I know a common idea held here is "women are sex toys meant to be pumped and dumped, hehehee, yeah, I just use them for a quick nut and kick'em out... hehehehe..." but I'm gonna give you a new idea; what if sex could be awesome for both you AND the girl you're banging?

All of the following tips are based on the premise that "when you're enjoying yourself during sex, she will enjoy herself."

  • Be okay either way — When you are absolutely okay with having sex or not having sex, you may find the girl would like to have sex with you. My strategy is to do things I already enjoy doing, and then invite women to join me in my adventures. Throughout the entire time we're talking together, I always have it in the back of my mind that "if you wanna leave baby, you can, and I'll be perfectly okay if you do. I won't be angry at you or anything... but if you wanna keep tagging along, our sex will be fucking fuego."

The best way to be okay with or without sex is to realize the end outcum is that sweet pleasureful orgasm, and the abundance of options you have to reach that goal. First, there's 100000s of beautiful regular women around you. Second, there's plenty of hot hookers you could pay for a fuck if you wanted too. Third, you could jerk yourself off.

Placing sex on such a high pedestal that it's some kind of divine energy transmission between two souls yadda yadda... or devaluing it so much that it's just another robotic fuck that isn't enjoyable blah blah blah... fuck all that. I propose you see sex for what it is — a fun thing two people do with each other when they're turned on and find each other attractive. Sometimes it leads to romance, other times, it just stays sex. But either way it's fun and I choose to welcome hot sex into my life. You can do it too.

  • Learn New Positions — There's more to sex than doggy-style and missionary, man. You can siginfigantly improve your sex life by learning new positions. All it takes is a little time and the right resources. I learned hundreds of new positions with the ancient wisdom of the Kama Sutra, and found a couple that I really enjoy. Anybody who really can call themselves my friend knows that Danté is an ass man. Wide hips round butts are a magnet to my cock, and any position that lets me see it, slap it, squeeze it, equals more fun for me, which equates to more fun for her. Some positions I enjoy are "the bow and arrow," or "the jockey" and "The Chibi," all of which I did last night.

Sex is about aggression, domination, and control -- if you're a man. For a woman it's about compliance, submission, and letting go. Act the part of a man, take control of the sex and do whatever you want.

  • Read The Signs Of Her Body — Some women like things really rough and hard. Others prefer soft vanilla sex. Sometimes a woman may like both on different days of the week. I like all sex, and because of that I am happy to fluctuate between it all. If she truly doesn't want to do something, she will tell you, or stop you.

The key to this tip is if YOU want to do something, try it by starting off slow — dip your feet into the proverbial pussy juice, to see how it feels.

I like to bite, and to scratch, for example. When I bite, I start with a gentle teeth on skin, slowly adding pressure to find her breaking point. There is a sweet spot between "just the right amount of bite pressure," and "you're biting me too hard," so when I find that sweet spot, then that's the extent I go to. And every part of the body has different sweet spots!

If you wanna do anal, start by rubbing her asshole. If she likes that, put a finger in there. If she likes that, spread that hole apart. Talk to her about it, "how good do you think it would feel, to have my hard cock thrusting inside your little asshole?" You can talk to these women you know, their answers might surprise you.

What, did you think you're just supposed to have her bite the pillow cus you're going in dry? Lmfao

A girlfriend of mine is into HEAVY into BDSM (And I welcome any more women into my life with those sexual preferences...) and she likes whippings, bondage, everything — yet if I tried that shit on a girl who is only comfortable with vanilla sex, she'd probably high tail it out of my sex cave. I'm sure with time and teaching, a vanilla girl could grow to like some aspects of BDSM, and vice versa, but to try to force a girl into something is a recipe for disaster.

When you put the frog in boiling water, it will jump out, but if you put it in warm water and slowly turn up the heat, the frog wants to have hardcore sex with you. Do you get what I'm saying, man?

Funny note about BDSM girl, — we started with normal sex. She actually begged and pleaded with ME to be WAYYYY more rough with her! You can learn something from everybody if you're open to it.

  • Patience — Some girls are ready to fuck you within 5 minutes of meeting you, some may take an hour of game and a venue change. I personally know girls are just down to fuck, but I like to take them out and just build the sexual tension with touching and talking, then let it all out when we get home.

  • Patience To Handle Objections — Ahh Last Minute Resistance, how many times have I caressed your gentle face as you whispered to me, "I'm not having sex with you?"

There are actually guys out there who hear that exact line and start to panic. I've met guys who literally told me "Yeah if a girl says that to me, I just get up, tell them to either have sex with me or leave, and then they leave."

Yeah man, sounds fucking awesome lol. If that's what makes you happy I guess bro.

For me, I of course love it when a girl is down to fuck in a minute, but I don't mind to show a little patience if she wants to feel more comfortable. I think this might just be a woman testing to see if you are desperate for sex. If you're chill about it you can just do the two steps forward one step back approach, that's what works for me. It might work for you too, so go try it:

Get her shirt off, then go back to kissing. Reveal her boobs, then go back to kissing. Play with her boobs and unbutton her pants. Go back to kissing. Pull pants off then back to kissing.

Before you know it your cock is inside her ass. Sex is a game of building up and releasing tension.

  • Lead It Where You want To Go — I said in the beginning I invite women into my life. I tell girls to meet me when I'm gonna go out do something fun and potentially social. When they show up, I flirt and tease and touch, and when I'm bored of the current venue, and horny enough, I tell them they should come along with me for more.

When we're laying on my bed, I take off my shirt first. I take off my pants first. I touch her sexy spots first.

If you're EVER in doubt on whether a women wants to fuck you --- lets say she's in your house, on your bed, naked. Just pull your dick out and tell her "look at this... you see how hard you make me? Feel my cock, you turn me on so much, baby" and see what she does. When I do that women start to play with my dick.

  • Hump Her — If there's ever a point where you and her are just making out and you wind up on top of her, or in between her legs, but it's not quite time for penetration, just hump her. This is a good method to get yourself hard, in preparation for the "look how hard you make me," maneuver.

There was once a girl I was with... I was in my underwear, her topless but in her jeans. I was in between her legs, nibbling on one nipple and playing with the other, when I decided to do a heavy thrust. Then I did another, and another, until I just started dry fucking her with full force as I held her in my arms. This made me pretty hard, and I imagine it also opened her up more to the idea of going all the way with me. She was moaning after all. Yes, we fucked afterwards.

That's it for now. I think next time I will write about how to last longer during sex. I believe Porn turns guys into minute men. I figured out the solution but now I have a new problem — sometimes I just want to have an orgasm but I'm lasting too god damn long, lol.

Have fun.

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