Is it ok to ask...

ZakieChan · 2010-08-21T12:38:34+00:00

I always just "ask girls out" by telling them I want to take them out to dinner. It has never resulted in any confusion.

But then make sure you have an idea of what you will be doing, where you will be going etc. DON'T be like "well, where do YOU want to go?" Girls hate that.

scottsutherland · 2010-08-21T18:33:16+00:00

Don't ask her out in a cocky/funny way, because then you're being indirect. It may come across as you being slightly nervous, because you can't just look her in the eyes and plainly tell her "I want to take you out to dinner". If you ask her out in a strong, direct manner, she'll be naturally inclined to follow you, but if you throw it out there as a half-joke, she'll be less certain about going out with you.

The Game isn't about "tricking" women into liking you, it's about developing a confident character for yourself that's naturally attractive to women.

f0rfun · 2010-08-21T22:28:36+00:00

Don't ask her out to dinner until it's clear that you're dating. A dinner date, especially early on, is one of the worst possible decisions you can make. You'll end up spending a ton of money and she'll end up spending the whole time wondering about her teeth, breath, and inevitable shit.

Do something you'll both actually enjoy, even if said activity seems childish/silly (mini golf, drunken arcade, show, park, dancing, drinks, etc.). Make it clear that it's a real, grown-up style date right off the bat and you'll be gold (don't send her fucking text messages, and don't say things like "wanna hang out sometime?").

aeoz · 2010-08-22T17:29:18+00:00

Labelling it a date is basically calling yourself an AFC.

Just have fun with her and take the lead. Be the man.

2010-08-21T12:49:53+00:00

Either way, explicitly asking her out on a date will ensure that you don't end up in the friend zone.

NitsujTPU · 2010-08-21T11:29:01+00:00

It's fine to do. The point of cold approach pickup techniques is to avoid doing this, but it's a perfectly fine way of doing things.

robotoast · 2010-08-21T12:01:43+00:00

Fun is key. What you are inviting her to is not just "a date", it is a fun time, which also happens to be a date. No reason to conceal the fact that it's a date or that you fancy her (if that puts her off, she won't be yours anytime soon anyway), but it always has to be fun/something you can both enjoy.

oompa87 · 2010-08-21T13:48:04+00:00

Doesn't really whether she's asian or not. I suggest you ask her out but not as a "date". This scenario keeps it casual but lets her know that you don't want to hand out just as friends, or else you can end up in the friendship zone for God knows how long. Do everything you must do on a date just don't blatantly declare it as a date.

I'm in a relationship now but we never used call it dating whenever we went out. It just feels forced like you have to kiss her at the end of the night or something.

f0rfun · 2010-08-21T16:44:56+00:00

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ArMcK · 2010-08-21T22:46:37+00:00

Labeling the event is not how you define the event.

Calling it a date or not does not actually make it one.

Your attitude, vibe, intentions, actions, attitude, reactions, attitude, and attitude define what it is.

Be chill and start the ball rolling, then build up momentum as you go.

Title	Is it ok to ask...
Author	f0rfun
Upvotes	11
Comments	20
Date	August 21, 2010 11:09 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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