My last post on TRP received a lot of love, so hopefully you guys picked up some perspective. I like to keep things direct, short, and to the point.

So. Here.

First point:

I was trying to open a potential plate, about a 6, a couple of months ago. Wasn't working out. She finally tells me that she has a "nine date rule" before she sleeps with a guy. I reply "k", and next her. No contact.

This past weekend, she sends me a message inviting me over. I teased her, asking her what happened to her nine date rule. She replies "well, I know you're not going to try that hard, so".

Second point:

There's this guy who exists in the same social circles I do. We'll call him "Matt". He's awkward. The definition of "beta", even though I cringe to use that word. He was friends with my ex-girlfriend, would flirt with her, tell her how horrible I was. He put that girl on a pedestal so high, it was seriously crazy. Would still listen to her cry, bring her presents, flowers, write her songs, even though he knew what she and I were doing.

Come to find out that this new girl I'm seeing (same one from my last post) has had experiences with "Matt" too, used to work with him. He asked her out multiple times, finally she agreed. He got all dressed up, brought her flowers and played her a song he wrote for her on his ukulele. I know. I can't make this up. Needless to say, she was speechless and the date didn't pan out the way Matt had hoped. The evil part of me can't wait until he finds out that I've been involved with both women.

In summary:

Don't make your life about women. Make your life about you and your passions, and the women will come.

Don't be afraid to next. Dear God. Just do it. She'll probably never come back, but when they do, it's just that much sweeter.

Don't be a cringey, needy, strange man. Because I will have this weird mixture of feelings towards you that will generally include feeling sorry for you and wanting to hit you.

Don't be a fucking dweeb.

-BlackWildBoar