Late 30s, 5'9" 170lbs, married 10 years, 2 kids (in elementary school)

Background: I'm a long time lurker (years on and off). I have consumed a lot of the sidebar during that time e.g. NNMNG, MMSLP, Sex God Method, 48 Laws of Power, Rational Male, some of Rian Stones pods/videos. I initially found red pill when I was looking to increase our sex frequency a couple years after we got married. TDLR: Frequency went up and quality went up, but it's still not quite where I'd like it. Overall, things improved but I'm still going through the motions.

Lifts: Deadlift: 365, Squat: 275, Bench: ~185, lifts are all at least 2-3 reps, I don't go for singles anymore - almost never barbell bench, dumbbell reps working sets w/ 75s

Mission: I want to achieve financial freedom which will also unlock personal freedom. My goal is to do this while maintaining a fair bit of flexibility so I can attend everything I want to for my 2 young children (youth sports & activities).

Physical: I stay in decent shape year round, which consists of 3-4 days of lifting and 1-2 runs per week. I need to tighten up the diet and find a new lifting program to follow. Specifically, I could eat a little cleaner on weekends and reduce overall alcohol intake. There are a lot of gains to unlock in the last 15% of effort/dedication with reducing alcohol and following better programming vs. "maintenance lifting".

Marriage: Good, I lead and she follows. I am the sole provider and she is a stay at home mom. Sex is as often as I want but it is not the quality I want. In the past, I had too much porn usage and I am still trying to unpack if my expectations are unrealistic. My wife on the other hand, had a very conservative upbringing which heavily skewed her perspective on sex. For some context:

Positives:

  • I rarely get a hard no and she initiates often either verbally with something like "So, are we doing it?" before bed or is laying naked ready to go, occasionally some lingerie.
  • The sex isn't bad, I usually make her come a couple times before fucking her and she squirts often.
  • Nightly BJs during period, usually initiated by her.

Wants not yet met:

  • Our sex is pretty vanilla (to me), some foreplay and various positions depending on what I'm in the mood for. I'd like her to be kinkier, for example toys, dirty talk, and her teasing me to name a few.
    • I've read Sex God Method and while it was OK it didn't unlock much more for me, maybe I need to reread it. Specifically, dirty talk I could do a better job leading.
  • I want to cum in her mouth, the BJs are good but cum in the mouth is a hard no still.
  • Overall, what I'd like to see is a little more insatiable desire and/or kinks from her. This is where I'm not sure if too much porn usage in the past has left me with unrealistic expectations, her good girl upbringing has her repressed, or I just need to be more head down focused on me and it will come.

Financial/Career: My finances are in a good place. Our net worth has exceeded $2M this year. I want to have a bit of a career change for something more enjoyable while maintaining flexibility. I work remote (from home) for a small org in a senior management role within technology. The pay is good but the growth feels flat and I'm bored with what I do. I need to put more effort in here and figure out what's next.