I wish I had had TRP when much younger. If you read one of my comments here, you will see that I finally got wise at about twenty, after seeing how many women a friend was getting. This was before the internet, when speaking to women in person was virtually the only way to meet them.

I am a 54 yr old white man. Overeducated. Physically I am lucky in some ways and not so fortunate in others. Lucky in that I am 6'5, 260 by nature, and hard as a rock through constant hard work. Facially, I am ok. Not near GQ, but not ugly either.

In my life I've had beautiful women from almost every corner of the globe. My last ltr was with a 5'10" pilates instructor much younger than me. BUT I learned the hard way that not all women find me attractive. Now I really don't care. Used to, but don't now. Mostly a product of age, experience and maturity (age and maturity are two entirely different things).

Unfortunately, for most of my younger life I had horrible skin. Not the worst you've ever seen, with remaining scars and all, but bad. At times, horrible. Btwn 15-20 (and sometimes older), it hit my self-esteem so hard I wanted to crawl under a rock. I am naturally a pessimist anyway, so that made it worse. Even this past Xmas it got me a bit when I was feeling low. Got two huge cysts on my nose, and skipped a party because of it. Science has proven that people are physically attracted to three main things: facial symmetry, a youthful appearance and clear skin.

When I read some of the posts by young men struggling here, it takes me back. Yesterday something happened though which I thought might help a bit, as an exercise for those guys looking to develop their IDGAF attitude.

I discovered that part of my nose problem was actually a different skin condition that contributed to pimples/cysts on my nose. The treatment is to use a laser to burn down through the layers of skin til the afflicted tissue is burned away. I have had it done 2x now and think I am good. However, as I write this, I am laying in bed with a large amount of Vaseline on my nose, and blood that I have to clean off every hour or so. My nose should heal in about 2 weeks. For the next 4 or 5 days it's going to be rather disgusting looking. Not the kind of appearance you want to be trying to pick up women with. However...

I decided yesterday when I went to the hospital for some other tests, that I was going to pretend that my nose simply looked normal. I didn't plan on picking up women, but I also wasn't going to hide my face behind my hands, or not look people in the eye.

I had to meet with three different people, one, a formerly attractive older woman, the second a nurse who took some info (overweight, not attractive but pleasant) and the third, a cute hb7 who unfortunately talked too much. Though none of these women were models, the first offered to set me up with her daughter, the second kept dropping hints about texting her later that day, and the cutest one just straight-up gave me her number. I'm not interested in any of them. However, I tell this story to illustrate the fact that an attitude of self-confidence and being in decent shape can even override temporary facial disfigurement in a woman's mind.

For those of you struggling with acne or anything else that you feel makes you less attractive, there are ways to compensate for it, and make yourself feel better at the same time. I highly recommend reading the sidebar articles...twice.