decisions for me; I can do that for myself. I don't want a man who thinks I'm too emotionally driven to make rational decisions, or who thinks he knows better than I do, or that he is more intelligent and competent than I am. Again, I don't know where you're getting this idea from reading this sub. Are you reading TRP? A lot of what you're saying seems more male-centric RP instead of actual RPW. And of course it depends on what decisions - obviously I don't think … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 10:15 PM |
| 6 | Why are you RPW?Again, I think you're taking all this power dynamics to an extreme and I don't quite understand why. A lot of us are independent women who work and have had an education, have our own bank accounts. We also emphasize taking care of ourselves in RPW - having your own friends, interests, job, and not going out with your boyfriend to hang with his guy friends when you don't want to. We just prefer there is a hierarchy in our relationship, but that doesn't mean our worlds revolve around our men. Aga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?Femininity comes in different ways, whether its a demeanor, spirituality, physical appearance or role in the family. Again, if it works for you to be a feminine career woman, that's fine. We're just saying it's a little more rare for this dynamic because the majority of men prefer to be the leader, or the woman stops being attracted to the man because she's too much in control. It's definitely not impossible, though, I've seen it happen. But for the most part, I will say that the husbands or boy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 09:04 PM |
| 6 | Why are you RPW?Who says our worlds are revolving around our men? There's a lot of RPW that work and study here, and have their own friends and hobbies. I don't really understand where you're getting this. There's a major difference between having your world revolve around a man and having your man lead. Which, from an earlier comment, you also admitted to preferring. (And if I remember, you don't want a captain but want a man to lead, you don't want to take charge but don't want a captain, etc) So you could at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Why are you RPW?AAhahahaha seriously, what kind of animals let women have voting rights??!! Hmmmm... | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:48 PM |
| 7 | Why are you RPW?We're pretty terrible animals then...trying to convince men to stay with one woman!!! Haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:31 PM |
| 4 | Why are you RPW?This made me lol haha...probably because it's true! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:24 PM |
| 4 | Why are you RPW?We always say take what you will from RPW and leave the rest. This sub tends to attract more traditional women because of the man being head of the family mindset (which may be more agreeable to some religious RPW or RPW of different cultures), but if it's not for you, then ignore the rest of us ;) I definitely believe you can be a very feminine career woman and be married. It's possible but perhaps more rare. My boss is actually a career woman - she's slim, attractive, poised, graceful, intelli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:10 PM |
| 4 | Why are you RPW?It's a common mindset in RPW because a lot of us don't respect men that we have to be in charge of. It doesn't mean that it's for everyone but you are in a RPW sub... | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 08:06 PM |
| 10 | Why are you RPW?I was frustrated with BP men who wanted to let me take charge basically with everything. Decide what we eat, decide when we meet, decide what we do. I wanted a man to show me things, not me show him things. They were just too nice and I felt they had no backbone or leadership. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 06:30 PM |
| 10 | Why are you RPW?I'm 28, teaching artist (sounds strange but the only way I can describe it without giving away my job specifics). I grew up RPW and with traditional values, but spending my childhood in a liberal town in the US skewed my perspective. I keep up with RPW because it's the only way I can remember how to really act like a feminine woman, because there's nothing around me that's inspiring me. I also had difficulty having LTRs when I was younger because I didn't know what I was supposed to be...I went … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 05:35 PM |
| 1 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityAhahahaha!!! Perhaps it's just a title waiting to happen? ;) I really hate to publicize her story, but it's just fascinating to me. She's pretty attractive but yeah...listen and learn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:52 PM |
| 1 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityYes, she's an interesting woman. "Listen and learn," my boyfriend always says... | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:45 PM |
| 6 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityDon’t talk about yourself unless asked. Inquire about the person you are with and give them your full attention. Listen carefully when they speak and never interrupt someone My infamous investment banker friend with the cheating husband does this all the time. She'll call me then use me as a walking diary for her to tell her thoughts to. Sometimes I'm annoyed (because she literally doesn't ask about me or ask any questions...even if I say "oh I've been baking cakes" she'll reply like "my rich fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:37 PM |
| 5 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityThank you for writing this! I love Audrey Hepburn's femininity in Breakfast at Tiffanys. She's elegant but not stiff or prissy, easy going but not brash, caring and nurturing but not overbearing, sweet and delicate but not boring. Love how you make specific references as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Tips on Becoming More Feminine?Ehh the regular users here are pretty open to theory posts as long as they're on femininity. Perhaps something on "elegant style" or the likes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 07:21 AM |
| 7 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessAdding to this - stay happy. Seriously. Mental youth is just as important as physical appearance. If you're just cynical and angry about everything, you age quite quickly. Frown lines or forehead stress wrinkles... Enjoy your life, whichever phase you're in, appreciate what you have, look forward to what's coming up next, whether it's getting married, getting promoted, having children, seeing your child go to college, seeing your child get married... | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 06:59 PM |
| 1 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkHere's the thing - regardless of getting married, what if you had children? Would you so selfishly be unwilling to give up your independence to mother your children or build a family with a man? It's a lot of team work. Both people have to sacrifice and give up their independence when there's two people in the picture, especially if there's offspring. The man usually gives up his financial independence - no living in cheap accommodation or eating shit foods. His money goes to the children and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterMe too. Tried it once, don't think I'll ever do it again unless it's on the bunny Hill... | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 03:36 PM |
| 2 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkThere's different types of femininity. For sure you can be a femme fatale type, but if you want to have a family, it's good to also have a nurturing side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 03:34 PM |
| 2 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkPicture this. I assume you wouldn't be impressed by a man's ability to do his nails. Or an ability to do ballet, or his ability to wear girly dresses. Sure, they may be quirky, funny, etc... but they def don't make you hot and bothered about him. This is exactly why a lot of women who think they want a "best friend" as a boyfriend eventually have bad sex. They think they want a boyfriend who is attached to the hip - they like the same TV shows, have the same hobbies, they can gossip together abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 03:32 PM |
| 1 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkFascinating Womanhood, Surrendered Wife, Surrendered Single are the most recommended books here. Just general ideas about being feminine and sweet. I like Fascinating Womanhood because there's literary examples where men write about important women they loved in their lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 01:43 PM |
| 5 | Tips on Becoming More Feminine?Have you read Fascinating Womanhood? There's a few sections I really like regarding femininity - being radiant, gracious, happy, nurturing and youthful. It's written in a bit of a corny language but the basis of its tenets are gold. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 01:25 PM |
| 15 | Tips on Becoming More Feminine?I think I may write a full on post about ladylike grace, manners and elegance here but I'm not sure about whether the ladies here would want it.. Definitely write it! We welcome anything regarding femininity in this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 01:18 PM |
| 3 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkThat's wonderful! And it's great you're realizing it's unnecessarily mean or bossy - by all means if there's a serious problem, he should know. But things like nagging or controlling...definitely unnecessary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 01:17 PM |
