Why aren't they texting me?

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-02-28T07:23:00+00:00

You sound needy to be completely honest with you. Try giving less fucks. What do your text messages look like? Do you just say "Hey ____." Or do you try to be creative and funny in an opening text? If it's the later, they'll think you're trying to hard. Send a girl a simple text, saying you'd like to take her out to x location on y day. She doesn't answer, delete her number and focus on what makes you happy. Do the things that you enjoy, because getting caught up over women is bull shit and a waste of your time.

Oh, and since this is TRP I'm obligated to tell you to lift more and maintain frame.

Good luck OP.

vandaalen · 2018-02-28T08:45:40+00:00

You are a man. Take the lead. End of story.

Datanami · 2018-02-28T13:21:00+00:00

This can actually be a good sign. If a girl thinks that you are high value and have options, she won't want to take the risk of appearing too clingy or just to bother you, especially if she knows that you'll eventually make a move if you do wanna see her.

Stokestix · 2018-02-28T08:00:43+00:00

"Ooohhh why don't they text me? Why don't they pay attention to me? Why don't they think about me? I'm such a nice guy!"

What do you need their texts for?

kick6 · 2018-02-28T12:17:50+00:00

You have no life outside pussy or you wouldn't even be thinking about this. Get a fucking hobby, man. You should be GLAD they're fucking you but not blowing up your phone constantly.

Radinax · 2018-02-28T13:04:03+00:00

Go watch on YouTube Alpha Male Strategies to learn the reason they don't and never will text YOU.

MattyAnon · 2018-02-28T14:57:19+00:00

Girls almost don't text me. When I meet new girl then I'm the one who have to do everything. I don't text them to much (logistics only I know) but radio silence isn't good thing to in my opinion. And I thought they like to text ppl.

Insufficient attraction. As a man you do the firsts: first meet, first kiss, first sexual escalation. And maybe help a bit with the second. After that she keeps in touch if she is interested.

Some girls are insecure, in which case (if interested) they'll answer you right away and willingly. Then you train them to make more effort with forwards/backwards.

I mean it's silly and stupid that I took a girl's v card and she didn't even text me after that.

After first sex it is YOUR job to show her it wasn't a one off thing.

So what can I change?

Half of this is normal female behaviour, half is you not managing things right. Be prepared to let things fail. Text sometimes, ignore others. She'll make the effort soon enough if attracted and interested.

punkbastard25 · 2018-02-28T15:04:48+00:00

You failed to give them what they wanted in that precise moment or gave them something they didn't want. Texting girls can often be a game of luck. Maintaining frame after you fail will not increase your chances however it will prevent you from falling down in her estimation. Increasing is the equivalent of betting on more than one horse in the race you are more likely to get more chances with a wider range of girls.

stinjoshua · 2018-03-01T16:42:46+00:00

Work on your spelling and grammar. This post looks like it was written by a fifth grader.

TheGatesOfValhalla · 2018-03-01T16:56:50+00:00

If you aren't the top guy a girl is talking tom she wont text you. AKA these chicks have another guy they're more interested in besides you.

drqxx · 2018-02-28T14:26:25+00:00

You are not the prize.

You must become the prize. Then they will chase after you like a heroin fiend.

Suggestions: Be more entertaining. Get them under your spell by drawing them into your world. Even if its a stupid joke or reference it works. Be the prize. r/tinder has some pretty good one liners

Title	Why aren't they texting me?
Author	NavyBlueCrow
Upvotes	18
Comments	29
Date	February 28, 2018 6:53 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/80u1i7/why_arent_they_texting_me/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/why-arent-they-texting-me.124808 https://theredarchive.com/post/124808

Comments

You are not the prize.