Female soliphism

theredaccount · 2013-04-15T07:27:31+00:00

okay. i don't mean any offense with this wall-of-text comment. not a lot anyway. just hear me out, it'll help you and you are in great need of it, despite what you think.

from your post, you come off as very bitter and misogynistic. here's everything that's wrong with your post:

"Not to hound for pussy, I wanted genuine companionship...i know right?"

you say that as if it's a special, weird thing that you were looking for a meaningful relationship on a dating site. it's not, plenty of people are on there, guys too, looking for something real.

"I read shallow chicks' profiles.."

come on man. you don't even know these girls. unless they specifically write in their profiles something like "you have to be 6 ft tall, look like a model, etc to get with this.." you can't just call them all shallow and vapid.

"Not a single one of these egotistical shallow bitches..."

just gets worse and worse.

"I did exchange a few messages with a chick who had a masculine brain (she was an engineering student like me).."

holy shit dude, that's one of the most misogynistic statements i've read in this sub, and that's really something. i shouldn't have to explain why, but, liking math isn't exclusively a male thing. i'm majoring in photography, do i have a chick brain?

"Typical bimbo pretends she's smart because she read shit off the best seller list, visits museums, and claims she is into travelling because she once visited some random tourist resort somewhere."

again with the unnecessary name-calling.. everything else is again just you giving these girls bad characteristics in your mind with little justification as to why except being butthurt.

"Even the fatties "replied selectively"."

oh look, you're shallow too. (but don't worry.. everyone is. learn to accept this.)

okay. now that we've gotten that out of the way, i'm going to explain why okcupid and dating websites are the way they are. girls, any girls, girls that are fat, girls that are obviously psycho, girls that have snaggletooths will be bombarded with messages every, single day. no one, especially attractive girls who have active social lives, will be able to respond to every single message that they receive. it would literally suck up all of their time and more. why do they care if you put "tremendous thought" into your messages? they don't owe you anything, not even a response back. this is why "even the fatties replied selectively." not so much because they can, but because they have to.

listen to me.. you're behaving exactly like a hamster with all your rationalization and compartmentalization and projection. you call girls shallow and vapid only because they don't return their interest in you. then you're like it's fine, whatever, "I'm not interested in the shallow chicks on OKC." i see you hammin bro. these girls don't owe you shit. stop acting like they do, stop calling them stupid bitches because they're not responding to you. you say that your blue pill days are three years ago? bullshit. you're acting like a huge beta right now.

you're placing way too much value on your interactions with girls, from your "tremendous thought in your first messages" to reacting this negatively when you don't receive any replies back. you treat girls terribly as soon as you realize they're not going to fuck you (i.e. stupid vapid bitches). you have some blatantly misogynistic and untrue thoughts (she has a masculine brain because she's studying engineering). your profile surely reflects these issues, and that's probably why you're not getting any responses. (even that other guy in this thread, who says he spent a lot of time making a OKC profile that stands out is doing it so wrong. writing he's good at destroying sand castles, standing on one foot? that's cheesy. that's try-hard. that's fake. girls can see through that, and that's why he doesn't get any responses).

you are in need of a wake-up call. you need to work on yourself before trying to pick-up girls if you want to see some results. the problem isn't them, it's you. and if after reading all of this you respond by calling me a white-knight, then it's hopeless. you've gone full-hamster.

theubercuber · 2013-04-15T11:32:46+00:00

I do so well on online dating that I don't go anywhere else hunting for chicks (edit: except at random places not specifically for hooking up). So you're doing it wrong. And no, I'm not exceptionally good looking :)

grlthng · 2013-04-15T05:23:47+00:00

Perhaps you should try reading the male profiles. In my opinion, it is equally devoid of any content and signs of intelligence. It may help you make your profile more efficient if you know what the average male profile looks like.

The "replied selectively" is based on percentage of replies to received messages. That means they are receiving enough messages from guys that they can filter some out. So are they entitled, or are they just optimizing?

IMO, your feeling of contempt and perhaps frustration is counter productive. It is the typical response of males to project sexual ineptitude into anger against the opposite sex. Your profile is clearly shit and needs improvement if your response rate is less than 25% . Take better pictures, think about writing something witty and original, and keep trying until you make it. There are plenty of resources out there.

ss_camaro · 2013-04-15T09:51:23+00:00

OKCs and FB attention whores are one step up (or down depending on how you look at it) from the bar stool. They have massive amounts of orbiters and bitch shields are high.