| 1 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkThere's plenty of men who aren't RP - I wouldn't worry so much about it. But understanding some basic knowledge about RPW sexual strategy doesn't hurt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterIn reference to the older man/younger woman, I mean....There's different age gaps as well. If I'm reading correctly, its seems like you're talking about a significant age gap, like 8+ years. I agree this can be tricky...I actually know a couple that's a 28yo woman and a 56yo man! Although he's kind of a crazy guy, he's travelled the world, but I definitely observe that he doesn't really act his age. He acts like a frat boy, and I think it's to keep the interest of his wife. This scenario I think… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterWhere do you live? I don't think so. I think we're talking about two different things. I don't want some kind of boss and secretary dynamic. Could you clarify, then? What exactly of a dynamic are you looking for, if you don't want a captain but you're looking for a man to "take the lead" and be assertive, you don't want a captain but you don't want to defer to anyone yet you don't want to "make decisions"? It sounds confusing to me. Women can advise and have a soft power, that doesn't necessaril… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 09:25 AM |
| 3 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterTake care of your body and spirit - exercise, read novels, cook, decorate your apartment, find a part time job...all basic RPW advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:53 AM |
| 7 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI'm sure she'll mature when she gets older. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:50 AM |
| 5 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI don't want to be in charge of my partner and making the decisions. I prefer a partner who is more assertive than me, and I prefer him to take the lead. But the idea of putting my life in his lap and deferring to him for everything? Yikes. This to me IS Captain/First Mate dynamic. It's not about a man always telling you what to do. Big decisions involve two people. A good captain will listen to his first mate, consider her thoughts then "take the lead" (using your language). I don't think you r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterThat's why I don't understand why women go there, read TRP and then proceed to panic about everything. TRP is an extreme place. While there may be some truth to TRP (things like modern females are too entitled, women expect you to love them even if they're fat but will dump you if you lose your job, slutty women who ride the cc then want a beta provider last minute before they hit 35), there are people who aren't like this (both men and women). Just stop reading TRP. It's not for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:42 AM |
| 4 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterPeople who want conflicting views are welcome to go over to bluepill or purplepill - that's the purpose of those subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterWell, that's why we turned to 3rd wave feminism, right? So women could make their own choices and be financially independent and not be tied down to a marriage? I know it both ways. I know long standing marriages where the woman is very happy - she has the support of her husband but she has her own interests and independence (either through part time work or business) to keep her interesting and not a doormat. I also know a few women married and unhappy because hey don't know what to do with the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterWhat would be out of your personal best interests? I'm just curious. Let's just say a woman has all that she wants -good career, doesn't have to clean the house, stays attractive with her own money, has her independence, has a man who is intelligent and provides for her and does part of the housework. Is that what you're referring to? And how's the level of respect from the woman to the man in this scenario? How's the sex? Does the man truly appreciate the woman being in his life if she has all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:26 AM |
| 3 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterIts just crazy to me the extent that TRP relies on broad generalizations. This is extreme TRP to reduce everything evolutionary biology. We don't condone having a job or career as a RPW woman in this sub. It's 2017 and we're not living on the prairie. Plenty of RPW reap the benefits of feminism (voting, working, financial independence, education) but we're just saying not to take it to the extreme level of feminism (male bashing, female entitlement). I think you should stop reading TRP, it's a m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:35 PM |
| 10 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI can get loud and opinionated when I'm drunk Are you drunk right now? Just curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterLike what? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:23 PM |
| 8 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI like crocheting...hehe not skateboard because we're uncoordinated. Omg so true, nothing with balls or wheels for me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:20 PM |
| 12 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI come to this sub to improve as a woman, not to debate whether should I or not. Double up vote! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:19 PM |
| 10 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI'm not sure why you're being down voted, because there's some truth to what you're saying...my single girlfriends who are early or mid-30's and dating really put on the pressure when they're dating new men. Things like "I should probably settle soon," "I need to make sure he can support our children," "he has to take me seriously before I'll consider him as a partner" and they're 34 with sun damaged skin and acting like they're queens. I'm a woman and even I think this is unfair and female enti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterDo you have any statistics or articles on single women over 35 being happy and fulfilled? Just curious. The RPW thread about post wall women you were talking about is full of personal anecdotes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 10:56 PM |
| 10 | Why I can never be an RPW but why it doesn't matterI think you're right about RPW being more about self awareness rather than our worlds revolving around men. We do have career/working women here or women with more liberal tendencies (I mean, I used to smoke a lot of weed my last year of college) but most of it is just taking responsibility and understanding the consequences of your actions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts for the weekI laughed because just two minutes before your comment, I said the exact opposite - that I get along with married women with children, haha! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts for the weekOk, yes I see what you're saying. Putting bribery aside, I'll do things like not talk about a certain subject or only talk about a certain subject around a girlfriend if I know she's interested about those things. I do know many of the men I know don't really know when something is offensive to say around other people, whereas I think women are more cunning in this sense. Or with the example of my wrathful colleague, although she's quite humorous most of the time, I stay away from her because I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts for the weekYes, I would agree to this. I mean, that's why women wear low cut tops right? To show off cleavage because they know men like it? But in your comment it seemed like you were insinuating women keep mental file on other women, not men, for manipulation purposes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 09:17 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts for the weekCan you give an example of how a woman would use her mental file of another person for manipulation purposes? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts for the weekHmm, I will have a mental file on them, but as to using it for evil manipulation??? I don't really know how to do that... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 08:57 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts for the weekI found I get along most with older, married women with children because there's really no competition there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 08:56 PM |
| 2 | How hard is it for college girls to find serious relationships?Funny enough, OP posts in r/cscareerquestions... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 05:17 PM |
| 2 | How to spot a guy who only wants to fuck n' chuck?There's some pretty morbid and depressing posts in his history. "Likes killing stuff"... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 05:12 PM |
| 2 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?Ugh I love spooning my boyfriend because of his sexy back. I just mush my face into it and kiss his neck. He also has sick abs as well, even at age 34 he's still pretty lean and muscular. He was one of those lanky thin tall guys growing up but now he's totally paying off, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 10:02 AM |
| 6 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?My boyfriend used to box as a hobby, he's a fighter in general (mentally) so I wouldn't be surprised if in a serious situation he'd throw out a few punches for me. He's always reassuring me whenever I have worries. Not validating, but reassuring. And he has a pretty sexy and strong back so when I hug him I feel safe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Thank you RP - had an amazing monthit's really hard not to have unpleasant, resentful thoughts when you're looking at the ugly calculations of "can we buy a house before I'm 30" etc. You're not alone in thinking this, and it doesn't help that the economy is in shambles now cries | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 09:18 PM |
| 3 | How hard is it for college girls to find serious relationships?Blue Pill. I couldn't find the traditional dynamic I wanted with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 09:15 PM |
