Plate in whom I wrongly over-invested myself emotionally - yeah, my sidebar knowledge is lacking - just recently told me through text we couldn't see each other anymore because:
- "Even though she loves me, the feelings we have aren't enough"
- "I couldn't offer what she was looking for in a LTR"
- "I am too much of a funny guy and she is looking for someone serious and romantic"
- "I am immature and maybe she's looking for someone older" (we are both 21)
- "She wants some time for herself"
- "We argue a lot"
- "She feels like there's someone special for her and she should still look for him"
Probable reason: a Chad - with waaay higher SMV than me (I'm still 21), even though he's a dumb shit who shares selfies along with motivational phrases on facebook - she's been talking to for about 3 weeks came back from abroad recently. I even sneaked on her FB and saw her inviting him to be her "halloween date" at a party Thursday. I already suspected her before and I feel she will branch swing soon
As you may already be guessing, those are probably shitty excuses she came up with so she can feel better if/when she branch swings. I told her we should have some respect for the 3-month old relationship we had and she agreed to meet and talk on the next few days.
My question is: how can I manage our next talk to delay/avoid the inevitable? How can I lie/manipulate her into thinking this relationship is still viable? How will I show value? Is doing beta shit (like giving gifts - I've never done that) useful? She's good company to me and makes great sex. I feel that I'm already past the point of no-return, though - she started to rationalize. I can't really find new plates (even though I already have 2 others) through dating right now since I've been really busy with my studies recently.
Yes, I know this is scarcity mentality. I can't really handle it any other way, though
Or should I say "fuck this" and ask her why she was flirting with other guys on FB even though she said she was exclusive with me?
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