Hey guys can someone please help me to understand what the hell happened. Long time reader/lurker first time poster.

Last night came home, and got very enthusiastic blowy and sex.

So to set the stage, I was quiet and distant, have a had a major week at work, with more on the horizon. So generally just spent and not rude, but not particularly engaging.

Also, (Not sure how relevant) the day before I got her some flowers, as recently she has been behaving really good, no stupid arguments, calling me up to ask me what I want her to bake. Also, on the back of a miscarriage, and infertility issues.

Immediately after getting the flowers, goes into an in-depth discussion regarding how she has changed her mind regarding the maintenance work we are getting done, and starts to go into hen-pecking mode about how it would be cheaper if we could do it, and how she was never consulted.

She was consulted, she even said she doesn’t know what she wants my response simply, “I’ve made plans, and agreed to quotes, if you can come up with a better, more cost effective idea, we’ll take a look, otherwise I’m taking care of it”. I’m going with fitness test.

Fast forward to last night, the wife came and was trying to get me too “Open up” about why I was quiet. “Babe works rough at the moment and I’m just tired, there’s nothing more that”. Later on we’re on the couch, she’s being pouty. I tell her to get on me give her a big hug, and slap on the arse, and start initiating, going with the ‘10 sec kiss’ after three attempts and “you’re being weird” she gets into it.

Here’s the part that has me stumped, we get to bed, and she is trying to suck my soul out through my dick, then as we’re fucking, she’s doing more than half the work for me, and clawing my back up. Now I don’t think I was that attractive through all of it, but I know I wasn’t completely unattractive through it. But I don’t know how I got ‘demon dick suck’ and ‘back claw sex’?

I know there’s a shit ton of stuff in here, but I am trying to not leave out something relevant, or something others might learn from. Any advice or ideas would be appreciated.