There are no secrets or tricks.

PUA Mystery, PUA Matador, and PUA Asswipe would probably tell you otherwise.

But the truth is: seduction comes from mastering a few core principles and building your own style around them through trial and error.

It’s not easy. But it is simple.

Here are 3 key principles that have helped me the most on my journey (way more than any specific script or routine ever did):

1. Boldness

This is the #1 panty-wetter for females.

They love it. Even if the pick-up doesn’t work out, she'll respect you for it.

It’s halfway between being too timid and being overly aggressive.

It’s going straight up to a girl sitting by herself and asking her to dance. It’s telling a girl exactly why you wanted to introduce yourself and talk to her. It’s asking for her number directly after you’ve had a good conversation.

This stuff is pretty nerve-wracking, especially when you're really attracted to her. But learning to act in spite of the fear is HUGE.

And it gets easier and easier every time.

2. Short Memory

90% of the time it’s not going to work.

Most people are incompatible with each other. Just how it goes.

I’m from Miami, so a lot of girls I’d approach didn’t even speak English. Others weren’t interested in talking to a non-celebrity. Those weren’t the most fun rejections.

The key is to have a short memory. To be able to bounce back after rejection and realize that there are MILLIONS of other fish in the sea.

A good way to think about it is that you’re weeding out the ones that aren’t right for you. She was probably incompatible with you anyways.

At least you know for sure instead of having to wonder.

That’s her loss. Move on to the next one.

3. Genuine Connection

If boldness is the panty-wetter, this is the heart-stopper.

This is how you go from “just another guy that approached her” to someone she remembers. Someone she wants to get to know a lot better.

This is the meat of the seduction.

How does it go down?

The best way is to show genuine interest in her. To ask about who she is and what she likes, and then LISTENING to her responses. If you actually listen to her every word, you'll realize ways that you can connect with her.

Good follow-up questions will pop into your head.

Maybe you really agree with her on something. Maybe something she said reminds you of a story you've got.

I used to suck at listening closely. I’d try to plan out everything I was going to say while she was talking. It never got me the conversations I wanted.

LISTEN CLOSELY to what she’s saying. Ask a good follow up question or share something about yourself that relates to it. Show that you actually give a shit.

She’ll be shocked (in a good way.) You’ll see it in her smile.

THAT'S seduction you can feel good about.

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