| 10 | How hard is it for college girls to find serious relationships?If you're talking about serious relationship as in one that would lead to marriage, your chances are slim unless you're at a more conservative college. The first two years are experimenting and the last two years are figuring out what you want to do after college. Most guys aren't looking to settle with a serious girl at this point (again, unless they're more conservative). That doesn't mean you can't have a "casual" LTR and experience dating, though. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was in gra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 09:06 PM |
| 6 | Thank you RP - had an amazing monthI just melted at this. My boyfriend is super stressed about finances right now and you gave me a good reminder to act sympathetic to him instead of comparing him to other men. Thanks for that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 07:20 PM |
| 2 | 26F needing career/life advice, at my wit's end!Really? That's pretty interesting. My brother's a doctor and he married a dentist, she makes good money, but they were together before he became a doctor. I guess doctors work such crazy schedules and they tend to be cutthroat alpha people, so it makes sense if they want to marry someone who makes a similar income so they don't have to entertain their wives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Living together before marriageJust things like having a female role in the house, taking care of domestic duties, him making the big decisions and me being in a supportive role. Again, when I live with a man I'm not looking for a roommate, we're fulfilling husband and wife duties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Living together before marriageI think your thinking is like mine - to me living with a man means fulfilling the role of a wife, and my family also doesn't like me living with a man until marriage. I don't want to live with a man as his roommate, I want to live with him and build a family. There's no way of explaining this to my friends though, because they think I'm strange for feeling like I'm disobedient to my family if I cohabited unmarried. Also, the idea of moving in with a guy, breaking up, and then moving in with some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 10:32 AM |
| 2 | Where to find Red Pill Women?Same! A lot of my girlfriends are blue pilled and/or career women. I complain about it to my boyfriend but he says I should listen and learn from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Where to find Red Pill Women?I'm also a lone wolfette, I have a few friends but I don't belong to one social group. My values are reinforced by family values. I think generally any young woman who doesn't keep up with her family is not very RPW (unless the family has serious problems). I've also noticed a lot of RPW don't have huge girlfriend circles, most stay at home by themselves or with their boyfriend/husband. It's a crazy world put there to face as a lone woman! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 09:44 AM |
| 6 | Living together before marriageI've never lived with a boyfriend (currently on my third LTR) at age 28. The first two I didn't have an urge to live together, but my current relationship is more serious, however I can't live with him before marriage for family reasons. It's against my family rules. My brother and his wife didn't live together before marriage, however they had taken several vacations together and also was long distance for a few years so stayed at each other's places, but they never officially shared a house to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 09:15 PM |
| 6 | This Woman is so Hot that she HAS to CheatHow do women like her get away with this? It's never crossed my mind to cheat because I fear I would be the one to be alone forever. And why do men get with a woman with a cheating past??!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 07:20 PM |
| 1 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?I guess I was thinking more of jobs - women usually can find an easy desk job whereas men's work tend to be more difficult and risk taking. I don't need a best friend. I need someone with a penis who can take charge. Yes 100000000x | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 05:32 PM |
| 1 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?Both of my first time LTR boyfriends didn't realize they had to man up and lead the family - we were basically like close friends that had sex together. And they would complain that women get benefits in the relationship - things like women are generally more protected. It wasn't until my current boyfriend who is +7 years that I felt like I was actually in a proper relationship!!! Older man with experience definitely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 03:36 PM |
| 19 | Moving towards being more feminineThat's wonderful! Home life is so important to create, and I also feel a peace and serenity when I take care of my home. There's no reason why you couldn't study and be domestic at the same time. Super woman! When I was in university and grad school, relaxing to me meant cleaning my apartment, cooking, decorating, laundry...I always had to be coaxed into going out, haha. Home is my sanctuary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/17 06:10 PM |
| 1 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?But were these men generally middle aged? I think SMV is all relative, a 25yo man is going to look for 18-22, a 35yo man will look for 25-30, a 45yo man will look for 30-35, etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 06:35 PM |
| 5 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?My boyfriend actually said the other day that his friend's girlfriend (34yo) looked old. She's actually kept herself up but he said it was mostly because she's cakes on makeup and dresses too young so she just looks like a clown. I think too much makeup when you're middle aged makes you look older, even though women wear it to look younger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 05:34 PM |
| 1 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?Oh for sure, a 40yo may never be able to meet a man to start a family, but my point is that if a woman marries when she's young and ages gracefully and elegantly, her husband has no need to find a younger woman to have an affair with (if he's not fulfilled in the marriage). | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 07:39 AM |
| 2 | The First mate revels in the influence she has over the Captain.I feel like it takes a very dominant and masculine man to lead the way. If you notice, in couples that have the women wearing the pants, the man doesn't have to do much - just follow along and provide for her. But with very feminine or submissive women, the man actually has to step up and take initiative. So when feminists say that men want submissive women to make them feel better, I don't believe that - it takes MORE work to be with a submissive woman. It's more tiring for the man. It's much e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Femininity PersonifiedWhere in Europe do you live? It's a big continent ;) I'm not talking just about Europe though - women in Asia, Africa, Arabia are less aggressive generally speaking. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/03/17 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Femininity PersonifiedHave you lived abroad before? The women outside the US act very differently. There's none of this aggressive tone of voice and no fighting to get a say in the conversation. I just looked up the actress and she's incredibly beautiful in a sensual way. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/03/17 06:51 PM |
| 1 | The First mate revels in the influence she has over the Captain.All Women Are Like This/That. That there's no such thing as a perfect woman, because we all have inherent female nature, including entitlement (which comes with complaining or whining). | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 01:58 PM |
| 3 | The First mate revels in the influence she has over the Captain.Yes, that's exactly how I treat my boyfriend - lots of kisses and being sweet, and it's sooooooo sexy to me when I see my boyfriend putting out even more authority because of it. A lot of it transfers to the bedroom for us. It's a perfect dynamic and I'm very fortunate to meet someone like him. I require a man to accept this kind of behavior for my relationship to be successful, and I remember a lot of BP men I dated thought it was strange I would act this way. They wanted a woman who was more p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 01:03 PM |
| 4 | The First mate revels in the influence she has over the Captain.There's actually a phrase in my home country that literally translates to "act coquettish, like a spoiled child" and many of the girls use it to get what they want (usually small things like wanting him to take you out or begging for a kiss or just some attention). I do it to my father and my boyfriend and it's just a cuter way of acting rather than being overly polite and/or monotonous. My boyfriend loves it and he knows I'm being a bit sassy and playful on purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 12:26 PM |
| 10 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I've seen some 40yo women who are more attractive than 25yo, not just because they've taken care of their beauty but they have this extremely attractive maturity about them. Imagine a woman that can joke and laugh with you, is responsible, not whining, is supportive, secure in herself, maternal, happy and healthy. I'm only 28 but I've noticed there's a lot of insecurity and entitlement in young women in their 20's (I've been a culprit as well) because they're competitive and bitchy. It really de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Interesting Video on women's nature and the point of red pillThe only aspect that really spoke to me was how he talked about men having focus, how biological this focus is and how it applies to men working. I don't regret being educated, but when I was in college I did feel an unnecessary amount of pressure to find a good paying job when I'm not intelligent in any good paying industries. I wished that I hadn't been so depressed about my career in my early 20's and just enjoyed my life instead. I don't know about other women that may be more intelligent (p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 12:21 AM |
