Ex dropping off my things

Sir_Distic · 2016-09-26T07:09:30+00:00

Either: a) she's coming over to drop off your things because she's moved on or b)she's coming over to drop off your things and see you because she knows you're with other women and is getting a feel for things.

Look at this from another point of view: You tried to fix things which betas and women do. That comes across as weak to women which is disgusting to them. She blocked you. Now she wants to give you back your stuff.

Don't give a flying fuck about her. She's done. Be done with her. I don't mean kick her out of your life. Just be "meh whatever happens does or doesn't" Casually invite her in, but give no fucks at all if she says yes or no. "Want to come in for a drink?" Say 'ok' to whichever she says. If she's cold then just get your stuff, thank her and be on your way. You have shit to do.

You will probably feel some shit when you see her. Anger, regret, missing her, etc. But don't.

Don't try for anything. If it happens it happens, if not move on. Fully.

Serrano- · 2016-09-26T07:10:00+00:00

Holy oneitis. "i was also very insecure during the relationship so i don't blame her for leaving." You're probably better off going out Tuesday night and telling her to leave your shit on the porch.

You were insecure because you knew she was not loyal. And she left you. Which means you were right. Take some credit.

Tiway22 · 2016-09-26T07:05:48+00:00

You should get someone else to get your shit for you. Have her drop it off at a friends.

This girl needs to be hard nexted because it's clear you are still greatly affected by her.

Willkuer_ · 2016-09-26T07:38:45+00:00

I don't think anyone asking on asktrp can handle their ex. She is still under your skin. You are not indifferent, there is no abundance. Accept this truth and work on your frame.

Even if it might work out for a short time (I don't believe it) it stops or hinders your development. There are more woman. Some are 'worse, equal or better' than your ex. You don't need her to fulfill your desires. It is just the cheapest and easiest way if it works out.

im_mclovin · 2016-09-26T09:02:37+00:00

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2016-09-26T09:59:17+00:00

Tell her you dont need the clothes and make it sound like you know she knows this as well.

TheRedStoic · 2016-09-26T11:58:35+00:00

I don't know about this man. She wants closure, or she wants to check if she can shelf you as backup. Maybe both.

If you don't need what she's dropping off I'd do as I do, say "give it to charity or something I'm good."

BusterVadge · 2016-09-26T12:07:31+00:00

You seem like you're insecure and need to start taking more action on making your life more adventurous, and filled with higher quality people than your ex because you still have oneitis.... bad.

She burned that bridge and it's up to you if you want to let her rebuild it. You're going to do what you want no matter what we say, but let me say that if you do let her be prepared to learn a very painful lesson.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-09-26T12:44:36+00:00

DO YOU WANT THE CLOTHES? Yes/no

But you know it's not about the clothes she's dropping off. You know it's about her. I can tell by your title. I would suggest not trying to plate her. You don't have TRP theory under your belt and I'm positive this girl will bring drama into your life. While you rationally don't want that, you still irrationally like her. Don't let it get complicated, cause we both know that's what's gonna happen. Take your clothes and show her out. Thank her, but don't give her closure. Don't stop to talk about things, or catch up, or have coffee or anything. I'm positive she'll try to rope you into a deep serious discussion by mentioning some superficial shit first. You're gonna be a beta pussy and feed right into her frame and next thing you know you'll be yelling at each other, crying, getting angry, etc., and the emotional rollercoaster will start again.

Get your clothes, then hard next. Focus on self-improvement and MOVE FORWARD.

mabden · 2016-09-26T13:52:16+00:00

i dont know what to expect or do?

Do not expect anything. DO nothing but; accept the clothes, thank her for bringing them over, and then close the door.

2016-09-26T14:49:24+00:00

You obviously still care about her, which is why you posted. You should not contact her at all, and forget about the clothes.

Yashugan00 · 2016-09-26T17:43:39+00:00

Girls don't come and bring your things to you after a breakup, therefore it's an excuse I see you. She heard about your affairs and got excited again. Cat wants the cream, but only if she's can't have it. She's going to pull some sappy stuff on you to see if she correctly assessed you as beta (or beta for her)

No closure! Stay stoic. Tell her to come in and make you a sandwich. It's balsy, but it forces a decision in her on the spot. If she refuses, just close the door. Out of your life.

quincyj12 · 2016-09-26T20:42:50+00:00

This same situation happen to me about 2 months ago, I said exactly this, "No its okay you can throw the clothes out." And you even said the clothes don't mean anything to you so you don't need to see her to get them back. You just want to see her cause you are not over her, not to plate her. Do yourself a favor and next her for now and she will probably be back in 6 months anyway, then maybe you can plate her if you are completely over her by then. Alls she is looking for is validation right now that she still is above you. CUT OFF CONTACT.

BestOfEnemies · 2016-09-27T09:48:14+00:00

You broke up three months ago?the stuff she has is probably not that important right?

If it's stuff you don't need. Tell her to throw it out, you don't need it.

Title	Ex dropping off my things
Author	im_mclovin
Upvotes	2
Comments	33
Date	September 26, 2016 6:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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