The strategy is to spray openers, close early (if they flake next them) and realize that they are NOT LTR material. Their inner attention whore and the carousel's perpetuum mobile will get the better of them eventually. Proper day game girls have ridiculous computers and no 'online profiles'.

theredaccount · 2013-04-15T05:39:42+00:00

I've had pretty much the same experience as you have on OKC. I'd like to think I'm a pretty interesting guy, I live a pretty interesting life and I have pretty high aspirations for myself. I'm fairly attractive and I've very physically fit. I can be witty when I want to be and I have a wide varieties of things that turns me on.

I spent a pretty good amount of time creating an OKC profile that would stand out from the normal guy. I was witty, I was funny, I talked about things most people wouldn't, because most people don't do the kinds of things I do. I even took the time to make witty and more often than not funny remarks in the many first messages I sent out to girls. If nothing else, I at least asked them an open ended question about something we had a common interest in.

I got so few responses it was pitiful, and the majority of my target messages were to 8/10 type girls. I rarely even got the dignity of a response, much less a conversation. I get that its a numbers game, I understand fully that there are tons of other guys out there sending these same girls messages and that they get bombarded every single day. Hell I really only created an account to meet more women. I wasn't even looking to date or even have sex with the majority of them, just meet new people and expand my social circle.

After several weeks of trying to change up my profile pictures (even including a washboard abs photo of me after winning a submission grappling tournament), tried to make my profile more interesting (taking it less seriously for example "what are you good at? Grocery shopping, brushing my teeth, standing on one foot, going up and down stairs, and destroying sand castles"), to even spending extra time trying to write out more interesting first messages and then finally abandoning that all together and just sending out one sentence, "hey what's up" 's...I finally realized its all just a ruse. No girl on OKC is there for anything other than self affirmation and attention and the girls that are there to actually meet up, are not the kinds of girls I have any desire to meet with.

Perhaps other dating sites are different, but OKC is not a good place for men 18-25 from my personal experiences. I'll stick to day gaming and meeting women through my social circles, if that's the kind of online bullshit I have to put up with, not even worth our time.

edit: some syntax/clarifications

2013-04-15T12:45:18+00:00

I'd say that the girls you find on OKC don't quite represent what you can find in the so called real world. Because online dating is a last resort after it's turned out hard to find a relationship otherwise. Most of the smart, sweet, easy-to-live-with women are already in relationships so they don't need OKC, and don't appear there.

Men, then? Maybe this bias is less strong on men on OKC, because it's overall harder for men to get into relationships (the stereotypical expectation of having to make the initiative; the harsher division between winners and losers among men than among women). So not just men that have really big difficulties finding a relationships go online dating, but also quite normal men who are just kinda introverted and too focused on their work to break through the ice in bars and what not.

RedditBlueit · 2013-04-15T20:25:29+00:00

For real laughs, try searching on the downhill side of the SMV roller coaster. 50 - 60 year old women with laundry lists of requirements for men, and "I'm an old fashioned girl" (meaning "You pay for everything, and no touching!", not "I can cook and pamper you"). "My grandkids are my life", meaning, "I'll try to find time for you, if you're paying", and "I love travel" (on a secretary's salary? uh-huh.)

jcad1947 · 2013-04-16T00:18:56+00:00

Typical bimbo pretends she's smart because she read shit off the best seller list, visits museums, and claims she is into traveling because she once visited some random tourist resort somewhere. I still cannot comprehend the profound sense of entitlement these chicks have.

Excellent summation !! Fake bourgeois sensibilities are endemic where I live (in the metropolitan area, NYC that is). Saying you are cultured, educated, and well-traveled is code for "I am not trash." So that bullshit is partly a defense mechanism, because who else other than a trashy slut puts themselves out there on a dating site to get laid?

However, I take that crap as a given and I hope for some other good qualities they may have. That type of profile is so generic that there probably is some variety and originality in the individual who posts it; I try not to be bitter.

Poppyeve · 2013-05-13T12:34:18+00:00

.. Interesting insight :) ... But do you mean 'solipsism'? x!

Title	Female soliphism
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Date	April 15, 2013 4:48 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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