| 6 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?I always took RPW to be first personal growth before relationships. Personal growth including maximizing your own attractiveness, developing a worthy character and pleasant personality, developing skills that allow you to deal with the world in a feminine way instead of a masculine way. I find all of these to be first and foremost "being a lady" before addressing relationships, and I strongly believe that a relationship will not be successful unless a woman has done some self-improvement and sel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Have any RPW dealt with depression?When I was 20, I was extremely awkward. Went on a few dates but didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 21. The height of my dating was 25-27, when I became more sure of myself. Also, I was attracting older guys who were in their 30's, who were really in their manhood. Don't fret if you're not dating at age 20. It happens different times for everyone. I have a girlfriend who had lots of dates when she was early/mid-20's but now she's 29 and still single. She for sure had her fun dating but sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 11:30 AM |
| 3 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?I had two sissy boyfriends (first two LTRs). But I was their first serious LTR. I think it's better to date a man who has had several LTRs before - then they'll really learn and understand their role in a relationship. That's why generally older man/younger woman is ideal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 11:46 PM |
| 10 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?The few women I know who are almost 30 and haven't had a LTR are princesses and also act like men have cooties. They're not even religious, they're just plain immature and entitled. There was one girl I knew who is trying to make it as a professional classical musician, and whenever she went on dates (with non-musicians, because they have stable money whoohooooo) she would always complain how they just "didn't understand her music career" ie. They have real jobs. She's 30 and single. Very attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I think part of the issue here is that men don't know what these things cost. Exactly. My boyfriend spends bare bones minimum on his toiletries - generic brand shampoo etc. I spend more on good quality skincare - because the cheap brands are horrible and skin is important to me. But he doesn't really understand my routine and the cost of these items (I don't buy high end but if you have several products that are mid-range price, $15-25 a bottle, that adds up). Or my Bobbi Brown eyebrow pencil - … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 09:17 PM |
| 11 | Splitting financesNot married yet, but this was my parent's set-up: My father is an engineer and was the breadwinner. The house, cars, bills, health insurance, college tuition all came from him. My mother is a freelance arts teacher - her job allowed flexible hours but was hourly pay. My mother used her money to buy groceries, clothes for the children and any additional school fees (activities etc). She also used her money to purchase clothes and makeup for herself, so she didn't have to ask my father for money i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Are women gatekeepers of sex?It's absolutely true men can be gatekeepers of sex too. Especially to women, who are used to manipulating (actively or unknowingly) men with sex. My boyfriend turns down sex sometimes because he has work to do, and I for sure feel powerless because he rejected me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Are women gatekeepers of sex?I strongly agree with this comment. No matter how idealistic any RP/RPW is, relationships are generally power play. It's a natural hierarchy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedMy mother was a SAHM until we were middle school then she started chasing money. She only did the cooking but she stopped nurturing us - she still supervised but she was always in this horrible mood because she was so stressed so she always screaming in the house. My father made enough to take care of an entire family of four (plus occasional luxuries) so she didn't really need to chase money. She could have worked a tiny bit less and saved her peace of mind for relaxing and enjoyment. But she w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedI feel lucky that my boyfriend appreciates femininity. Whenever I make a dessert with beautiful presentation, he says "Women always make beautiful things with their hands." And he's always praised me for my compassion and empathy and softness. But he comes from an extremely patriarchal culture, as do I. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:45 AM |
| 5 | How ambitious can a RPW be?Here's my take on incorporating RPW in the workplace: Work is work. You have to get a job done and you need to address problems. You can't be helpless and rely on other people. You need to make decisions. You need to be able to discuss problems with your boss. As a good employee your boss values your opinion. However, you can be feminine in your demeanor. You can disagree politely and gracefully with a colleague during a meeting. You can be cheerful when you chat with colleagues at the water coo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedIf I may ask, what was the marriage like with a wife that chased money? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedThere's a funny Chinese saying, basically goes: raise your sons as if they're poor, raise your daughters as if they're rich. The idea is your sons should come out scrappy, hardened, even a little cynical. Your daughters should come out soft, gentle-hearted, and optimistic, convinced of the world's goodness Yes! This is exactly it. I was raised to be a girl whereas my friend raised herself to be a man (again, it's not clear whether she was forced to fend for herself or because it was feminism.) I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:16 AM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedWhat's your career, just out of curiosity? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedYou're absolutely right, and the fact that my friend was able to reach up to the level she did as an investment banker, just tells you something about her personality. I mean she's not just a career woman but she was the top of an extremely cutthroat industry. Even sometimes I can't follow her because all she talks about is her rich people circle and financial projects. It's totally beyond me. And just by talking to her you can tell immediately she's of another class level. Not just the 100k/yea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?She's amazing. And she uses the money very wisely too. She's splurged before and traveled herself around the world and also she paid for part of my brother's med school tuition. It's just funny to see her eat at dingy dive restaurants because she claims "just because a restaurant is expensive and fancy doesn't mean it's actually good food!" If you think about it, how many expensive things can you own? It doesn't make a difference after a certain amount. Her spiel is that having money doesn't mea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:26 AM |
| 5 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?My father's family had this "old money" value. My grandmother is rich but if you went to her apartment you couldn't tell. She still covers the blender with aluminum foil because the lid is broken but she could just buy a new one. Anyways the philosophy is that you should spend money for comfort and quality but in reality you don't need that much quantity. She has good quality clothes but she doesn't have an overflowing closet. I did remember my friend saying her husband's family disliked her bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 12:04 AM |
| 9 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?The reality is that I am not interested in a life like that, because it comes at far too high a cost beyond dollars and cents. I have a girlfriend who is extremely rich - she worked in investment banking and her husband is the general manager of a major hotel chain. He drives a Porsche and she has luxury Italian clothes and a private chauffeur. Their family goes to the Four Seasons for brunch after church every weekend. Anyways it's just interesting to observe their lifestyle because they have c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 11:38 PM |
| 31 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?A reason women are materialistic is because materials make us look more attractive. If men are looking at women wearing sexy clothing then we also feel compelled to go out and purchase sexy clothing to keep him interested. Fashion and beauty costs money. If men expect women to be attractive, they should expect it to come with a cost. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Ok, so my understanding is he asked you to choose between purchasing a new ring ("gold digger") and the family heirloom ("frugal")? That just seems strange, like he's setting you up. If he wanted to test you he would have just given you the free family heirloom and let you either accept it or reject it. It definitely is tricky though. I will save up for something for myself but it's different to ask someone else to save up for you. Right now whenever my boyfriend takes me out (in which he pays),… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?Yeah, I mean definitely not all women will turn into catty bitches just by staying home, but it's certainly more easy to if you're already predisposed to that type of attitude. Imagine being able to rant all the time because you're always with family and you can always be honest around them. Then you're just used to treating people that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Hmmmm, interesting discussion topic! I think it's good to discuss this, especially now that women work, they have their own money to spend and thus can make their own preferences on purchases. I'm curious - why did he peg you as a shallow materialist because he asked you to choose from two engagement rings? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?Perhaps the causation is women confining themselves to female company? This could be it. I mean, think about your closest girlfriends - if you're comfortable with each other you can let go of yourself and rant about anything without being judged, because you trust each other. I don't really spend that much time catching up with girlfriends anymore - because when we talk it's just updating our lives, gossip and ranting. And I don't really feel like gossiping or ranting most of the time...but then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:43 PM |
