Low libido

JustAnotherBoymoder · 2023-12-28T23:30:06+00:00

I have a low libido too, and what really helped me was building myself into someone that's sexy. Exercise, doing my makeup daily, wearing nice clothes every day, all helped me see myself as more of a sexual being. Something that also helped me was making time for sexual fantasizing and slowly getting myself in the mood. I think it's very easy with a low libido and receptive sex drive to just not think about sex outside of when it's with someone else, but I think making time and space for it on our own really helps.

You mentioned your boyfriend saying he wants you to give him head more often, I've found pushing myself into the mood and thinking about how attractive he is really helps me be enthusiastic with it. Also focusing on how good you're making him feel during it.

Egoistchan · 2023-12-29T00:20:56+00:00

Low sexual interest is a very common side effect of AD'S and not something you can really just "improve" yourself out of. Arousal is primarily hormonal/chemical. Too much serotonin inhibits your excitatory pathways and reduces your level of dopamine.

Put simply, you can do all the foreplay, buy all the toys, and do all the right things physically to cause arousal but it doesn't matter because your entire neurochemical system and pathways have essentially been put into a coma. Doing "more" isn't a quick fix. I suggest you try other ways to be intimate (cuddling, sexy talk, taking baths together, mutual masturbation) until you guys can start weaning safely off the medication. Keep up the effort and try your best to relax. Forcing sexual pleasure is a fools errand.

SomberWinter13 · 2023-12-29T01:11:14+00:00

When I went through something similar, introducing a good vibrator really helped. It really helped to get me back on track. Not all vb are created equal so going a store and asking some questions may help. I mean I know it won’t fix everything but knowing I had something to help me took away some of the stress I was feeling which had made everything worse. My husband also used to be irritated that I was struggling until I said, what if I was unkind to you because you had erection problems?? That really made him think, and then he did whatever I needed to make things good for the both of us. Another thing that took away a lot of the sex stress.

TheBunk_TB · 2023-12-29T05:33:57+00:00

No joke, think about sex more and flirt with each other.

basedviet · 2023-12-29T15:25:25+00:00

I would work towards both of you getting off antidepressants. You’re in your early 20s and should not be having any of these issues.

AutoModerator · 2023-12-28T23:09:19+00:00

Title: Low libido

Author bunnytryingreddit

Full text: I'm F22 and in a 2 year relationship with M27.

The relationship is great overall, also on the sexual level. Whenever we have sex, though, I have a hard time to get in the mood. I almost never refuse him (unless I'm extremely tired) but I simply am not interested/turned on. Today he told me he would like me to give him head more often.

We both take antidepressants and ever since I started taking them (1,5 years ago), my libido is basically non-existent. Before that, my libido was extremely high and I was very interested in sex. I also have a hard time getting wet which doesn't help, sure, lube is a solution but it's not the same as before.

My boyfriend's libido is probably less high than how it would be without antidepressents (I can't compare because when we met he was already taking them) but overall I'd say it's a very healthy, moderately-high libido.

What can I do to get more in the mood?

As said, I feel like sex is extremely uninsteresting (and before I was very sexual, so it's quite a change). Quitting my antidepressants is something I'd like to do slowly in 2024, but not a quick fix.

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CranberrySoftServe · 2023-12-29T02:44:25+00:00

We both take antidepressants and ever since I started taking them (1,5 years ago), my libido is basically non-existent. Before that, my libido was extremely high and I was very interested in sex.

Okay, so you've identified the cause.

What can I do to get more in the mood?

I'm not a doctor, but if you've identified the med as the cause, then probably address what is causing you to feel depressed so you are no longer depressed and can go off the medication that is nuking your libido. You're right it's not a quick fix. I came off mine earlier this year and it took me about 6 months of titration and side effects. I feel much better now but damn if that time wasn't trying lol.

Title	Low libido
Author	bunnytryingreddit
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	December 28, 2023 11:09 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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