Maintaining interest

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-02T15:07:14+00:00

You don't try to mantain her interest long term, because that action by itseld is needy no matter how the action is performed to look like you are not needy.

It's needy because it shows you are clinging to a breadcrump, a vague future promise of something that could happen or not happen in the future and treating it as if it's some type of unbreakable commitment from her, when in reality things might change regardless of what you do now.

So you don't orbit around her, you don't try to chase. You simply keep livign your life independently, and if you two see each other again in a few months, then you start from scratch. You don't try to keep the inertial going because it will naturally fade anyways no matter any attempt you make to keep it going.

Because what a woman wants is something that she wants only now when she says it, not necessarily next week or even a few months from now.

So, be grounded in your own life, work out, meet more girls, practice your social skills, and so on without revolving yoru plans around her. And then after a few months of no contact have passed and you are back on town, that's when you might reach out again and try to get her in the mood to see each other for some exciting activity.

And if she wants to or not will not depend on whether you stayed in contact for months or went no contact,... It will depend on whether her current circumsntances allow her to do it, and whether you manage to persuade her or make her feel something in the moment you reach out again.

That's how you avoid being needy and that's how women operate. Women operate based on what they want in the present, not based on what told you they wanted or promised months ago.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-09-02T14:43:15+00:00

Are you back to to another country or still there? If you’re still in the same loc with her I’d text her. If not just follow up whenever she replies or few days before you come back.

Matter_Still · 2025-09-02T15:45:40+00:00

As hers will be for you if you keep up this nonsense of not returning her texts because you don’t want to appear “needy”

Can’t you see the irony? Acting in a way as to not appear needy is being needy. The genuinely “un-needy” guy doesn’t worry about it.

Effective_Flower_214 · 2025-09-02T21:53:05+00:00

"How long should I wait until I send a message to start another conversation"

Dont be afraid, just contact her right away and see how fast she responds. Maybe she takes a couple hours, give it 30 minutes after each responde of hers or so and get used to her pace to respond calmly

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-02T16:56:20+00:00

Put her in the friend zone and actually be friends in a detached manner. It sounds batshit but it's not bullshit because female emotion is opposite to male logic.

She is college age and you don't live near her, so it's all but guaranteed that she will pull back and see other guys...but you can pull back first and gain leverage.

I met my current girl when she was a 1st year grad student and went to school out of state. She was 22 and did gymnastics her whole life, she knew she was hot and acted like it. Keep in mind she's a 9.5, I'm a 7 at best. I told her straight up that there was no way anything would happen because of the distance and she was too entitled, but i enjoyed spending time with her as friends.

A few days after she got mad at me for calling her entitled, she initiates all the texting, she started driving out to see me multiple times a week, and she was being completely humble and giving effort to deserve a relationship. Eventually she started initiating heavy physical touch and I accused her of molesting me when we're supposed to be friends, and she started punching me and we ended up naked fighting and becoming a couple later on.

The whole point is women will start wanting something they never wanted as soon as they know they can't instantly and easily have it. When they are in that position you don't have to worry about how and when to text, she'll manage all that. Use the distance and any negative traits she might possess as the obstacles that creates sexual tension.

Title	Maintaining interest
Author	thedtherapy
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	September 2, 2025 2:32 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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