| 5 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?There was a comment in a past thread where someone said SAHMs tend to be drama queens because without being in the workplace and only staying at home, they're not truly dealing with the real world. Home is a safe haven where they can be nasty or entitled to their family but it's acceptable because they're running the household. When women have jobs, they learn accountability, courtesy and how to deal with work politics. I noticed this in my mother - she worked part-time at home and part-time at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Is there a female equivalent to the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book?Powerful and Feminine is a wonderful read as well! It's about teaching you to be sensual with your body, be a source of light and compassion and having a peaceful mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsIsn't it the same for ugly women? Not talking about average women who just need to dress up and primp, but women who are born with an ugly face will fail in the sexual market place, even if they have a hot body. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 04:04 PM |
| 8 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsProbably because short men seem physically more childlike than tall men. Anything in petite or miniature form has a neotenous feel to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 12:40 PM |
| 20 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsFitness/health Intelligence (problem solving, knowledge, emotional, social, this includes being able to make appropriate jokes in the right situation) Discipline/work ethic Courage Sexual prowess Desire to contribute to the world (family or civilization) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:09 AM |
| 7 | "10 Easy Ways to Deal With Me When I’m Being a Bitch"they seemed all too accepting of the idea of women behaving badly! :-o To be fair, I don't blame them...! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 11:20 PM |
| 13 | "10 Easy Ways to Deal With Me When I’m Being a Bitch"I stopped reading after "Women don't come with a manual." Were the users on the men's forum also snickering at this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Roommate and her daughter incredibly disillusionedPeople who constantly make excuses about their misfortune in life most likely won't open their eyes to try to improve. They're just wallowing in their misery. If I were you I would just use them as a role model of what you don't want to end up as. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Older women, what depressing social changes have you seen in your lifetime?I'm awed by your awareness and ability to act on it! Thanks! This awareness didn't happen until I was late 20's though because early 20's I just wanted to be validated by guys. I think the more sense of self worth you have and the stronger your moral code, the easier it is to turn away men who are just trying to get into your pants. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/03/17 01:29 PM |
| 15 | Roommate and her daughter incredibly disillusionedMy 34yo roommate also had "bad luck" dating, because she doesn't know how to cook and sleeps with them early...until she saw me cooking for my boyfriend and observed how I treated him. Guess what, for her next boyfriend she decided to start cooking for him (although she's stopped already, 2 months in) and they're still dating instead her being pumped and dumped. She could always see how I had a good relationship and would ask me little things about mine, and I would give her subtle hints (in a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 07:41 AM |
| 2 | Older women, what depressing social changes have you seen in your lifetime?You can't treat kids like mini adults. The authority of parents has been so undermined and everything is child abuse. I hear a lot of complaints from mothers that say children are increasingly younger and trying to negotiate. At least in my generation, negotiating might happen around teenage years, but she has a daughter that's 8 and already starting to negotiate (and apparently her peers also do the same). It's a bit frightening, actually... I also wonder if it's due to parents trying to befrie… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/17 10:12 PM |
| 5 | Older women, what depressing social changes have you seen in your lifetime?I couldn't stand the crudeness and rudeness of men of my generation. I just have a really funny story about men our generation (I'm late 20's). I went on a date with someone a year older, and I put my best girl game - flirted, made him feel like a man, looked hot...because I also wanted to test him and his morals. Anyways, after the date he asked if I wanted to go back to his place, which I politely declined, then after dropping me off he asked if he should come upstairs, which I also politely d… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/17 09:59 PM |
| 32 | Does it matter what He looks like?A healthy relationship is two way - both parties should be attracted to each other. If you were unattracted to your man but chose to be with him for money and power, you're a gold digger and I guarantee you, without that attraction you won't want to continue the bedroom activities. He doesn't have to be Brad Pitt but you should be attracted to him overall. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?if my girlfriend gets that retardo gooey mode where she's giggly and singing goofy songs and sorta drooling on me. You just described my relationship with my boyfriend as well, haha. I just realized all the loquacious women I know who are married, have these beta husbands that just nod "yes dear" and stay quiet. I feel a bit bad for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?I just thought about this some more. Women with RBF absolutely require a dominant man to lead the conversation or activities. I'm just thinking about the number of women who talk and jabber and moan about things non-stop. More often than not they're the ones dominating the dynamic (the man has to just sit there and let her words go through one ear and out the other) or the man has to obey her wishes or complaints. RBF women who are more controlled in their speech or manner, need someone else to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 08:08 PM |
| 4 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?Same here (the single women I know). They've either stopped dating completely or are feebly dating ("making friends" or having casual sex, translation). It just seems more and more difficult to get married if you're older, not because of looks but because these women have already built up a whole life for themselves - social gatherings, weekend trips, etc. It would be very difficult to give that up, especially if you're mid-30's and have been used to that single lifestyle for probably almost a d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 07:40 PM |
| 1 | When feminist friends ask you your thoughtsAmazing line!!! I actually say "I believe women should have a choice" (but omit the "if you choose to be a bitch then you also choose to be single...") | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 04:11 PM |
| 3 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?I also have an aunt who is single, although she's in her late 40's. She was very attractive when she was young and still is. I remember asking her (when I was in high school) why she never married, and she said it was very difficult to find the right person. However, observing from her life, she's also extremely independent and unwilling to cooperate with other people sometimes, and very strong-willed and adventurous. She always said she loves being able to answer to just herself, but also I've … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Help with Blue Pill sisterYeah, happy people just don't insult other people for no reason. Just live your life, she'll catch on if she chooses to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 12:13 PM |
| 5 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?It seems tricky to date when you're a single woman who's financially stable and uninterested in marriage. Most relationships go through the stages of courtship then commitment then building a life together. But if marriage is not in the works, isn't dating just friendship/sex? I just feel like it's easy to date and have companionship and sex but how long would this last before both people get bored? Long-term commitments happen because both parties care about each other. Dating is just surface l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 10:52 AM |
| 2 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?I've never heard of Kate, what is she famous for? A major journalist? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 10:08 AM |
| 4 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?she wasn't sure why anyone would get married unless they were poor or intended to raise children. I agree with this but I think it's for extremely independent women who can make their own decisions. I'm financially stable but I still like someone to teach me about life because I'm a little wary of doing certain things by myself. I think it's for the dynamic. I prefer to submit to someone and it's a spirituality for me. Growing up I always did everything with family, but if someone isn't family o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 08:16 AM |
