Quick background

I had serious social anxiety like most guys on here. I remember being 16 and my Mom would have to order for me at restaurants, I was scared of drive thrus, etc. I had 0 experience with women throughout high school until I go super super lucky a week before I went to college. My first two years of college I never went out and spent most of my weekends sitting inside playing league. Around 2014 I started using tinder a lot and it wasn't until I turned 21 in 2015 I had a fair amount of success. I pulled a good amount of girls from tinder. I also did decently well going out, but it was always me getting super drunk and honestly just getting lucky. Eventually this lead into a 3 year relationship which recently ended. Not long after the beakup I tried Bumble and I was actually matching with some really hot girls. The problem I have with Bumble is too often my matches lead to nothing. I wouldn't be surprised if it took 100s of right swipes for me to get a date with a girl I like, to be honest. About 2 weeks ago I was fucking fed up... Not with Bumble but my pussy ass self. I've used Bumble/Tinder as a crutch for WAYYY to long and when I went out I used alcohol as a crutch for WAYYY to long. That's when I decided shit need to change and I realized I needed to put together a plan to really do game the right way

I’ve been trying to get into game for YEARS, true game, going up to a girl I find be gorgeous and ask her out. Every time I try to really get into game, I’ve quit after a couple of nights out and gone back to tinder/bumble. I wanted to change this and I took some time to think about WHY I was failing. I realized that it was how I approached game.. When I go to the gym, I never make excuses. I have a headache? Still go. Feeling a bit sick? Still go. It’s snowing and cold as fuck out? Still go. I realized I HAD to approach game like I approached the gym, a 5 day plan that I didn't bail on. I quickly came up with a simple plan, I’d do game mon-fri and for each day I’d set my self a simple challenge that once completed, I was free to go.

I knew that cold approach was beyond my level and I was failing because I was trying something too hard, so I found a quick and simple way to build up to cold approach. I needed something socially challenging, but not game level of hard and I came across this article: 100 days of rejection. I found a lot of good challenges and finally decided on this first one: ask a stranger for $100 dollars.

Day 1

I went to the mall, bought some pants and walked around for 10 minutes before I asked a guy for $100. He was pissed, told me why not make it $200. I told him I was just kidding and he told me to fuck off lol. As soon as I left I realized it wasn’t that bad. Awkward, sure, but I fucking I did it

Day 2

Asked two more people to borrow $100. The First Lady asked if I would pay it back, at which point I told her I was kidding and she laughed. The 2nd guy said “sure, if you keep asking maybe you will get $100.”

Day 3

I can’t remember, I asked like 5 people and was desensitized to this challenge by now. I knew I was ready for the next challenge.

Day 4

New challenge: tell a girl she is “pretty and to have a nice day.” I really like this interaction because there's no pressure on me to continue the conversation. It has a clear end AND I found it super stressful which means it's a great next challenge. Girl 1: Thank you with an eye roll. I made a big mistake and said this to a girl who was working at a counter. It’s a mistake because she has to be nice to me and she can’t leave the interaction if she wants to. I was a pussy, not going to lie. Girl 2: She lit up like a light bulb and seemed very happy. I realized some girls actually don’t mind being cold approached.

Day 5

Said this to 3 girls, one was actually really hot and she also lit the fuck up. I basically ran away and realized after I should have tried to continue the interaction. OH well, it means there's hope for me!

Day 6

Said it to 3 girls again, this time all of them were basically like “thanks” and then eye rolled lol. They probably got it a lot or wanted me to fuck off, completely fair.

Day 7

I cold approached a girl and actually got her number. She seemed really interested as well and said she'd be down to get a coffee. I feel like a bit of an asshole, but she's not exactly my type. I don't know if I should ask her on a date or not because I already know for a fact I would not date her. I never know what to do in situations like this, I just don't know if I have the heart to hookup with someone and then end it with them right after.

Next Week I'm going to do at least one cold approach mon-fri, more if I'm not fucking around for an hour waiting for a girl to show up. I plan to start going out soon, but I'm waiting for the weather to ease up a bit. I know some people don't mind freezing in 20 degree weather, but I do. When it gets really warm, I'm going to go out Friday and Saturday and aim to do game 5-6 days a week. Idk guys, I just can't keep on going anymore without really pursuing this. My biggest fear is getting old as fuck and realizing all that time I was scared of something I shouldn't be afraid of.