Intro
If you're worrying about SMV, you're wrong. I'm going to tell you why you shouldn't even contemplate where you stand when it comes to pulling girls and how you should interact with girls in general.
SMV?
It's your perceived attractiveness, not even the actual one. You control it about as much as some company controls it's stock price (Apple can't make it's stock soar without a great product. Our products can improve but most are genetic and therefore limit your realistic SMV growth ceiling). If you're being honest with yourself about what you're doing to improve it (lifting/dieting, expanding your social life, dressing well etc.), don't even think about how you look when approaching girls.
Frame
Always assume you're fine, as this more than anything else affects your mindset and subconsciously structures how you will interact with girls. If you even get thoughts like "Whoa she's out of my league" or "She's bad" or "Damn it'd be nice to be taller"; just tell yourself "I'm fine". Don't even gas yourself up like "Ya I'm the shit" because that will create this false ego boost that will slowly crumble in most guys if they're talking to a girl they think is really attractive.
Interacting with girls in general
No matter if you know this girl or are meeting her for the first time, these should be the goals of the interaction (Even if you don't find her attractive):
1. Being comfortable
2. Giving tingles
3. Listening way more than you speak
4. Being friendly
Being comfortable means just enjoying yourself in any context whether it's at a club or at brunch. You having a relaxed, good time should be all that matters. You have nothing to prove and there's no pressure to do anything other than just enjoy whatever you're doing.
Giving tingles is key. How she feels in a situation (Girls are 100% about in the moment) is key. The whole flow of the conversation should be getting her to put herself out there more and more while you reward her each time with emotional energy. They feed on this energy. This can be done with a witty remark, some occasional negging, maybe kino or even giving positive affirmation to something she does or says. I've literally had a HB10 say she "needed" to have interactions with me because I consistently provided that emotional stimulation. This leads to the next point.
Listening way more than you speak means way more than just shutting up but that is still way better than talking your mouth off. Just know that whoever reveals the most about themselves loses. Like I said earlier, the less she knows about you, the more she will fill in the blanks with positive hamster shit if she finds you attractive. Here are three examples ranging from the worst to the best way you can respond to the question "Aren't you a insert fraternity nickname?"
1. "Ya we're the best fraternity for sure, it's crazy how many people know what fraternity I'm in/recognize me on campus."
2. "Ya I am...good guys..."
3. "Ya I am, how'd you know?/Ya I am, you know about the fraternities here?/ Ya I am, do you come to our parties alot?/ Ya I am, are you in a sorority?"
Basically say as little about yourself as possible and steer it right back to her. Girls love talking about themselves and will naturally build attraction by opening up and placing themselves in the socially "vulnerable" position.
Finally is being friendly. You aren't Lebron James. Lebron James can blow bitches off and act like they aren't shit. You cannot. What you can do however, is maintain good warm eye contact, smile, and talk to girls without it appearing like you have some agenda. A guy who is in my fraternity and is on some next level shit is always friendly to girls. This guy could easily fuck over 1000 girls in his lifetime but instead will probably just fuck 200 or so 8's and above. He is nice to girls, he doesn't act like a dick or a badass. He doesn't "fake being alpha".
Closing
Closing is mostly a logistical, timing thing. If guys think a girl is hot, we will fuck them pretty much at any moment. Girls are not the same. How a girl feels about you can change daily regardless of if she's even seen you or not. Closing takes just being a man. If a girl is feeling you, she'll most likely text you about hanging out. If she invites you out just follow the above 4 goals and see where it goes. If you meet her at a club or bar, again follow the 4 goals and see where it goes. Bitches want sex. If she thinks you're the guy she wants it from, it won't be hard to fuck her. If you find yourself working for it too hard (Too hard being you got dinner one night and made out and next time yall hang out it doesn't lead to at least 3rd base and also you having to text her to try and hang out all the time), move on and reevaluate if you're really improving yourself as well as if you're doing the 4 things during interactions.
Shit testing?
Who really cares? It's a good thing last time I checked so don't take it seriously. If you find yourself taking it seriously, you aren't focusing on goal 1 which is having a good time. If you can't have a good time because a girl is testing you so hard or so often, move on because having fun is most important, not playing verbal chess. There are plenty of girls who will fuck you without the bs. It might even make the girl chase you instead but if not, again who cares?
Conclusion
I hope this helps out a little. Sorry if it was long, I'm sure someone here needs it.
Edits
-I'm assuming that if someone knows what "shit testing" is, then they are already familiar with the concept. I'm saying it should never feel like something you have to analyze and if you think the shit testing is too often you need to just move on. Your primary goal should be having a good time which should never be sacrificed in order to work on a girl.
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