| 4 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?I know a few mid-30's to late 30's single women who have kept their looks and are still extremely attractive. One is a 38yo blonde American woman who looks like she's 28. When she's not working full-time she's traveling solo or with her friends, partying it up, dating and able to get dates but her standards are way too high. She's very sweet but she's just too used to being independent and I don't think she can find a high enough SMV man for herself. Another is a 34yo Italian woman who is also e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 08:03 AM |
| 5 | Andrea Tantaros Interview about feminismI was just reminded of an incident when I met up with a high school friend, and she was talking about all the things she wanted to do (an MBA, traveling, career goals) and then she turned to me and I was just like "I'd like to be married and have a family someday" and all was silent. She couldn't even say "oh that's nice" or "good for you," just...completely silent. Anyways the memory made me laugh... | /r/RedPillWives | 09/03/17 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Men Using Me for SexReddit age of one day and 7 points karma...I think you're correct. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/17 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?the only women who "get it" are those who also have RBF and tend to look down a lot on the loserettes who can't take a moment to ponder before acting. Fascinating observation but...why? Why do RBF/poised women "get it"? Are we just thinking and observing more than we speak? But if so, why do RBF tend to be more RPW than cackling feminists? Lol from your username I thought you were a dude. Oops. Haha, my RBF is so strong you couldn't tell my gender from behind the screen, eh? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?That's very fascinating to know and understand! I'm glad to hear it because I have RBF and I feel like sometimes it's off-putting, but just like you mentioned I generally have higher esteem and tend to think before I speak. And I feel fake if I'm trying to put on a crazy face or jabber nonsense if I'm genuinely thinking about something. the "1000 cock stare" I still don't understand what this exactly is...care to explain? My job as a man in a relationship is to give such a woman respite from dec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?I forget which book it was, but one of the RPW books talked about masculine and feminine energy, and how as a woman we don't necessarily have to be the feminine energy, but if we choose to be the masculine energy then we need to find a feminine energy man to complement. Which doesn't necessarily sound as horrible, because feminine energy men typically are artists or musicians or academics or low-key men. I once knew a high powered businesswoman whose boyfriend was definitely the feminine energy … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Guys only see me as a friend, how do I get someone interested in me romantically?has resting bitch face (which I have always been attracted to in women). This is really interesting, why are you attracted to RBF? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Depression that comes with seeing the reality of thingsI should clarify, if she's rejecting a drink to a man that she's interested in, then that's a slap in his face. I meant that she shouldn't be the one to court him if she likes him (in the beginning). She should of course decline drinks from guys she's not interested in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Depression that comes with seeing the reality of thingsRegarding getting free drinks because it's so easy as an average girl - this has been the mating game for centuries. Men are biologically driven to court women. Declining drinks is actually a slap to the guy's efforts - you're better off being gracious, accepting the drink then having a little chat with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/17 07:35 AM |
| 8 | How do you feel when some guys put you on a pedestal?This is why my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. He agreed with everything I said, then after a year of dating he finally broke down and raged at me for not being the perfect angel. Sometimes I wonder about Fascinating Womanhood, where Ms. Andelin preaches to attain the celestial love so that basically you're worshipped... | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/17 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalThank god he's not a beta worshipper... | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/17 07:18 AM |
| 11 | How do you feel when some guys put you on a pedestal?Yes, this. It's a double edged sword. I feel feminine and powerful but then he's a pushover. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/17 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Beauty tip - L'Oreal Nude Magique BB creamWhen my current bb cream runs out I will try it as well! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/17 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalSure, definitely pm me. I politely disagree that I have problems being submissive, actually - I grew up TOO submissive and American culture told me I shouldn't be (as an Asian female) so I think the trouble lay in not understanding there's a difference between being confident and being aggressive, does that make sense? My problem was I was too shy and quiet and too unsure of myself, which leads to low self-esteem so I spent a few years trying to be independent and aggressive because all the whit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/17 08:08 AM |
| 4 | Getting Serious About SolipsismWhat my SO imagined when he was ready for a relationship? Nothing really. He just wanted to find the other half of his two-person team. To create a team that was so unstoppable that they could handle anything that was thrown at them. My gosh you just opened my eyes to a whole new perspective. My boyfriend is a very logical thinker and this makes sense why he chose me as a girlfriend - not just personalities and roles, but for example he had a girlfriend that came from an extremely poor family...… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/03/17 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalBattering yourself won't help. It just get's you even more tired on top of how you already feel. You need to understand that your brain has a reason to do that. It screams in your face that there is an issue. Yeah, I think this is the underlying issue. I realize I can act this way and whenever I do I'm apologetic to my boyfriend. I think I'm being RPW by being modest and realizing my mistakes but I think it's getting to a point where it's becoming self-deprecating and that's where my boyfriend i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalHe's not the one concerned about boob size - it's me that's concerned because he comes from a culture that has big breasted women. It's my own insecurity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalI used to be a little overweight, but I've gotten in pretty good shape the past year so I think that's why I'm extra self-conscious - because for the first time I actually feel attractive. I also have a good paying job for the first time and have money to spend on clothes, again, now I'm extra self-conscious of how I dress - because I can actually afford things and make good style decisions. I think that's where the pressure comes from. Also, he comes from a culture where a lot of women are very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalActually I have read that book! It's been a while though, so maybe I should re-read it. Regarding being silent with my boyfriend - I know he loves me for my tranquility and serenity. I think I'm just insecure because whenever he's with friends (male or female) he's very talkative and he just seems to enjoy their extroversion. Like I stayed at his family's home for a few days and his brother's girlfriend is a very talkative girl and she basically leads the conversation at the whole table. But I'm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Let’s talk about mental health and how it affects our RPWness.Yes I'm adding vitamin D too! Except I'm a bit bad and have never taken vitamin D regularly enough to feel a major difference. But I will try my best to take one every day this month. When I took B-complex and iron supplements daily it made a huge difference in my energy levels! I didn't feel like sleeping after work and could stay awake all day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Let’s talk about mental health and how it affects our RPWness.I'm really happy to hear this, because I was also someone who was a bit emotionally troubled in my teens and early 20's. I practice mindfulness to keep my thoughts and feelings in check and most importantly I keep from feeling sorry for myself when things aren't going well and don't burden my husband with my (very occasional) dour moods and anxieties unless something is truly wrong (it almost never is). I also practice mindfulness and being rational and objective but still sometimes my emotions … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalCould there be a lack of connections? Nobody likes people complaining(SADLY!) because by complaining they don't solve anything but still keep doing that. What about you working in this issue? Maybe if you get a better connection you will help him and then when you have more confidence in a relationship, breasts will stop matter. The more I think about it, the more I think it's my own problem/insecurity/moodiness. Because he shows me he cares in virtually every way. I think I'm just being a princ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 06:24 PM |
| 4 | Simple QuestionsFor me I view weed the same way as alcohol - it's a recreational substance that can be used moderately without any problem. It's when it becomes a dependence or addiction then it's a huge red flag. I say this because I used to smoke some occasional weed so I realize it's not as horrible as some people may think. However, I have also seen some people become total potheads and that's a problem. Same goes for alcohol - plenty people have a drink at dinner or just on the weekends. It's not a red fla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 09:21 PM |
