Just had a first failed date, thoughts?

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2021-02-18T21:16:24+00:00

Shit happens, move on.

Hard for us to help when we were not there.

If she was silent from the beginning i dont think you did anything wrong during the date, maybe you are just not her type.

We all get rejected once in a while, you cannot be liked by everyone.

youngfuture7 · 2021-02-18T21:29:49+00:00

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samop95 · 2021-02-18T22:30:43+00:00

My only piece of advice is to work on your initial greetings.

Even for car dates, wait outside your car and greet them with a big smile and a hug or something along those lines.

You need to set the tone and break the ice immediately. The faster you can break the barrier to touch, the easier kino and escalation will be. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

I've recently started giving people very energetic greetings and seen fantastic results.

Other than that, best thing you can do is move on, don't over analyse, don't get hung up on her, get back out there!

strawsoaker775 · 2021-02-18T21:23:56+00:00

Did she not expect that I looked different?

Ok, you cannot worry about something you cannot change, but you looked different than you look in pictures? You sound like those fat girls who take pictures at a certain angle.

alchemical_rage · 2021-02-18T22:05:04+00:00

If you set the date online, maybe she pictured you from your online profile differently than you really are. Maybe your pictures make you look differently.

testylose · 2021-02-19T20:48:39+00:00

If your asking if you were being too “clowny”, you probably were. You want to have a carefree and sexual vibe, not a friendly/goofy one. Act calm as if you’ve dated 1000 chicks and this is just another fling. Shes the one that should be afraid to mess this up. She’s a girl so it’s ok that she’s nervous, it’s feminine nature. Also don’t text them after the date like that. It’s interpreted as needy which is why she ignored it. if she had a good time she’s going to reach out to you one way or another.

MoreAlfa · 2021-02-18T23:07:06+00:00

You didn't do shit wrong. Seriously, she is the one who failed.

You just keep asking more girls out. Keep having fun. Remember, we don't play by their rules, we play by our rules and in so doing will find women who want to play by our rules.

This one didn't work--great. There are still 3.5 billion more of them to play with, but there is only one you. And buddy, you are the prize!!!

Beta_Buckshot · 2021-02-18T22:13:02+00:00

No way to know unless we were there. From the paragraph, this was a tinder slide so you "have" to live up to whatever vision she had of you in her head which isn't your responsibility. My constructive criticism would say 1) action dates or try the rule of 3s (depends on your lockdown and her). 2) You should always go for it unless you don't want to. The worst that could happen is you fuck around and find out. 3) Never ask if they got home safe, the mentality can only hurt you. If she wants to see you again she'll message you almost every time. If you're worried about her response times being longer than 10 minutes the biggest issue here is abundance. Yes, I know, the corona panoramic, but fixing that (SIDEBAR) is paramount because you'll be back here posting again when you should fix the foundational problems first. Sounds utterly corny but If you learn from the date then it wasn't a failure.

Dvrkvision · 2021-02-19T15:09:11+00:00

what was your purpose for the date? your plan? how were you intending to close the date and where? In your car? At her place? At your place?

I'm curious to know, but point is to always have a direction and destination concerning how you want the date to go and/or end. If you want I could tell you how I do it.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-02-19T16:24:24+00:00

Hard to tell what happened but I bet you can grab a pen and paper and jot down 5 things you could improve on based on the date.

It could've been that she wasn't happy with her haircut and was thinking about it the whole time.

Just shrug it off and move on. You got a date and that already puts you miles in front of most guys.

comcain · 2021-02-19T18:12:50+00:00

All dates are Indiana Jones Adventures. Sometimes it's Raiders of the Lost Ark. Sometimes it's The Temple of Doom. You never know until you try how it's going to work out.

What's important is that you tried. You shot your shot. Good job!

Cheers

Title	Just had a first failed date, thoughts?
Author	youngfuture7
Upvotes	4
Comments	21
Date	February 18, 2021 9:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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