When to actually escalate touch?

ItsGmanTime · 2026-01-20T05:06:13+00:00

Where are you meeting her? At the library again? Is this a date, or you're just hanging out/studying together in the daytime?

Personally I'd save any kino for a proper date, whether it be coffee, drinks, walk in the park, whatever. If you're just meeting her at the library again, IMO a hug would either come off weird or actually place you more into the friendzone.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-01-20T09:30:34+00:00

You should be escalating touch every time you meet. Hug is what you do when you arrive, then you can notice something about her accessories and touch them. You can banter and playfully touch her shoulder or hand. Lean into her more often as time passes. Touch the small of her back. Pull on her cheek. If she's not going to be into it, you'll be able to tell with signs of disinterest like short answers disengaged vibe and wanting to leave. If she's still there, keep going.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2026-01-20T11:13:04+00:00

Usually I let the girl initiate. Only logistics determine how comfortable they are when it comes to the degree of touch.

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-01-20T12:44:05+00:00

Don’t think of it as a formal technique that you need to apply in certain situations.

But think of it as part of the regular conversation you have with most girls. So when you ask “when?” I’m like idk all the time? I hug my dates all the time even in the first time go out. Walking with her? I have her fingers in between mine. Waiting for our coffee being made? I hug her from behind or wrap my arms around her waist.

AlastairXXL · 2026-01-20T14:09:41+00:00

A hug is a solid start but then need to escalate or you'll be friendzoned

Title	When to actually escalate touch?
Author	decal1210
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 20, 2026 2:35 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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