I just saw something that may change everything

marthdotsk · 2017-06-01T17:27:13+00:00

Funny how people didn't bother to read through. I believe he knows he's been FZ'd. That was solely the context to his epiphany. Below is his actual question.

I don't want to be chasing girls ever again. If a girl want me like that it will be cool, but why will I give so much attention to a girl. Best to focus in my stuff and let girls feel like that for me.

Am I been delusional for thinking like that?

You're definitely not delusional for thinking that you should focus on yourself. That actually is key in seduction.

Just don't be hasty in pulling yourself out of the run, tho. You don't need to "chase", simply approach with the mindset that you're there to have fun, to have a good time. Let go of expectations, and that will be a great start.

BuyerOfCoins · 2017-06-01T10:39:49+00:00

Since you have feelings for the girl and deep down don't want to be just friends (being just friends is ok only it ain't when you expect to get something out of it (probably the case here as in friendzone)), either tell her that you want to have a date with her and like her more than just friends or pursue other women. Seems to me you're devoting all your time to catching a single fish when you can catch others. This is also the answer to your question. If I see a dude clinging (as in doing everything for her and trying to be with her 247) to a girl which is not his gf, I either think the guy is gay or incredibly desperate. Get over this girl man. Be honest with yourself. Edit: also, you know alot about her, does she know alot about you too or is this just another attention whore?

Jack__Knife · 2017-06-01T13:10:15+00:00

The problem is, you've never made a move on this girl. Probably because you're afraid, afraid if she rejects you she'll not like you anymore. This tiny obstruction in your brain is preventing you from getting what you want.

sergeant_flem · 2017-06-01T13:36:45+00:00

You're in the friendzone, if she wasn't interested the first time then don't expect she's going to change her mind anytime soon (if ever). You're not being honest to yourself or her, if you continue down this road then you're only going to hurt yourself in the long run.

You need to think about what you really want from this girl then do one of the following:

Tell her what you really want from her then ask if she wants to give you a chance. This will most likely be met with a no, but hey at least you put it out there.
Accept that it most likely won't happen and write her off as a potential romantic partner.
If you truly want to remain friends with her thats fine, but don't expect it to be anything more.

Regardless of what path you take you need to stop putting her on a pedestal and have an abundance mentality. She's not the only girl in the world, she won't be the one that got away. You need to start pursuing other women immediately, not to make her jealous but because you want to explore other options.

THEREALKEVINSANE · 2017-06-01T22:46:09+00:00

turn this shit into something positive be real cool with her and just use her to wing you with other hos, if shes cute then more power to you just don't expect to fuck her

DirkDieGurke · 2017-06-01T23:29:06+00:00

My takeaway is that you want to focus on girls that have this level of attraction for you. And yes, avoid wasting time on "maybes" and learn to spot good attraction clues (IOI).

DaygameCoach · 2017-06-01T23:53:44+00:00

The man leads and shows intent. Because men chase....women have a natural abundance mentality and do not HAVE to chase men. Even average looking women are chased a LOT.

So, yes, focus on self improvement but also focus on your game and cold approach very often.

diskempt · 2017-06-01T08:08:27+00:00

First you have to find a girl that will touch you like that though, which may not ever happen without you chasing her first

Title	I just saw something that may change everything
Author	diego-fer
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	June 1, 2017 8:04 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6elc6x/i_just_saw_something_that_may_change_everything/
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