How to not be spoiled by men?

pearlsandstilettos · 2019-07-28T13:57:36+00:00

Hello MGTOW thank you for using us as an example, we are always thrilled to have you come to lecture on RPW. This is a reminder that men need to help other men on TRP as a prerequisite for commenting here. Men's comments with no TRP participation will be removed. End gynocentrism, help men first.

teaandtalk · 2019-07-27T21:07:08+00:00

Most of this is very context specific. Except buying things for you - don't let men buy things for you - that would be a hard limit for me.

For example: "Carry and move stuff" do you mean like, at the grocery store/helping you to your car? Or helping you move on the weekend? There's a big difference between those.

Ask yourself what your boyfriend would think of each of these actions. Do you think he'd appreciate you receiving gifts from other men? Unlikely. But would he mind if a salesperson helped you to your car with a bulky item? Probably not. (And if he does, that's a red flag imo).

oooKenshiooo · 2019-07-27T22:20:52+00:00

It's not that hard.

A) always reciprocate favors.

If a nonLTR man helps you with something, make him a thoughtful gift (maybe a good bottle of whiskey?) , invite him for a BBQ with your LTR plus some friends.

The trick here is to not let favours spiral out of control. Some men think they can favor themselves so to your pants - this should be avoided. So no dinner date as an exchange for helping you carry heavy stuff or whatnot.

B) before asking others, always ask your man for favours/help first.

He will do anything he can to help you. If he can't, is unable or unwilling: try yourself.

C) always try your hardest before accepting help.

Many women are easily tempted into having other people do their jobs... All they have to do is act a little stupid or clumsy. DON'T EVER DO THIS.

You devalue yourself, you undermine your self worth, you give up on chances to learn and improve and you will have less appreciation for the person to help you should you finally realize you can't do it on your own.

HB3234 · 2019-07-27T23:43:48+00:00

So long as you treat their kindness as a gift, rather than something you are owed/entitled to, you won't come off spoiled.

Draw boundaries where you feel they belong. Accept nothing that feels like a covert contract, and reject that which is inappropriate for the level of familiarity you have with the man.

FluffyLlamaPants · 2019-07-27T21:36:46+00:00

I have a good man and I don’t want to ruin things by acting entitled & spoiled

That's an easy one. Just don't act spoiled and entitled.

Don't overthink it. Let the man do what the man wants to do. He wants to shower you with gifts - that's his perogative. Don't try to control his action under the guise of humility. You don't think you're worthy of the gifts/ attention?

Let him make that decision, be always grateful for the gifts and the help, and don't ask for more. 😊

Chad_Thundacock · 2019-07-28T03:48:51+00:00

I don't get it..

Why is it a problem to be spoiled by a man? Letting a man spoil you is not the same as taking advantage of a man.

Red pill awareness is based on the understanding that men and women are different by nature. I think you would be smart to capitalize on red pill awareness as this gives you a HUGE step up on women who are indoctrinated with post-modern feminist ideology (they are taught to believe men and women are the same and are only differentiated by their reproductive organs - essentially).

How can you capitalize on it? Recognize that your youth (fertility) is your most valuable asset and don't waste it. Many women are miserable today because they go to college, get degrees that don't provide them with job prospects, and if they do get a proper degree they spend their BEST years working to pay off that tuition debt, and then see that they can't compete for the same high-value men with younger women, then settle for some beta provider.

As a woman in the modern West you are free to ride the cock carousel, but understand that it does affect your ability to pair-bond and will make a long-term relationship with someone you want to have a family with more difficult. I think a young woman with red pill awareness would be smart to leverage her youth to secure a well-established man (alpha), in his late 20's or early 30's who can provide for her so she doesn't have to work, and in doing so avoid the college debt trap completely. It will be easier because you'll be valued more highly as you haven't slept around (if the guy wants a wife [serious relationship] and not a whore), a woman that takes care of her man is very attractive (it demonstrates maternal competency). I know it's 'stereotypical' but if you can cook well, and show some maternal instinct then you can get a successful guy to commit easily.

Women today can't cook for shit compared to their grandmothers when they were their age, they think showing up is enough, well it's not, not if you want to secure a successful guy, ask yourself what do you bring to the table and why would this successful man emotionally invest in you and not just see you as another lay.

A woman on relationship_advice once said that men are easy to satisfy, "fuck em' and feed em'" to paraphrase. She was essentially right. - Chads 2c

TL;DR There is nothing inherently wrong with being spoiled by a guy as long as you're not taking advantage of him. It's smart to use red pill awareness to secure a high quality man that can spoil you.

Significant_Payment · 2019-07-28T11:21:44+00:00

I really like the fact you are thinking about this.

Title	How to not be spoiled by men?
Author	tianara101
Upvotes	4
Comments	22
Date	July 27, 2019 8:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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