Sometimes, usually when i'm approaching a group of girls as opposed to just a girl on her own, I think I am boring them.
This is usually confirmed when they slowly start to ignore me.
I am not sure what I am supposed to say in order not too.
I'll open, and say something like ''you guys look like yuo're having fun. I wanted to meet you''
I know that I am supposed to make statements and not just fire questions at them, but i'm not sure how to avoid boring them.
Last night there was a group of girls. I opened with the above line. They didn't really respond, but I had their attention.
I asked them what they were up too, and they just said ''Just having a few drinks''
Then I was like ''Where are you going later? Or are you staying here?''
She was like ''Not sure yet''
I said 'you look like you girls live here (I was out of town)
her: Yeah
me: I can tell! YOu dress different to the girls where i'm from.
NR REPLY. SILENCE
ME AGAIN: So you know all of the best places to go that only the locals know about!
her: Nahhhh
me: So i'm out with some old work mates. We're going to the ocean club later. You been there?
girl: Yeah
Me: You like it?
girl: It's OK
At this point I found myself struggling as to what to say next. Also feeling like I was ruining their night and boring them, so I gave up.
I'm thinking:
1/Was this my fault? I.E - I was boring? IF SO, what short of questions/statements should I have made? What are the firts 5 or so quetsions/statements I should make in order to have a fun conversation and get them laughing and playing along?
2/I tend to get this issue more when I approach groups for some reason.
3/Or is this just a matter of it being impossible to have a fun conversation if the other person is giving you nothing back and doesn't want to talk?
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