What do you consider to be nagging?

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itchymuller · 2014-11-06T18:00:44+00:00

I'm lol'ing. I have this problem and try to stay AWARE. Ex. in my marriage : I have this need to CONSTANTLY remind my husband if it's trash night. Maybe only once or twice in our entire marriage has he forgotten, no matter. I'm still going to inform him he has to take the trash out. He has told me that when I do things like that it makes him seem like he can't be trusted. Not good! Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I just STOPPED reminding or asking him to do things like that? I read a blurb of that "Surrendered Wife". Talked about stopping with the nagging..letting go. I NEED TO DO THIS.

On occasion, my dad has been around and informed me to stop nagging my husband. :) Glad our relationship is that solid, somebody has to do it.

I'd say if you find yourself repeating certain "tasks" or duties around the house that your S/O should be doing, it's probably nagging.

*Tonight is "Trash night" I'm going to test this out, and not say anything. And let you know what happens. The world will not stop spinning if he forgets.

PhantomDream09 · 2014-11-06T19:02:46+00:00

Most of the time, I only remind my SO of something after he has asked me to (usually the following day) simply because he knows what he needs to prioritize.

There are some situations (upcoming events etc) where it's appropriate to remind him about things on the horizon. I'll mention it once, he acknowledges. He may have to double check on something else while he's at work first to make sure there won't be a conflict, and as a back-up he'll ask me to check in again in a week or so.

Generally though, I try to ask myself "would I be annoyed if my mom reminded me about x?" If the answer is "Yes" then it's safe to assume that my SO would most likely also find it annoying if I were to remind him about x. Mentioning an item of importance once when my SO has a moment is all that's really needed. Nagging is usually an expression of anxiety and/or dissatisfaction - if you identify the underlying cause you'll be able to pick up on whether or not you are mentioning the item for a legitimately constructive reason, or if you're simply leaking some pent up negativity.

The one exception is the alarm clock, and it's more of a joke between us. I know his alarm is always set, and he knows it's set, yet I'll still ask him almost every night before I conk out if the alarm is on. Cue teasing and cuddles

I, on the other hand, can be very forgetful. As a result, I have to keep a running list of appointments and things that need to be taken care of. My SO is very kind though, and he always seems to know when something has slipped my mind and he will gently prompt me. :0)

Bakerofpie · 2014-11-07T02:09:47+00:00

Making demands disguised as asking for a favor: "Will you take the trash out if you get a minute?" that later turns into "Why haven't you taken out the trash yet?!"

Excessive "reminding" or requesting of status updates. I've been bad about that in the past, but I'm working on it. I could usually keep a pleasant attitude about it, but no matter how nice I think I'm being, it's annoying to have someone ask you every few minutes how that thing you're doing is coming along.

vfree · 2014-11-07T23:05:22+00:00

Telling, expecting, or demanding that someone change who they are or do what they don't want to do.

Title	What do you consider to be nagging?
Author	wibblezibble
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	November 6, 2014 5:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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