| 8 | Simple QuestionsThe reality is that most attractive young women that were raised in good households don't sleep around - because they don't realize their own attractiveness at that age. At least that was how it was with my friends and I. I felt extremely awkward and prude in college. When I went to parties I didn't really know how to talk to boys. But I got asked out on dates often (which would fizzle out after one or two dates) so apparently I was attractive to some standard. I think sleeping around for some g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalI did remember that I tend to have low energy due to B-complex and iron levels so I'll be taking some supplements again, as well as vitamin D. I do meditate already but part of my anxiety is also feeling like I should be talkative like most women. I'm actually very quiet and serene. I'm afraid of coming off as boring. Which is also silly because my boyfriend loves me for my serenity but I feel pressure from society and also other women to be more outgoing, etc. Thanks again, I'll try to remember… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Let’s talk about mental health and how it affects our RPWness.I'm pretty good at knowing what I should do (exercise, have hobbies, read, socialize) but I have trouble feeling good enough to do it. I do notice that B-complex and iron supplements help my energy levels immensely. I'm also going to experiment with vitamin D supplements as well. Most of my problems are energy levels. Sitting down and reading a book helps me get out of my head and refocus. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalThank you! I'm getting better at controlling my moods and anxieties. You're so wonderful and supportive, lucky to have you here xx | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalYeah, but also this doesn't happen that often, so that's why I think it's just me overreacting. Most of the time he just glances at someone else for one second but it's rare if he's gushing his opinion to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalListening to music is a good idea! I should do more of that. I always listen to music at the gym and it lifts my mood up. Thanks for the reminder :) It's also been difficult socially for me - I have a few girlfriends but there's difficulty with some of them. One of them is going through her husband's affair so she always just wants to talk about it. Another friend is kind of a SJW feminist so I don't like to spend that much time with her. Another friend is jealous of me because I have a boyfrien… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 10:55 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalI'd also like to hear some other's thoughts too, maybe from some of the men. I have a feeling that he thinks that I'm so beautiful that it wouldn't hurt my feelings if he looks at another woman, does that make sense?? If you were Jessica Alba's boyfriend and she caught him looking at some girl on the street, would that make her feel bad? Probably not, because she's Jessica Alba and her boyfriend is damn lucky to take her home with him. I think that's my boyfriend's logic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalI think it's a combination of me picking up on what he talks about and also my own self confidence. For example we were watching some silly TV show the other day. There was a Colombian women prancing around in a bikini and she had the firmest body and perfect breasts. Anyways my boyfriend perked up and was staring at the screen saying "gosh what a crazy body" and looking at me and laughing. It obviously made me really insecure because I feel like he doesn't gawk at me the way he gawks at supermo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalActually, I live in a sunny country, but I don't go out into the sun very often. I've been trying to take more walks during the day during work, I think it's helping. I might take some vitamin D as well. I think part of the problem is I don't socialize so much outside of work (because I'm a teacher so my job is very social) and that's when I start getting into my head. I've been making pretty good efforts to go to the gym though so that's good, and trying to read a book. I notice if I can't sit … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 08:17 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalThanks, it's helpful to know I'm not alone. I think I need to stop looking in the mirror so much. Especially in bad lighting, ugh, haha. And I'm really glad I can talk to women who won't tell me my boyfriend's being mean or lame! I do realize I should try to be more trusting and "innocent" so I'm trying to get out of my head more. I think sometimes I feel bombarded with too much stimulation that I enjoy being alone and quiet, but then I'm anxious that I'm coming off as aloof. Just an example of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 08:07 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalAaaah ok, I understand now. That makes a lot more sense. In terms of my natural beauty I know he thinks I'm beautiful, but then I'm also insecure about clothing. He comes from a culture of fashion and sophistication and he's pretty judgmental on women's dress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/17 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalHmm, yes that's interesting. I haven't asked my boyfriend specifically about it but I have a feeling if I did ask him to make decisions for me, he would tell me I'm being insecure. For me I wouldn't mind if he did but knowing him, I don't think he would like it...which might sound strange. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/17 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalHmmmm, that's a good idea! I think I did lose sight of my mission. I think the only long-term mission I have is to have a family of my own someday. Also, my boyfriend and I have talked about building an orphanage in Africa (where we both used to live), that one is very long-term of course. I've got some short-term missions though, a new project regarding Arab music (living in an Arab country right now) and trying to apply for an opera festival in Southern Europe. And weightlifting, working on a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/17 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend putting me on a pedestalI don't know!!! I feel like I'm great at self-improvement but it gets to the point where I can be too perfectionist. Lately I've been picking at my appearance - not just controllable factors like weight but even my eye shape and nose shape and skin etc. I know my boyfriend thinks I'm beautiful and he tells me that but I feel really ugly all the time. I keep telling myself - OK so what happens if I do have the beauty that I want? What changes? Not really anything, because I already have an amazin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/17 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Help with being seen as feminine/finding a Captain when I'm an Amazon?Have you ever considered moving to the Netherlands? Everyone is extremely tall there... All jokes aside, it's perfectly possible to have a relationship as a tall woman. I know a very tall and voluptuous woman who had a short boyfriend - but he's 15 years older and makes her feel like a little girl because of his maturity and his frame. It's not impossible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 06:06 PM |
| 1 | AskRPW: How Much Does "Type" Matter to You?I find bubbly talkative men a huge turnoff. My guy is one of those "unless I have something meaningful to say, I don't say anything." I've also noticed American men trying to be more talkative like women, because men are BP and conditioned to be more effeminate because of feminism. I really hate it when guys have a "Valley/sorority girl" accent. Or if I say something really emotionally and they imitate a feminine way of speaking because they don't know how to be men...It's the worst!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 03:38 PM |
| 2 | THE WOMEN HERE ARE PATHETIC. NO MAN WILL EVER WANT YOU. YOU WILL END UP BITTER AND ALONE! - FOREVER!!!I woke up a bit depressed and after reading this, I laughed so hard. Thanks for the smiles :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 10:35 AM |
| 3 | AskRPW: How Much Does "Type" Matter to You?Give me the mysterious introvert any and every day of the week. I find they come across much more "naturally alpha" which I'm unashamedly attracted to. My boyfriend is like this!!! I'm extremely attracted to this type. They don't talk often but they're always full of surprises. Because they're off developing themselves while all the extroverts are trying to be fun-loving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 08:12 AM |
| 1 | AskRPW: How Much Does "Type" Matter to You?I for sure have a type. My current boyfriend is the combination of my first two LTRs. First LTR was a musician - loved to socialize, hang out, relax, enjoyed life. However he was lazy and entitled and unwilling to take what life could offer (he was totally fine just playing music and hanging out). He was very extroverted, but to the point of being a frat bro (like trying to drink too much etc). Second LTR was an engineer - very intelligent, logical and practical, hardworking, honest, fit, ambiti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 08:07 AM |
| 3 | How do you know if you actually can do better?There is definitely merit to them, I hear you loud and clear. If the issue is enough that you can't see past it and you start to question him or stop respecting/trust him, then yes, I think you should end it. But I also think part of the issue is due to age and life experience. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are the same age - neither of you have experienced much of life if you're about to graduate college. It just depends on you. My instinct is you really do want someone different. You'r… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 10:04 PM |
