Is this life?

raimondi1337 · 2016-08-25T06:37:03+00:00

A) There's something wrong with the way you interact with your girlfriends. Relationships are calculated neglect, maybe you're killing their interest.

or

B) You keep selecting (ending up with?) women that do not align with your wants. Maybe you're not noticing these girls aren't interested in long term relationships.

TheXXL · 2016-08-25T06:21:08+00:00

You ask the wrong questions. Ask what you can do to not get with said girls and what you do wrong.

For instance : why have you been in a open relationship, even though you want something serious? To please her, right? You travel to another country to see a girl, but she doesn't want to. I bet you left out details that would show us how needy you behave. Maybe I'm wrong with this and you are just bad at screening, we won't know for sure.

DisgruntledWolverine · 2016-08-25T14:29:38+00:00

Gotta kiss a lot of frogs bro... I mean look at it this way, at least you are putting yourself out there and getting some action vs some MGTOW eating doritos on his couch with his fedora and mt dew code red

aswjacob · 2016-08-25T19:14:14+00:00

Bro not sure how old you are but if you are in your 20s don't look for anything serious. Just date multiple for a while and then go from there. Also it's not always the woman, you make be needy, not being attractive enough, etc. Work on your skills with women. I recommend you read The Way Of The Superior Man an Hold Onto Your Nuts. Also go out and start meeting new women.

BrettEllisDotNet · 2016-08-26T07:27:22+00:00

Yes - Life is a series of problems until you find the answer and overcome it. Those relationships failed for a reason and you're better off for it. The problem is you think you're not supposed to have failed relationships and find the ONE GIRL who will be perfect and blah blah blah. It will happen eventually, but before you deserve that Girl, you need to go through and learn from the problems that are causing you to have relationships that fail.

Everyone has a different path - what is important is you find out what you are doing that is causing these failures. No one can accurately diagnose whats actually happening via a few sentences on reddit. There is alot that you don't know about going on -Things such as your thoughts, beliefs and actions. (which get a certain result).

I now coach Men on how to attract better quality Women in their life because I single-handedly attracted every wrong Woman possible - until I learned from it. I only really figured it out until I worked with a coach - which cost me alot of $$ but has saved me way more (and now I help people and make $$ from doing that).

There is something that you're doing that is getting a certain result - you could be too much of a nice guy. You could have low standards. You could have weak boundaries. You could have problems around expressing your sexuality. But ultimately, you're doing something that is attracting the wrong types of Women into your life.

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-08-25T06:23:17+00:00

That's life.

MindsEvolve · 2016-08-25T10:22:58+00:00

I say this again and again, but the quality of your relationships is directly tied to how much you believe you deserve to reach your goals. This is an INNER issue. There are way too many emotions and thoughts and beliefs going on inside of us at any given moment to pretend that we can just rely on attempting more "confident" behavior at all time. You HAVE to do the self-work in order to communicate a stronger frame for your next relationship.

First, work to get over the bad experiences. Talk to someone, journal, write poetry, write lyrics, or write a song. Make sure you have no emotional blocks holding you back from improving.
At any time, you can start incorporating affirmations into your daily morning routine. Come up with something that is positively worded, and directly counters the beliefs that may have been setting you up for these poor events with women. (One of those negative beliefs you might hold is that you don't deserve a woman who truly loves you - so your opposite countering affirmation would be "I deserve love, I deserve true love, I deserve a respectful love, I am a confident strong human being.")
Now that you have actually started some inner work, you can identify the actual sticking points in your behavior and work to identify things you are actually saying or doing that is communicating a weaker frame, causing these women to lose attraction.

Best of luck,

Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants to build an amazing dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here and we will figure out the right strategy for you, and you can ask me anything: calendly.com/evanmagor

Title	Is this life?
Author	diego-fer
Upvotes	15
Comments	15
Date	August 25, 2016 5:15 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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