I have approached 5 girls that I want to highlight. 1 was 10/10, insanely beautiful for my taste 2 were really good, 8/10 2 were 6/10 Let me paint a picture how it went with each of them:

  1. We are in a concert and I am having a really good time. I cant see without my glasses but I ask for a sunglass anyhow from my friend. Then I add 2+2 together and it is just another world. Thats when (A 6/10) girl pokes me and throws a thumbs up my way. We started talking with pauses between interactions and I was okay with it. I was having fun so I did not mind listening to the music. But she kept on coming my way and eventually we ended up being just the two of us surrounded by her friends. She occasionally went to talk to them but I stayed put and enjoyed the alone time. By this time I was already behind her and she kept getting closer so I hugged her from behind every time we interacted. She invited me over to their camp site to show me around and instead I offered to exchange contacts for later as I wanted to join my friends. She agreed but it was obvious that she wanted me to kiss her goodbye at least. I was too hesitant and gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. She seemed upset but kept on trying to get me to kiss her. So I did but with a short one. She seemed disappointed after that and never answered me again.

  2. This is during a daytime rave, I see this 10/10 girl (B 10/10) on the other side of the stage. She is alone, dancing like crazy. By the time I gathered my courage to go talk to her, she disappeared. I was kinda feeling bad and angry with myself for not approaching immediately. But luckily she came back after 20 mins, again alone with the same vibe. I knew god gave me another chance so I went kinda next to her but I felt my heart racing and needed like another 5 min in her proximity to do the deed. Finally I decided its time, approached her and told her that I really liked her jumpy dancing vibe and would like to join her for a bit. I saw a big smile from her, she said of course and we started dancing. We locked eye contact 2-3 times for 2-3 seconds while jumping and she would always smile and look away. Then I started asking her questions which in the beginning, went good. She was also engaged, asked back. Then I kinda switched unconsciously and turned it into a questionnaire and started qualifying myself. I immediately sensed the interest fading, did some kino on her but she eventually signaled that she needs to go. I asked for a contact, she just gave me her surname and that was it.

  3. I went next to a girl (C 8/10) and asked her if she would mind that I smoke a cigarette next to her. She immediately said how nice of me to ask that and told me she would like me to share it with her. We instantly started vibing, again in the same manner as the first during a concert. I say something, she replies we go back to dancing. I tend to wait for her to initiate and she does. We started role playing, talking about flirty nonsense and throwing small shit tests at each other. I started doing kino at this point. I suggest her we could go out later and share one under the stars. She kinda gets defensive about it so I emphasize that I meant later when there is a vibe. She was with a girlfriend, they went out to the restroom but asked me to accompany them, I agreed. In the mean time I forgot her name which became evident as her friend introduces herself. She makes a comment about it but I did not get nervous. We come back, the vibe is a bit different, we dont talk that much but I am fine with it, so I dance and enjoy the music. I light up a cigarette and she immediately suggests to smoke it together under the stars. We go out, get a spot. Nonsense flirty talking continues, I try to go in for a kiss in a more quite moment but she refuses. I tend to feel super awkward in a situation like this but I remained resilient and just continued the vibe. Eventually we head inside, again for the music. Then she tells me she and her girlfriend will go to the bar but will come back. I said its alright, I will be around somewhere. And with that, I thought that was it.

  4. It is still the same concert, after girl C has left. I locked eyes with this girl (D 6/10) like 10 minutes later so I went over and complimented her outfit. She thanked me and I just opened with some non sense. She kinda gave me a vibe that she is a bit rigid but she put in the work so I let the situation go wherever. I said be right back Ima get some drinks and she offered to come with me (wow). By the time we get back tho the whole interaction just got boring even though she wanted to continue. I had to excuse myself from her and leave. I was so proud to recognize this, that I can just come and go and I dont have to stay with a girl that I dont like even tho she is interested because there will be others.

  5. So this story with girl (E 8/10) is a bit shorter but it is my first time trying to get to know a woman who is in a group of 4 (3 girls 1 dude). I started befriending them all the while dancing. It was going smoothly, I spent 40 minutes nearby. Girl E was giving chewing-gum directly to my mouth. We held eye contact many times. The group and I managed to defend the girls from stubborn guys who couldn’t take no as answer. Now she was hit on by multiple dudes while I was there but I didn’t mind. I held my frame. But when the time came she instantly rejected me, I said okay and have a great night and excused myself.

5+1. All of a sudden, like 20 minutes after girl E, girl C came back, fought herself across the crowd alone to say goodnight to me. I felt so damn good, I gave her a hug, thanked her for finding me and we said our goodbyes. She gave me her contact. I thought this was it, finally, a girl that I really vibed with that night would stick around. This was the last day of the festival, we started texting the next day but she was kinda unresponsive. I kept on pushing the conversation even though at 2 points I told myself I should just leave it on read as the vibe was not there. Anyway today I asked her out and she rejected me. I got a but too emotional I think.

Mostly I wrote these stories down for myself but I would appreciate any advice or observation from your part how to better close these situations. It feels like I am getting further with each interaction but then I screw it up along the way.