So I am dating a few girls, one of which I really like. Of the girls I am dating she gets Saturday, or almost any day over the other ladies.

Issue is she wont fuck. I don't know why or what is going on in her head. It doesnt bug me too much because I just get it somewhere else, and while I do not flaunt it, I do not hide it either. If she wants something exclusive than she has to be physical with me.

SO she comes over to my place, we cook dinner together and I am escalating the whole time. Kino, coming up behind her and kissing her neck while she cuts veggies, making out during the film. The usual.

She says no at a boobgrab, so I go back to the film keep cuddling try again in a few minutes after re-escalation to that point and again no. Ok. Play it cool movies over try one more time "youre trouble arent you?" "Yeah but you like bad boys" make out go for the boobs, "no" ok turn on the lights and get her jacket.

I get a text when she gets home.

"Had fun tonight thank you for having me over. I am slightly concerned that you are not taking it seriously that i said i would not sleep with you. Im not kidding about that. its not happening anytime soon no matter how much you try to get me into your bedroom. I dont have a problem saying no every now and then but i feel like if you are going to be that adamant about it every time we may not be on the same page"

I ignore this text for about an hour then say "Hey this is a face to face conversation. I am glad to have you over anytime. Goodnight"

and left it at that.

So I break it down and abundance mentality: I still go out and am not exclusive with this girl. I will not give a relationship to someone who will not accept my physical wants.

I will not apologize for being sexual. Fuck that. It is why I am dating her, and I will not rationalize this either, however I feel like I may have to have a talk to break down this barrier even though I think that will be counter intuitive.

Right now my strategy is continue dating her, enjoy her company and escalate until she tells me what is going on. In the mean time deflect this shit test somehow. I feel like I am not passing it, but instead deflecting it. Any tips?