Worried about attracting a high quality man

cocodecoca · 2018-10-11T20:35:06+00:00

Some of the most sexy, magnetic people in history do not have conventionally beautiful faces. That's because there is a lot more to being sexy than your face.

A lot of your appeal as a person is how you make other people feel.

teaandtalk · 2018-10-11T06:57:40+00:00

Every time this comes up, I link this post: feminine beauty is highly controllable. With a good figure and at 19, you could easily be an 8 or a 9, if your face is 'cute' and you put in the rest of the effort.

skeleflor · 2018-10-11T23:31:04+00:00

Your face is probably more attractive than you think it is. You'd be surprised how far a bit of careful attention to things like eyebrow shaping and eyelash curling can go. Add a bit of color, clear up any adolescent skin issues, lose whatever puppy fat may remain in the face, and you could be a knockout waiting to blossom. Google some gossip rag pictures of celebrities without make up. Most aren't much to look at without the glamour. Now, I'm not advocating that you employ deceptive make up practices that reshape your entire face so you look like someone different from yourself when the paint comes off. I am saying you should learn to do make up well. Get a good quality haircut that suits your face shape. Learn what colors complement your complexion and use them in your hair, your make up, your clothing and jewelry choices. Stand up straight and buy clothes that fit, or have them tailored if you can afford it. Most of physical attractiveness comes down to basic hygiene, fitness, posture, and grooming; and I have heard from many a man that most young women your age are considered more than attractive enough by most men. Make the most of your youth while you have it!

If there's only so much to be done with your face, you can take heart that you can almost infinitely improve your body. Many men would prefer a hot body over a hot face. Your advantage over other women in this area will reflect your effort.

Finally, I'd conjecture that sexiness is all a matter of projection. It's something you draw out from within you. Something in your eyes and the way you hold yourself; something in the way you speak to and touch a man, in the way you make him feel. I'm short and petite and have always passed for a teenager (searching for a bridesmaid's dress I was recently referred to prom dresses!), and men have still affirmed my sexiness in their words and actions. The "sexiest" woman I know is 33 and looks all of 14; she's short and petite with strikingly neotenous babydoll features, but there's an erotic intensity behind her eyes and movements that makes more mature women look like girls beside her. Cultivate self-confidence and deep comfort with your body; your femininity -- and sexiness -- will come into flower.

Mrganack · 2018-10-14T15:19:44+00:00

Looks in women are way less important for the "high quality" guys than for the average guy.

A "high quality" man, and I mean a man with options, either will never commit, because he can't find a woman he trusts enough to let himself be protective and sensitive towards her, or will only commit to a woman that has the personnality that makes her a quality person, which is so rare that most of the time he goes with option 1.

Every smart man knows that sex is mostly worthless and easy to get and looks fade, and in their eyes most women have nothing of value to bring to the table when you remove the sex. So for them, personnality is a lot more important.

Mostly what men are impressed by is a woman that is curious like man. Curiosity, and the extremely diverse interests that men generally have make for deep, lasting and respectful friendships and conversations. The incredible connection of man to man friendship is the feeling that men want and look for the most, and what gives them the deepest satisfactions in life.

Men almost never experience that with women, because most of the time women are self-centered to the point that they couldn't care less about science, politics, philosophy etc... Women instinctively know that men despise this attitute and by instinct women try to mirror the man they date in terms of interests and passions.

However a "quality" man has seen this behaviour so much that he can discern which woman is truly interested and which one is faking it without even knowing. The difference is that the second type of woman will revert to her former state at some point and no longer be attractive to him.

Also, men "with options" are disillusioned about the fidelity of women because they themselves have seen married women and women with boyfriends ready to cheat with them so many times. Like all men they are biologically programmed and obsessed with having a faithful partner to carry their genes (Being the cuckhold that raises another man's child without knowing it is every man's nightmare) but they are extremely distrustful and therefore they give enormous importance to fidelity, way more than to looks.

So you have your chances if you develop a lot of interests and if you can inspire trust.

Javi_is_cute · 2018-10-11T07:34:09+00:00

How do you feel about your teeth? If you do have nice teeth then that is a good place to focus on and you should feel proud of yourself if you do.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T11:31:34+00:00

I'm 26 and still get mistaken for a high school student, but there is still a difference between what I look like now and what I looked like at 19. You may have facial features that mature differently than other people's but you will still "evolve" as you get older. I was still losing some of the fat off of my face at 19, and definitely still figuring out style.

I know what you mean though, because sometimes age disqualifies you in ways that have nothing to do with your level of attractiveness. People make assumptions and you can't control that. But I also don't think you should stress too much. Sometimes an innocent face allows you to get away with styles that would otherwise be hard to pull off, especially as you age. You are also allowed to behave in ways in that extent beyond "cute". It is always a pleasant surprise when the cute, unassuming girl turns out to be quick witted and a bit of a firecracker.

thelittlestpotato · 2018-10-11T12:38:30+00:00

I feel this post on a personal level! I'm almost 21, but plenty of people mistake me for a 13 or 14 year old. Honestly, I don't know if this is helpful, but don't worry about it so much. Men aren't one hive mind with the same preferences. Work with what you have, and be secure that a man who is interested in you is interested IN YOU. We can't all look like instagram models, but the nice thing is that not all men are into that.

SanPedroLover_ · 2018-10-11T06:56:41+00:00

I prefer "innocent & cute" over "hot & sexy" all day!! Those girls, generally speaking, usually have better personalities 🤷🏻‍♂️

Kara__El · 2018-10-11T14:56:33+00:00

I used to substitute teach. At 25, I was once mistaken for a student at the middle school. That was a bit of a stretch, but I was regularly mistaken for a high school student, as well. Now I'm 31 and people think I'm 25. There's a silver lining here.

Title	Worried about attracting a high quality man
Author	hoopandsoftball
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Date	October 11, 2018 6:51 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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