Learn To Respect Yourself

SirKolbath · 2017-12-03T21:31:07+00:00

This is very important, and it applies to a lot more than just dating.

Think about your job for a moment. Do you enjoy it? Are you paid decently for the work you do? If the answer to both of those questions is not yes, then why are you doing it?

You are the prize. I recently took a promotion at work that tripled my stress for a paltry and insignificant raise in pay. Last week, after yet another argument with corporate, I decided that enough is enough. I have three interviews scheduled for my day off this week. I don't know how those interviews are going to go, but I'm fairly certain that I'll be offered at least one job that will be better than this one between now and my D-Day of December 30th.

I am the prize. Abundance mentality is more than just women. You need to apply that philosophy to every single aspect of your life. Walk away from bad situations and walk into better ones. Nobody owes you anything. The flip side of that coin is that you don't owe anyone anything, either.

ozaku7 · 2017-12-03T23:03:39+00:00

TL;DR: Learn to Respect and Love yourself, I believe that is the most important thing I've learnt here and I wish it was the first.

The sub is so focussed on self-improvement, but exactly lacks this kind of knowledge that in the end, you must be happy alone, respect and love yourself so you are in your best shape and mental state without the help of others. Others only amplify your emotional state, so it's a wise decision to maximize it with positivity to maximum result. If you are miserable, people will use that and make you feel even shittier. Observe people, and ask yourself, how much do people like this person, and how much this person likes himself.

behindtheline40 · 2017-12-04T02:42:36+00:00

The single biggest thing unattractive and unsuccessful men can do is stop being so hard on themselves.

This is what the often good looking and well dressed nice guy doesn’t get? He’s right he is a great guy to others but not himself and unfortunately for him this is a dealbreaker for women.

I took me the best part of 30 years to realise I wasn’t beating myself up because I was a loser - I was a loser because I beat myself up.

Triadis3 · 2017-12-04T11:06:15+00:00

This evil redpill sub often gets, "Just treat women like human beings!" thrown back at us.

It's actually fantastic advice.

Treat women well. Do not treat them like the entitled princess they expect, don't be a miserable asshole, just treat them like another human.

The counterpoint, of course, is to also treat yourself like a human being. You're not a king, but you're not a downtrodden servant either. Treat yourself well. Like a human being.

When you're used to preferential treatment, equality seems unfair.

fade2clear · 2017-12-04T03:02:17+00:00

This is so important. Even having this knowledge and being aware of it doesn't make it reality for you. You love yourself by being the absolute best version of you and that takes hard work. Other people will discourage you and hold you back if you let them because misery loves company.

Never get complacent.

jvgkaty44 · 2017-12-04T00:26:44+00:00

This me right now, i dont know what to do. Ive been single for many years and finally met someone who i fell for and then she broke my heart. I literally dont give a fuck about anything, im like a walkjng ghost whos going thru the motions. Its been 6 months since we stopped talking but i work with her and everyweek i feel like a get broken again. Its like im in heartbreak groundhog day movie

banjew · 2017-12-03T22:08:45+00:00

You can love yourself, self-respect yourself, fuck lots of bitches, and still have a lingering oneitis for that girl that got away (tm).

Now if you still behave like a beta bitch with her, it's entirely your fault. No contact, and that's it. Will it hurt? hell yeah, for years. Decades perhaps. That's life.

Fedor_Gavnyukov · 2017-12-04T08:25:03+00:00

very true and probably the best advice i've read on this forum. this is the key to success in pretty much any area of your life. my mother have taught me this since i was young. it didn't catch on until i was in my 20's though. better late than never.

anonmmmm112 · 2017-12-03T21:27:46+00:00

Hi,

I was aware of redpill and became one 2 years ago after a break up. Recently joined this community and i dont get one thing

How do you have a frame? I know what it means to go in 'her' frame, but how does a man create one, what does it mean and what are its parts? Is it like the one u get when you go clubbing and u enter flow and everyone wanna see what u are up to or?

Prophets_Prey · 2017-12-04T08:01:04+00:00

Thanks for this. Really needed to hear this.

SKRedPill · 2018-02-08T02:54:25+00:00

Here's the truth - everyone will do what it takes to respect and justify themselves but will try every trick in the book to stop you from doing that. Don't fall for it. When everyone's got their right (or thinks they have the right) to <whatever> and don't find that a wrong thing in any way, so do you. I've been beta to the purple end of the spectrum and at the end of the day, everyone asked me, "WTF!? Stand up for yourself dude!?"

And that's why getting into a debate with women is pointless. Sometimes, frame and authority are the only way by which you put your foot forward. I'm not saying become a psychopath or something, but most betas are the extreme opposite end and need to shift to a healthier ground, for which they need a healthy amount of selfishness -- they take this right or wrong that the world imposes on them far too much to hold their own ground, making them slaves. In power plays, there is no absolute right and wrong except the frame you establish.

Even the death penalty isn't an exception -- so there are serious limits to the whole idea of absolute right and wrong -- the reality is a lot more flexible than you can imagine. So even killing is the right thing to do with some extreme cases. It's a shock for most betas when they realize that can be very powerful without being evil (which goes against all the conditioning that they're drilled into).

The reality is that everyone out there is trying to impose their frames on each other and we all compromise a bit so that we can all drive on the road without killing each other. Never concede frame so much that they'll drive all over you - if you send the vibes out that it's ok for you to be walked over, then you WILL be walked over. You send vibes and create exactly what is at the very bottom of your mind. Beliefs are our root fundamental programming. Meditate and examine why you let things happen to you, or why you do certain things. You can discover the subconscious programming at the root of it.

Don't listen to the people who tell you you're being selfish when the reality is that you're being tossed around like a POS. Look at what's really happening and not propaganda. Just go drive in chaotic traffic, it's a lesson in frame.

Just don't get so twisted evil or be a fool who ends up as a laughing stock.

Title	Learn To Respect Yourself
Author	ThrowTheTRP
Upvotes	426
Comments	43
Date	December 3, 2017 9:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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