| 6 | How do you know if you actually can do better?And that's perfectly understandable - for almost all RPW we also prefer someone more intelligent than us. But the fact that you're unsure about his decision to invest his money in the family business, along with the fact that you grew up with a father that provided well, tells me you think you can make better decisions than him. Does that make sense? If you are questioning his decisions, it's a respect issue. Either learn to respect his decision making or leave, because it doesn't feel like you … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 10:01 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if you actually can do better?If I am working as an engineer and he is taking the easy way out, I would resent him. I want someone who will work towards something. Look at it this way. A lot of people want to find an easy way to make money so that the bills can be taken care of and then he can do whatever he wants with the rest of his life. If you realized how many people are slaves to their job but stay purely for money, you'll understand why. They don't have time to do what they want to do - hobbies, ambitions, traveling, … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if you actually can do better?But he seems lazy when it comes to finding something to do with his life...so maybe that has more to do with ambition than laziness. If you're just finishing college, it could be that he's just unsure of what to do. A lot of post-grads go through indecisivenes regarding careers. It's not necessarily a bad thing. When you're just starting out, you have no idea what the world is like. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 09:34 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if you actually can do better?People change a lot after college. That's the time when you're really becoming a "real world" adult - you will change when you start working and most likely your world view will broaden and you might become different people. If he's not satisfying you, I say let it fizzle out or end it. That's why I broke up with my first two LTRs (besides the fact that they thought they could do better, haha) but then I met a man who is pretty much perfect for me (we met when I was 27). I'm glad I waited until … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 09:13 PM |
| 10 | How do you know if you actually can do better?If the only reason you want to break up is to see if you can do better you will be very disappointed. I was the first serious girlfriend for my first two LTRs - both of which were not good with women in general. Both wanted to have an open relationship because they wanted to date other women but still keep me around because I was "wife material." Anyways, long story short, I ended up breaking up with them and the first guy didn't have another girlfriend until 4-5 years after me, now he's dating … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/17 03:24 PM |
| 2 | I hate working out with my boyfriend.So... Get in the kitchen, and bring him a sandwich? No seriously; if you're bothered about this, find an interesting recipe and start cooking. I think you misunderstood - I'm very good at cooking. But he also knows how to cook. So for example I'm going to pan fry a fish with salt and pepper and he says "no that won't be good for this type of fish, it's better to bake it and add lemon" Then I feel dumb because I haven't done it the "right" way. Does that make sense? Anyways, it's sort of petty in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/17 06:38 AM |
| 1 | I hate working out with my boyfriend.That's what love sounds like when it's coming from a man. Jesus Christ you just changed my world. This just made so much sense why my boyfriend was saying certain things to me (and I was being stubborn). We don't have a problem with respect or treating each other badly, but lately he's been giving a lot of suggestions to me on how I should handle situations. Now I understand why. Here's the thing though - I feel like I need to "contribute" to the relationship and it makes me feel like I'm not us… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Craziest/stupidest Women's Magazine Advice You've Read?I read Cosmo on the rare occasion during college just to be cool. I never took any of the advice seriously but my God, almost 10 years later I'm just cringing at how that shit actually sells....and CONSISTENTLY!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Soft PowerI actually have a story about soft power and smoking. My first LTR smoked cigarettes, bad addiction. I never nagged at him but I would excuse myself when he was smoking and not be in his presence, or be hesitant to kiss him. When he came home to meet my parents for week (we met in another state) I told him he had to smoke at the side of our house so my parents wouldn't see him, because they're extremely anti-smoking. He eventually felt ashamed and quit. His parents were so surprised because they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 05:26 AM |
| 1 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?Yeah, that's also interesting the way you put it. For my boyfriend and I we got each other in terms of romantic, friendship and sex, but he mentioned it's really difficult to find someone he wants the specific sex with but also have a good match in other areas. We're lucky to find each other. Sometimes I wish he would be rougher with me. Also he's good because he'll sense if I feel hurt or abused after the session and hold me. But if you did find a girl who loved your perversion and was a good p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 07:57 PM |
| 1 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?meanwhile with a hoe, its all about me. when I pee on her I think: "This crazy bitch will do anything for me, and leave me the fuck alone." I understand this, but does this make for a healthy relationship with a real girlfriend? I thought men would want to treat their girlfriend well as well (like pay for her, take her out, be the father of their children if married...) I ask because I know I give a very good girlfriend experience to my boyfriend. I can be a good companion and stay out of his wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 12:24 PM |
| 2 | How Masculine Jobs and Lives Can Affect a Woman’s Beauty and Feminine EnergyThanks for this reminder! I actually sometimes am on the line of laziness or immaturity. I don't mean to, but it's good to learn how to deal with life in a feminine way instead of avoiding challenges, does that make sense??? | /r/RedPillWives | 23/02/17 11:01 AM |
| 3 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?This is really interesting to me, because my boyfriend also has a specific fantasy that is so important to him that he won't stay with a girl who doesn't accept it no matter how big her boobs are or whatever. His is not so crazy extreme that he has to pay someone for it but it's enough that some average women really don't like it, but thankfully I also prefer this sex. It just goes to show how important sex is to a man, but also for me it's very important now that I realize I prefer this. If I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 04:51 AM |
| 6 | Dating strategyI've dated probably 30-40 guys in my life and never slept with any of them (except for the ones that turned out to be LTR). It's good for social skills and vetting, so that you don't fall in love with the first guy who gives you attention. I was juggling 7-8 guys in a time span of three months, then suddenly it went quiet....and my current boyfriend popped up. Funny how that works... | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/17 06:35 PM |
| 6 | How Masculine Jobs and Lives Can Affect a Woman’s Beauty and Feminine EnergyThis is very interesting because I have a traditionally feminine job (teaching young children) and I still feel masculine. Even simple tasks like organizing files and making photocopies makes me feel masculine, because I have to focus. I'm not a babbler that can gab and multi-task. Even cooking I feel masculine because I'm concentrating on doing things right. The only time I feel truly feminine is when I literally don't do anything, or have any responsibilities. Such as sitting as a passenger, l… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/02/17 05:59 PM |
| 15 | Dating strategyI've done both. Dating around never seemed to work for me, all my LTRs have developed when there was no one else in the picture. I feel like it's more difficult to bond to one man if there's many in the mix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Soft Power:-* | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Soft PowerThank you!!! That made me really happy :)))))))))))) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 09:33 PM |
| 3 | How to destroy your husband with nagging.Just goes to show "trying to help him be a better person" means domineering mother. Which means he does NOT feel sexy. I actually really hate it when people advise me without me asking, so I don't do it to other people. Thank goodness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Reoccurring problemThanks, that made me feel better. I'm pretty sure my boyfriend is not shallow because he's had some pretty gorgeous girls but didn't stay with them - he actually ended up dating an extremely overweight girl who was very intelligent and artistic. They broke up for other reasons though, not due to her looks or status. And there was an article circulating about billionaires and their wives - many of whom had average looking wives. So not all rich successful men will look to upgrade or only marry su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Reoccurring problemThat's true - I also know of a few female breadwinners. I guess it's just her... | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Reoccurring problemI think this is my biggest fear - that the more high status my husband becomes, he'll also want a better woman. My boyfriend right now is a struggling engineer/entrepreneur, but what if he becomes extremely rich and successful? Will he want a supermodel girlfriend instead of a lowly teacher (me)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 07:30 PM |
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