Ah, what a lovely, crazy day I've had. Hit the streets of my city hard to do some daygame with my wing AJ. Had a fantastic time, got a couple of instant dates and a few numbers. But the highlight of the day by far:

I managed to makeout with a french girl 20 minutes after meeting her.

After making out, I could really tell she wanted to come back to my place which wasn't too far. But the logistics were impossible. I now regret not taking her somewhere secluded and continuing there as I feel I would've been able to, but oh well, live and learn.

So before I explain the story. Here are the takeaway lessons from it:

  • Pre approach signals are VERY valuable.
  • Entering a girl's life at the right moment is just as important as the type of girl she is...
  • ... so In daygame, screen for logistics and emotional compatibility.
  • Make her feel, not think and she'll follow your lead.
  • Neutral = receptive, until proven otherwise.

Story time!

I was walking about the city centre, when I notice this tiny cute brunette give me a longer-than-average glance. She smiled briefly, and walked past. I considered approaching for a moment but I was mid-explanation with my wing and let it slide.

About an hour later, I walk past the same girl, she gives me strong eye contact again. Second time is always the charm, it's game-fucking-on and I run right after her.

"Hey, I know this is random but you gave me a nice smile, so I wanted to come and meet you."

She's instantly receptive. The pre-approach eye contact lead me to believe there wouldn't be a problem here. I was right. I immediately ask her name. Lison. She's french. Only in my city for the day, getting the train out of town in an hour, and leaving the country tomorrow.

I could sense that there was enough time to have a good decent interaction, but not really enough to go for an instant date. Plus the whole going back home thing meant that number closing would be useless. If I wanted anything to happen, it had to be within the hour. The pressure was on.

My typical approach with interacting with women from start to finish is the following:

Open/introduce > Cover basic facts (job, location, etc) > Explain my character through stories and facts > Screen for compatible character traits through the stories she returns > connect on similar emotional and life values held in those stories > turn the conversation sexual through telling my "crazy" stories and sexual experiences > She normally returns these stories, or is at least receptive to them > I start getting more directly sexual by explaining how I'd do things with them > She gets turned on, I act from there.

This system is normally spread out across dates, and certain sections take much longer than others. I'm also physically escalating the entire time. I would've kissed them at some point towards the middle/end of that chain.

But in this instance I really had to push and attempt to cover everything within an hour and just see what happens from there.

I actually achieved this by mostly ignoring life values and screening for more adventurous and sexual character traits immediately. After telling her a few stories expressing my love for my life and work, I started asking her about hers. She's only in the country here for a little before moving to the next, which was a good way to start asking her about the adventures she's had. She didn't really have many (or was too shy to share at first), so I started telling her about my craziest story - Running across a beach naked after losing my virginity there.

First, in the story I play up the funny aspects of the awkwardness of the situation. I have her basically in stitches. In fact for most of the first half of the interaction I had her laughing. Basically through just teasing her a little, and joking about myself a lot. This was a huge factor in building comfort with her. I can't stress how important this was. The fact I was able to make her feel good through laughing and gentle physical escalation really amped up her comfort levels with me. After a while of this, she was laughing, feeling good, AND talking sexual. This is a good combination.

This is where I really start to put the pressure on with physical escalation. I use proximity a lot here. I start to get closer and closer into her space. She's still smiling, and she's not moving away either. She's giving me good eye contact as I continue to talk. I try my luck, and put my hand on her side, she's feeling it, still holding eye contact.

I take her wrist, and say "A massage therapist taught me some interesting places to touch". I start touching her wrist, the inside of her arm, holding eye contact. Then I said "but my favourite place is here" and start touching the back of her neck. She starts to lose her smile turning more into the gorgeous gaze of a turned on woman. I pull her in... and..

BOOM.

A gorgeous passionate kiss. It lasts forever.

From here it escalated further. I started pulling her hair gently, whispering sexy things in her ear. All while still standing in the middle of the street. I pull her into my body, she starts to slide her hand up my shirt a little. We make out much more. I'm thinking... Shit, there must be a way to get this girl home...

I tried to push to see if she'd be willing to get a later train, but she explained very clearly that she had booked that specific train and getting a later one would incur a lot of fees. Not to mention she had her host family waiting to pick her up the other end.

By now we only had about 10 minutes left before her train. I really can't think of where to go from here. I get her number just in case there is some crazy way she can come back into the city. She loves the idea, but I'm not holding my breath on anything coming out of it.

Honestly though I really enjoyed myself, and the whole thing really highlighted some fantastic points.

Keep living, keep loving!

  • Matt